the changing attitudes of some immigrants

[stevetheduke]

Hi everyone,
I would love you all to give me some feedback on the following subject and if i can get some answers from somebody even better.
I suppose this is a bit of a rant but its something that intrigues me more. I have a filipina wife, Irene she has lived here in the uk with me for two years. Before we met i spent 4 months travelling around the philippines i saw many parts of the country and one of the reasons i enjoyed it so much was the attitude of the people and the warmth they showed.
Now when my wife Irene first came here something not only shocked me but also her. Irene had'nt any friends here then and was so looking forward to meeting some fellow pinoys, she saw a young philippina at the shops and said hello in Tagalog the girl ignored her when Irene spoke to her in English the girl said Irene was mistaken she wasn't philippina she was british. Irene comes from the philippines of course she could see the girl did also from her looks, accent etc.
That was her first experience with a philippino in this country and im sorry to say it hasn't got much better i have since noticed that it seems some of the philippinos when they come to this country appear to become very snobbish.
I don't feel my wife has been welcomed here by her fellow nationals and i'd like to know if any other people here have experienced anything similar? Why do attitudes change? Why can't fellow philipinos greet each other walking down the isle in Morrisons instead of looking the other way? Just because somebody has come to a 1st world country and bettered themselves dosent make them royalty. Those with this attitude for the sake of my sanity please stop looking down your noses at others stop trying to look rich when your not so what you earn 6 pounds an hour and have a tomtom in your car? Get over yourselves its not impressive only to other people with the same small mindset. :Brick:
I hope i havent offended anyone it is'nt my intention i know this is just a minority with this attitude this strange delusion of grandure. I just hoped there would be more comradely and my wife and i can meet some genuine philippinos here soon so i can feel the warm filipino spirit i remember from my travels there.
Regards

[Ann07]

I live in a small town but still i've seen people like that glad they are not from our town though:Erm: I just ignore them now and keep on:xxgrinning--00xx3: Im still happy most of my fellow filipino here are so nice:D

Instead of meeting fellow filipino why dont Irene try to entertain british people as her friends. Honestly, i have more british friends than filipino.:)

[somebody]

I live in a small town but still i've seen people like that glad they are not from our town though:Erm: I just ignore them now and keep on:xxgrinning--00xx3: Im still happy most of my fellow filipino here are so nice:D

Instead of meeting fellow filipino why dont Irene try to entertain british people as her friends. Honestly, i have more british friends than filipino.:)

Very true sorry but ex pats from all countries often become more proud of where they left.

Many people on here who have longer experience than us and we have noticed, although its a great thing to have phill friends who share common language and background. Its not always wise to get soley involved with the local community. As it can be very lonely when things go wrong.

But luckily I have Lived in an area where I have met people from all over the world. Some pasting though and some who have been here years.
I can honestly say I would not want all my friends from the same background as me.

Luckily Jenn knows most of the Phills in the area, some she gets on with well and others she just nods to.

One thing thou Steve is I have to say i certainly dont want to have every phill waving at us. Just as when im in Phill i dont feel the urge to say hello to every Brit or white person.

Many a time we have had an embrassing situation where both my Wife and another lady have avoided one another in a shop as they both just wanna mind their own business.
I dont seek out white middle class londoners whereever i go and the Missus is the same as me we be polite to who we come across and treat everyone the same.

But I guess living in London maybe its different as people from many backgrounds are there and to make it work people make a concious effort to be the same to all.


One thing I have noticed is many Phills due to being busy with chilldren and work etc. Sometimes try and avoid being to polite as they end up in conversations for ages (I have the same with older folks and what not) you dont wanna be rude but time is thin on the ground. Many also want to invite the missus to vaious meet ups and what have you. Again she simply doesn't have the time.

[joebloggs]

probably wrong time and wrong place for a chat, when ever i see a Filipino i say to the misses, go and say hello to them, she doesn't thou , but she talks to many Filipinos at work, in the pinoy shop and at school, ones she has something in common with, and not ones who are busy rushing around !

do any whiteys on here, when they see another whitey in the malls in the phils go up to them and start chatting ?, i never have, but I've chatted to whiteys at the airport and while on the plane..

[alicat]

I live in a small town but still i've seen people like that glad they are not from our town though:Erm: I just ignore them now and keep on:xxgrinning--00xx3: Im still happy most of my fellow filipino here are so nice:D

Instead of meeting fellow filipino why dont Irene try to entertain british people as her friends. Honestly, i have more british friends than filipino.:)

i agree,most of my friends is british as well..i been here for 2 years now
i only got 5 filipino friends...:Erm:for me what u see is what u get.
i like u,i like u,i dont like u,i dont like u.:rolleyes::)

[aromulus]

It happened just 3/4 of an hour ago in Tesco....

Jet asks smiling.... "Are you pinay"...?

The other person.... " Yes Thank you".....:Erm:

And :censored: off....

Jet looks at me dumbfounded and says quietly so that I could hear "... Buang..." :icon_lol:

[somebody]

probably wrong time and wrong place for a chat, when ever i see a Filipino i say to the misses, go and say hello to them, she doesn't thou , but she talks to many Filipinos at work, in the pinoy shop and at school, ones she has something in common with, and not ones who are busy rushing around !

do any whiteys on here, when they see another whitey in the malls in the phils go up to them and start chatting ?, i never have, but I've chatted to whiteys at the airport and while on the plane..

But Joe i bet you chat to all the other colours of the rainbow as well in airports and on the plane.

When in phill the other one is all phills think you and the ofws or NRP's wanna chat.

[Ann07]

It happened just 3/4 of an hour ago in Tesco....

Jet asks smiling.... "Are you pinay"...?

The other person.... " Yes Thank you".....:Erm:

And :censored: off....

Jet looks at me dumbfounded and says quietly so that I could hear "... Buang..." :icon_lol:

:icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol: nice one jet:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Jay&Zobel]

i think it is very common... sad but true...

i asked my husband the same question too many times, but he said
"it is like me a brit going to spain, u.s., france or philippines seeing another brit and you know for sure that he is a brit, a nod or a smile to say hello, they would just probably ignore or just not look at me..."

so i guess, we just have to smile even if the person you are smiling will not smile back. maybe she (the pinay) who was once a newbie in this country, seeing another kababayan and she was just ignored too... so she is now doing the same...

to break that habit or that sadchain... smile or smile back... it is free anyway, you have got nothing to lose...

[somebody]

i think it is very common... sad but true...

i asked my husband the same question too many times, but he said
"it is like me a brit going to spain, u.s., france or philippines seeing another brit and you know for sure that he is a brit, a nod or a smile to say hello, they would just probably ignore or just not look at me..."

so i guess, we just have to smile even if the person you are smiling will not smile back. maybe she (the pinay) who was once a newbie in this country, seeing another kababayan and she was just ignored too... so she is now doing the same...

to break that habit or that sadchain... smile or smile back... it is free anyway, you have got nothing to lose...

A smile to all people (using common sense if in certain situations) can change how everyone reacts to you.

[jta]

Yes I experienced the same but not all Filipino, I don't know why, it seems there's a feeling of seniority, the more years they live here the more they ignore other Filipino. I observed that there's a feeling of competition within them...I met good 1 and I ask her what i observed and she said don't bother thats Filipino here in U.K. and further said u can tell who are new here because they tend to be friendly..so maybe " we follow the leader" the more we stayed longer here the more we ignore Filipino???

[nigel]

Maybe it's just fear of a stranger?:rolleyes:

[Mrs.JMajor]

I remember a thread similar like your rant , cant find it....but yes to be honest...she isn't the only one who experienced that....where u in the UK ?

[reginacarlson]

Yes, unfortunately it's true. I've noticed that too...some Filipinos who've been here for quite sometime or who's been living abroad for that matter tends to be a snob, conceited, arrogant, vain, self-centered or big headed! :NoNo: They perceive themselves as superior. They're so full of themselves and they think they're better than anyone else!

What really annoys me is when you try to have conversations with them and they would rather speak English than Tagalog! They speak English as if to prove that they're better when in fact they're struggling with the grammar! (trying hard ba!) :blacklistsmartassHL

I mean despite my efforts to talk to them in Tagalog, they refused to answer back in English! :BlacklistThumbdown0 It is of course a completely different story for Filipinos who were born and raised somewhere else his/her entire life and can only converse in English. However, for those who are too proud to speak Filipino and are very pretentious, I'd like to say "Wag mo ng pahirapan sarili mo! Paenglish-english ka pa dyan! mag Tagalog ka na lang!". In English, it translates to something like "Stop giving yourself a hard time! You keep talking in English! will you just speak in Tagalog!".

It's a shame though that I can't fully translate that sentence with as much conviction and impact as when it is said in Tagalog.:23_111_9[1]:

Even Jose Rizal, our Philippine national here once said that those who don’t love their mother language are worse than the smell of a rotten fish (”Ang di marunong magmahal sa sariling wika ay mas masahol pa sa malansa at mabahong isda.”)

[KeithD]

....those who don’t love their mother language are worse than the smell of a rotten fish....
Are you listening Rob.....get that Welsh phrase book out :icon_lol:

[somebody]

Yes, unfortunately it's true. I've noticed that too...some Filipinos who've been here for quite sometime or who's been living abroad for that matter tends to be a snob, conceited, arrogant, vain, self-centered or big headed! :NoNo: They perceive themselves as superior. They're so full of themselves and they think they're better than anyone else!

What really annoys me is when you try to have conversations with them and they would rather speak English than Tagalog! They speak English as if to prove that they're better when in fact they're struggling with the grammar! (trying hard ba!) :blacklistsmartassHL

I mean despite my efforts to talk to them in Tagalog, they refused to answer back in English! :BlacklistThumbdown0 It is of course a completely different story for Filipinos who were born and raised somewhere else his/her entire life and can only converse in English. However, for those who are too proud to speak Filipino and are very pretentious, I'd like to say "Wag mo ng pahirapan sarili mo! Paenglish-english ka pa dyan! mag Tagalog ka na lang!". In English, it translates to something like "Stop giving yourself a hard time! You keep talking in English! will you just speak in Tagalog!".

It's a shame though that I can't fully translate that sentence with as much conviction and impact as when it is said in Tagalog.:23_111_9[1]:

Even Jose Rizal, our Philippine national here once said that those who don’t love their mother language are worse than the smell of a rotten fish (”Ang di marunong magmahal sa sariling wika ay mas masahol pa sa malansa at mabahong isda.”)

Easy my wife sometimes forgets which language she is speaking so replies in English when she meant to speak Phill.

She has no problem with taglog, just didn't realise. As strange as that seems.
My Wife and some other ladies in phill airport had this problem they for some reason spoke english possibly as the passport checker spoke in English to the people in front of them they felt they should do.


Also some phills and speakers of other lanaguages sometimes feel in a public place its politer to speak the local language.

If its a social convo in the street with no non speakers in tow then a bit strange but hey no law about speaking a language so i guess up to them.

[somebody]

Are you listening Rob.....get that Welsh phrase book out :icon_lol:

Rob loves dried fish:D oh rotten fish is there a difference?

[Mrs.JMajor]

[SIZE="2"][SIZE="3"][B] "Wag mo ng pahirapan sarili mo! Paenglish-english ka pa dyan! mag Tagalog ka na lang!". In English, it translates to something like "Stop giving yourself a hard time! You keep talking in English! will you just speak in Tagalog!".


:icon_lol::icon_lol: nice one regina ,pwede ba magtagalog d2 :icon_lol::xxgrinning--00xx3:

[vbkelly]

i am a british now but it doesn't mean that you ignore your fellowmen, one time i meet a group of filipino in city centre i did tried to say hi in tagalog to them but some of them was ignored me, i was found out they are nurses but still they are filipino.

[PeterB]

To be fair, I don't go out of my way to speak to 'foreigners' here. I've come to live in Phils and I feel that it's much more important that I integrate with the natives.


There is a Brit living just half a mile from me, but that doesn't mean that we have to be best buddies. Of course, I'll say 'Hello' if we pass each other in the mall, but he's not the sort I would choose as a friend if we were both in UK.

[somebody]

i am a british now but it doesn't mean that you ignore your fellowmen, one time i meet a group of filipino in city centre i did tried to say hi in tagalog to them but some of them was ignored me, i was found out they are nurses but still they are filipino.

Do you say hello to every Brit you meet in phill and anywhere else in the world?

By that reckoning should I say a few words to every Brit i see in the UK? While Phils greet every phill they seen in Phill?

Everyone should say hello to everyone just in case they were the same nationality as them but look or sounded different?


Only joking around :D

[joebloggs]

Everyone should say hello to everyone just in case they were the same nationality as them but look or sounded different?

my misses was chatting to a Filipino at work in english, and the Filipino asked her what country she was from, the Filipino was shocked when my misses told her that shes from the Philippines to, the Filipino said "oh i thought you was Chinese" :yikes::cwm23::furious3::Brick:

don't ever ask the misses if she is Chinese, or she will explode :furious3::cwm23::Help1:

[somebody]

my misses was chatting to a Filipino at work in english, and the Filipino asked her what country she was from, the Filipino was shocked when my misses told her that shes from the Philippines to, the Filipino said "oh i thought you was Chinese" :yikes::cwm23::furious3::Brick:

don't ever ask the misses if she is Chinese, or she will explode :furious3::cwm23::Help1:


My Wife gets the same they are not sure if she is phill? Also if she is a half caste, child of two phills etc. Many Indians think she is indian.

Better go and ask viewer if she is chinese:Erm::D

[PeterB]

Ruby found that all the locals expected her to understand Taiwanese when she visited - they didn't believe that she was filipino.

[reginacarlson]

I know that it is considered rude to be talking in a foreign tongue in the presence and company of others who can't speak the language because it is like leaving someone out of a conversation intentionally, and that could really make the person feel uncomfortable standing there like an idiot because he/she cannot understand a word. :NoNo: So it’s always better if you can speak a language that everybody understands.

However, as I’ve mentioned before from my previous post that which really annoys me is when I’m speaking to another Filipino and they don’t answer back in Tagalog, probably because they’re ashamed of the language and to prove that they’re better when it’s clear that they are obviously struggling with the grammar! :cwm34: Unless they told me beforehand that they're just practicing to improve their English. :D

[adam&chryss]

Do you say hello to every Brit you meet in phill and anywhere else in the world?

By that reckoning should I say a few words to every Brit i see in the UK? While Phils greet every phill they seen in Phill?

Everyone should say hello to everyone just in case they were the same nationality as them but look or sounded different?


Only joking around :D

I agree with your comments. I`ve been to a few places round the world and I can`t say every time I see another Brit that I say hi or that they do either.
Having said that I can`t imagine ignoring someone if they say hi or hello.
I`m not sure about this so maybe you can help me but do Filipinos that come here of their own accord have a different attitude to those that come here with a partner?
If so then would that explain the attitude?

[aromulus]

Funny occurrence today....:Erm:

We went to church in the morning and at the end of mass, a small girl in her father's arms was smiling at me, so I said "hallo kulot"...

The bloke nearly fainted whilst looking at me puzzled....:Erm:
So the mrs said something in klingon, and then walked away.
I kinda told her to go back and have a chat with him, to ask where the Filipinos normally meet around here.
While they were nattering twenty to the dozen, the woman from Tesco turns up and starts talking as well, then another one....:Erm:

By then I was puffin' on a cancer stick outside...... Thinking... Job done.....:xxgrinning--00xx3:

I will keep you posted, but I think it may well be a case of inbred terminal shyness from everybody....:omg:

[somebody]

I know that it is considered rude to be talking in a foreign tongue in the presence and company of others who can't speak the language because it is like leaving someone out of a conversation intentionally, and that could really make the person feel uncomfortable standing there like an idiot because he/she cannot understand a word. :NoNo: So it’s always better if you can speak a language that everybody understands.

However, as I’ve mentioned before from my previous post that which really annoys me is when I’m speaking to another Filipino and they don’t answer back in Tagalog, probably because they’re ashamed of the language and to prove that they’re better when it’s clear that they are obviously struggling with the grammar! :cwm34: Unless they told me beforehand that they're just practicing to improve their English. :D

I remeber the same in phill some people (ofws and the like) who could speak very good english would refuse to speak English and wondered why i couldn't follow the whole convo. Maybe some of them just like to rebel:D

[Jay&Zobel]

I know that it is considered rude to be talking in a foreign tongue in the presence and company of others who can't speak the language because it is like leaving someone out of a conversation intentionally, and that could really make the person feel uncomfortable standing there like an idiot because he/she cannot understand a word. :NoNo: So it’s always better if you can speak a language that everybody understands.

However, as I’ve mentioned before from my previous post that which really annoys me is when I’m speaking to another Filipino and they don’t answer back in Tagalog, probably because they’re ashamed of the language and to prove that they’re better when it’s clear that they are obviously struggling with the grammar! :cwm34: Unless they told me beforehand that they're just practicing to improve their English. :D


some people are like that... but they are very thrilled when they hear you speaking your language... They got intrigued & intrigued everytime... What is surprising also, they are ver amazed how we speak 3 or more languages/dialects! hehee... ENglish, Tagalog, Your local dialect (Bikol,BIsaya,Waray) and maybe Chinese & Spanish too! lol... they said, we are so intelligent & taleneted...

When it comes to Pinay not speaking in Tagalog back or In english.. I think, we are just too conscious of what people will say. Because in our head, we sometimes think that we are way better than they are like (Better not speak in English because we might be struggling with our accents and grammar)... It is sad when Pinoys think this way...

Pinoys are just too conscious. Pinoys think a lot! Pinoys are shy but not at all...

I've also learnt that.. Communication plays an important role in everyday life. Speak and speak and do not be shy and do not be too conscious... And do not judge your kapwa Pinays... We are all here as foreigners and we are all here to learn from each other. Just be you...

[gemini63]

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Yes, unfortunately it's true. I've noticed that too...some Filipinos who've been here for quite sometime or who's been living abroad for that matter tends to be a snob, conceited, arrogant, vain, self-centered or big headed! :NoNo: They perceive themselves as superior. They're so full of themselves and they think they're better than anyone else!

What really annoys me is when you try to have conversations with them and they would rather speak English than Tagalog! They speak English as if to prove that they're better when in fact they're struggling with the grammar! (trying hard ba!) :blacklistsmartassHL

I mean despite my efforts to talk to them in Tagalog, they refused to answer back in English! :BlacklistThumbdown0 It is of course a completely different story for Filipinos who were born and raised somewhere else his/her entire life and can only converse in English. However, for those who are too proud to speak Filipino and are very pretentious, I'd like to say "Wag mo ng pahirapan sarili mo! Paenglish-english ka pa dyan! mag Tagalog ka na lang!". In English, it translates to something like "Stop giving yourself a hard time! You keep talking in English! will you just speak in Tagalog!".

It's a shame though that I can't fully translate that sentence with as much conviction and impact as when it is said in Tagalog.:23_111_9[1]:

Even Jose Rizal, our Philippine national here once said that those who don’t love their mother language are worse than the smell of a rotten fish (”Ang di marunong magmahal sa sariling wika ay mas masahol pa sa malansa at mabahong isda.”)

:):xxgrinning--00xx3::cwm38:

[cheesewiz]

actually i thought only filipinos are like that of attitude but my indian workmate have the same complaint that some indians are snobbish specially if they are Brits already or they think they are rich:Erm:

i would say im not snobbish but im not very friendly either when i see pinoys in diff places i just smile at them if they smile back good but if not who cares. there's loads of pinoys where i live now so that's enough headache lol:D:omg:

[Jay&Zobel]

actually i thought only filipinos are like that of attitude but my indian workmate have the same complaint that some indians are snobbish specially if they are Brits already or they think they are rich:Erm:
lol:D:omg:



HMMMM... THAT'S WHAT WE CALL INGGIT! Pulling each other's hair! :angry::furious3::Brick::CompBuster:

[kermit123]

my wife here in philippines said same about pinoys that have been to uk and came back to philippines a lot of them think there better than average pinoy ,lol we do try to get on with anyone,i said to my wife about meeting pinoys in uk and she said its ok i have you (me) thats all i need pinoys who are abroad think thay are a lot beeter than normal pinoys becouse thay have got out philippines ( that was my wife saying that not me)NOT ALL PINOYS ABROARD ARE LIKE THAT SO DONT HAVE A GO AT ME :) OR MY WIFE gaz/maybs

[ANDRES25]

I am not very friendly, you have to smile at me first before I smile at you. talk to me first before I talk to you. You just won't see me initiating a conversation, but I really don't have any problem talking to people just that they have to talk first ha ha.. I wish to have many friends when I am in the UK hopefully soon so think I should change this attitude. I will try my hardest to be friendly and start smiling ,saying hellos specially to my fellow filipinos.

[viewer]

When i go out shopping with my husband and see women who look like pinays, he'll go near and ask them if they are pinays, some will speak to you and some says "no i'm thai".

[singkit]

Been here for almost 2 yrs now and still don't have Filipino friends near the area:NoNo: I tried. God knows, I've tried but I experienced the same. Snobbed. Ignored. Judged. :smileybigangry:Although, I have 2 friends here in the UK (they were already my friends way back home), the only time I could hear from them is by phoning them 'coz one lives in Eastbourne, the other one lives in Nottingham and me...I live in Leeds.:doh
In my opinion, I think for many filipino newcomers here, it's psychological. The thought of being on our own in a foreign land, we tend to be sad so we seek friendship & comfort to someone like us with hopes that they will tell us their experiences here and give us all the information we need to know as someone who is just new in the UK. Knowing another filipino is here, the " I-am-not-alone factor" gives us the sense of getting through all this :censored:. I know most of us here have husbands who are just there to comfort us and stand by us but sometimes, we're not sure they feel what we feel because UK is their birthplace, they don't experience a culture shock nor having to learn the local slang, the weather etc. etc. To us, this is not just an ordinary holiday trip. We left everything behind us and are starting a new life here. For filipinos being known as hospitable, it is indeed disappointing to encounter such filipinos who would treat us as if we have a communicable disease especially when they've learned we're wives of some british guys. I wonder why:Erm:

[chris40]

although i have seen it said on this forum "why do your friends have to be philippino instead of any other nation" i do understand that because i did,nt find myself going out of my way to speak to every british person out in the philippines.Having said that ,if i lived in the philippines i would welcome some conversation from a fellow brit. but i think singkit has explained very well why she desires to have philippino friends and its a damn shame she has been snubbed by her fellowmen.

[somebody]

Been here for almost 2 yrs now and still don't have Filipino friends near the area:NoNo: I tried. God knows, I've tried but I experienced the same. Snobbed. Ignored. Judged. :smileybigangry:Although, I have 2 friends here in the UK (they were already my friends way back home), the only time I could hear from them is by phoning them 'coz one lives in Eastbourne, the other one lives in Nottingham and me...I live in Leeds.:doh
In my opinion, I think for many filipino newcomers here, it's psychological. The thought of being on our own in a foreign land, we tend to be sad so we seek friendship & comfort to someone like us with hopes that they will tell us their experiences here and give us all the information we need to know as someone who is just new in the UK. Knowing another filipino is here, the " I-am-not-alone factor" gives us the sense of getting through all this :censored:. I know most of us here have husbands who are just there to comfort us and stand by us but sometimes, we're not sure they feel what we feel because UK is their birthplace, they don't experience a culture shock nor having to learn the local slang, the weather etc. etc. To us, this is not just an ordinary holiday trip. We left everything behind us and are starting a new life here. For filipinos being known as hospitable, it is indeed disappointing to encounter such filipinos who would treat us as if we have a communicable disease especially when they've learned we're wives of some british guys. I wonder why:Erm:

Well explained Singkit.

Do you have friends who have similar backgrounds but not pinoys? My Wife has pinoy friends but like you say relates to many recent arrivals to the uk who are non phill.
LIke you say you can relate to being away from home.

Hopefully on here you will meet some people who live near by? Piamed and his lovely Wife live in Leeds I belive.

[singkit]

Well explained Singkit.

Do you have friends who have similar backgrounds but not pinoys? My Wife has pinoy friends but like you say relates to many recent arrivals to the uk who are non phill.
LIke you say you can relate to being away from home.

Hopefully on here you will meet some people who live near by? Piamed and his lovely Wife live in Leeds I belive.

Nope, AndyPaul. I don't have friends with similar backgrounds. :NoNo: But I do have friendly relations with my colleagues. I treat this as my blessings.:rolleyes: Working is the next best thing ever happened to me here in the UK because atleast I can have a little chat with my them aside from my hubby who, like you do, been worrying about the clothes shop and shoes store :icon_lol::icon_lol:

[somebody]

Nope, AndyPaul. I don't have friends with similar backgrounds. :NoNo: But I do have friendly relations with my colleagues. I treat this as my blessings.:rolleyes: Working is the next best thing ever happened to me here in the UK because atleast I can have a little chat with my them aside from my hubby who, like you do, been worrying about the clothes shop and shoes store :icon_lol::icon_lol:

Working for the Missus was the best thing that ever happened to her in the UK apart from living near the west end of london:NoNo: and all those shops:NoNo:

She met many of her phill friends though various work places. A few though friends of friends.

One thing is for sure when you are least expecting it your make the ideal friends:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Sherwin]

I have noticed the change in people too. When I came to this country 15 years ago, there weren't many Filipinos around then and everyone wants to get to know each other and say hello if they recognise that they are also Filipinos. Now that there are a lot of Filipinos around with nurses coming to the UK, that has gone. I guess people are just becoming wary of others as I know what its like being too involved in the community... lots of backstabbing, gossips and show offs which are just pathetic. The most genuine people are usually the ones that have been here for a long time... but this is just my experience.

[tommyw]

Interesting topic.
We have just returned from mass, and there is always a good few pinoys there.
None of the ones in this town act snobbish at all. We are very lucky to have such a community. Perhaps it's partly down to the size of our town.
I was shocked when I went to London by the aloofness of Pinoys to one another
in general.
I see things a bit different now, thanks to some of the posts on here.
Yes, it's true, when we whities are in the P.I. we don't approach all the other banyagas we see.
I even get a bit bored when the Pinoys assume I want to meet other Euoropeans
or Yanks. How do I politely tell them I'm not in the slightest interested in their business at all.
An example was when I was in Mindoro last year. I used to play pool/billiards
most days at a pool hall down at the beach.
A German guy had a big house nearby. I was constantly being told about him. "Gunter this, Gunter that, Gunter has a VERY big bahay, big car, plenty money, etc."
One day I bought some cloth and made it into a Mangyan 'bahag', which is
a simple kind of loincloth really. It covers the family jewels and not a lot else.
I duly got stripped off, changed into the 'bahag' and onto the motorbike to visit
the pool hall.
When I rode into the place, the Filipinos looked in shock for a few seconds until
I announced, "I bet you Gunter's not got one of these??!!!??!!"
Well let me tell you, the whole barangay was in hysterics. Word got around, and
it seemed the whole local population wanted to witness this "White Mangyan" All that is, except the German! Heehee!
I no longer try to persuade Lyn to approach strangers now if she doesn't want to.
Thanks Gunter.