welshguy
18th February 2009, 22:47
Ok, I'm a new member, and I've spent a few hours going through some of the posts already here, and find myself looking for advice.
I'm a UK citizen who met a very special someone whilst we were both working in the UAE. J is a Filipina (and she's already pretty much captured my heart), but since her last relationship was bad (she was left with a child, and the father didn't want to know), she's been very hesitant to start something with me, that combined with the draconian laws in the UAE made trying to date her difficult. (She's admitted she likes me, but was scared of getting into legal trouble)
Now, I've had to leave the Emirates and return to the UK (which certainly makes dating even more difficult). J is still in the UAE and working incredibly hard (too hard I think). I'm stuck for what to do next.
Ideally, I'd pay for J (visa/flights etc) to come to the UK for a few weeks so we can spend time together and see what develops. At that point, we can decide (hopefully) that there's something worth pursuing (I think there is).
The problem is, this country (UK) seems hellbent in keeping certain people out, whilst welcoming others with open arms who abuse the system.
My idea, which I'm finding isn't as brilliant as I thought, was for J to visit me on a visit visa (either once for six months) or several times over the course of the year for a couple of weeks), until we got to the point where marriage could be discussed, and then we'd apply for the fiancee route.
As she has a child (in the Phillippines), and currently has a good record of immigration into the UAE (returning home as required and working legally), what are her chances of obtaining a visit visa? Her own finances aren't brilliant (steady, but low income).
I'm well aware that some people may consider the idea ludicrous, and I've heeded the warnings that she could be trying to fleece me, but she's been reluctant to ask for money, and still happy to talk to me when I've had to refuse.
Ideas and suggestions gratefully appreciated.
L
I'm a UK citizen who met a very special someone whilst we were both working in the UAE. J is a Filipina (and she's already pretty much captured my heart), but since her last relationship was bad (she was left with a child, and the father didn't want to know), she's been very hesitant to start something with me, that combined with the draconian laws in the UAE made trying to date her difficult. (She's admitted she likes me, but was scared of getting into legal trouble)
Now, I've had to leave the Emirates and return to the UK (which certainly makes dating even more difficult). J is still in the UAE and working incredibly hard (too hard I think). I'm stuck for what to do next.
Ideally, I'd pay for J (visa/flights etc) to come to the UK for a few weeks so we can spend time together and see what develops. At that point, we can decide (hopefully) that there's something worth pursuing (I think there is).
The problem is, this country (UK) seems hellbent in keeping certain people out, whilst welcoming others with open arms who abuse the system.
My idea, which I'm finding isn't as brilliant as I thought, was for J to visit me on a visit visa (either once for six months) or several times over the course of the year for a couple of weeks), until we got to the point where marriage could be discussed, and then we'd apply for the fiancee route.
As she has a child (in the Phillippines), and currently has a good record of immigration into the UAE (returning home as required and working legally), what are her chances of obtaining a visit visa? Her own finances aren't brilliant (steady, but low income).
I'm well aware that some people may consider the idea ludicrous, and I've heeded the warnings that she could be trying to fleece me, but she's been reluctant to ask for money, and still happy to talk to me when I've had to refuse.
Ideas and suggestions gratefully appreciated.
L