hurting

[cool999]

ok we broke up because we argue alot so my heart feels broken hope you all happy we broke up....

[Tawi2]

Nothing to do with anyone on a forum cool,dont try to lay the carpet of blame at our feet :icon_lol:

[bornatbirth]

why are you feeling hurt?

at least you can chat with other woman without feeling guilty?

i dont think anyone will be happy you broke up,why do you think we will?

[Mrs.JMajor]

ok we broke up because we argue alot so my heart feels broken hope you all happy we broke up....
:yikes: are you blaming us:Erm:

:action-smiley-081: what we did,and why we are happy???????????:Erm:

I am sad,but laughing..........coz u blaming us...:Cuckoo:

[trader dave]

now stop feeling sorry for yourself and go and enjoy yourself :xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:

welcome back :Erm::Erm:

[Arthur Little]

ok we broke up because we argue alot so my heart feels broken hope you all happy we broke up....

Maybe a little less "cool(ness)" on YOUR part will, eventually, melt HER :cwm38:. Worth a try, mate!

[jimeve]

Buy her a nice bunch of flowers then apologize to her.

[cool999]

i sent some flowers to her to say sorry i realize i really love her so much and my heart ack so much she want break up cos the arguments over small things make her sad.... you dont realize what you have until you lost it...

[jimeve]

i sent some flowers to her to say sorry i realize i really love her so much and my heart ack so much she want break up cos the arguments over small things make her sad.... you dont realize what you have until you lost it...

So sorry mate, don't give up on her, she might be playing hardball.:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Ana_may365]

you dont realize what you have until you lost it...
u absolutely right:xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:

[bornatbirth]

maybe she read your posts in this forum? :xxgrinning--00xx3:

how did you buy the flowers as you havent a job?

[adam&chryss]

maybe she read your posts in this forum? :xxgrinning--00xx3:

how did you buy the flowers as you havent a job?

:Erm: maybe her gf gave her money.. so she can buy flowers for her?

ooops.. just kidding.

well, goodluck to you cool! hope you can sort things out with ur gf :)

[Mrs Daddy]

ooopppsss in first place you lied:NoNo::NoNo::NoNo:

[Eljohno]

I hope you learn from your mistakes and treat the next girl/lady boy better:Erm:

[bornatbirth]

I hope you learn from your mistakes and treat the next girl/lady boy better:Erm:

:icon_lol: you have time to explore your shemale,ladyboy side when you become a sex tourist........:Erm:

[cool999]

yes i made mistakes i was always looking for faults in her and making issues for no reason I;m my worst enemy. she dont like argue much. i sent her flowers through ebay on my credit card... maybe she might reconsider if i sort myself out with a job quickly she do so much for me and i relize i have been selfish and not caring. when she was unwell and sick for 2 weeks i not go to look after her she said she feel out of love by 50% when i not come.... money sort im in hard times i think maintaining a relationship is very hard if you dont work and have no money. not just me but i think many people find it hard if loose work and cant get work for long time i think if you guys have girl in asia will make relationship impossible dont you think?

[cool999]

you know i not had sex with her for 4 weeks but dont care about that only feel love so maybe this is the real thing for me. guys can i ask you if your girl friends english is not the best does it make a relationship difficult or do you try to make allowances for it???. remember when i said i had to come down to her level i was meaning her spoken english level was not very good so i had to talk slower and ask her repeat things some times

[cool999]

but she not reply to my text messages so i think she want finish and not give me another chance...

[trader dave]

the english can be a problem if you was trying to communicate on webcam :Erm: but you 2 are close so its not so hard actions speak louder than words :xxgrinning--00xx3:

i think having a ldr with someone who cannot speak or understands english would be a pain in the :butthead:

[cool999]

i dont blaim her who wants a jobless guy... she said dont care i dont work but i think she does care...but not say it does.....and maybe because i dont work i cause arguments cos i got too much time on my hands...

[Jay&Zobel]

yes i made mistakes i was always looking for faults in her and making issues for no reason I;m my worst enemy. - good to know you realize you're at fault this time round. Yes & the truth is, the worst enemy could be yourself...

she dont like argue much. i sent her flowers through ebay on my credit card... It's good that she doesnt say lots of things - argue a lot with you as this isn't very healthy in a relatinship (or maybe she just coudn't be bother & gave up?)... But thats good you gave her flowers...

maybe she might reconsider if i sort myself out with a job quickly she do so much for me - I hope it's not that late... but it will be a great factor if she will know that you are sorting yourself out...

and i relize i have been selfish and not caring. when she was unwell and sick for 2 weeks i not go to look after her she said she feel out of love by 50% when i not come.... Outch, 2 weeks not visiting someone important? Women need attention, care & love you know....

money sort im in hard times i think maintaining a relationship is very hard if you dont work and have no money. Financial stability is important. You feel secured to/with yourself & builds confidence as well.






you know i not had sex with her for 4 weeks but dont care about that only feel love so maybe this is the real thing for me. - Please do remember, sex is ONLY A PART of a successful & healthy relationship...

guys can i ask you if your girl friends english is not the best does it make a relationship difficult or do you try to make allowances for it???. remember when i said i had to come down to her level i was meaning her spoken english level was not very good so i had to talk slower and ask her repeat things some times - Everyone makes allowances, you have to remember English is not her native dialect. Some find it really hard to understand the English Accent (I too, struggled for a bit at one point, but I told my bf (now my husband) to speak slowly & clearly hehe. I also remember I have to ask him couple of times what he was saying as he mumbles lol (nevermind :D)... (Filipinos are more used to hearing American Accent than British accent)... but as time goes by, I got used to hearing his voice :xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:
It's compromising you see... it's part of learning & knowing each other's weaknesses... HELPING TO GROW EACH OTHER...

Hope things will be well with you soon! :xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:

Cheers

[cool999]

i sent her 2 lots of flowers to her shop today and sent her a pansy plant and some seeds for her home do you think it will do any thing for her what would a women think if she finish with bf but then he do these things?

[cool999]

hardball... some one said this what does it mean???? is she waiting to see what i am willing to do to get her back is that it?

[adam&chryss]

If you dont have a job you`re no good to her mate. She just wants you to send her and her family money, not pansies....

[cool999]

no she is not like that she pay herself and if any thing she gave me money she is not a bad person she gives money to her family yes that is true but she works hard to do this and does not need me for that dont disrespect asian women not all are looking to use men for money... some do yes that is true but i will not let any one say jenny is like that she runs 3 shops has her own house and a nice car she is not like that and i care about her so much

[aromulus]

no she is not like that she pay herself and if any thing she gave me money she is not a bad person she gives money to her family yes that is true but she works hard to do this and does not need me for that dont disrespect asian women not all are looking to use men for money... some do yes that is true but i will not let any one say jenny is like that she runs 3 shops has her own house and a nice car she is not like that and i care about her so much

So why the heck you go and look for other women online and ask silly questions about sex and stuff here on the forum...???:Erm:

I have to commend you for tenacity tho, with all the stick you been getting from the members, which seem to be in total agreement, I'd have given up.....:doh

Now be good and work your way into her affections again.
Don't bug her, have a nice face to face chat and if you really care, you don't give a damn about what kind of job you look for, just go self employed and sell double glazing.
You have to earn her admiration and love again, it doesn't come to you as a God given right....:NoNo:

[adam&chryss]

Well for a start I never said all asian women are like that!
As you care for her so much then keep your sexual questions to yourself and respect her. Imagine what she`d think if she knew the sort of stuff you ask! :CompBuster:
Id` suggest also that you gain some sort of employment and show her how you wish to improve.
As she knows you dont have a job she will also know that you`re borrowing the money to send her flowers, which is no good to either of you.
She`s more likely to be impressed with you gaining employment than that.
Also very importantly, learn about punctuation. I get out of breath reading your posts........

[pennybarry]

you know i not had sex with her for 4 weeks

Moaning for SEX again:omg::doh:NoNo:

You have now time to look for a SEX MACHINE:D

[cool999]

sorry to you guys if i seem selfish. as for the sex well my past relationships were alot different but thats the past so i guess i should get over it.

as for the lady boy thing just forget it i was just messing about.

your very right about getting any thing and try to earn her love again.

so i am going to just do that spend alot of time to get a job even cleaning job get back into her heart if i can but must amit cant stop thinking about her.

but yes i got alot to make up for and need to prove to her she can trust me again...

she is a wonderful women and i need to sort things out and get a job for more self respect then maybe she respect me more and also give me a better life and not give me loads of time too.

i guess i been very silly and messing her heart around too and need to do things to show her i am some one she wants to stay with is this the correct approach guys?

by the way i am sorry if you feel i am mis using this formum....

i think the reason i was looking for a girl was i was unsure of her i was just keeping my options open which was the wrong thing to do know i relize she is the one and only i gotta do alot i hope she can forgive me and start again...

but first thing first i need get a job find a place of my own im living with parents till i sort myself out. but your advise has been helpful thank you...

[cool999]

has any one broken up with a women but then after thinking about it the guy decided she is the one and wants her back is it hard to regain her love what steps did you do if this did happen i apprciate your advise...

[cool999]

one other thing when i said looking for other girl we were only 2 months into the relationship

[Mrs Daddy]

cool just try to chill out and experience being single again without any relations might give you time to think about yourself and sort out your situation first before committing yourself again...

[aromulus]

has any one broken up with a women but then after thinking about it the guy decided she is the one and wants her back is it hard to regain her love what steps did you do if this did happen i apprciate your advise...

Eat loads of humble pie..........:omg:

[Sophie]

has any one broken up with a women but then after thinking about it the guy decided she is the one and wants her back is it hard to regain her love what steps did you do if this did happen i apprciate your advise...

First of all, get a job then win her back after. But before you do that, make sure you prove to her that this time, you are worthy of her love and that you love her for real and its not just purely physical or lust that you feel for her. And one more thing, you don't expect her to come around so quick and take you back as soon as you ask her. You need to work for it and be patient. You have to earn her love and trust all over again.

[KeithD]

Plenty of ladyboys in the sea! :rolleyes:

[cool999]

hi i tried to sort things but she ant willing to try again i dont really know why i think she is stuben she says love me but keeps saying i not happy when i leave her well who happy when you leave your girl.... i think its over to be honest she ant willing to try again but to be honest she been single for a long time maybe after she be on her own for a while she might change mind cos she feel lonely .... or maybe she find other man..... any way i guess i need start again .....

is the culture difference a big issue she was quite all the time she never tell me how she feels ie- does not talk ..... so if their is a problem she remains silent..... maybe the culture difference is very big....... maybe finding a westernised asian women is better as then she looks asian but because she western you get along better????

or maybe i;ll try a white girl next time see how that works out... clearly after i get a job...

i feel very sad at moment and will think next time around more... about how i act but i think having a few arguments is normal is it????? i think having a relationship with no aruments would be strange....

and if girl said dont want argue and you promise to try not to argue if she really love you wouldent she give me another chance////////

she said never lleave me but then she said had enough then breaks up.,, are women in general like this easy to say good bye????

[Mrs.JMajor]

Hi cool, nice to see you online, my question is out of topic, hope you dont mind !! Are you English guy? :cwm34::D where you origin from ??

[Florge]

Cool, I suggest that you make your life better.. on your own.. discover your worth.. discover life and learn to live it... you will find the one that suits you when the time is right.. and if you want to have the best girl, then be your best self first because you attract what you are..

good luck!

[bornatbirth]

we all argue dont we?

but treat any woman you like,how you like to be treated!

there is a big difference in culture but if shes already going out with you,then that isnt the problem?

maybe you didnt just get along and depending on what you argued over put a stop to it?

[thejarvs]

i;ll try a white girl next time see how that works out...

:doh :rolleyes: :NoNo:

[Mrs.JMajor]

maybe you didnt just get along and depending on what you argued over put a stop to it?
sex :Bolt::xxparty-smiley-004:

[eagles]

cool, there could be men who had also the same problem as you had, But remember- You are You and that You only knew the solution for the problem or situation you are in now. Grew Up and learn ! Its not too late to pick up the pieces of your life..............

[cool999]

i appreciate your advise guys as to one question that was asked i am english my orgins go back hundreds of years.

maybe if i exsplain what we argued about maybe you can tell me where i went wrong i hope i dont sound like a uncaring guy....

i will try to remember the arguments we had

what pops to mind is like you guys all know she has a bussiness in the market in manchester

she told me in beginning she was having hard time due to the recession and i because i had done marketing at uni and gained hnd in graphic design gave her my advise i advised her to put a 20% promotion to increase bussiness she wouldent budge on lowing her prices... then i thought about designing some leaflets giving a tempoary 20% discount which lasted for a month.. but when i spent like 2 days doing these designs and printing them out aswell as copy the files on to cd for her when i showed her she said thank you and that was all she said she never used the designs either......

i also some weeks later printed out 200 leaflets and one saturday before seeing her i spent all day in the cold handing out leaflets to customers in the street .... again after doing it she did not seem very grateful...

then i made a music mp3 cd compli... on 9 cds for her shop she said thank you too but just a thanks you might say this to a friend not to a close boyfriend...

then i she asked me about setting up a cctv system and asked my advise she said she would ask every one who new and some friends who had shops the thing is i told her i did video at college and knew about systems that she needs... it felt like she dident respect my advise and when i told her what to get she said no and she wanted to see for her self but all systems look the same and she knew nothing. i told her that her problem is she had 3 seperate shops near each other but needed a camera system setting up that could be connected to all the cameras normally if you got one shop easy easy to set up but if you got 3 shops and only want to use one recorder it complicated to say the least.... she only wanted spend little money so it was hard to exsplain plus her english was not great i tried to exsplain but knew she wouldent understand.

then i thought about buying her a cheap tv for £10 as a way to help her so she could watch when it is set up she then said i dont want second hand tv i told her it be ok for know until you can aford a nice flat screen . but she dident want.. i felt like she was being ungrateful..

i then after looking into cctv technology because i was thinking about a wireless system that would be the cheapest way round it for 3 shops found out interfrience would be a big problem if wireless internet was in the area wireless cameras would not work well... so i decided to write a letter to manchester market asking for some advise as i thought they would have to put in cables for cable based cameras.... then she went crazy on the phone and started shouting at me saying why dont i ask her first i said im doing you a faver here and your english is not great they wont understand what your trying to say and i did tell her to talk to the market about it a month ago .

these are the main arguments we had but i kept asking her why she dont apprciate what i did for her. if she did some thing for me i would say thank you hug her and kiss her but she only says a very lazy thank you to me.

when you spend days doing graphic designs i was hoping for a very gratful reaction like when you open chrimas presents but she seemed unemotional or happy with what i had done for her.

and when i ask her she just says i did say thank you...

oh before i forgot this was one of the other arguments we had i went over to manchester 6 times she visited me just once and she drives and has a car and i dont.

one day she said she was coming to see me on a sunday.... that was around 11 am so i waited 6 hours and herd nothing from her so i got ready had shower ironed my cloths shaved made myself look nice 6 hours later i got a text back saying im still in cos co thats a wholesale super market in manchester i felt she was rude not texting me or ring me for 6 hours then she said i think too late to come it only takes 1 hour to drive from manchester to me.....

am i being wrong her am i making arguments for no reason?


then i emailed her about these things and then she said the following

yes the culture difirent is big problem betwen us. i know u love me and i love u but we dont understand togeter. too much argue its over enough.

im sorry if i said some thing wrong .thank you for ur time u do things for me

u dont need to give me money back. please let me know when u pass ur driving test. i still happy for u event i dont have change to seat in ur car

i dont regret to spend money on u cos i want to help u

hope u find some one beter than me can make u happy







just read ur messages please dont buy any thing for me in the hard time u dont have job. please cancel it. i know u want to prove ur love i know u still love me in ur way and i still love u inside. i was think alots a bout us. we know each other 3 months but i dont remember how many time we argue how many time i had cryed and upset. u see me about 6 times but u never happy after u left me. i was seriour to love and look after u and pland our future. but what happend come what i dont expected

i dont blame u i dont blame any one . in my mine u r still very nice english bf. in my mine english very nice people


i sent her two lots of flowers to ask for forgivness cos i love her but i think she dont want to talk to me cos she ignore the text messages i sent her....


am i taking things too badly am i at fault i appreciate honest opinions i will thake your opinions to heart as i wear my heart ... please excuse spelling errors...

thanks for your advise...

[cool999]

mmmm well bassically i lived my live in bradford my gradad was born in bardford and my mother comes from wales so half welsh half english and i guess a tiny bit of american but that is about an 8th which is not much i think...

[cool999]

before i forgot yes we did argue a little about sex she never has sex before she goes to sleep because she says she is tired but she says that even when she has not been working...

[cool999]

but i got to a point where i thought sex is not a big issue so i just learned to live with it...

[eagles]

Cool, being part of this forum.. I would like to pat your back and say ' heY MAN" dont wash linens here' But i do understand you Coz you need a Good Friend to Hear you Out..

You can be a devil's advocate to say.. but should your sentiments be real on broken relationship and trying to mend it back (after saying so many things on your post.. including other post).. i really and honestly say.. Don't demean your intelligence.. Sort out the things You need to do, :Erm:

I will say I prayer to you.. Lord make this guy open up his mind and move on... Positively. there's a wide and open world that awaits for Cool...:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[cool999]

i think when you are unhappy and feeling hurt i think having friends is good they help confort you.. i think i need some good friends

[eagles]

You got friends around Cool... Your bestfriend.. This forum may help.. but your bestfriend waits for you.. Take a moment of silence and find a good friend to talk about your innermost feelings.. Don't spill out your feelings around coz it will make you vulnerable, keep it and find a best person to help you out..

be a man of worth ...and surely when you bounce back, women will find you more lovable and worthy of her undying love

[bornatbirth]

sometimes we wont get along?

just because you have done something for someone wont mean they will react the way you expect?

maybe its for the best!

if you really want to know why she stopped with you,wont dont you ask her why?

ask her what she liked in you and how you can improve?

[cool999]

i asked her this

1- why not say thank you with big kiss and hugg?

2- what is the real reason you broke up with old bf?

3-why u not allow me stay in your house while you work?

4- what happen with your husband?

5- why not listen to my advise about your bussiness?

6- why ignore what i say about cctv?

7- why argue when i send letter to market cos you need their permisson to put in cables for the cameras?

8- what happen to the friday girl who showed me so much love?

9- you said never leave me but you do?



in reply she said

1 i alway say thank you when u do what i want

2 i cant give u hug and kiss when u there im here

3 we not have same interest

4 its not my house only. do u want i stay in ur house if u not there?

5 my husband not same interest

6 ur advice for big business not for small business

7 cctv i need to ask every one got shop used it and all friend who know about that and i ask u too. not decice what to do yet

8 i ask them befor they ok why u ask again dont ask me .its my business they talk to me only

9 i need u more when i have sick but u dont care dont look after me even try to argue . u kill ur friday girl

10 i didnt want to leave u that why payed alots money make u got beter life. u know i need money for new computer but i spend for ur dring frist u should to understand i want long term relationship but u dont know to keep me.



i am sad she wont try again

[bornatbirth]

then you have your answers!

you should of treated her better?

[Jay&Zobel]

I'm sorry cool...

[pinoyni]

i just woke up so sorry cool if i sound blunt here. i have been reading your posts here and they are so childish. there are more important things in life YOU NEED TO GROW UP AND GET A LIFE !!! sorry cool like i said just woke up but i really do hope you will wake up too.

[vbkelly]

i sent some flowers to her to say sorry i realize i really love her so much and my heart ack so much she want break up cos the arguments over small things make her sad.... you dont realize what you have until you lost it...

huh your so dramatic :D:D:D

[irobot]

Irobot..." Sunny Different From The Rest... ":Britain:

cool999 , Sorry to read all this stuff.....But you can rebuild every thing if you go about it right this is if you know what you really want.......

But some lines you can not cross to rebuild...... so pick your self up dust your self off and GET BACK TO IT you numpty...:doh

[Mrs Daddy]

HI cool sorry it seems your situation right now is very uncool.But same as eagles said `dont wash linens here' People round here in forum dont know your real condition and you have to reminisce if you have done enough for her.All for the best cool.:xxgrinning--00xx3: