Children or No Children

[cheesewiz]

Do you think having no children makes your life incomplete? I know in Phils culture once you get married they expecting you to have a child right away or more if you can bec children is a symbol of your love to each other.

What if you don't have children at all do you think you are incomplete as individual and it will affect the relationship you have with your partner?

Though I know its a case to case basis why some don't have a children or choose not to have one.

[joebloggs]

little joe is one of a few really good things that happened in my life :xxgrinning--00xx3:, one of the reasons i go straight home from work :Hellooo: .... to stop him wrecking the house :CompBuster:


:D

[cheesewiz]

little joe is one of a few really good things that happened in my life :xxgrinning--00xx3:, one of the reasons i go straight home from work :Hellooo: .... to stop him wrecking the house :CompBuster:


:D


that's nice to hear that:) salute for you!

[joebloggs]

after many bad/difficult years:cwm24:, he was the light at the end of the tunnel :xxgrinning--00xx3:

thou things are still difficult, the bad times don't matter as much now as he's here :BouncyHappy::Hellooo::cwm12:

[simplelife]

Hi Cheesewiz, nice topic ...
I love kids .
If only I can afford to support have more children I want to have more children in the future.
These days most couples preferred to have at least one or two children.

[Mrs.JMajor]

At least one or two kids fair enough,

I know in Phils culture once you get married they expecting you to have a child right away or more if you .
That is one reason why life is tough in here,over population :NoNo::cwm24:


What if you don't have children at all do you think you are incomplete as individual and it will affect the relationship you have with your partner?.
I dont think so,As long as you love each other dearly:xxgrinning--00xx3:

Though I know its a case to case basis why some don't have a children or choose not to have one.
Yes :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Toyang]

More children the better because the more the merrier.:xxgrinning--00xx3::BouncyHappy::BouncyHappy: at least 6 is ideal for me and their names will be;

T- Telebong
O- Ompong
Y-Yoyong
A- Ampiang
N- Neneng
G- Goreng

[Ann07]

More children the better because the more the merrier.:xxgrinning--00xx3::BouncyHappy::BouncyHappy: at least 6 is ideal for me and their names will be;

T- Telebong
O- Ompong
Y-Yoyong
A- Ampiang
N- Neneng
G- Goreng

:icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:

[Ann07]

I love kids:D so as my husband. I'll be having my second baby this june by that time my wee boy will be 15 months old:icon_lol:Its not easy here to have many kids but it doesnt matter at all:D As long as we are happy :)

[Mrs.JMajor]

I love kids:D so as my husband. I'll be having my second baby this june by that time my wee boy will be 15 months old:icon_lol:Its not easy here to have many kids but it doesnt matter at all:D As long as we are happy :)

Go on Ann,and congratz for the 2nd baby :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[pennybarry]

Do you think having no children makes your life incomplete? I know in Phils culture once you get married they expecting you to have a child right away or more if you can bec children is a symbol of your love to each other.

What if you don't have children at all do you think you are incomplete as individual and it will affect the relationship you have with your partner?

Though I know its a case to case basis why some don't have a children or choose not to have one.

Before, I think that I might feel unhappy as at the age of 30's, I was not ready to have serious relationship and marry. I studied hard, worked hard for my dreams and goal. It was my dream to travel more and more places and promised myself not to marry until I enjoyed my life being single to the fullest. Had my first serious relationship at 33, but we didn't fall into marriage. Never ever used any contraceptives b4.

I did experience some insults from people around, even behind this forum, and even to my friend when I was in my 30's. My friend said: Look Penny, I have 7 children and you have none. I am sure I am lucky than yours as having kids made me happy. I said I believed in you but I cannot make it alone eheheh. Years after, I have learned all her kids married below 18 and no one finished even high school. I feel sorry for her as she is confined in the hospital for a serious desease and she said she need my help morally and financially. I love her so I would love to help her as much as I could. Not only my friend's experience but in my own eyes, I've seen lots of couples having kids but hard for them to raise their children and fell into miserable life. Those experiences never changed my dream to have even one or two but not many.

I married late at 40's with my hubby. He loves kids too, but the chance of having baby is risky. But HOPE is always there as we live in high tech country. I also believe that chidren will leave their parents to have their own family in the future, but never your husband will leave you when you get old. To be honest, I feel happy lots and lots. Ask my baby boy hubby. If I get another baby girl or boy, then that will be fine and good. If not, then it will be OK. Anyway, it is not sinful if you always trying to have one but no luck yet ehehheh. More sinful is if you abort your baby:doh

[Mrs.JMajor]

in my own eyes, I've seen lots of couples having kids but hard for them to raise their children and fell into miserable life. Those experiences never changed my dream to have even one or two but not many. :doh

Very well said Penny :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[simplelife]

Anyway, it is not sinful if you always trying to have one but no luck yet ehehheh. More sinful is if you abort your baby:doh

I know how you feel Penny, but do not lose hope, anyway as you said as long as you are both happy together.
Just keep trying, I have friends whose been married for more than ten years and no luck to have their own baby, so they adopt a baby girl from distant relative. And guess what, after 6 years, her prayer finally granted and they have baby boy and she was 45 years old when she got pregnant.

[Ann07]

Go on Ann,and congratz for the 2nd baby :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Thanks mrs.jmajor:)
The best thing that ever happened in our life is our wee boy, and we will be having another one:D

[pennybarry]

Very well said Penny :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Thanks Mrs. Major! How about my rep power ahahhaha:action-smiley-081:

[pennybarry]

:)
I know how you feel Penny, but do not lose hope, anyway as you said as long as you are both happy together.
Just keep trying, I have friends whose been married for more than ten years and no luck to have their own baby, so they adopt a baby girl from distant relative. And guess what, after 6 years, her prayer finally granted and they have baby boy and she was 45 years old when she got pregnant.

THANKS SIMPLELIFE!!!:):BouncyHappy::cwm12:

We are both happy yes:xxgrinning--00xx3:

That's great! I do believe in miracle and God's will:) I do think to adopt my nephew as my sister is deaf and her hubby is helping my Mom in our farm. They have 2 lovely kids who are both honour students since grade 1. But I am sure my sister will feel sad and lonely if I adopt her son. So do I? I will not let my sister feel unhappy loosing her son in her arms:bigcry:. So I just promised her to help her son in his studies when he reached high school. I have 29 nieces and nephews but they are no longer qualified to adopt as they all graduated in college:D. So will just keeps on trying and helping them if I can.:xxgrinning--00xx3:

Once again, Muchos gracias mi amiga!

[simplelife]

:)

THANKS SIMPLELIFE!!!:):BouncyHappy::cwm12:

We are both happy yes:xxgrinning--00xx3:

That's great! I do believe in miracle and God's will:) So will just keeps on trying and helping them if I can.:xxgrinning--00xx3: Once again, Muchos gracias mi amiga!

You have a golden heart Penny, Im sure God will grant your prayer in HIS own perfect time. As the Bible said, " Delight yourself in the sight of the Lord and He will grant the desires of your heart." :xxgrinning--00xx3:
Keep up the good works and with your strong faith in Him, nothing is impossible.:xxgrinning--00xx3:

You`re welcome Amiga.

[joebloggs]

Thanks mrs.jmajor:)
The best thing that ever happened in our life is our wee boy, and we will be having another one:D

:xxgrinning--00xx3:

yes i have to agree with you Ann, as for how he will turn out, only time will tell, but i hope i've learned from my own and other peoples mistakes that he will be more than i ever was :rolleyes:

my misses will not be having any more, not at least for 3yrs, while the implant in her arm keeps working :D

[Ann07]

:xxgrinning--00xx3:

yes i have to agree with you Ann, as for how he will turn out, only time will tell, but i hope i've learned from my own and other peoples mistakes that he will be more than i ever was :rolleyes:

my misses will not be having any more, not at least for 3yrs, while the implant in her arm keeps working :D

You are right only time will tell joe:)

[mavid]

I always dreamed of having my own baby girl...but now when you are given an option of having a baby or your own well-being...it is heart breaking. I am heart broken but I know God has reasons....I will find out someday...

I'll just ask left over babies from my amigas (Penny & Simplelife) lolz (batik-batik pls) hehehe

Peace & Love Everyone!

[jackmac452]

at 59.I thought my life was going downhill. Now I am married..Junior here now also..wow..Life is just getting started again...even though we are miles apart, everyday I get messages...how much he filled his nappy..how he's laughing..how he's looking around...the list is endless....yes.children ARE agift from God...(just glad I'm not changing them..hehehe)

[flomike]

To Pennybarry, nice to hear someone like you who have that kind of spirit..i wish my spirit is like yours:)

I'd been married for about 5 years now I got married when I was 30 and Im 35now and my husband is turning 52 this year and has a daughter from previous married. We don't have our own child yet and im taking contraceptive pills during those years and I just stop recently. Its a mutual decision why we don't have one yet. Im hoping that one day we can have one or the sooner the better as we are not getting any younger anymore. I don't want to have a child for the sake of having a white baby, blonde/ginger hair and blue eyes I want a child bec we are preparing for his/her good future. I do believe that child will bring happiness to every couple but if you can't give your children a good future its not fair for them and for sure GOD won't be happy either. Me and husband is morethan happy to have one child as he can't afford to raise morethan one at his age and this unpredictable economy right now.

I don't agree in some people that GOD will provide. If we're doing our part as a good parent for sure HE is there to guide us.

[flomike]

Do you think having no children makes your life incomplete? I know in Phils culture once you get married they expecting you to have a child right away or more if you can bec children is a symbol of your love to each other.

What if you don't have children at all do you think you are incomplete as individual and it will affect the relationship you have with your partner?

Though I know its a case to case basis why some don't have a children or choose not to have one.

are you planning to have a child soon or do you have one already? Good luck

[trends5squared]

Its entirely the couples choice. Individual preferences.

cant wait to have a baby this year!!!! My hubby and I have been planning to have one this year. We have been married for almost 2 years now, and we both think this is the right time. :BouncyHappy:

My family in the Philippines have been long waiting for a grandchild from us. :doh

My hubby, my mother-in law and I will be going to Philippines a week from now for a 3 weeks holiday.

Guess I'll try to make one in the Philippines. . . . . :cwm12:

[pennybarry]

You have a golden heart Penny, Im sure God will grant your prayer in HIS own perfect time. As the Bible said, " Delight yourself in the sight of the Lord and He will grant the desires of your heart." :xxgrinning--00xx3:
Keep up the good works and with your strong faith in Him, nothing is impossible.:xxgrinning--00xx3:

You`re welcome Amiga.

I believe in God and I knew he knows what he's doing. Sometimes it's really funny, I knew someone who prayed a lot not to have baby that time but still she still got preggy. To avoid the baby, she needs to abort it, then more prayers more contraceptives and more careful to avoid it. But God's will she have it whether they like it or not. Year later, she got preggy again and she's not happy for that but the baby is already there so they accepted them. They don't ask baby but babies keeps on coming regardless of contraceptives and prayers.:Erm:

There are many childless couples who always prays and ask even one but don't know the reason why they are not blessed. :D

[Mrs Daddy]

Congrats ann for the new addition.some couple here choose to have pets rather than kids for some many reasons.And they treated them as one of their own i find it so bazar as they do anything for their lovely pets.

[pennybarry]

To Pennybarry, nice to hear someone like you who have that kind of spirit..i wish my spirit is like yours:)

I'd been married for about 5 years now I got married when I was 30 and Im 35now and my husband is turning 52 this year and has a daughter from previous married. We don't have our own child yet and im taking contraceptive pills during those years and I just stop recently. Its a mutual decision why we don't have one yet. Im hoping that one day we can have one or the sooner the better as we are not getting any younger anymore. I don't want to have a child for the sake of having a white baby, blonde/ginger hair and blue eyes I want a child bec we are preparing for his/her good future. I do believe that child will bring happiness to every couple but if you can't give your children a good future its not fair for them and for sure GOD won't be happy either. Me and husband is morethan happy to have one child as he can't afford to raise morethan one at his age and this unpredictable economy right now.

I don't agree in some people that GOD will provide. If we're doing our part as a good parent for sure HE is there to guide us.

Thanks for the compliments:) Just that, I am contented with what I have and thankful for every blessings.

Hubby has children in his past marriage and they are all married and haven't meet them personally. Hubby said I am a grandma already:omg:
I like any colour baby, it's my hubby wanting brown:action-smiley-081:
God's said:
You go and multiply:xxgrinning--00xx3: and people do:xxgrinning--00xx3:
Today, people becoming too sinful because of over population isn't it?
They rob, they kill each other, kill their own siblings sometimes. :ARsurrender:

[Ana_may365]

me?im happy and contented to my big baby[hubby]:D:D:D

[luv8here]

NO kids please, pain in the bum they are :rolleyes:

[aromulus]

NO kids please, pain in the bum they are :rolleyes:

Strange and novel way for giving birth.....:Erm:

[luv8here]

Haha, just pop them out like poo...lol

i think its a lot better rather than saying that they are pain in the pussycat, :D

[nigel]

I'm not keen on having children at this time...maybe when I'm loaded with..:REGamblMoney01HL1: One thing for sure though..it's important to me that my Vimvie has my children!:wiggle:

[simplelife]

I'll just ask left over babies from my amigas (Penny & Simplelife) lolz (batik-batik pls) hehehe

:icon_lol::icon_lol::xxgrinning--00xx3: Mavid, but I `ve got no Dalamatian here only Golden Retriever. :icon_lol: what about baby cat? My cat is preggy. Just PM me if you are interested to adopt baby cat so I will reserve one for you. :icon_lol:

[reginacarlson]

Been married for only 6 months and my husband and I have decided to wait for at least a year before having kids...we're not in a rush and we really have to save up first. Having kids comes big responsibility and extra expenses, enjoyable as it might be.

[Toyang]

:icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:

28 children good idea, to complete all letters in the alphabet. :icon_lol:

A-Ampiang
B- Basyang
C-
D- Dorang
E- Epang
F- Fanyang
G-
H-
I- Inyang
and so on..........., someone can help me. :Help1:

[Ann07]

28 children good idea, to complete all letters in the alphabet. :icon_lol:

A-Ampiang
B- Basyang
C-
D- Dorang
E- Epang
F- Fanyang
G-
H-
I- Inyang
and so on..........., someone can help me. :Help1:

You're so funny:icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol: You keep me thinking now:icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:

[Jay&Zobel]

Since we are talking about babies... here is my points of view...

Before even meeting my husband I worked as a parttime preschool teacher and I adored little monkies so much... They have this aura that you can never explain... They are sweet, funloving and very innocent. I learnt so much from them. From being silly to being so so happy and appreciative of any lil blessings being received... I said to myself, one day i will want to have one of those little cheeky monkies...

Now, on the 15th of this month will be our 2nd Wedding Anniversary and in April we are expecting for that lil munky to come out in this world to complete our family. We are thrilled, scared but excited of things to come...

Smelly nappies, poos, crying name it! Can be horrible but this is waht I have put in mind... I was once a baby and my parents once were very excited to see me (i hope lol) so i want to experience that kind of happiness too...

Think about, looking at your kids' eyes, their dainty lil hands, their cutest smile, very dependent on you... arent those great feelings? At the end of the day, it is you who will decide whether you like to have a kid or not... It is a responsibility, it is a joy, it is life that you are going to give and your kids' will give you life.

Parenthood will never be easy. Just be prepared. Lots of surprises will come... It is what we call life...

Enjoy!!!

Thank you!

[adam&chryss]

i really love kids so much...
when i was young i've been a yaya to my younger cousins and 2nd mother to my nephews...
when i was 15yrs young i was wishing to have my own baby but of cors not to have a husband yet though it was really impossible that time.
my family knew that i rather have kids than to get married. well that was just in case i won't find a good husband.. :)
so, unfortunately (or better say fortunately) got pregnant when i was 25 and my exbf just abandoned us... it was heart breaking and painful. but soon that my son was born and i laid my eyes on him everything's change. i feel complete and all my problems had gone.. made me a better person. goodbye nightlife and goodbye vices!!!
after 3 years being single (not even entertaining suitors).. it was my son who pushed me to find a husband. i thought i'll be enough for him... and i thought i'll be happy being a single parent too.
to cut the story short... i started dating.. meeting guys who just wanted me but not my son, well it's not my lost. how can they just love me and not my adorable son?!
finally, me and adam are destined to each other... a perfect husband and a perfect father to my son Yujin and to our coming son Isaac..
a dream come true... and still planning to have more babies. i know it's tough to raise a child and being a parent is all we (me and adam) are wishing for. even how hard and tough it will be... i'm sure it's WORTH having them.

[joebloggs]

to cut the story short... i started dating.. meeting guys who just wanted me but not my son, well it's not my lost. how can they just love me and not my adorable son?!

even how hard and tough it will be... i'm sure it's WORTH having them.

:xxgrinning--00xx3:

i'm broke but i would rather be broke and have the kids, than 2 cars and a 50inch plasma :rolleyes:....... :Erm:.... :doh :cwm24:

i will be a granddad in 2 wks time :xxgrinning--00xx3: , some how i feel so old now :bigcry:

[Mrs Daddy]

:xxgrinning--00xx3:

i will be a granddad in 2 wks time :xxgrinning--00xx3: , some how i feel so old now :bigcry:

is it good or bad joe:D:D:D

[adam&chryss]

[QUOTE=joebloggs;107522]:xxgrinning--00xx3:

i'm broke but i would rather be broke and have the kids, than 2 cars and a 50inch plasma :rolleyes:....... :Erm:.... :doh :cwm24:

Correct!!! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[joebloggs]

is it good or bad joe:D:D:D

all new life is good :xxgrinning--00xx3:, thou not happy about the timing/circumstances :doh, but yes 2 wks from now my misses will have a grand daughter, and her son will be a father :xxgrinning--00xx3:, and no doubt a wedding on the way :doh :ARsurrender:

[somebody]

all new life is good :xxgrinning--00xx3:, thou not happy about the timing/circumstances :doh, but yes 2 wks from now my misses will have a grand daughter, and her son will be a father :xxgrinning--00xx3:, and no doubt a wedding on the way :doh :ARsurrender:

After all that hard work for ILR now you got a wedding to avoid paying for:D

Should have seen the look my Wifes dads face when i said in the UK the Father of the Bride picks up all the bills:D To save a huge medical bill due to him going in to shoock i had to reasure him my family had it covered:D

[joebloggs]

After all that hard work for ILR now you got a wedding to avoid paying for:D

Should have seen the look my Wifes dads face when i said in the UK the Father of the Bride picks up all the bills:D To save a huge medical bill due to him going in to shoock i had to reasure him my family had it covered:D

:doh so true, well i'm not his father, only step father:D, so i'll pass that on to him :xxgrinning--00xx3:

all the more reasons for the misses to pass her exams now :xxgrinning--00xx3:,

never ending things to pay for :doh :Help1:

[somebody]

:doh so true, well i'm not his father, only step father:D, so i'll pass that on to him :xxgrinning--00xx3:

all the more reasons for the misses to pass her exams now :xxgrinning--00xx3:,

never ending things to pay for :doh :Help1:

But like you say whats the point of loads of money in the bank if no good memories and loving friends and family:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[PeterB]

i would rather be broke and have the kids, than 2 cars and a 50inch plasma

Hey, if it's all the same to you, I'll have the kids, the cars, the 50" and anything else that's going!:D

[joebloggs]

Hey, if it's all the same to you, I'll have the kids, the cars, the 50" and anything else that's going!:D

:xxgrinning--00xx3: thats what my plans are, as soon as the misses starts working full time :xxgrinning--00xx3: :Hellooo: i've got a long list of things to buy myself :rolleyes:

[Jay&Zobel]

i really love kids so much...

finally, me and adam are destined to each other... a perfect husband and a perfect father to my son Yujin and to our coming son Isaac..
a dream come true... and still planning to have more babies. i know it's tough to raise a child and being a parent is all we (me and adam) are wishing for. even how hard and tough it will be... i'm sure it's WORTH having them.


WONDERFUL!!!!



:xxgrinning--00xx3:

i'm broke but i would rather be broke and have the kids, than 2 cars and a 50inch plasma :rolleyes:....... :Erm:.... :doh :cwm24:

i will be a granddad in 2 wks time :xxgrinning--00xx3: , some how i feel so old now :bigcry:


BEAUTIFUL!!!! LIFE'S JOYS!

[adam&chryss]

i really love kids so much...
when i was young i've been a yaya to my younger cousins and 2nd mother to my nephews...
when i was 15yrs young i was wishing to have my own baby but of cors not to have a husband yet though it was really impossible that time.
my family knew that i rather have kids than to get married. well that was just in case i won't find a good husband.. :)
so, unfortunately (or better say fortunately) got pregnant when i was 25 and my exbf just abandoned us... it was heart breaking and painful. but soon that my son was born and i laid my eyes on him everything's change. i feel complete and all my problems had gone.. made me a better person. goodbye nightlife and goodbye vices!!!
after 3 years being single (not even entertaining suitors).. it was my son who pushed me to find a husband. i thought i'll be enough for him... and i thought i'll be happy being a single parent too.
to cut the story short... i started dating.. meeting guys who just wanted me but not my son, well it's not my lost. how can they just love me and not my adorable son?!
finally, me and adam are destined to each other... a perfect husband and a perfect father to my son Yujin and to our coming son Isaac..
a dream come true... and still planning to have more babies. i know it's tough to raise a child and being a parent is all we (me and adam) are wishing for. even how hard and tough it will be... i'm sure it's WORTH having them.

thanks to whoever sent me a reputation comment in this post :BouncyHappy:

[Tawi2]

I always think a house without a kid is like a jigsaw puzzle with a piece missing,children make a house a home,without a kids chatter bouncing off the walls its just a sterile dwelling,kids add character :icon_lol:My sister is married to a Thai national,she has two sister in laws,both living in the UK and both have houses worth more than a million pounds,they came here with absolutely nothing and concentrated on their restaurant businesses expanding them and in that respect both have done well,but neither have a child and just like the old maids in pinas who sit and watch the happiness on the faces of local children,I see sadness in their eyes when they reflect on the one piece missing from their own particular puzzles :NoNo:Money means absolutely zip compared to a childs smile or one of those creased wrinkled smiles a young child gives you :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[mavid]

I always think a house without a kid is like a jigsaw puzzle with a piece missing,children make a house a home,without a kids chatter bouncing off the walls its just a sterile dwelling,kids add character :icon_lol:My sister is married to a Thai national,she has two sister in laws,both living in the UK and both have houses worth more than a million pounds,they came here with absolutely nothing and concentrated on their restaurant businesses expanding them and in that respect both have done well,but neither have a child and just like the old maids in pinas who sit and watch the happiness on the faces of local children,I see sadness in their eyes when they reflect on the one piece missing from their own particular puzzles :NoNo:Money means absolutely zip compared to a childs smile or one of those creased wrinkled smiles a young child gives you :xxgrinning--00xx3:

:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Tawi2]

Thats from the heart Mavid,I lost a woman in 2002,breast cancer,but she left a legacy :) sure he gives me headaches,heartaches,and earache,but as sure as the earth orbits the sun our lives revolve around our kids :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[mavid]

Thats from the heart Mavid,I lost a woman in 2002,breast cancer,but she left a legacy :) sure he gives me headaches,heartaches,and earache,but as sure as the earth orbits the sun our lives revolve around our kids :xxgrinning--00xx3:

awww such a cutie :) I can totally relate to you Tawi2...I myself want to leave my future husband a legacy. I am a kidney transplant and even though I know all of us will die eventually, I still now that my 2nd life can be easily taken away too...

[Tawi2]

He is a cutie,but only when he is asleep :icon_lol: Good luck in the future Mavid,a child is a miracle,I hope you have one(or two:xxgrinning--00xx3:).

[mavid]

He is a cutie,but only when he is asleep :icon_lol: Good luck in the future Mavid,a child is a miracle,I hope you have one(or two:xxgrinning--00xx3:).

Thank you Tawi2...I do hope i get a miracle :)

[joebloggs]

I always think a house without a kid is like a jigsaw puzzle with a piece missing,children make a house a home,without a kids chatter bouncing off the walls its just a sterile dwelling,kids add character :icon_lol:

:NoNo:Money means absolutely zip compared to a childs smile or one of those creased wrinkled smiles a young child gives you :xxgrinning--00xx3:

:xxgrinning--00xx3: the house i live in has seen many sad times over the years, but for the last few years its been filled with the laughter of my 2 kids :rolleyes:

i do more for my kids than i do for the misses, if my misses asks me to get up and do something, she would have to ask a few times :icon_lol:, but little joe, he only has to ask the once :ARsurrender:

[Tawi2]

I have a good friend living in Cebu,he is a brit,he has the most incredible daughter,her face radiates happiness,she is the most content kid I ever saw in my life,I havent seen her cry once,she is 3 years old now and never stops smiling,I think it would be nice to have a daughter,but when I asked my boy he asked for a puppy instead :Erm:

[aromulus]

but little joe, he only has to ask the once :ARsurrender:

Yeah........... If you know what's good for yah.....:doh

[Eljohno]

People can be complete without having children. Children will take up alot of your time and can be expensive. That said my daughter Chloe has just turned 2 and the best thing ever to happen to me and she brings me joy everyday!

[Sophie]

Do you think having no children makes your life incomplete? I know in Phils culture once you get married they expecting you to have a child right away or more if you can bec children is a symbol of your love to each other.

What if you don't have children at all do you think you are incomplete as individual and it will affect the relationship you have with your partner?

Though I know its a case to case basis why some don't have a children or choose not to have one.

As for me, i guess its better to have children but only when you're ready. For now, i'm not yet keen on having a baby coz i wanna spend more time with just my hubby for a while and enjoy our marriage to the fullest and grow and mature even more before we take the big leap to parenthood.

[Jay&Zobel]

Since we are talking about babies... here is my points of view...

Before even meeting my husband I worked as a parttime preschool teacher and I adored little monkies so much... They have this aura that you can never explain... They are sweet, funloving and very innocent. I learnt so much from them. From being silly to being so so happy and appreciative of any lil blessings being received... I said to myself, one day i will want to have one of those little cheeky monkies...

Now, on the 15th of this month will be our 2nd Wedding Anniversary and in April we are expecting for that lil munky to come out in this world to complete our family. We are thrilled, scared but excited of things to come...

Smelly nappies, poos, crying name it! Can be horrible but this is waht I have put in mind... I was once a baby and my parents once were very excited to see me (i hope lol) so i want to experience that kind of happiness too...

Think about, looking at your kids' eyes, their dainty lil hands, their cutest smile, very dependent on you... arent those great feelings? At the end of the day, it is you who will decide whether you like to have a kid or not... It is a responsibility, it is a joy, it is life that you are going to give and your kids' will give you life.

Parenthood will never be easy. Just be prepared. Lots of surprises will come... It is what we call life...

Enjoy!!!

Thank you!

Cooool...I forgot I posted this one... hehe... Now I have him! What joy he brings! :xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:



I always think a house without a kid is like a jigsaw puzzle with a piece missing,children make a house a home,without a kids chatter bouncing off the walls its just a sterile dwelling,kids add character.

Money means absolutely zip compared to a childs smile or one of those creased wrinkled smiles a young child gives you :xxgrinning--00xx3:

:xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3: You are so so right!



I lost a woman in 2002,breast cancer,but she left a legacy :) sure he gives me headaches,heartaches,and earache,but as sure as the earth orbits the sun our lives revolve around our kids :xxgrinning--00xx3:

He is a cutie,but only when he is asleep :icon_lol: Good luck in the future Mavid,a child is a miracle,I hope you have one(or two:xxgrinning--00xx3:).

I am so sure that your little one adores you so much!

Mavid...you will have one, one day!:xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:



:xxgrinning--00xx3: the house i live in has seen many sad times over the years, but for the last few years its been filled with the laughter of my 2 kids :rolleyes:

i do more for my kids than i do for the misses, if my misses asks me to get up and do something, she would have to ask a few times :icon_lol:, but little joe, he only has to ask the once :ARsurrender:

Kids are the commanders lol :xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:



People can be complete without having children. Children will take up alot of your time and can be expensive. That said my daughter Chloe has just turned 2 and the best thing ever to happen to me and she brings me joy everyday!

True, some are happy of just the way they are... But too bad for those who are selling babies! Did anyone watch this one: http://www.channel4.com/programmes/addicted-to-surrogacy ? :NoNo::NoNo::NoNo::NoNo::NoNo::NoNo:

Eljhono Happy 2nd Bday to your Chloe! :xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Tawi2]

My grandmother used to say if a family is a house then kids are the cement that binds the bricks together :xxgrinning--00xx3:
As for selling babies Jay,I actually know someone who bought a child in Pinas,and saw the news report three weeks ago on Pinoy TV about a couple who had just had their baby stolen,apparently its a thriving underground market:omg:

[cheesewiz]

im surprised the topic is open again:rolleyes: of course i know that some of the members here are expectant mothers and some already gave brith. My congrats to all.

I'd been to my doctor a week ago for some check ups and some questions about me planning a baby soon (hopefully:)) well, as some of you know that I am not young anymore turning 37 anytime soon:doh :doh at my age now i am on the risk of whatever:NoNo: then my bf now is 46 y/o so both of us are not young anymore so having a baby is always a risk. There's a chance of we might have not a normal baby etc while my doctor telling that to me i am really scared and a bit depressed about it but of course she said that if ever i got pregnant there's a way now to know if the baby is normal or not. To be honest i don't think I can't bear if im going to have a special need baby. I know its hard bec i experienced working with children with special need and attention. While at the surgery, I met a couple (Brit and filipina) she is 3 months pregnant for their 1st baby and she said to me they're really excited and worried at the same time bec she is 42y/o and her husband is 45y/o and her doctor said that she needs to have a weekly check up when she's 5 months pregnant so they closely monitor her and her baby's progress. Again, the main reason is her age:NoNo:

So, I open that conversation with my bf and he said that he himself dont want to have a child that need special care or attention. He wants to have a child that you can speak and interact in a normal way. Abortion are the option for many people that are not willing to look after a special children. I don't think I can't do that but I am not willing to devote all my time and effort to a child that need special care and attention (may be i am selfish on that aspect:NoNo:)

I know that having a child makes my life complete no doubt about it. I am not being negative here I am just sharing what might the possibilities of my age having a child in the near future. I think my advice for some here is while you and your partner still young you should think about having a family asap.

Still looking forward having my own child (one is enough for me:D).

[joebloggs]

I'd been to my doctor a week ago for some check ups and some questions about me planning a baby soon (hopefully:)) well, as some of you know that I am not young anymore turning 37 anytime soon:doh :doh at my age now i am on the risk of whatever:NoNo: then my bf now is 46 y/o so both of us are not young anymore so having a baby is always a risk. There's a chance of we might have not a normal baby etc while my doctor telling that to me i am really scared and a bit depressed about it but of course she said that if ever i got pregnant there's a way now to know if the baby is normal or not.

my misses has just turned 38, little joe is now 2 1/2

life is a risk, everyday you're taking risks. but you have to get on a live your life :rolleyes:

good luck :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Jay&Zobel]

My grandmother used to say if a family is a house then kids are the cement that binds the bricks together :xxgrinning--00xx3:
As for selling babies Jay,I actually know someone who bought a child in Pinas,and saw the news report three weeks ago on Pinoy TV about a couple who had just had their baby stolen,apparently its a thriving underground market:omg:

Hehehehee... Zobel here talking lol... My Jay rarely posts (he isn't very keen on forums hehe)

My mum owns a Preschool in our village (My youngest sister & I went to that school) and it's been open since then... I love kids a lot so I managed to take a short term course in Preschool Education. I love spending time with them. They are just brilliant.

My mum will always tell us, being with youngsters make you feel young at heart, you forget your everyday worries...
Their cries are music to ones ears, what more with their laughters...
If laughter is the best medicine... Laugh with a child...



im surprised the topic is open again:rolleyes: of course i know that some of the members here are expectant mothers and some already gave brith. My congrats to all.

:D).


Thanks cheesewiz, I was one of those who have just recently gave birth...






I'd been to my doctor a week ago for some check ups and some questions about me planning a baby soon (hopefully:)) well, as some of you know that I am not young anymore turning 37 anytime soon:doh :doh at my age now i am on the risk of whatever:NoNo: then my bf now is 46 y/o so both of us are not young anymore so having a baby is always a risk. There's a chance of we might have not a normal baby etc while my doctor telling that to me i am really scared and a bit depressed about it but of course she said that if ever i got pregnant there's a way now to know if the baby is normal or not. To be honest i don't think I can't bear if im going to have a special need baby.

So, I open that conversation with my bf and he said that he himself dont want to have a child that need special care or attention. He wants to have a child that you can speak and interact in a normal way. Abortion are the option for many people that are not willing to look after a special children. I don't think I can't do that but I am not willing to devote all my time and effort to a child that need special care and attention (may be i am selfish on that aspect:NoNo:)

I know that having a child makes my life complete no doubt about it. I am not being negative here I am just sharing what might the possibilities of my age having a child in the near future.

Still looking forward having my own child (one is enough for me:D).

You ain't selfish my dear... You are just being sensible and responsible... Let's pray for the best :xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:





I think my advice for some here is while you and your partner still young you should think about having a family asap.

IF AND ONLY IF both parties are responsible and READY to commit of having a family...



my misses has just turned 38, little joe is now 2 1/2

life is a risk, everyday you're taking risks. but you have to get on a live your life :rolleyes:

good luck :xxgrinning--00xx3:


:xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3: That's the joy of living...

[jackmac452]

Got the first Video of Junior laughing today by email...it makes it all worth while when you see your future laughing the way he did...The only downside is....she tells me..she wants a Girl when I go back.....and here I am just wanting a bit of peace and quiet...Well, this is a cross I will have to bear...

[pacificelectric]

Sorry to spoil the fun folks but let me remind you that in a few years from now the adorable little monkey will be (tick where appropriate):
- a junkie
- a wino
- a jailbird
- a dunce
- a social disease
- your worst nightmare come true
- a subject of wonder for psychiatrists

Don't give up, there are probably battered parents associations around! :NoNo:

You think I am kidding? I have a colleague whose two sons suffer bipolar disorders and it looks like she's got a burden for life. Yes, folks, the little monkeys GROW and sometimes not for the better...

[pennybarry]

[QUOTE=cheesewiz;129407] I think my advice for some here is while you and your partner still young you should think about having a family asap.QUOTE]


I am thinking Cheez where are we now if we married early:D

I maybe ended living in Slums by now having children but miserably struggling as the man I loved b4 (fil) was a typical playboy. I want to stay with him forever but I was always hurt emtionally:D. My Mom said if you marry that guy, I will not happy when I die:Brick: and he's now living with young girl in a slum in Pasig.

Or maybe I ended locked up in a mental hospital as one of my suitors b4 was a real good man, high paying engineer but all he wants to talk about is about bible:bigcry: I tried to read old testament that time Genesis, Exodus but can't fully understand english or tagalog. I enjoy swimming but he never does as if he removed his contact lens and eyeglass, he can't see anything but all blurry. Hard for him to visit movie theatre, he said very dark can't see too much:D My Mom likes me to marry him but I feel very boring being with him.

Do I have regrets now?

YES!!!! I WISH I MET MY HUBBY WHEN WE WERE IN OUR 20'S. But he was happily married that time and I was still studying. Better late than never:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Tawi2]

You could have married BOTH pinoys and ended up in mandaluyong(inside not out) with 15 kids:yikes:

[Florge]

I hope to have a baby as soon as we get married.. my OB said that I may find it difficult to time the conception as I do not have a regular cycle... plus, I'm diabetic.. so it might be quite a challenge... but with the help of science.. and God's grace... I know I can have a baby... I can feel it.. if not, then I'l ask Ann and/or Zobel to provide one for me... LOL....

[Jay&Zobel]

I hope to have a baby as soon as we get married.. my OB said that I may find it difficult to time the conception as I do not have a regular cycle... plus, I'm diabetic.. so it might be quite a challenge... but with the help of science.. and God's grace... I know I can have a baby... I can feel it.. if not, then I'l ask Ann and/or Zobel to provide one for me... LOL....



Hoi hoi! hehehe :omg::omg:...
Believe & pray it will happen! :xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:

Take care lovey!