Devastated - Need advice

[Sim11UK]

Hi folks!

We have a problem.

My fiancee & I first met online in october 2007.
I went to the Philippines in june 2008, to meet her in person. Had a great time, subsequently I went back in october, where we got engaged at the end of my stay.

She lives in Cagayan de Oro City on her own, in a boarding house, whilst her parents have a farm in the province.
It's about 5 1/2 hours away by bus, as I've been there twice for fleeting visits.

She went home for christmas, then came back again after a few days.
Then she went back home again in january, the same as she did last year as her family have an annual Fiesta.
Her stay was a bit longer than she was planning, as she had a fever. She really didn't sound well, when I spoke to her on the phone.

However, I started to get the impression, she might be trying to avoid me, as she was reluctant to get online. A couple of phone calls went unanswered & she was quite late, replying to text messages.

Finally I got her to get online last sunday.
...My hunch was right, she had been avoiding me...She broke the devastating news.

...Her parents want her to marry a man who works on their farm.

Apparently, he asked them whether he could marry their daughter. (my fiancee). He's declined some of his wages & has been helping her mother.
He's been working there for years. He's like an adopted son.

The upsetting bit is, this man attacked her when she was younger, whilst washing down at the stream.

Consequently, she left home as soon as she could, when she was 18. She lived with her aunt for a while & has lived in Cagayan de Oro City for many years on her own since.

Her parents never believed her, when she told them he attacked her. They seem to see him as some sort of golden boy.

Anyway, they want her to marry him & she is understandably distraught. She can't stand the man, can't even bare to be in the family home when he is around.

So how on earth can she go through with it. Not to mention, she's supposed to be marrying me. She just dosen't know what to do? She feels obligated to it, as she dosen't want to go against her family.

I can't let her do it. She'll have a terrible life with him. Real hardship on the farm, probably with loads of kids hanging off her. A real backward step & I dread to think what he will do to her.

She's not a young girl, she's a grown woman of 33. Independent, I know not by western standards, but she's trained as a teacher, worked in Hotel management & recently trained as a caregiver...Takes care of herself, pays all her bills etc. etc.

We are talking everyday on the phone, but we're going round & around in circles. She says she wants to be with me & she loves me & she wants to be my husband, but dosen't want to let her family down.

I just want to be with her, get married as planned & all that comes with it.

As far as I know, there hasn't been a problem with me & her parents. I've met her dad a couple of times, the first time, he even told me I could marry his daughter. Her mother, I've met several times, taken her out for a meal with us, so this has all come out of the blue.

She has 2 older sisters who both live in America, with their husbands. I met them briefly, when they made a surprise visit home. There's a younger brother too, who lives in the family home, with his wife & 2 kids...Surely, he's the candidate to take over the farm?
Though I guess her parents, don't want to lose another daughter?

Before all this happened, the plan was to fly out on march 8th, to start the ball rolling for our wedding, later in the year.
I still hope to fly out there, I just don't know at the moment?

We were going to marry in the Philippines & then bring her to the UK, for at least a few years, then maybe move to the Philippines in time.
I never from the beginning, just expected her to up sticks & move to the UK, she said she was happy wherever, as long as we were together.

I've just been offered voluntary redundancy, so since this has happened, I've told her we could move to the Philippines, start afresh on another island. Rent a house & probably have enough money, to keep us going for a couple of years. whilst in the meantime looking for a way to earn a living...She didn't know anything about this money, & still dosen't really know now, so she hasn't been trying to scam me out of the money.

Unless her parents, are trying to scam me?

This is a terrible situation to be in, things were going so well...Particularly for her, as she is torn between her family & me.

I rather think her family will win?

All I know is I want to be with her, the thought of her being with him, just kills me.
It's breaking my heart.

Sorry! for the long rambling, any advice greatly received. Thank you! :)

[Eljohno]

If she loves you as much she needs to commit herself to you, is there anyway she would not have told you the whole truth?

[Sim11UK]

If she loves you as much she needs to commit herself to you, is there anyway she would not have told you the whole truth?

I don't know? it's very hard to get her to open up...Just don't know what to think at the moment?

[LadyJ]

That's a heartbreaking story.

You and your partner should follow what your heart says.

GO to Philippines and talk to your partner's parents face to face and If you think your partner really loves you,Im sure she wont let her parent scam you.

Goodluck.

[joebloggs]

33yrs old and being told what to do :and this guy has attacked her NoNo:

i'm wondering if there is more to it than what your being told, first instincts if i was her would be to tell the guy to :censored: and tell you to come and get me asap, not even think about marrying someone else, never mind a guy who attacked her.

[gemini63]

Hi! it seems shes hiding some truth in here. The real story. Its a big question mark to me,when you said u meet her parents ,bro,and sis..So seems no problem to them.Why all of a sudden she made this a reason? Did she not creating story, afraid that something u will find out when you get back in march? Is she not married before to that man before you came?Try to find out the truth if i were you...

[Sim11UK]

The whole situation is crazy? There dosen't seem to be any logic? I'm completely stunned.

[Eljohno]

33yrs old and being told what to do :and this guy has attacked her NoNo:

i'm wondering if there is more to it than what your being told, first instincts if i was her would be to tell the guy to :censored: and tell you to come and get me asap, not even think about marrying someone else, never mind a guy who attacked her.


I have to agree with you as i really believe there is more to this story than what this girl is saying..

Why would she put him through this?

[joebloggs]

The whole situation is crazy? There dosen't seem to be any logic? I'm completely stunned.

i've been in a much crazier situation :NoNo:

but from what you've said, i'll take a guess she has a b/f who lives near here, and her parents don't know about him, that why they never said anything.

i hope you prove me wrong thou, really hope you do ...

advice from me, keep asking her for the whole truth, saying that if this is end end of your relationship, at least she owes you the truth. keep asking her til she breaks and tell you everything :cwm24:

[joebloggs]

I have to agree with you as i really believe there is more to this story than what this girl is saying..

Why would she put him through this?

why would you put yourself thru this? 33 and marrying someone who abused you, and you're already engaged to someone else :Erm:

it doesn't add up at all :NoNo:

[Jay&Zobel]

why would you put yourself thru this? 33 and marrying someone who abused you, and you're already engaged to someone else :Erm:

it doesn't add up at all :NoNo:



:NoNo::NoNo::NoNo::NoNo::NoNo::NoNo::NoNo::NoNo::NoNo::NoNo::NoNo::NoNo::NoNo::NoNo::NoNo::NoNo::NoNo::NoNo::NoNo:

[bornatbirth]

im sorry to hear this!

what as she said she wants to do?

the only real way to sort it out is go there and see for yourself and ask everyone!

why dont you take control and tell her that its best she comes here on a fiancee visa and get her here as soon as possible?

[Mrs.JMajor]

sorry sim,cant get the real score there,considering shes 33 yrs old,and earning money on her own,why not try to reverse psychology,pretend that what ever your decision makes u happy........but...in our culture, at that kind of age,parents cant interfere to their daughter anymore, but when my friend read your thread,she said your fiancee is just making excuse and she had a boyfriend :doh

[LEAHnew]

:NoNo::NoNo:Sorry to hear your story Sim.
Take it as a test in your relationship but be ready for the result, I hope and pray it will be a happy ending:xxgrinning--00xx3:

Stay in touch with your fiancee..know the truth..as LOVE CONQUERS ALL!

Goodluck:)

[Sim11UK]

i've been in a much crazier situation :NoNo:

but from what you've said, i'll take a guess she has a b/f who lives near here, and her parents don't know about him, that why they never said anything.

i hope you prove me wrong thou, really hope you do ...

advice from me, keep asking her for the whole truth, saying that if this is end end of your relationship, at least she owes you the truth. keep asking her til she breaks and tell you everything :cwm24:

Will follow your advice here Joe, it may well turn out she has a b/f?

[Sim11UK]

im sorry to hear this!

what as she said she wants to do?

the only real way to sort it out is go there and see for yourself and ask everyone!

why dont you take control and tell her that its best she comes here on a fiancee visa and get her here as soon as possible?

She says she wants to be with me, but she dosen't want to let her parents down?
I have thought more, about the fiancee visa route. Thanks :)

[Sim11UK]

sorry sim,cant get the real score there,considering shes 33 yrs old,and earning money on her own,why not try to reverse psychology,pretend that what ever your decision makes u happy........but...in our culture, at that kind of age,parents cant interfere to their daughter anymore, but when my friend read your thread,she said your fiancee is just making excuse and she had a boyfriend :doh

Hi Mrs.JMajor it does seem odd at 33. She dosen't have a full time job now.
She sells herbalife. I have started sending her a little bit of money, each month since we've been engaged.
It did occur to me, she might have sold or pawned her engagement ring, to pay debts?

I don't know your culture to well, but I know how important family is to you. :)

[Sim11UK]

Thanks everyone so far. Plenty to think about here. I knew I'd get some sound advice.
I will text her now, then need to get ready for work.
Will call her later. :)

[Piamed]

33yrs old and being told what to do :and this guy has attacked her NoNo:

i'm wondering if there is more to it than what your being told, first instincts if i was her would be to tell the guy to :censored: and tell you to come and get me asap, not even think about marrying someone else, never mind a guy who attacked her.


Hi! it seems shes hiding some truth in here. The real story. Its a big question mark to me,when you said u meet her parents ,bro,and sis..So seems no problem to them.Why all of a sudden she made this a reason? Did she not creating story, afraid that something u will find out when you get back in march? Is she not married before to that man before you came?Try to find out the truth if i were you...


I have to agree with you as i really believe there is more to this story than what this girl is saying..

Why would she put him through this?


i've been in a much crazier situation :NoNo:

but from what you've said, i'll take a guess she has a b/f who lives near here, and her parents don't know about him, that why they never said anything.

i hope you prove me wrong thou, really hope you do ...

advice from me, keep asking her for the whole truth, saying that if this is end end of your relationship, at least she owes you the truth. keep asking her til she breaks and tell you everything :cwm24:


why would you put yourself thru this? 33 and marrying someone who abused you, and you're already engaged to someone else :Erm:

it doesn't add up at all :NoNo:

I agree with these sentiments. I'm so sorry about what you are going through mate. I could understand her saying she does not want to let her parents down etc. if she had not already commited to you but at this stage and marrying someone she claims has attacked her and yet her parents believe this guy over their daughter? Hmmn! Does not sit well.

I would encourage her to open up and honour you both by telling the truth. Perhaps she is trying to pressurise you to some action or perhaps she has another and its getting harder for her to continue with her ruse.

I think a trip out there at this stage could be unrewarding and upsetting, best to find out what's what first.

I'm sorry again! All the best.

[nigel]

I'm saddened by your story, I feel sad for both of you, I've got no advice as such but what I will say is it would be a mistake to become angry and start shouting at her family! (I'm not implying that you would but..) I think Filipino's don't like shouting at all, while it might be acceptable to let of steam like that for us, I think Filipino's feel it's arrogant to do that!

[KeithD]

Call her bluff.

Tell her you are arranging for her to move to Davao, and you'll take care of her there until the wedding/visa are sorted.

If she has excuses not to go, then something her end is more important than you.

[an08]

well basically... it seems that this girl wants to live with u in the uk...not you move to the phils...

[aposhark]

Mr. Sim11UK, I am very sorry this has happened to you :rolleyes: but I think you have options.....

What I am about to say is a little direct, only because I think if she really loves you and you love her, you should step up a gear.

"A faint heart never won a fair maid" :xxgrinning--00xx3: :cwm12::cwm38:

Well, I see you were planning to get married, but as she is 33 she probably thinks you are not committed enough as the marriage was too far into the future.
She could be trying to stick a rocket up your :butthead:
If you really love her and really believe she feels the same and if you have money, get over there and sort it, Man.

Go and capture her and haul her onto the proverbial white horse.

She is 33 - she is too old to marry to satisfy her family only.

Well, sorry if today I have been too direct, but I really do feel that some men don't act powerfully enough to want to spend the rest of their lives with their love :ARsurrender:

If you can win her, you can marry in Phils in 6 weeks or so and then plan the settlement visa.

Don't forget that she is 33 and not 23, I feel it does make a difference.

[an08]

i feel like it's best not to force anyone hehe

[pacificelectric]

The whole story sounds very weird. I know of the importance of family in the Phils but a forced marriage is something radically different (especially when the daughter is 33 already!) and from what I have experienced myself Filipinas are not submissive like that. My GF who lives in Davao is significantly younger than me (she is 28) and when I asked her if she was fine with the age gap and possible gossip she very clearly stated that this was her own business and would follow her own will, so this kind of resignation of a 33-year old girl to a fate she would certainly hate with an abusive man makes me think like others here that there is something (or someone) else in the picture and you'd better find out before it is too late. Ingat!

[IainBusby]

Hi Sim,
My advice for what it's worth is that you tell her she must decide, because only she can decide whether she will continue her relationship with you and eventually get married to you, or marry this other man just to please her parents. I would suggest however that you don't allow this situation to drag on.

If it were me, I would give her a fixed amount of time to make a decision and let you know what it is. I would tell her also that if she didn't respond within the time given, that you will assume that the relationship is over and move on with your life.

I don't know if she is telling you the truth about this or not, or whether she has another bf or another agenda or not. But the reasons behind all of this are irrelevant if your plans to marry etc are not going to go ahead in the end. What you need now is to know where you stand for good or ill, so you can either carry on with your plans, or move on with your life in another direction.

There are thousands of beautiful Filipinas over there who would give their eye teeth to be in her position and although you have visited her and built a relationship with her, if it's not what she wants, or is not what she is prepared to fight for (against her parents I mean) in the long run, then it's best to nip it in the bud now. Don't allow it to drag on.

Iain.

[tiN]

Call her bluff.

Tell her you are arranging for her to move to Davao, and you'll take care of her there until the wedding/visa are sorted.

If she has excuses not to go, then something her end is more important than you.


:iagree::iagree: good point for boss here,:D

[ginapeterb]

Mahal Kita Mahal Kita, I love you I love you too, you very good man for me, you have big heart, nice skin, good for baby white......oh Baby oh baby....so sorry. no load, can't get to internet cafe, walang akong Qwuarta....



It's a Filipino Boyfriend in the Closet. open up the closet and look what falls out - something that is of far more importance to her than you are ! its not the end of the world - ITS AN ADVENTURE

These stories are as common as pebbles on a beach, Sim me old mate, you have come up against the Filipina factors.

I might sound draconian here, sometimes my Girl says I am direct, but forgive me for being direct, cos I think if you are on this forum long enough, and have enough contact with that sprawling third world metropolis of some 7000 plus island called

DA PHILIPPINES !

You get to see everything and I mean everything, often the things you never think of, don't ever try to out smart a Filipino, your not that good, many guys have lost their hearts to the beautiful bright smiling creature from the Philippine Islands, and many have become a victim of their own desire for personal happiness.

Its simply my dear friend a matter of priorities, for her that is not you, priorities to a Filipina are so different to the priorities that you and I consider important.

Keith our dear Forum Administrator and builder of this web site of course has heard it all before, he is like the Army Doctor we used to have when we arrived in foreign countries, we used to call him Doc the Pox, I have to say, we are not calling our beloved Keith Doc the Pox, only that he has seen it all and cured it all.

His comments, that you are not a priority pretty much sums up my advices, and generally whilst not being always right, we are pretty much 80 per cent right most of the time, your young wife to be, or maybe not to be, has simply found a new set of pressing and urgent priorities of which at the moment, you do not figure in.

Stories of families pressing them to marry a man on the farm is a good one, I will store that in my list of excuses, entitled "Ways to avoid contact with your Western Boyfriend"

The fact of the mater is, its more than likely, she is in a relationship with another Juan, Alfonso, or Rommel, or some guy in CGO, but should you keep sending her money a little here or there, she will be quite happy to receive your remittance's until of course the penny drops and you quit sending.

My advice to you is as follows:

If you ask a girl in the Philippines to marry you, and then she comes back with a story such as this, in any event, she is not the woman for you.


She will never be committed, not now not ever, and any relationship you enter into will fail in due course, don't do it ! don't play her fool ! find another one, there are hundreds of thousands of single Filipino women who are just waiting for a great guy like you to come along, personally, I wouldn't give her the time of day, if she told me a story like that, I have asked only 2 women in my life to marry me, and neither of my women have had to think twice about it.


Best of Luck, but then again, will you take my advice, few do you know, sometimes it just doesn't hold with them.

[Eljohno]

Please listen to Pete before your heart & wallet are ripped to pieces:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[PAT]

feel sorry upon reading your post Sim...hope things will going to be alright at the end.

[Sim11UK]

Hi! everyone

Real good advice here :xxgrinning--00xx3:
I have to thank everyone, who took the time to reply, it's very heart warming.

Mr. Aposhark :D I actually was pressing to get married on the next trip, obviously she was stalling...Should of seen it coming.

Ginapeterb thank you...it's over as far as I'm concerned. Like you say, there are certain decisions in life, where you don't have to think, you just know. I made that commitment to her, but she couldn't do the same to me.

I have to say, it was a huge relief, making this thread. It took a huge weight off my shoulders.

Tried to phone her earlier, twice in quick succession to get some answers,...No reply.

Sent her a text, that's it, enough is enough. :)

[Eljohno]

You will meet someone else who will make you very happy as there are plenty of filipino girls out there that will treat you with respect.

[ginapeterb]

Simuk


Good for you mate, you've made the right decision, you have dropped the monkey from your shoulder, bring on the next one, thats far better for you to say that, than her to say, "Bring on the latest sucker"

I am happy for you.

Best wishes and good hunting

[KeithD]

Plenty of singles signed up on my dating site this week! :)

[chris40]

i do sympathise with you regarding whats happened.maybe some people reading this have some single filipina relative who they could recomend as a genuine person.

[flomike]

...it's over as far as I'm concerned. Like you say, there are certain decisions in life, where you don't have to think, you just know. I made that commitment to her, but she couldn't do the same to me.



sorry to hear your heart ache:NoNo: a very nice love story that ends no where. I feel for you but sometimes you loose some you win some. For sure its her lost not yours. I know you are one of the members here who always give good advice specially when it comes to love. Good luck to you and for sure you will find a fine woman that you deserve. All the best

[joebloggs]

..it's over as far as I'm concerned. Like you say, there are certain decisions in life, where you don't have to think, you just know. I made that commitment to her, but she couldn't do the same to me.


i don't know whether to be sad or happy for you

can you wake away just like that from someone you was prepared to marry ?

without knowing the real reason why she is acting like this ??

easier said than done...

but most are probably right, if she will not talk to you, nothing you can do but move on and forward :rolleyes:

[Ady]

Good luck Sim.

It is good you made some decision, maybe the toughest decision of all. Stick to it, that is my advice. And I wish you good luck in the future. You deserve it!

[aposhark]

Mr. Aposhark :D I actually was pressing to get married on the next trip, obviously she was stalling...Should of seen it coming.


Hi Sim11UK, ah ok, that says a lot.
If only we could understand wimmin :yikes:

It will take time, but you are strong and as Keith says, there are so many singles on his site, and also so many lovely alluring smiles that we all get when we travel in the Phils.
If it is the end as it looks like, don't be put off by the Phils, it really is the land of absolutely beautiful ladies.
Of course being married to one, I don't really see them, people tell me so :Rasp:
(I have to look the other way, before I get the silent treatment - the Filipina jealousy is mind-boggling at times :NoNo: :cwm24:)

Best of luck and always remember the kisses in the night :Rasp:

[Sim11UK]

Thanks everybody :)

Can anyone tell me what AJRAAMANT means?...It's quite important.

[Jay&Zobel]

Good for you Sim!!!!

Remember it's her loss not yours!!!

[aposhark]

Thanks everybody :)

Can anyone tell me what AJRAAMANT means?...It's quite important.

Just asked the lady at the hotel reception, she has never heard of it......

[Mrs.JMajor]

Thanks everybody :)

Can anyone tell me what AJRAAMANT means?...It's quite important.

No such kind of words Sim, by the way,hope you really happy enough,just ask on the forum f you want some one new,there are loads of serious for relationship filipina Sim,i can guarantee you :xxgrinning--00xx3: and good luck mate :D :Hellooo:

[Sim11UK]

I know you probably think I'm crazy? But I've heard from her.
I really had put her in my past.

We've spoken on the phone.
She kept on saying this word. She spelt it out. "Ajreemant?" I couldn't understand as she was crying so much.

As I'm typing this I'm beginning to think the word she means is AGREEMENT.

This man has something over her family? Her brother has told her she must come home now, as has her sister in America.

I can't help being involved at the moment. We have been close & she is still my "fiancee?"

I'm trying to get her to runaway at the moment, ignore her family.

Regardless of what happens, I feel there is some sort of human rights issue here.
She really is distraught & frightened.

[aposhark]

Travel ?

[KeithD]

Just do what I said, move her to another island. If she won't go now, then she won't go in the future. She can sort the family out later when you are married and sending $$$$$$

[PAT]

I agree with admin Sim....really hope you and your fiance will surpass this out.

[Jay&Zobel]

This is difficult...

You really love her...

[Sim11UK]

Just do what I said, move her to another island. If she won't go now, then she won't go in the future. She can sort the family out later when you are married and sending $$$$$$

Yes this is what i'm trying to do.
I've just got home early because of the snow.
Tried to call her, but can't get through at rhe moment.

I want her to just pack a bag & get off the island ASAP

[Mrs.JMajor]

yes,right ! if she follow ,jump for joy............

[Jay&Zobel]

Yes this is what i'm trying to do.
I've just got home early because of the snow.
Tried to call her, but can't get through at rhe moment.

I want her to just pack a bag & get off the island ASAP



u think she will cope up? living away from her "dear" family... i pray so... it is high time for her to decide... her future with you or be stucked...

i admire your perseverance, i pray she really is worthy of all your compassionate heart...

[IainBusby]

Just do what I said, move her to another island. If she won't go now, then she won't go in the future. She can sort the family out later when you are married and sending $$$$$$

Sounds like a good plan, but I would make it sort of an ultimatum, because it seems to me that your allowing her to draw this situation out. Like the boss says, if she won't go now, she won't go later, even when you've gone through hundreds of crying down the phone episodes.

Don't take my lack of sympathy in the wrong way, there maybe genuine reasons behind all of this and her distress may also be genuine, but at the end of the day, a wife, or prospective wife must have and must demonstrate genuine commitment to her prospective husband.

If she won't move away from her family to resolve this situation, then I don't think her commitment to you is as strong as it will need to be to see you through to marriage and all the visa hassle, etc, etc, that will have to be overcome in the future. She could pack a suitcase and jump on an overnight ferry to Cebu for about P600, then book into a hotel for a couple of nights while she looks around for a boarding house. I'm sure there are lots of girls on this forum over in Cebu that would help her to find somewhere to live over there. The question is, is her commitment to your relationship strong enough to make her do this.

Iain.

[Sim11UK]

Sounds like a good plan, but I would make it sort of an ultimatum, because it seems to me that your allowing her to draw this situation out. Like the boss says, if she won't go now, she won't go later, even when you've gone through hundreds of crying down the phone episodes.

Don't take my lack of sympathy in the wrong way, there maybe genuine reasons behind all of this and her distress may also be genuine, but at the end of the day, a wife, or prospective wife must have and must demonstrate genuine commitment to her prospective husband.

If she won't move away from her family to resolve this situation, then I don't think her commitment to you is as strong as it will need to be to see you through to marriage and all the visa hassle, etc, etc, that will have to be overcome in the future. She could pack a suitcase and jump on an overnight ferry to Cebu for about P600, then book into a hotel for a couple of nights while she looks around for a boarding house. I'm sure there are lots of girls on this forum over in Cebu that would help her to find somewhere to live over there. The question is, is her commitment to your relationship strong enough to make her do this.

Iain.

Thanks IainBusby this is exactly what she must do & it's what I've been thinking too.

[PeterB]

If she would get herself down to Tagum, I'm sure that we could find her somewhere to stay.

I'm not surprised that she should find herself bowing to parental pressure. Ruby's 29 y/o brother has just got engaged. It seems, to me, that the engagement, and agreement, is something that the parents work out. Ruby's mum even gave a commitment to the girl's parents that her son would not break the engagement.

[Sim11UK]

Thanks Peterb for your offer of support. :)

Such draconian family laws. This really did come out of the blue, considering I'd been to the family home twice & was fed & made very welcome.

We've arranged to talk online, early tomorrow morning UK time. I can't get much sense out of her, in her present state on the phone...Then she's leaving for the Province.

Who knows if she'll come back?

[Rob & Anne]

i think theres something shes not telling you, somethings not right, it sounds strange coz u said uve met his dad and his dad even told u that u can marry her..In the phils i never really heard about 33 year old filipinas still being forced by their parents to marry someone unless if shes a muslim coz thats their custom they marry who their parents ask them to marry wether they like it or not, but if shes a christian then its very strange. Her story sounds like a really big fat lie...sorry...hope u'l find out about the whole truth..

[somebody]

Be strong Sim. Sounds a complicated situation as others have suggested best to offer her the chance to leave if as a grown woman she decides not to well thats her choice i guess.
Another boyfriend, parents cant afford to lose another carer/daughter, she herself has cold feet, only she really knows.

Whatever happens chin up mate and look after yourself:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Sim11UK]

Be strong Sim. Sounds a complicated situation as others have suggested best to offer her the chance to leave if as a grown woman she decides not to well thats her choice i guess.
Another boyfriend, parents cant afford to lose another carer/daughter, she herself has cold feet, only she really knows.

Whatever happens chin up mate and look after yourself:xxgrinning--00xx3:

Thanks for that somebody :xxgrinning--00xx3:

I'm resigned to my fate. It's not going to kill me, so c'est la vie. :)

[flomike]

At 28 I still live with my parents I have a proper job in a Travel Agency so basically I earned a living for myself just that its hard to leave your parents I don't know why? Basically you are oblige to do what they want as a sign of respect. If Im not yet home at 8pm they going to send me a text where I am or when Im home they asked me not to go home late. When I got married at 29 they are happy bec finally Im out of the house lol they are happy bec its time for me to settle down bec im not young anymore:D

[Sim11UK]

At 28 I still live with my parents I have a proper job in a Travel Agency so basically I earned a living for myself just that its hard to leave your parents I don't know why? Basically you are oblige to do what they want as a sign of respect. If Im not yet home at 8pm they going to send me a text where I am or when Im home they asked me not to go home late. When I got married at 29 they are happy bec finally Im out of the house lol they are happy bec its time for me to settle down bec im not young anymore:D

Good for you, I'm glad you finally found your independence. :xxgrinning--00xx3:
I know how much the family, plays a very important role in the Philippines.

I'm not sure I'd like my mum texting me "Where are you? you naughty boy." :icon_lol:

[bornatbirth]

theres alot of good advice in here and every possible senario!

whatever you decide all the best,the only real way of finding out is going there?

my wife was 31 when i first meet her,as her father sadly already died and when they got told of me her older brother was talking to her like a kid :icon_lol: telling what to do and not to do,it wasnt until the 3rd time that i saw her she was no longer checked upon?

while your single and until your married i guess the family still have say in your life?

[reginacarlson]

Fingers, toes and other body parts crossed and good vibes being sent your way. Hope you can sort everything out.

[PeterB]

Such draconian family laws. This really did come out of the blue, considering I'd been to the family home twice & was fed & made very welcome.

One possible scenario is that the parents aren't convinced that you will come back and marry her. On the other hand, there's a local guy, over whom they have some control, and he appears to be more than willing.

Another point is that western guys have a reputation (unfair?) for taking asian women and (mis)treating them as slaves.

Before Ruby came to the UK with me, her father asked her what would she do if I started mistreating her once she was away from home.

[KeithD]

Before Ruby came to the UK with me, her father asked her what would she do if I started to mistreating her once she was away from home.
Probably slit your throat while you sleep......or is it just my wife that says that? :omg:

[jencha8569]

whats the latest sim ?
you two talked again or not ?
good luck anyway

[joebloggs]

so there is some hope then sim, looks like it wasn't the obvious reason of a b/f but family pressure, when my mother in law found out her daughter was getting serious with a whitey a got a letter from her mom politely warning me to leave her alone.... :D

it's easy for others to say walk away, unless you've been in that situation yourself, then it's not so easy, and if you can walk away, then she probably didn't mean as much to you as you thought.

that's why i always say keep asking until she breaks if you have to, find the real reason, might not be the reason what you and others think it was or the reason she originally told you..

good luck, and if she does mean so much to you, don't give up, no matter what problems get in your way, I didn't , and after been married more than 5yrs, or 6yrs :Erm:, we've got little joe, a grand daughter and married life is better than ever :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[KeithD]

Why not go out there now and marry her? That'll bugger up the family plans.....you can then have a churh blessing when you're here.

[joebloggs]

Why not go out there now and marry her? That'll bugger up the family plans.....you can then have a churh blessing when you're here.

a shotgun wedding :rolleyes:, just get a shotgun in case her family turn up


that would mess their plans up :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[LEAHnew]

so there is some hope then sim, looks like it wasn't the obvious reason of a b/f but family pressure, when my mother in law found out her daughter was getting serious with a whitey a got a letter from her mom politely warning me to leave her alone.... :D

it's easy for others to say walk away, unless you've been in that situation yourself, then it's not so easy, and if you can walk away, then she probably didn't mean as much to you as you thought.

that's why i always say keep asking until she breaks if you have to, find the real reason, might not be the reason what you and others think it was or the reason she originally told you..

good luck, and if she does mean so much to you, don't give up, no matter what problems get in your way, I didn't , and after been married more than 5yrs, or 6yrs :Erm:, we've got little joe, a grand daughter and married life is better than ever :xxgrinning--00xx3:

:omg: sounds familiar:Erm::D

I agree to Joe goodluck Sim I hope it will sorted out soon:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[joebloggs]

:omg: sounds familiar:Erm::D

I agree to Joe goodluck Sim I hope it will sorted out soon:xxgrinning--00xx3:

i still have the letter somewhere :D, basically it said that she didn't want her daughter to get hurt in anyway. i wrote her a letter back saying i wasn't a scouser :D

[LEAHnew]

i still have the letter somewhere :D, basically it said that she didn't want her daughter to get hurt in anyway. i wrote her a letter back saying i wasn't a scouser :D

:yikes::D:icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:He's a brummie yummy:D:rolleyes:

cheers Joe :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Sim11UK]

Hi everyone out there in e-land

We've just spent the last 4 hours online together.
I'm afraid it's not a happy ending, but it's an amicable split.
Her family won out in the end.

There is no other b/f, she has just bowed to family pressure. I'm very sad at this, but she seems reasonably upbeat.

I've no reason to dis-believe her. She says she loves me, but the family is just too strong.

We talked about all the great places, we'd been to...Feeding the fish, whilst snorkelling off Boracay, Camiguin Island, her worrying about Mt. Hibok Hibok erupting, candlelit meals on the beach on Panglao Island etc. etc.
In otherwords, there was a lot of happy memories & laughs.
I have to say, I've been to some fantastic places, with a beautiful woman...Was just hoping it would carry on, oh well, such is life.

I'm just glad, we managed to get to do all this online, because it has certainly put my mind at rest. There is nothing worse, than being left in the dark & having no real closure.

...So it's time to move on.

I'd just like to thank everyone on this forum, for all the help given sorry to those I haven't replied to personally & a big thank you to those who sent PM's. Very much appreciated.

Joe I'm glad you managed to win your mother in law over. Manc. power I guess.

I shall carry on looking in on the forum, as there are some good people here.

Thanks

Simon :)



P.S. The guy she will be marrying, wont be getting any tsup tsup. :D

[Mrs.JMajor]

awww :bigcry: my sympathy for you Sim, promise you'll stick on the forum :BouncyHappy:so what do you want a nurse or a teacher ? i have here :rolleyes:,move on :)meet nice people again:D:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Sim11UK]

awww :bigcry: my sympathy for you Sim, promise you'll stick on the forum :BouncyHappy:so what do you want a nurse or a teacher ? i have here :rolleyes:,move on :)meet nice people again:D:xxgrinning--00xx3:

Hi there friend :Hellooo:

Yes I'll stay on the forum, it's addictive.
Just need to sort myself out a bit.

I have a love affair with the Philippines.

Thanks, you take care there. :)

[joebloggs]

when was you suppose to be going to the phils, next month ?

go and see her, and say good bye to her, face to face and not thru a call or text..

its not over til the fat lady sings :rolleyes:

[Sim11UK]

when was you suppose to be going to the phils, next month ?

go and see her, and say good bye to her, face to face and not thru a call or text..

its not over til the fat lady sings :rolleyes:

Sunday 8th of march was the plan. She leaves for the province tomorrow. :NoNo:

[KeithD]

Sunday 8th of march was the plan. She leaves for the province tomorrow. :NoNo:
You still going then?

You could visit a Phil internet cafe....pretend to be a woman.....and scam a white guy :icon_lol:

[Sim11UK]

You still going then?

You could visit a Phil internet cafe....pretend to be a woman.....and scam a white guy :icon_lol:

Not a bad idea, I fancy a career change. Quite lucrative too. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[kimmi]

sorry to hear it ended like that Sim..but at least she's been honest to u and had a heart to heart talk.

Goodluck and hope u find the right girl for u..:)

[Sim11UK]

sorry to hear it ended like that Sim..but at least she's been honest to u and had a heart to heart talk.

Goodluck and hope u find the right girl for u..:)

Thanks Kimmi, that's very kind of you. :)

[gracia143]

It's sad, it's like watching 'Phantom of the Opera' again whilst reading your story Sim, I feel very sad.

Looking back when I first started chatting online with my husband my younger brother got very upset with me. When the day came to collect Trev at the airport he was very, very anxious and fidgety. Parents and other members of the family were full of questions and worries as well. Am I gonna be happy? Am I gonna be alright? To say I have been married once and already a grown woman. Typical Filipinos.

But reading your posts I gathered that you are a strong person and the response were all very heartwarming. Like the rest of the members here I wish you the very best and hoping that one day you will get over the pain and be able to move on. God bless!

[joebloggs]

Sunday 8th of march was the plan. She leaves for the province tomorrow. :NoNo:

and why is she going to the province ? is this a rush wedding b4 you can get there ?

you are/was engaged to her ?, you should tell her at least she should wait til you can see her next month, she owes you this at least...:NoNo:

i don't understand how she can go thru with an arranged marriage :NoNo: not when she loves someone else :bigcry:

[Jay&Zobel]

and why is she going to the province ? is this a rush wedding b4 you can get there ?

you are/was engaged to her ?, you should tell her at least she should wait til you can see her next month, she owes you this at least...:NoNo:

i don't understand how she can go thru with an arranged marriage :NoNo: not when she loves someone else :bigcry:



yeah... confusing really... :Erm::Erm:

[cheesewiz]

:bigcry::bigcry::bigcry::bigcry:

I feel sad now, first day in the forum reading this kind of story. Anyway, life is not fair all the time but I am sure you'll find the woman that you will spend the rest of your life and your offspring together. That's why I am still single now even though I have a few friends here in the UK and Phils trying to pair me with their friends, bros and cousins but I refused bec I am not in favour in LDR (I know it works for many but not for me). If I don't have a BF now I might introduce my self to you hahaha fortunately I have one already and seems were on the right track so far and getting to know each other everyday and he is so keen to see Phils and meet my family.

Again, sorry for your very sad love story but atleast there's some memories that both of you enjoyed together. Phils is compose of 7,100 islands it means the probalities of finding one is not a problem. All the best

[cheesewiz]

yeah... confusing really... :Erm::Erm:

may be she is pregnant:Erm::omg:

[Jay&Zobel]

:bigcry::bigcry::bigcry::bigcry:

That's why I am still single now even though I have a few friends here in the UK and Phils trying to pair me with their friends, bros and cousins but I refused bec I am not in favour in LDR (I know it works for many but not for me). If I don't have a BF now I might introduce my self to you hahaha fortunately I have one already and seems were on the right track so far and getting to know each other everyday and he is so keen to see Phils and meet my family.

. All the best




aha! potential candidate here hehehe... :D:D :icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:

[KeithD]

yeah... confusing really... :Erm::Erm:
JOE!!! :omg:

Flippin Mancs.....they'd stick it in a tree if it had hairs on it.....

[joebloggs]

JOE!!! :omg:

Flippin Mancs.....they'd stick it in a tree if it had hairs on it.....


you lazy shell suite wearing scouser :D scared of a bit of hard work....

this is the gal he was going to wed a few days ago, and your all telling him to forget her and move on, if i was him, i would go and see her asap, face to face and find out the truth, and then he can move on.. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

if the only problem is her family then :censored: to them..

[aromulus]

you lazy shell suite wearing scouser :D scared of a bit of hard work....
.

wohhhhhahhhhhh.....:omg:

A Jeremy Clarkson in the making...........:icon_lol:

[KeithD]

A Jeremy Clarkson in the making...........:icon_lol:
...but unlike a Manc, the only Police record Jeremy has is Dedoodooda Dadodadodadodadooooo :rolleyes:

[Mrs.JMajor]

may be she is pregnant:Erm::omg:

:omg::NoNo::D

thread running page 4 so far ,ahhh members sympathy ,you can count on,:BouncyHappy::rolleyes:

[PeterB]

if i was him, i would go and see her asap, face to face and find out the truth, and then he can move on..

Me too!


if the only problem is her family then :censored: to them..

... and if the family are still the winners, you're in the right place to look for another one!

But I still suspect that the family are not convinced about your true intentions.

[aromulus]

Me too!
But I still suspect that the family are not convinced about your true intentions.

Yep, this maybe the case.....:NoNo:

The best way to prove them that you mean business is to turn up un-announced at the door....:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[joebloggs]

wohhhhhahhhhhh.....:omg:

A Jeremy Clarkson in the making...........:icon_lol:

i'm gonna complain about that :censored: to the beeb, bit of luck he'll get the boot :rolleyes:

[Sim11UK]

Hi everyone

Thanks again, just mulling a few things over at the moment.

Have a great day :)

[LEAHnew]

Hi everyone

Thanks again, just mulling a few things over at the moment.

Have a great day :)

Nice to hear from you Sim..To you as well Have a great day:xxgrinning--00xx3: coz I had already:)
Goodnight here from Phil:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Frances]

hi Sim11uk!

All the best for the future.

Phillip and Frances

[Sim11UK]

hi Sim11uk!

All the best for the future.

Phillip and Frances

Thank you. :)

[aposhark]

Hi everyone

Thanks again, just mulling a few things over at the moment.

Have a great day :)

So Sim11UK,

What decision have you come to after mulling things over?

I am with Joe on this one.

Are you going to visit her and win her love or call it a day?

[Sim11UK]

So Sim11UK,

What decision have you come to after mulling things over?

I am with Joe on this one.

Are you going to visit her and win her love or call it a day?

Bear with me, it's not as straight forward as it seems?

[acs]

oh im sad on the turn of events for you Simuk11. Im from Cagayan de oro also and im here in the uk now to be with my husband. Pressures must have been in her shoulders to pleased her family if what she told you is the truth. Sometimes pressure from the people surrounding her can crumble her confidence and love for you especially being bombarded in every way they can. It takes really a strong determination for a woman not to be swayed by pressures surrounding her. They must have been thinking your not going to honor your promise to marry her thats why they let this other guy enter the picture ( Just a thought) . Or, else, he is her bf or worst husband in the side,:NoNo: and that she doesnt want to go further with you so that you wont spend much more than what you have done already..just an opinion:ARsurrender:
I hope and pray things will work out for the best.

[Sim11UK]

Thanks acs for your kind words. :)

[Pepe n Pilar]

HI Sim11UK, i've been reading your post and it started 3 wks ago so sad to know the turn up of the events from then on. So many views from some members here and same with the rest i am hoping you could find the right girl for you.

I was surprised to know she at aged 33, still was pressured by her family. If she is deeply in love with you she can make her own decisions as she is of the right age already. I just suspect she has a bf or pregnant? (just my views).
Best of luck and God Bless. Happy searching ..:)

[pinky]

hi sim, im a newbie here...and ur story is like a novel...i do understand how u feel until this time...iv been reading the threads and waiting for ur next move...my situation was a bit similar to what is happening between u and ur ex(?) gf...but the difference is I waited for 5 years for him to marry me and then one day..he told me..he lost that loving feeling for me. I got engaged there in UK...Thai Square Restaurant...almost a year ago..then few months after that he dropped me...i was asking him the real reason/s but he always told me that one day he woke up and realized that he lost that feeling for me...quite strange huh? And what I did, I packed all my stuffs and went back to the Phils. as I was so devastated by what happened....Until now, I can't figure out what went wrong along the way but I do believe whatever is happening is all God'swill for me and for u. They say, there is always light after the tunnel...

Goodluck to u and enjoy life to the fullest!!!!!

[pacificelectric]

Long distance relations can be very difficult sometimes. Yesterday my GF sent me a message telling me "if you find someone else just tell me".... I was stunned and asked what happened. She then explained that once before she had been in a LDR and the man with whom she had fallen in love in fact had a girl with him and of course she was hurt. The balance between hurrying too much and being too slow is not always easy to find, but what matters is that both partners find the adequate pace..

[Sim11UK]

Thanks again everyone. :)

Well, I've just booked my flight for this coming sunday 8th march.
She has come back to the City & is not talking to her family at the moment?

I don't want to go into details, but persistance on my part & her own common sense, seems to have paid off.

Anyway, it's time to sort things out...I have to say, I feel a little numb about it at the moment?

[nids123]

hi sim i been reading ur post always and waiting for a good result of ur love story i hope that u will be happy soon and she can fight for ur love over her parents.goodluck

[DaveUK]

Thanks again everyone. :)

Well, I've just booked my flight for this coming sunday 8th march.
She has come back to the City & is not talking to her family at the moment?

I don't want to go into details, but persistance on my part & her own common sense, seems to have paid off.

Anyway, it's time to sort things out...I have to say, I feel a little numb about it at the moment?

Nice one fella. Hope things work out!

[tiN]

Goodluck to you sim, hope it goes well... :)

[Florge]

Hi Sim,

It is sad to know how all things turned out. My Simon (my bf) also went through the same pressure but maybe I am strong-willed and told my family to shush and let me be happy with my choice. And they did support me because they know that my Simon makes me happy. Everything happens for a reason and maybe it's because you're not meant to be together... and that you deserve a woman who'll stand by you no matter what.. who loves you so much that she's willing to take a bullet for you ... okay, that's morbid but you know what I mean... hehehe..

Anyway, if you're ready to love again, the girls here would be very willing to help. Good luck to you and I wish you all the best.

Florge

[Sim11UK]

hi sim i been reading ur post always and waiting for a good result of ur love story i hope that u will be happy soon and she can fight for ur love over her parents.goodluck

Thanks nids123...Time will tell. :)


Nice one fella. Hope things work out!

Thanks, I hope so too. :)


Goodluck to you sim, hope it goes well... :)

Thank you tiN :)


Hi Sim,

It is sad to know how all things turned out. My Simon (my bf) also went through the same pressure but maybe I am strong-willed and told my family to shush and let me be happy with my choice. And they did support me because they know that my Simon makes me happy. Everything happens for a reason and maybe it's because you're not meant to be together... and that you deserve a woman who'll stand by you no matter what.. who loves you so much that she's willing to take a bullet for you ... okay, that's morbid but you know what I mean... hehehe..

Anyway, if you're ready to love again, the girls here would be very willing to help. Good luck to you and I wish you all the best.

Florge

Well things maybe ok?...We'll just have to see. :)

[misscarie]

Goodluck on ur trip Sim , i will pray for the good outcomes.

Hope everything will be OK.

[Sim11UK]

Goodluck on ur trip Sim , i will pray for the good outcomes.

Hope everything will be OK.

Thanks misscarie :)

[aposhark]

Thanks again everyone. :)

Well, I've just booked my flight for this coming sunday 8th march.
She has come back to the City & is not talking to her family at the moment?

I don't want to go into details, but persistance on my part & her own common sense, seems to have paid off.

Anyway, it's time to sort things out...I have to say, I feel a little numb about it at the moment?

That's the way Sim :xxgrinning--00xx3:
I was wondering when you would make a move.
Face to face is the only way, success in love or closure...
Best of luck and don't forget that she may want proper commitment from you.
That's what girls do you know :icon_lol:

[paulgee]

Good luck Sim11UK. I have recently returned from Phil. after getting married there, and was saddened by the problems you are having. I wish you all the very best and think you are doing the right thing by flying out there to personally confront the situation.

Best wishes from Shirley and I (to you both), I hope you do find out there the happiness we both found and so many others in this Forum have. May love triumph for you both.

Paul

[Sim11UK]

I was wondering when you would make a move.

Thanks Aposhark, the trouble was I had no contact from her, except for a couple of text messages & I would never have been able to find the family home, as it's quite remote.


Good luck Sim11UK. I have recently returned from Phil. after getting married there, and was saddened by the problems you are having. I wish you all the very best and think you are doing the right thing by flying out there to personally confront the situation.

Best wishes from Shirley and I (to you both), I hope you do find out there the happiness we both found and so many others in this Forum have. May love triumph for you both.

Paul

Thanks Paul, congratulations to you both. I'm glad things have gone well for you. I wish you much happiness for the future.

Simon :)

[Mrs.JMajor]

Goodluck on ur trip Sim , i will pray for the good outcomes.

Hope everything will be OK.

hi freind,you mean your going to phil ? :yikes:

[Sim11UK]

hi freind,you mean your going to phil ? :yikes:

Hiya friend :Hellooo:
Yep! You're over here, now I'm going over there. :cwm34:

[Piamed]

Wishing you all the best mate. Hopefully things will be a lot clearer when you're there.

[Florge]

[QUOTE=Sim11UK;119015]Thanks Aposhark, the trouble was I had no contact from her, except for a couple of text messages & I would never have been able to find the family home, as it's quite remote.

So you mean, you're going there on your own.. and find their house on your own? Isn't she going to pick you up at the airport when you arrive? :omg:

[Sim11UK]

Wishing you all the best mate. Hopefully things will be a lot clearer when you're there.

Thanks Piamed, I just need to get there ASAP. You wouldn't believe me, if I told you.


[QUOTE=Sim11UK;119015]Thanks Aposhark, the trouble was I had no contact from her, except for a couple of text messages & I would never have been able to find the family home, as it's quite remote.

So you mean, you're going there on your own.. and find their house on your own? Isn't she going to pick you up at the airport when you arrive? :omg:

Hi Florge, she lives in the city & that's where she is now...Her parents live in the province, that's where she was called back to.
& yes, she will meet me at the airport, all being well. :)

This whole experience, has been an eyeopener....believe me.

[PeterB]

Well done Sim, I'm convinced that this is the right thing to do. I wish you both all the best.

She's in CDO? If you happen to travel down Davao direction, it would be good to meet you both.

[Ann07]

Goodluck to you Sim:) Keep us posted :)

[Sim11UK]

Well done Sim, I'm convinced that this is the right thing to do. I wish you both all the best.

She's in CDO? If you happen to travel down Davao direction, it would be good to meet you both.

Thanks PeterB. Yes she's in CDO...You were right about the family agreements.
Congratulations to you both...It would be great to see you & the new arrival. :)


Goodluck to you Sim:) Keep us posted :)

Hi Ann thank you, I will keep you posted...How are you?

[Ann07]

Im good now thank you:)

[nids123]

hin sim its nice to hear that something willhappen soon for ur love story wish u goodluck and happyness.

[aricon]

hi ive just come back from cagayan deoro and i met my fiaces family and family is so inportant to them i realy dont think if the family new he had attacked her they would except him into there family i think there is more to it but thats only my opinion but i no my fiance would put me before her family if she truly wants to be with you she will be. think you need to talk to her face to face .good luck.

[Sim11UK]

hin sim its nice to hear that something willhappen soon for ur love story wish u goodluck and happyness.

Thank you...I hope it's all good. :)


but i no my fiance would put me before her family

That's what I thought too. My advice...don't take anything for granted. :NoNo:
Well it seems in the end, she has done just that, but not without a lot of heartache in between.

There maybe a lot more to come, particularly for her as she has gone against her family. It could build up as resentment to me?

[joebloggs]

You wouldn't believe me, if I told you.




This whole experience, has been an eyeopener....believe me.

:D yes i would believe you :rolleyes:

best of luck and don't quit, your chances b4 seemed a million to 1, and now you have a chance to of being a 1 in a million couple :rolleyes:

[Sim11UK]

:D yes i would believe you :rolleyes:

best of luck and don't quit, your chances b4 seemed a million to 1, and now you have a chance to of being a 1 in a million couple :rolleyes:

How right you are! It's gone from being totally hopeless to seeing that light at the end of the tunnel. :)

[cheesewiz]

Pag-ibig nga naman:D good luck SIM

can't wait to see Phils again this Dec 2009 hopefully with my dear one

[Sim11UK]

Pag-ibig nga naman:D good luck SIM

can't wait to see Phils again this Dec 2009 hopefully with my dear one

Thanks cheesewiz...Have you booked your flight yet?

[kimmi]

Goodluck Sim, wishing u all the best..hope this time everything will be sorted out, u desrved to be happy..:)

[aromulus]

All I can say is that I hope all goes well in your favour, and get the result you wish for.:xxgrinning--00xx3:

Family pressure can break relationships, but if she agreed to see you despite it, might mean that she is willing to be indipendent.

So don't despair, think positive, act positive and all will be ok.:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Mrs Daddy]

I am so sorry to hear your sad story sim.it was unexpected never thought you in this situation.I just hope you will get through all this.God Bless

[somebody]

Thanks again everyone. :)

Well, I've just booked my flight for this coming sunday 8th march.
She has come back to the City & is not talking to her family at the moment?

I don't want to go into details, but persistance on my part & her own common sense, seems to have paid off.

Anyway, it's time to sort things out...I have to say, I feel a little numb about it at the moment?

Reads as if there maybe some good news. But like you say a lot for you to take in. The Wife and I had problems which if we lived round from the corner of one another would most likely been over in the blink of a eye or never happened.

I hope things work out for the best for both of you.

[Strangemikan]

I am a newbie and this thread caught my eye. I wish you all the best Sim! I hope it would turn out as a good news! Keep us posted, will you? Take care!

:Hellooo:

[smilinggirlfife]

Hi there,

Wow!!! you sure have your problems and you don't need to go and look for them. Where do I start?, anyway, I have read your post and to be honest with you if your woman really loves you then she will fight for it and stick with you because no matter what type of hindrances may come you have only one principle on your mind that you have to be true and honest with your feelings and follow what your heart says, well, if you think and feel that she really loves you then no worry you can go on with your plan but if she's doubting where to go wether to follow her family or to be with you then if it's meant to be its meant to be but you're right don't mention about any redundancy money, to be honest if you are going to marry her I think it would be better if she applied for a Marriage settlement visa in Phils. and marry her in the U.K, the visa will take 3 months to process and if she is granted a visa then she can come here to the U.K for 6 months but you must marry her within the 6 months period or she needs to go home. A word of warning, if you are going to settle in the Phils. then you need to be careful if you are buying a lot or house and lot because you can't own the land in your name and you are a foreigner it has to be in your wife's name and thats when the problem can start after you've been together for a while.

Hope I can help you ......

[Florge]

yey yey yey... I might be wrong after all!!! yey yey yey!!! everything seems to be good!!! love prevails .. wooohooooo.... god bless you sim.. all's well that ends well!

[Sim11UK]

Goodluck Sim, wishing u all the best..hope this time everything will be sorted out, u desrved to be happy..:)

Thank you Kimmi, very kind words. :)


All I can say is that I hope all goes well in your favour, and get the result you wish for.:xxgrinning--00xx3:

Family pressure can break relationships, but if she agreed to see you despite it, might mean that she is willing to be indipendent.

So don't despair, think positive, act positive and all will be ok.:xxgrinning--00xx3:

Thanks aromulus, I hope we both get what we wish for...She is certainly very strong. :)


I am so sorry to hear your sad story sim.it was unexpected never thought you in this situation.I just hope you will get through all this.God Bless

Thanks Mrs Daddy, well hopefully we will get through it. :)


Reads as if there maybe some good news. But like you say a lot for you to take in. The Wife and I had problems which if we lived round from the corner of one another would most likely been over in the blink of a eye or never happened.

I hope things work out for the best for both of you.

Thanks somebody, I guess this long distance thing makes you fight harder. I know I wasn't really prepared to let it go.
I'm all fired up now...Let me on that plane NOWWWW!!!!!! :BouncyHappy:


I am a newbie and this thread caught my eye. I wish you all the best Sim! I hope it would turn out as a good news! Keep us posted, will you? Take care!

:Hellooo:

Hi there, nice to meet you...Well, I'm off there tomorrow morning. :)


Hi there,

Wow!!! you sure have your problems and you don't need to go and look for them. Where do I start?, anyway, I have read your post and to be honest with you if your woman really loves you then she will fight for it and stick with you because no matter what type of hindrances may come you have only one principle on your mind that you have to be true and honest with your feelings and follow what your heart says, well, if you think and feel that she really loves you then no worry you can go on with your plan but if she's doubting where to go wether to follow her family or to be with you then if it's meant to be its meant to be but you're right don't mention about any redundancy money, to be honest if you are going to marry her I think it would be better if she applied for a Marriage settlement visa in Phils. and marry her in the U.K, the visa will take 3 months to process and if she is granted a visa then she can come here to the U.K for 6 months but you must marry her within the 6 months period or she needs to go home. A word of warning, if you are going to settle in the Phils. then you need to be careful if you are buying a lot or house and lot because you can't own the land in your name and you are a foreigner it has to be in your wife's name and thats when the problem can start after you've been together for a while.

Hope I can help you ......

Thank you, wise words indeed...I'll take on board what you are telling me. :)


yey yey yey... I might be wrong after all!!! yey yey yey!!! everything seems to be good!!! love prevails .. wooohooooo.... god bless you sim.. all's well that ends well!

Thanks Florge, we just have to be sure we want the same thing. :)

[bornatbirth]

try and have a good time at least you will know the truth and can decide whatever the problems are and how to deal with them?

so goodluck!

[Sim11UK]

try and have a good time at least you will know the truth and can decide whatever the problems are and how to deal with them?

so goodluck!

Thanks mate! :)

[Sim11UK]

Right I'm off...got 3 planes to catch.

Cheers! everyone :xxgrinning--00xx3: Take care :)

[nids123]

hi sim goodluck to ur love hope to hear a good news.

[empott]

Ingat, Sim, have a safe trip. Hope everything will be all right. :Hellooo:

[IainBusby]

Good Luck Simon,
Have a couple of san migs at the night cafe for me.
Cheers,
Iain.

[aromulus]

Right I'm off...got 3 planes to catch.

Cheers! everyone :xxgrinning--00xx3: Take care :)

By the time you come back on the site, you will probably be taking advantage of the free internet in either Hong Kong or Singapore airports...:)

Boring long flight.... Innit....???

It will have been worth it, mate...:xxgrinning--00xx3:

Godspeed....:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Sconnie]

Good luck and God speed.
Have a safe and enjoyable trip, I hope everything turns out the best for you.

[tiN]

Goodluck Sim :)

[scott&ligaya]

Go Simon, Go Simon, go Simon..... hmmmmmm we need Kimmi for cheerleading!

I hope it all works out for you guys

[kimmi]

Go Simon, Go Simon, go Simon..... hmmmmmm we need Kimmi for cheerleading!

I hope it all works out for you guys

I am here to help u now, Scott for the cheering..:icon_lol::icon_lol:


GO SIMON, GO SIMON, GO SIMON..GO GO GO..GO SIMON GO SIMON, GO SIMON GO..:icon_win::REDancedancer08::REDancedancer08::333::Britain::Kilt::irish::woohoo::woohoo::Beer:

[empott]

I know they will resolve whatever their issues now that they are together. :BouncyHappy: Love moves in mysterious ways... oops I can't believe I'm singing in a public forum! :Brick: sorry guys, got carried away. :D

[scott&ligaya]

You see Simon, Kimmi is the chief cheerleader and helper to struggling lovers!!!

[LEAHnew]

Hi Sim enjoy your stay here in Phil:xxgrinning--00xx3:
We're all here to support you:Hellooo::Hellooo:
Goodluck:xxgrinning--00xx3:

All the best:)
Leah

[nids123]

hi sim how r u now hope that everything ok hope to hear god news of ur love story.goodluck

[scott&ligaya]

I am the only one anxious to find out how Simon is getting on


I hope he has not been in contact because he is aahhmmm "busy" :luv4: being totally loved up with his mahal:cwm12::cwm12::cwm12:

[IainBusby]

I am the only one anxious to find out how Simon is getting on


I hope he has not been in contact because he is aahhmmm "busy" :luv4: being totally loved up with his mahal:cwm12::cwm12::cwm12:

Far tooooooooooo BUSY. :Yippeee::Yippeee::Yippeee::love::luv4::love18:

[Mrs.JMajor]

And we :BouncyHappy:are nosy for him to share the news:Dhope he is doing great by now:)

[Happy_Now]

Call her bluff.

Tell her you are arranging for her to move to Davao, and you'll take care of her there until the wedding/visa are sorted.

If she has excuses not to go, then something her end is more important than you.

I second the motion:Hellooo::Hellooo::Hellooo:

Sim,
Sounds not good to me. 33 yrs old? force marriage? :doh:doh:doh
Sim, she is old enough to decide of her own. :Brick::Brick::Brick:
If she really love you, why she need to avoid you on the first place. :NoNo::NoNo:
If she loves you, She will make a way to tell you the truth (if her story is true). If she loves you she will fight for your love. :furious3::furious3::furious3:
good luck for your future:Erm::Erm::Erm:

[Florge]

gosh! i was soooo hoping simon had made an update on his status already.... soooo ANXIOUS to hear good news.... LOL

[vrn]

gosh! i was soooo hoping simon had made an update on his status already.... soooo ANXIOUS to hear good news.... LOL

me too...hope he is fine...

[aromulus]

Come on Simon.....!!!

This is like pulling teeth with blunt pliers....:doh

[Mrs.JMajor]

:icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol: lol Mod

[tiN]

:icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:

[aposhark]

No news is good news

[scott&ligaya]

Hope so, this story is better than any so called drama on TV.

Go Simon, Go Simon

[Sim11UK]

WOW!!!!!!!!! Thanks for all of your concern.

WELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!......It's good news. We are both here in CDO & she is looking over my shoulder now. :)

Put the pliers away now Aromulus...Start cheering Kimmi :)

I don't know what to say at the moment, but I'm touched by all of your comments. Still got another week to go here...We've even been looking at wedding venues. :D

...Yes Iain we were at night cafe last night, will probably go again tonight. :)

Almost out of time here in the caff, so got to go....Thanks again.....See you soon. :)

[Mrs.JMajor]

yeheyyyyyy :appl:,you made the right decision visiting her,so give all the best not to lose her anymore friend

wishing you all the best !! :BouncyHappy::BouncyHappy:
Im so happy for you,so the title of the thread should be change,not devastated anymore :icon_lol:

enjoy ,have fun Simon:Hellooo:

[LEAHnew]

Great News Sim:xxgrinning--00xx3:
I am so happy for the both of you:icon_win::love::Hellooo::Hellooo::xxgrinning--00xx3:

Keep loving..keep smiling....:)

God Bless!

Leah

[Piamed]

Her Simon. Good luck with eveything. I really enjoyed my times in CdO. I usually travel from there to Nasipit or Butuan. Are you staying in CdO itself?

[aromulus]

I am glad that you are spending time together and "get to know each other" better to cement that special relationship...:rolleyes:

Planning a future, together, now, is of imperative importance as it will impede the family from putting any more spanners in the works.:xxgrinning--00xx3:

My suggestion is to buy her a small laptop and get her on broadband so that lines of communication are always open, and in the long run also cheaper.:xxgrinning--00xx3:

All the best, we are rooting for you.

Dom & Jet

[Sconnie]

Great news Simon, we are very happy for you both, may your relationship grow and grow

[alicat]

great news...im so happy for the both of you.goodluck
with everything.

[nids123]

nice to hear from u simon wish u good luck and stAy in love.

[Ann07]

Brilliant news Sim, we are so happy for you.:D Goodluck there:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Ji&Ma]

Glad to hear that Sim, been following your story on this post - life is sometimes pretty complicated, but full of nice surprises too.

Don't you want to put it together as a screenplay? Reckon it would be very interesting for Hollywood:D

[IainBusby]

WOW!!!!!!!!! Thanks for all of your concern.

WELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!......It's good news. We are both here in CDO & she is looking over my shoulder now. :)

Put the pliers away now Aromulus...Start cheering Kimmi :)

I don't know what to say at the moment, but I'm touched by all of your comments. Still got another week to go here...We've even been looking at wedding venues. :D

...Yes Iain we were at night cafe last night, will probably go again tonight. :)

Almost out of time here in the caff, so got to go....Thanks again.....See you soon. :)

Great News Simon, as long as it all works out in the end, it'll all be worth it. :xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:
Iain.

[Florge]

wwwwwwiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii........ great great news! love can indeed move mountains.... wedding bells soon eh? cool!!! at least you were able to prove that you're her choice... i can see now that you can't stop smiling... hehehe

[Jay&Zobel]

:icon_win::icon_win::icon_win::icon_win::icon_win::REDancedancer08::REDancedancer08::REDancedancer08::REDancedancer08::REDancedancer08::Bouncy::Bouncy::Bouncy::xxparty-smiley-050::xxparty-smiley-050::xxparty-smiley-050::xxparty-smiley-050::love::love::love::love::love::love18::love18::love18::luv4::luv4::luv13::luv13::9::9::football3::football3::football3::smileybigtmouth::smileybigtmouth:


KEEP US POSTED SIM!

HAPPY TO HEAR FORM YOU

[acs]

nice to know your in cdo now with your lovey sim:BouncyHappy:...and nice to know your looking for wedding venues now too. :BouncyHappy::Hellooo: were happy for you,it just makes me miss cdo and my family back there also:bigcry:

[cheesewiz]

wow congratulation Sim.....that's great news from you:Hellooo:

actually I gave this site to my BF and I said he is free to join if he wants but he's not into forums:NoNo: although he's reading a bit he said:rolleyes:

[Jay&Zobel]

actually I gave this site to my BF and I said he is free to join if he wants but he's not into forums:NoNo: although he's reading a bit he said:rolleyes:


that's a good start :xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:

[scott&ligaya]

great news Simon:xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::cwm12::cwm12::cwm38::cwm38::huepfen024::REDancedancer08::love18::luv4:............ I am negotaiating the film rights with Spielberg and arranging interviews with Oprah. OK and Hello magazines are bidding for the wedding.

[Jay&Zobel]

great news Simon:xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::cwm12::cwm12::cwm38::cwm38::huepfen024::REDancedancer08::love18::luv4:............ I am negotaiating the film rights with Spielberg and arranging interviews with Oprah. OK and Hello magazines are bidding for the wedding.


wow never thought you are too influential :icon_lol::icon_lol::D:D:D


:cwm38::cwm38::cwm38::cwm38::cwm38::cwm38::cwm38::cwm38::cwm38::cwm38:

[nids123]

hi sim really nice to hear good news ur getting married thats good u really mean to be.my husband dont like much bout thisforum he wants to keep his life frivate but he read some.

[kimmi]

WOW!!!!!!!!! Thanks for all of your concern.

WELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!......It's good news. We are both here in CDO & she is looking over my shoulder now. :)

Put the pliers away now Aromulus...Start cheering Kimmi :)

I don't know what to say at the moment, but I'm touched by all of your comments. Still got another week to go here...We've even been looking at wedding venues. :D

...Yes Iain we were at night cafe last night, will probably go again tonight. :)

Almost out of time here in the caff, so got to go....Thanks again.....See you soon. :)


I am so happy to hear the good news Sim..:Hellooo::Hellooo:

am looking forward for ur new thread about ur wedding..:D:xxgrinning--00xx3:

GO SIMON, GO SIMON, GO SIMON, GO..GO...GO.. GO SIMON, GO SIMON, GO SIMON GO SIMON...:xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::Rasp:

[aposhark]

........am looking forward for ur new thread about ur wedding..:D:xxgrinning--00xx3:

Maybe I'm an old cynic laced with romanticism but I believe ladies have ways to move their men along. It's like that old saying "men chase women until they get caught" :-)

I'm just happy for both of them, sounds like another happy Fil-Brit couple.

[Ladybug_sim]

Glad to hear that Sim, been following your story on this post - life is sometimes pretty complicated, but full of nice surprises too.

Don't you want to put it together as a screenplay? Reckon it would be very interesting for Hollywood:D

wowwww we will looking for the screen play then... can you do that ? all of us here will gonna be watch for .. who's will be the actor and actress for that screen play? wish you and your ... to be a favor with sim or better both of them :).. a newbie to read all the story here and sorting what i can say .... no hurt feelings .... :cwm38::)

[Ladybug_sim]

Maybe I'm an old cynic laced with romanticism but I believe ladies have ways to move their men along. It's like that old saying "men chase women until they get caught" :-)

Hi... a newbie here for you.. just got some attention in your quoted here and yes, i am agree sometimes of what you are saying .. lots doing that for now a days but not only ladies because some men did that too.. . well, happy for all of us to be part our daily lives.. just keep smile to make people happy back on us :D:):D:)

[Mrs.JMajor]

wowwww we will looking for the screen play then... can you do that ? all of us here will gonna be watch for .. who's will be the actor and actress for that screen play? wish you and your ... to be a favor with sim or better both of them :).. a newbie to read all the story here and sorting what i can say .... no hurt feelings .... :cwm38::)


Hi... a newbie here for you.. just got some attention in your quoted here and yes, i am agree sometimes of what you are saying .. lots doing that for now a days but not only ladies because some men did that too.. . well, happy for all of us to be part our daily lives.. just keep smile to make people happy back on us :D:):D:)

Doesnt make sense to me :Erm::Erm: we are enjoying this thread for Simon

hi yah Simon,hope your doing great out there,yuhooooooo :BouncyHappy::BouncyHappy:

[tiN]

Doesnt make sense to me :Erm::Erm: we are enjoying this thread for Simon

hi yah Simon,hope your doing great out there,yuhooooooo :BouncyHappy::BouncyHappy:

:icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:

[tiN]

Great news Sim:xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:

Im so pleased for you, hope it goes well until the end:BouncyHappy::cwm12::cwm12::BouncyHappy:

[Sim11UK]

great news Simon:xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::cwm12::cwm12::cwm38::cwm38::huepfen024::REDancedancer08::love18::luv4:............ I am negotaiating the film rights with Spielberg and arranging interviews with Oprah. OK and Hello magazines are bidding for the wedding.

Do we get an advance :D


I am so happy to hear the good news Sim..:Hellooo::Hellooo:
am looking forward for ur new thread about ur wedding..:D:xxgrinning--00xx3:

GO SIMON, GO SIMON, GO SIMON, GO..GO...GO.. GO SIMON, GO SIMON, GO SIMON GO SIMON...:xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::Rasp:

Sigi sigi Kimmi sigi sigi :Hellooo: :Hellooo: :)


Doesnt make sense to me :Erm::Erm: we are enjoying this thread for Simon

hi yah Simon,hope your doing great out there,yuhooooooo :BouncyHappy::BouncyHappy:

Hiya! friend :Hellooo: How is life in Norfolk?

Ladybug is indeed my special friend. :D Kimmi sussed that out.


Seriously though, thanks everyone you must be sick of this thread now?

We are just here still in Cagayan de Oro City, just enjoying being together.
Taking things easy.
I even ate Balot :omg: the other night, which I swore I would never do. I think I'm turning native. Getting quite adventurous on the food front. :) Eating kwik kwik etc. etc. :yikes: yum yum. :Cuckoo:

Got the imodium ready. :butthead:

[Jay&Zobel]

Seriously though, thanks everyone you must be sick of this thread now?

We are just here still in Cagayan de Oro City, just enjoying being together.
Taking things easy.
I even ate Balot :omg: the other night, which I swore I would never do. I think I'm turning native. Getting quite adventurous on the food front. :) Eating kwik kwik etc. etc. :yikes: yum yum. :Cuckoo:

Got the imodium ready. :butthead:


hehehe we are now addicted! lol is this the longest thread ever? now 7 pages?


ladybugSim!!! well done!!! you got a good man there :xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:

[aromulus]

I am pleased everything is going spiffingly well for you old chap, now pass the port, please....:xxgrinning--00xx3:

Balut....... Not even double strenght imodium can deal with that...:omg:

Ok, so what's in the future for you two.
Have the family accepted the fact that you two are an unbreakable item, yet???:Erm:

[Sim11UK]

Ok, so what's in the future for you two.
Have the family accepted the fact that you two are an unbreakable item, yet???:Erm:

The future is looking good...

When I arrived her family, were still not in contact with her.
Her mother has since phoned to see that she is ok.

They know I am with her, as there has been more contact made. She's 5 hours away by bus from her folks home. So yes I think they have accepted the situation.

I have to say a big thank you to a couple of her friends, who were unhappy about the situation she found herself in. They didn't give up on her.
To the doubters, this was a very real situation...An agreement was made between the 2 families...She would have been married by now.

Thankfully, she was already living independently, so took flight from the situation...She has risked everything & hopefully now things can resume as they were before.

I'm just so glad, she found the strength within her...

It's so good to be back by her side...I love her dearly. :)

[aromulus]

Yep, this maybe the case.....:NoNo:

The best way to prove them that you mean business is to turn up un-announced at the door....:xxgrinning--00xx3:



As it has been proved many times, it works wonders...:D




Boring long flight.... Innit....???

It will have been worth it, mate...:xxgrinning--00xx3:



Been there, done it, got the T-shirt, got the hat....:xxgrinning--00xx3:




My suggestion is to buy her a small laptop and get her on broadband so that lines of communication are always open, and in the long run also cheaper.:xxgrinning--00xx3:



Now.... This is extremely important, don't be tight and get on with it....
Trust me......:rolleyes:

All the best

[mickcant]

Hi Sim, I am fairly new here and married a Filipina last April and we are finally getting her settlement visa for the UK sorted, I have found we brits say somthing and of course we know what we mean, but our lovely Filipina's somtimes do not get our thoughts correct and the same can happen with what they say to us.
Also there could be pre wedding nerves here, I know I had some but also knew my wife to be was the best thing that could happen to me.
Please let us know how this goes if you visit her again, my thoughts anf hopes are with you.
Mick.

[Mrs.JMajor]

Hiya! friend :Hellooo: How is life in Norfolk?

Ladybug is indeed my special friend. :D

:yikes: So,is she the lucky girl :D

I am really having good time here with Tom,loving me that much what more could a woman ask for....:rolleyes::love18::love:

And dont worry about your thread,we can make it until page 10 as long as admin/Mods didnt close the thread :icon_lol::icon_lol:

[Pepe n Pilar]

Congratulations Sim at last you have sorted it out. Now your thread is on page 7 and ended well.

And they live happily ever after............:xxgrinning--00xx3::Hellooo::icon_win::REDancedancer08::REDancedancer08:

Cheers!:)

[georyz]

True Love conquers all :) good luck and have a happy time together.

[joebloggs]

The future is looking good...

)

:xxgrinning--00xx3: see what happens if you don't just give up :D

all the best :Hellooo:

[aposhark]

The future is looking good...

...She has risked everything & hopefully now things can resume as they were before.

........It's so good to be back by her side...I love her dearly. :)

So When will you get married?

[Sim11UK]

Hi everyone :Hellooo:

Thanks again, just got home 3/4 hour ago.

Too knackered to read this properly, but have had a great time, apart from the upset stomach...Sad to be home.

Sound advice as always Joe. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Aposhark...October, unless we can do it sooner. :)

[Florge]

Hi everyone :Hellooo:

Thanks again, just got home 3/4 hour ago.

Too knackered to read this properly, but have had a great time, apart from the upset stomach...Sad to be home.

Sound advice as always Joe. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Aposhark...October, unless we can do it sooner. :)

Wow! October? Lots of time to plan.. congratulations!!! (hope this message will make page 8... LOL)

[joebloggs]

Hi everyone :Hellooo:

Thanks again, just got home 3/4 hour ago.

Too knackered to read this properly, but have had a great time, apart from the upset stomach...Sad to be home.

Sound advice as always Joe. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Aposhark...October, unless we can do it sooner. :)

back so soon :yikes:

good things are going your way :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[mickcant]

back so soon :yikes:

good things are going your way :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Hopefully this is the last time you have come home alone, is it to be a church or garden wedding?
All the best,
Mick.:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[nids123]

good to hear form u simon ur both ok and happy couple.goodluck for the wedding soon

[Sim11UK]

Wow! October? Lots of time to plan.. congratulations!!! (hope this message will make page 8... LOL)

Thanks Florge, I think we might start losing members through boredom, if it carries on much longer. :icon_lol: :icon_lol:


back so soon :yikes:

good things are going your way :xxgrinning--00xx3:

We certainly hope so. :)


Hopefully this is the last time you have come home alone, is it to be a church or garden wedding?
All the best,
Mick.:xxgrinning--00xx3:

Looks like we will get married at a Beach Resort. We had a look around several & spoke to people there. We think we have chosen the one...Watch this space. :)


good to hear form u simon ur both ok and happy couple.goodluck for the wedding soon

Thank you nids, stay happy yourself. :)

[tiN]

Hi everyone :Hellooo:

Thanks again, just got home 3/4 hour ago.

Too knackered to read this properly, but have had a great time, apart from the upset stomach...Sad to be home.

Sound advice as always Joe. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Aposhark...October, unless we can do it sooner. :)


Im very pleased for you Sim:xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3: you deserve it:D:D

Best wishes in advance:Hellooo::Hellooo::Hellooo:

[Mrs.JMajor]

Hi Sim,hoping this time,shev wouldnt change her mind before October come,wish you all the best my friend :Hellooo:


awww shocks,i made it into page 8 :action-smiley-081::icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:

[scott&ligaya]

welcome back,

for all your suppoeters here,have a good rest and then post your update of love conquers all. Kimmi can get her pom poms out and we will all look forward to your wedding pictures in due course

[Sim11UK]

Im very pleased for you Sim:xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3: you deserve it:D:D

Best wishes in advance:Hellooo::Hellooo::Hellooo:

Thank you best wishes to you too. :)


Hi Sim,hoping this time,shev wouldnt change her mind before October come,wish you all the best my friend :Hellooo:


awww shocks,i made it into page 8 :action-smiley-081::icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:

Thanks friend, have you found your way back from Morrissons yet? :Erm:

Page 8 :doh


welcome back,

for all your suppoeters here,have a good rest and then post your update of love conquers all. Kimmi can get her pom poms out and we will all look forward to your wedding pictures in due course

Yes having a bit of a rest today. :NEW5: Anymore deals in the pipeline?

Siggi siggi Kimmi siggi siggi :Hellooo: :Hellooo:

[Mrs.JMajor]

Thanks friend, have you found your way back from Morrissons yet? :Erm:

Page 8 :doh :


:icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol: yeah,you know that huh! u remember it lolz :xxgrinning--00xx3: hubby said it will take him 15 minutes to go there but i think i lost my way cause takes me 45 minutes to go there,:doh i didnt realize i just walk slowly,:cwm24:

[aposhark]

.......Aposhark...October, unless we can do it sooner. :)

Nice One

[kimmi]

Siggi siggi Kimmi siggi siggi :Hellooo: :Hellooo:

Best Wishes Sim..:Hellooo::Hellooo:

I am not just going to let my pom poms out, I will also make sure I'll have my best cheering costume to cheer u both..:doh:icon_lol::Rasp:

[Sim11UK]

Best Wishes Sim..:Hellooo::Hellooo:

I am not just going to let my pom poms out, I will also make sure I'll have my best cheering costume to cheer u both..:doh:icon_lol::Rasp:

Well we'll look forward to that...Keep practising wont you. :Hellooo: :Hellooo:

[Ladybug_sim]

Well we'll look forward to that...Keep practising wont you. :Hellooo: :Hellooo:

:):) hmmm hi Kimmi, i wish i can see you then wearing your cheering costume.. just kidding.. want to say thanks to all of you here who keep Sim in touch I know you are all the big help for him :cwm38::cwm38::Hellooo::Hellooo::Hellooo:.. ...and now he is getting so much young at age..:REDancedancer08: macho man ... :love::love18::luv4:want to say Happy 45th birthday of my Bug here :love::love::luv13:much :4::birthday::birthday::birthday::love::love::love::love::love:

[Sim11UK]

You're a day too late my dear...It was yesterday haha! :icon_lol: :Hellooo:

[Ladybug_sim]

You're a day too late my dear...It was yesterday haha! :icon_lol: :Halloo's:

:doh yes... just only time to talk here with you now but i never forget your day as I keep you here my thoughts always and know that even I am not there with you I keep wishing you a happy day with warm and much love in your way through out the year and years to come so keep smile :smileybigtmouth:with lots of :Beer: not drink to much :40__s:.. :Cuckoo:song for you 9::birthday::4::luv13::love18::love::love::love::xxparty-smiley-050::REDancedancer08:
wish to have dance for your day ... hmmmm i will love but I love you more and hope soon we can celebrate it together .. send you all my love :Halloo's:

[Sim11UK]

Hey you didn't forget, as we spoke twice on the phone yesterday....It was lovely to wake up with a call from you.

I'm lucky to have you :luv4:

[Mrs.JMajor]

Oiiiiiiiiii,good morning simon,good morning lady bug opppsss should be good afternoon to you there :Hellooo::Hellooo::BouncyHappy::BouncyHappy:

[joebloggs]

is it getter warmer here , sounds like you 2 need cooling off :D

warm here, sun is shining again :Hellooo:

you have found a decent guy ladybug_sim, he's travelled around the world to see you, it just shows you what he means to you, and what dreams may come when you don't quit :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Sim11UK]

Oiiiiiiiiii,good morning simon,good morning lady bug opppsss should be good afternoon to you there :Hellooo::Hellooo::BouncyHappy::BouncyHappy:

Hi friend Happy Easter :Hellooo:

[QUOTE=joebloggs;127065]what dreams may come[/QUOTE

:xxgrinning--00xx3: :xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:

Sorry! hope we didn't put anyone off their breakfast/lunch/dinner, depending where you are in the world?

She's gone to Chowking now with her friend. :icon_lol:

How you coping there Joe, on your own? :D

[scott&ligaya]

Joe is right.... take a cold shower each you two, you both sound snug as bugs in rugs.... Happy belated birthday Simon and you explain "snug as a bug in a rug" to lady bug later aahhhhemmm

[Sim11UK]

Joe is right.... take a cold shower each you two, you both sound snug as bugs in rugs.... Happy belated birthday Simon and you explain "snug as a bug in a rug" to lady bug later aahhhhemmm

:icon_lol: :xxgrinning--00xx3: Thanks Scott, will explain that one haha!
Not too many hours for you to wait now. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[kimmi]

Happy Birthday Sim..better late than never..:)

[joebloggs]

How you coping there Joe, on your own? :D

:NoNo::cwm24::bigcry:

how can a 2yr old within minutes mess a room up completely, took me 2 hours to clean it up yesterday, now its worse than ever :Help1:

misses phoned last night only for a minute, i looked at little joe, he covered all his face with brown felt tip :yikes: :cwm24: :doh

only another 7 days to go :ARsurrender: and i be back at work :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Sim11UK]

Happy Birthday Sim..better late than never..:)

Thank you Kimmi, our cheerleading friend...Happy Easter to you. :)


:NoNo::cwm24::bigcry:

how can a 2yr old within minutes mess a room up completely, took me 2 hours to clean it up yesterday, now its worse than ever :Help1:

misses phoned last night only for a minute, i looked at little joe, he covered all his face with brown felt tip :yikes: :cwm24: :doh

only another 7 days to go :ARsurrender: and i be back at work :xxgrinning--00xx3:

You want to get him a colouring book Joe :D

I've got a mate of mine coming to stay tonight & he's nearly 45 & he can make a mess, so they never grow out of it.

Luckily it's never very tidy anyway. :icon_lol:

[joebloggs]

You want to get him a colouring book Joe :D



he's already painted everything this morning except his colouring book :doh :cwm24:

turning the washing machine on, ripping off the wall paper, getting my wallet and pushing the money behind the radiator, and i can't reach it, thrown the car keys in the bin :doh

:ARsurrender:

[Sim11UK]

he's already painted everything this morning except his colouring book :doh :cwm24:

turning the washing machine on, ripping off the wall paper, getting my wallet and pushing the money behind the radiator, and i can't reach it, thrown the car keys in the bin :doh

:ARsurrender:

Haha! the joys of fatherhood :icon_lol:...I bet you wouldn't change any of it really. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[joebloggs]

Haha! the joys of fatherhood :icon_lol:...I bet you wouldn't change any of it really. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

nope i wouldn't :xxgrinning--00xx3:

:icon_lol:

[quickwillow]

Hi Sim11UK
I'm new here but and have just spent the last hr reading your thread, I'm glad that it has a happy ending and a big ooooorrrrrrr from Taunton and I wish you both the very best in the future ... cheers Mark

[Sim11UK]

Hi Sim11UK
I'm new here but and have just spent the last hr reading your thread, I'm glad that it has a happy ending and a big ooooorrrrrrr from Taunton and I wish you both the very best in the future ... cheers Mark

Hi there quickwillow, hello to you in Taunton, many thanks for your comment.
Yes we went through a rough patch...well it was all over.
Just glad we are back, where we are now.
We still have family problems now, but I think they will be resolved in time.
If anything, we are much stronger, so luckily good has come out of it. :)

[quickwillow]

Great Sim,
it's nice to hear a happy ending or even a new begining :BouncyHappy: