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Marry Pauline
13th March 2009, 19:37
Hi everyone... I'm avid reader here for almost 1 year now and this sites helped me so much. I'm so glad i find time to share my story.

Me and my Hon Simon met 4 years & 11 months ago (today is our MOnthsary) and we will get married this coming April 18 and April 12 his mum,dad and friends will cum also I'm very excited. Don't be shocked. We never met personally. I'm sure you will think why i accepted his proposal. Even me I questioned my decision i made but I'm happy with my decision and I'm excited because his coming very soon.

Let me tell you about our love story. It started when my Mom went to province coz my great grand mother died. Me, my sister, aunt and cousin stay in our house. My cousin ask me to chat. I chat but only to my Dad whose working in Saudi Arabia for so many years now. I don't chat to other coz for me it is waste of time, money, effort & its not good. But April 14 about 11 pm my idea about chatting changed and more when i read this site. My cousin forced me to try to stop studying & I did. When i went to chat rooms many send messages i replied and if they ask my waist line i ignore & find someone to talk who is nice and gentleman I'm so lucky my hon say Hi and how are you & ask good things not like others i feel that his gentleman & got interested to c him. I asked him to view his webcam he didnt hesitate when i c him i got attracted to him and he looks kind also i find him so cute wearing his burburry cap and jacket. When he asked me to view my webcam i worry maybe when he c me he go. He was only 2nd one i allow to c me online 1st was my dad. But before i invite him i joked not to be afraid of me coz I'm not beautiful. When he saw me his reaction was he smiled and say woooowwww and that he likes me. I feel very happy and relief coz we continue to talk he asked about personal things, about family & all are good things. He asked my cell number since then we communicate everyday. before i sleep and before i go to school, call me, and text me. I feel his kindness after few days he said that he loves me i felt his sincerity but in my mind its impossible. I think many times and I let him expressed his feelings toward me but one day i tell him i love him he was very happy. i said i love him meaning we are. I'm a type of person i preferred to know & tried the person inside the relationship and in our relationship i realized and I proved that we can learned to love a person much if he deserve and we really want with prayers. Every time i feel i'm not happy i pray to feel more love. But before i decided to give my whole heart i asked him to talk to my Dad for blessing of our relationship of course hes my bf he should know about it. to let him know that I'm serious to him. Since my dad was so strict. They had talked man to man. My dad told him straight he has so many dreams for us that's why he's working away form us and he don't like us to be hurt. And asked him to stop if he don't have good intentions to me. My hon said that he loves me & he made promises that he will wait me, respect and love me. And they had agreement that i must finish my college coz I'm Engineering student that time. In fairness he keeps his promises. He waits me, allow me to review and took my board exam and work for 1 year. Since he wants us to get marry before. He asked me twice already and say no 1st he wants before i graduate so after grad i can cum in UK i said I want to grad college before i marry after grad ask me again but i told him i want to took my board exam he got upset ask me if i really have plan to marry him coz if i dont have much better we put end to our relationship and he gave me time to think. after 2 days i said YES i will marry you after my exam and i promised to him. but after my exam November he told me that his business but he has partner which is chinese restau not good so no chance to cum visit me and marry me after exam i feel so sad coz that was the best time for me coz im not busy but i have to understand his situation i think this time is my turn to wait for him so i study again coz i failed to take exam again but my family got financial problem so I need to work. March got hired and only 1 year contract and same month he decided with his business partner to close coz of bankrupt and after a week he worked as waiter I feel little sad and worry but more feel proud of him coz he not choose what work the important is his working and becum He become manager. then we plan to get marry April 14 he saves his salary and holidays so he can stay here for more than 1 month. Our relationship for me is very strong coz and best even we dont met because God is our center of our relationship. he change a lot. he always make even simple things special & try to make me happy just for me. He's family very nice to me his mum and dad, bros and their gf are my frends and sister in US she likes me for Simon. They are one of the reason why we strong and me more. because i count my blessings when i choose to love him its unmeasurable compare that we don't met.

The little sad about it my friends were happy for me and believe that our love is true but my relatives who supposed to believe me discourage me and judge me. I heard and knew many bad things comes from them. But like my family and friends told me to what you know is good and don't mind them. And i just understand them.

And I worry maybe because we don't meet personally before we marry maybe when i apply for visa i get denied. But i have lots of evidence that we constantly communicate thru text, call, chat, and some letters and cards. Emails from his sisters and his friends. His boss write letter that he will hire me and we will stay in a room in his restaurant. Sorry if this is too long..... :-)

Anybody have same experience. I'm open with your opinions and advises feel free.


Thank you so much!

Mrs.JMajor
13th March 2009, 19:52
First,welcome to the forum , :Hellooo:
2nd, dont use the word "cum" you make me laugh :icon_lol:,just "come"
3rd,can be wrong,marrying someone you havent meet :Erm:
4th,who are we to judge if that is true love........:luv4:

so go go girl,take your own risk,ika nga...:D

tiN
13th March 2009, 19:55
Hi Pauline,

Welcome to the forum:Hellooo::Hellooo:

I just wish you all the best, ignore the people who dont know what to do in their lives:rolleyes:, they are just jealous..:doh:doh As long as you are happy go for it:xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:

Goodluck and Best wishes:BouncyHappy::BouncyHappy:

Ana_may365
13th March 2009, 21:06
all i can say is 'all the best'to both of u:BouncyHappy::BouncyHappy::BouncyHappy:

kenny
13th March 2009, 21:21
hey, i knew i wanted to marry my Fiancee before we even met! I just knew she was the one. Now we have met and both feel even more in love now and miss each other so much. maybe if it was not for the invention of the webcam we would not have met each other. Good to see the smile on and reaction, the laughter and emotion of the person you are talking to.
Good luck.

Colin
13th March 2009, 21:32
It is till a huge gamble to marry someone without meeting them and its not something that i would do as you need time to get to know someone and not just webcam etc but hey at the end of the day you are both adults and are willing to take a chance.

pacificelectric
13th March 2009, 21:42
Blind marriage is really not something I would encourage.... :NoNo: but on the other end it takes such a long time to know someone perfectly!!!

Jay&Zobel
13th March 2009, 22:03
First,welcome to the forum , :Hellooo:
2nd, dont use the word "cum" :censored::censored:you make me laugh :icon_lol:,just "come"
3rd,can be wrong,marrying someone you havent meet :Erm:
4th,who are we to judge if that is true love........:luv4:

so go go girl,take your own risk,ika nga...:D



whehehe... spot on MrsJ... i was about to send her PM lol..:censored::D:D

Anyway! welcome here!

Ji&Ma
13th March 2009, 22:12
hey, i knew i wanted to marry my Fiancee before we even met! I just knew she was the one. Now we have met and both feel even more in love now and miss each other so much. maybe if it was not for the invention of the webcam we would not have met each other. Good to see the smile on and reaction, the laughter and emotion of the person you are talking to.
Good luck.

Yeah yeah yeah - seems to me that you are talking about us in here :xxgrinning--00xx3: We are more or less the same... Good to know that we aren't alone in it:D

Happy_Now
13th March 2009, 23:20
First,welcome to the forum , :Hellooo:
2nd, dont use the word "cum" you make me laugh :icon_lol:,just "come"
3rd,can be wrong,marrying someone you havent meet :Erm:
4th,who are we to judge if that is true love........:luv4:

so go go girl,take your own risk,ika nga...:D

Mrs Jmajor, her Hon simon didnt cum yet:icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:
Anyway, i have just known that word in here also i have brother name Randy in the Philippines. Not a good name in the UK right?:Erm::Erm::Erm::Erm:

Welcome Marry Pauline!:Hellooo::Hellooo::Hellooo:

nids123
13th March 2009, 23:21
hi welcome and goodluck.nice story

Ji&Ma
13th March 2009, 23:35
Welcome and wish you good luck, hope that everything would turn out just fine for you. Just be careful and never forget to listen to your heart.
Good luck to you both on your way to happiness...:xxgrinning--00xx3:

Mrs.JMajor
14th March 2009, 00:04
Mrs Jmajor, her Hon simon didnt cum yet:icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:
Anyway, i have just known that word in here also i have brother name Randy in the Philippines. Not a good name in the UK right?:Erm::Erm::Erm::Erm:

Im gonna ask hubby ,why Randy isnt good name in the UK,

or any brit can explain why ?:Erm:

Jay&Zobel
14th March 2009, 00:21
Mrs Jmajor, her Hon simon didnt cum yet:icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:
Anyway, i have just known that word in here also i have brother name Randy in the Philippines. Not a good name in the UK right?:Erm::Erm::Erm::Erm:

Welcome Marry Pauline!:Hellooo::Hellooo::Hellooo:


Im gonna ask hubby ,why Randy isnt good name in the UK,

or any brit can explain why ?:Erm:


lol...
http://www.thefreedictionary.com/randy

yam
14th March 2009, 03:33
welcome to the forum and i wish u good luck in your relationship...

smiler78
14th March 2009, 03:54
Wishing you both so much luck, knew I wanted to marry my girl before meeting now we have applied for fiance visa

Good luck again.

Carl.

P.S. Randy means horny in the UK:Cuckoo::cwm12::BouncyHappy::Rasp:

nerorsh
14th March 2009, 04:51
2nd, dont use the word "cum" you make me laugh :icon_lol:,just "come"


:laugher: :laugher: :doh :xxgrinning--00xx3:

lunaloves7
14th March 2009, 05:33
Warm welcome Pauline!!!!

you are in the right site....

God Bless!

kenny
14th March 2009, 10:00
also you can live with someone for 2-5 years even ten years and still not know the person. Life is full of chances and gambles.
you have to decide for your self and use your mind as well as your heart and just go with what you feel.

LEAHnew
14th March 2009, 11:32
Welcome to the forum:Hellooo::Hellooo:

IMO expect some discouragement arise especially when it comes to your family because they do care about you...be strong then:xxgrinning--00xx3:

Keep believing the power of love coz it conquers all:xxgrinning--00xx3:

cheers,
Leah

Marry Pauline
14th March 2009, 15:33
Hello....... Thank you so much for the time you spent reading and replying to my post. :-)

Ann07
14th March 2009, 16:18
Welcome to the forum:)

You can feel it deep within you if you are doing the right thing:xxgrinning--00xx3: If you do then go on girl:xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:

Goodluck:D

kimmi
15th March 2009, 04:00
hi Pauline,

welcome to the forum and best wishes on ur wedding..:)

keithAngel
15th March 2009, 05:57
From my perspective its a rather strange concept but then again its not me thats going to do that I think my grandmother put me off when she told me "Marry in haste repent at leisure":omg:

irobot
16th March 2009, 02:12
Irobot... " Sunny Different From The Rest "

Welcome to the forum....I have found friends here....

Love Comes From The Heart...So Follow It..

Good luck.

Florge
16th March 2009, 05:02
Hi there,

Welcome to the forum... I would still suggest that you meet... it's different when you get to spend time together for real.. before even getting married. Good luck to you... God bless.

lala
16th March 2009, 09:51
hello, welcome...anyway its a risk to marry someone very strange to you..i know some friends who met their boyfriends for many times but unfortunately things went wrong...how much more if you never seen before but again as what they says, its ur decision....

all we can say is think about it many times coz its not too late..think of the good and bad things might happen soon and knows how you can surpass it...its really good to spend time to him more before making a decision...

Good Luck girl.....

Marry Pauline
16th March 2009, 15:11
Hello.... I understand everything and thank you so much again to everyone & i appreciate your time for sharing your views and advices.

For now i made my decision and i feel very excited to meet him finally and i feel he feels same way. In my mind i need to prepare for the consequences because i know it would not very easy for me. But I have faith in God i know I can do it.

By the way I'm so sorry for using "cum" word :-( .. I'll be more careful next time :-).. thanks for correcting me...


Anyone who lives in Colchester? If God's will, hope to see you soon so i can have more friends there... :-)

aposhark
17th March 2009, 08:16
Hi Pauline,

I could not easily read your very loooooong paragraph.

Try to break up your thoughts into smaller paragraphs: it is easier for people to read and digest.

Follow your heart and don't listen to others who discourage you.

I agree with the idea of meeting him.
This is essential as there is no substitute for face-to-face contact to get to really know someone.

Good Luck.

adam&chryss
17th March 2009, 10:36
hello pauline! welcome to the forum! :Hellooo:
that was really a nice love story if it will be a happy ending (so wishing you both good luck!)
just be ready of some of his bad habits... when u r married there's no turning back. u have to accept him for what he is. (talking about bad habits that can be tolerate)
keep us updated :)

JudyHon
17th March 2009, 14:33
Welcome to the forum Pauline :)

Yes, I agree with Aposhark iagree: (Follow your heart and don't listen to others who discourage you.)

Best Wishes :Hellooo:

Dancing spirit
20th March 2009, 21:07
wow come on dont rush in you need to meet him first marriage is a gambel be carefull if you want stright answers ask me you dont have love you have only need so dont listen to others who say it is love step out of hollywood and get real pray for guidence

walesrob
20th March 2009, 22:08
wow come on dont rush in you need to meet him first marriage is a gambel be carefull if you want stright answers ask me you dont have love you have only need so dont listen to others who say it is love step out of hollywood and get real pray for guidence

7 spelling mistakes, no full stops and no commas. :icon_lol::icon_lol:

According to your profile, you claim to be a dancing builder. :icon_lol::icon_lol::Cuckoo:

joebloggs
20th March 2009, 22:18
7 spelling mistakes, no full stops and no commas. :icon_lol::icon_lol:

According to your profile, you claim to be a dancing builder. :icon_lol::icon_lol::Cuckoo:

maybe they were dancing while they were typing the post :D

or they've got ants in their pants, or they need their nappy changing :action-smiley-081: