How could I have been so stupid [Archive]

Northerner

31st May 2009, 20:19

Hello everyone,

Since mid June of last year I was in a relationship with a young lady from the phils, we had never met except online and I had also gotten to know her family as well.

Everything seemed fine at first. I was planning on going over in october last year, then that didn't pan out I was going over this June, then I had to move home so I was planning on going over to see her in October of this year.

She already had a son but I was happy to accept him as he did not have a father (long story) and I was happy to ensure he had a good birthday late last year. I also got into the habit of providing for her and her family since last July. Buying her a mobile phone and a PC so we could stay connected and I even had broadband installed for her (well, internet).

One of her siblings died last year and I provided the funds to bury him and after that we seemed distant. I thought it was how she coped with this tragedy and so carried on.

But cracks were appearing as I had befriended people she knows and stories came my way as to how she would use the money I sent her and go out ll night. This was denied, but I just thought she was being young.

Anyway, I stopped the money a few months ago as I was getting suspicious and there was an emergency every two weeks that needed money. Plus, due to this demand I needed to move somewhere cheaper.

I never did get to the phils as my spare cash was sent via western union every month.

And then this week, I discover she had given birth to a baby girl last month!

And so... Lesson number one. Never send any money!

The shame of it is this. Her family are very poor, and the babies father was a one night stand, never to be seen agan. And no more money from me means this family will strougle more now than ever.

*** UPDATE 28/09/2009 *** In the months since this post, I have met and fell for a lovely young lady called Rizza (pictured)

Tawi2

31st May 2009, 20:23

Familiar story repeated ad nauseum with one or two variations or twists on the theme,heard the same story a hundred times from a hundred guys,dont let it get you down,but you have to open a lot of oysters to find a pearl.

Tawi2

31st May 2009, 20:33

Dont dwell on it nor take it to heart Sean,chalk it down to experience,her loss not yours.:NoNo:

Sophie

31st May 2009, 20:35

I'm sorry for what happened to you..... All i can say is good for her, let her suffer in shame (if she still have one) and poverty, she got what she deserved.
What she did to you is an outright betrayal and a deliberate deception. She did not only ripped you off, she also cheated on you big time, for god knows how long and with how many guys :NoNo:
She's definitely not worth it and you're lucky you find out soon enough before you got totally ripped off and left with nothing.
Next time, make sure to really get to know the girl first and it's best to meet the girl in person before you open your heart as well as your wallet....

aromulus

31st May 2009, 20:39

You have no moral obligation towards this "lady".:NoNo:

You have been persistently and efficiently scammed, by, what it seems, a well experienced confidence trickster.:doh

The damage is done, your emotions will be in turmoil and you will have to be extremely strong and let go of her within your mind.
It doesn't matter how many kids she will produce, or how many roofs will be blown by tiphoons, or deaths in the family, or trikes needing repairs, teeth pulling, dengue feverish relatives, or whatever....

Pull the plug, mate.....:xxgrinning--00xx3:
There are lots of genuine Pinays out there.:xxgrinning--00xx3:

Mrs.JMajor

31st May 2009, 21:24

Just dont scared to get inlove with pinays again there are loads of real one downthere, but take this as experience, never never send money if possible,

joebloggs

31st May 2009, 21:44

as morrisey said "see, the luck I've had, can make a good man turn bad" :doh

problem is you said you was going in oct last year to see her, then june this year, now it was going to be oct this year, maybe she thought you was never going to see her :cwm24:, and if you had, then you would have probably found the 'truth' out a lot sooner ..

given birth last month, means she was probably pregnant a month or so after chatting to you :NoNo:, did she definitely give birth ? has she told you herself or someone else told you?

if you're going to send money, you have to go and see the person asap. not a year or 1 1/2 yrs later:NoNo:

Northerner

31st May 2009, 21:49

Northerner

31st May 2009, 21:50

did she definitely give birth ? has she told you herself or someone else told you?

Called her yesterday, she admitted everything and the baby was with her crying...

joebloggs

31st May 2009, 21:55

Called her yesterday, she admitted everything and the baby was with her crying...

:doh

:NoNo: what can you say :cwm24:

but next time go asap, you made the same mistake i made, kept her waiting for a long time.. but in your case, looks like she didn't wait long for you (a month or so :Brick:)

Northerner

31st May 2009, 22:02

:doh

:NoNo: what can you say :cwm24:

but next time go asap, you made the same mistake i made, kept her waiting for a long time.. but in your case, looks like she didn't wait long for you (a month or so :Brick:)

Well, in the same week a good sign was that I passed an ex on the street, not seen her for 4 years and back then she meant more to me than anything.. But this week I barely gave her a second thought - till now:-)

But to be honest I can understand her motives and I don't have any bad feelings towards her now. I'm already moving on!

Sophie

31st May 2009, 22:04

Thanks everyone. I have completely ended it, just glad I did not get to the phils when I had originally planned to. Otherwise, I might today have been thinking I was a father...

Lessons learned, a little wiser now I guess..

Sean

Good for you :xxgrinning--00xx3: Atleast next time you get into another relationship, you know better and be more careful and wiser....

bornatbirth

31st May 2009, 22:23

sorry to hear this and im glad your not mad at her?

it is true there are many girls doing this but there are many trust worthy ladies out there,if you ever meet one you will know the difference!

can i ask how you found out the truth? how did you get in contact with them?

my advice whenever you meet a girl online go and meet her asap and never give money!

Sim11UK

31st May 2009, 22:33

Sorry this has happened, it's not nice. Really you should never send money, unless you have met each other.
The money you sent, would have been better used by you, making that trip out there, the first time you said you were going to go... It dosen't pay to dither, in more ways than one.

If you do meet another one, go out there sooner rather than later, if things don't work out, at least you will have experienced a great Country.

Anyway all the best! :)

MarBell379

1st June 2009, 00:35

Everyone whiniing about sending money? :(
The guts just lost his girlfriend and already identified it was a bit daft. (Hindsight being a wonderful thing.)
Stop preaching and show him the lurve.

Northerner - I feel for you. I'd be devastated if that happened to me. You'll get through it, but I know its feeling bad. Look forward to feling good again - it'll happen.

simonline

1st June 2009, 04:47

Hi Northerner... I feel sorry when i read your post.

I just hope you find the right girl for you.

There are lots of guine Filipinas looking for genuine relationship.

eagles

1st June 2009, 07:48

hi northerner, Hope you wont have an ill feeling towards pinay.. Be positive that soon you'll find a good woman for you...

KeithD

1st June 2009, 07:59

You think that's stupid....my wife married a scouser! :cwm24:

pennybarry

1st June 2009, 08:22

We really learned from our mistakes:D

aposhark

1st June 2009, 08:50

You think that's stupid....my wife married a scouser! :cwm24:

Same as my wife.....how stupid can these Filipinas be!!!!!

Tawi2

1st June 2009, 08:52

We really learned from our mistakes:D

We do indeed,its a shallow life lived without scars as the chinese say :)

aposhark

1st June 2009, 08:57

ginapeterb

1st June 2009, 09:08

Where have I heard a story like this before oh yes, i think its da Philippines di ba ?

No shame, no embarassment, get on with the game mate, think of it as Tony Adams the Arsenal Captain came up to you after you fouled a striker just inside the box, and he comes up and says, forget that one, get on with the game and find the next one,

Thats how it should be.....

Were with you mate...I am sure you will find Miss right because I can tell you, there are hundreds of thousands of them if you look.

Florge

1st June 2009, 09:26

true true... i can introduce you to some friends... hehehe

Tawi2

1st June 2009, 09:40

I wonder if you have any single friends over the age of 35 who like sabong Florge :Erm::icon_lol:Oh yeah,and they have to be female :icon_lol:

IainBusby

1st June 2009, 11:04

Hello everyone,

Since mid June of last year I was in a relationship with a young lady from the phils, we had never met except online and I had also gotten to know her family as well.

Everything seemed fine at first. I was planning on going over in october last year, then that didn't pan out I was going over this June, then I had to move home so I was planning on going over to see her in October of this year.

She already had a son but I was happy to accept him as he did not have a father (long story) and I was happy to ensure he had a good birthday late last year. I also got into the habit of providing for her and her family since last July. Buying her a mobile phone and a PC so we could stay connected and I even had broadband installed for her (well, internet).

One of her siblings died last year and I provided the funds to bury him and after that we seemed distant. I thought it was how she coped with this tragedy and so carried on.

But cracks were appearing as I had befriended people she knows and stories came my way as to how she would use the money I sent her and go out ll night. This was denied, but I just thought she was being young.

Anyway, I stopped the money a few months ago as I was getting suspicious and there was an emergency every two weeks that needed money. Plus, due to this demand I needed to move somewhere cheaper.

I never did get to the phils as my spare cash was sent via western union every month.

And then this week, I discover she had given birth to a baby girl last month!

The shame of it is this. Her family are very poor, and the babies father was a one night stand, never to be seen agan. And no more money from me means this family will strougle more now than ever.

As you've already stopped the money a few months ago, maybe the baby story is just to get rid of you, because if your not sending money anymore, then you've served your purpose and your of no use to her anymore.

Your not the first and you won't be the last, in fact I wouldn't be surprised if she's already found another benefactor and the baby story is just to p:piss2:ss you off because your now becoming a nuisance to her.

What you should also realise is that some of these scammers have several guys like you on the go at any one time and once the money stops they might persist with the "relationship" for a little while in the hope that they can persuade you to turn the tap back on, but they won't carry on for long if it doesn't work.

Iain.

Tawi2

1st June 2009, 11:11

Its a business for a lot of them,some of them make good money scamming foreigners,I have checked my mail in cyber-cafes in pinas and watched ladies chatting to several guys at once telling each he is the one,the monitors in some of those places are very close together,its easy to see what someone else is writing,lots of those ladies dont see you as a flesh and blood guy,your an ATM several thousand miles away :CompBuster:

KeithD

1st June 2009, 11:28

Tell her you've put in the adoption papers for all the kids :D

pacificelectric

1st June 2009, 11:39

Ah ah, me too I have sent money for a funeral (hey, I even received photos of people crying around a coffin!), to buy clothes after the house had burnt down but in the end I found a very decent lady who has a job and raised three kids as a widow and she never asks for anything and I trust her 100%. And I am sure there are many more decent Pinays around! :BouncyHappy:

Florge

1st June 2009, 11:45

I wonder if you have any single friends over the age of 35 who like sabong Florge :Erm::icon_lol:Oh yeah,and they have to be female :icon_lol:

yes.. have a female friend over the age of 35... not sure if she likes sabong but, any girl will learn to like what their man likes... :xxgrinning--00xx3: wanna take a chance? :D

Tawi2

1st June 2009, 12:12

You starting up a dating agency florge :icon_lol:I have seen a few women sabongans,but they always looked as if they would be handy in a pub brawl or a WWF event :yikes:I always envisaged myself with someone a little more feminine :cwm38:But my choices are limited nowadays,I am no longer the adonis of my youth,I look a bit tatty and last week was the end of the line,the ultimate sign of old age,I found a white bolbol :omg::yikes::ARsurrender:

Florge

1st June 2009, 13:53

white bolbol??? eeewwwwwwww.... LOL...

trying to be cupid.. i want everyone around me to find the love they deserve.. that includes you Tawi!

Florge

1st June 2009, 13:54

white bolbol??? eeewwwwwwww.... LOL...

trying to be cupid.. i want everyone around me to find the love they deserve.. that includes you Tawi!

Tawi2

1st June 2009, 18:14

I think your friend would never forgive you for introducing her to a guy with a single puti bolbol,I wanted to pluck it:cwm24::bigcry:but then I might grow TWO :omg::yikes::ARsurrender: Well,if cupid wants to fire his arrows my way who am I to complain but I always thing accidental meetings,unrehearsed and totally at random are best,for me at least :icon_lol:

tiN

1st June 2009, 18:54

Sorry to hear that..

You deserve better than her :xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:

Goodluck :Hellooo:

Northerner

1st June 2009, 20:15

As you've already stopped the money a few months ago, maybe the baby story is just to get rid of you, because if your not sending money anymore, then you've served your purpose and your of no use to her anymore.

Trust me Iain,the baby is not a story. It was her Aunt who told me (and told me other things in the past, causing a family rift) and I have confirmed it with her cousin who hates her guts - they've had a lot of fights. And I heard the baby crying when I called her the other day.

Plus the plot thickens. I was told back when we met that the father of her first child was a rapist, I now know he is a married man - hence the lies to covour it up. Plus I know this family is very poor, they don't even have beds, or sofa beds. Sleeping on the floor of their home.

Northerner

1st June 2009, 20:17

Thanks everyone... And Florge, not right now but thanks all the same..

Sim11UK

1st June 2009, 20:44

Hi Northener

Stick around...It's easy to have your confidence knocked, when something like this happens.
I know you need to lick your wounds, but in time you really could meet someone special...The genuine ones are fantastic. :)

Dee31

1st June 2009, 21:05

I think Northerner has finally moved on. Wish you the best of luck. I am sure there must be a reason why you and your ex has crossed path again... All the best mate.

Florge

2nd June 2009, 07:49

aromulus

2nd June 2009, 07:51

i sooo sounded like a pimp... but a posh one at that... LOL

I didn't want to say anything before.....:omg:

But glad you see it same as I do.........:rolleyes:

:icon_lol:

Tawi2

2nd June 2009, 08:29

oh well, to Tawi and the rest... i'm just right here if you want me to play cupid and i guarantee you that i offer only genuine stocks... LOL... i sooo sounded like a pimp... but a posh one at that... LOL

I think "Pimps" are guys :Erm: You can be a "Mama San" :icon_lol:(But an upper class one) :icon_lol::icon_lol:

jam07

25th June 2009, 20:24

Hi Northerner :) i'm sorry that you had to meet such filipina as a filipina myself, it makes me ashamed that my kalahi is doing that. Stories like that makes our reputation really bad. But dont worry, not all filipina's are like that... I am also glad that you moved on already and I hope you learned your lessons well :)... good luck on finding the right one... :)

Gavanddal

4th July 2009, 08:24

Sorry, I can't understand why anyone would send money to someone they'd never met! :Erm:
I never sent money to my wife before we met and only ever sent her money for the UK visa fee and the travelling money to go to the British embassy. But that was after we'd met and had been having a relationship for some time.
As soon as I felt that our online relationship was taking off I flew out to meet her 1 week after first contact. We spent time getting to know each other and I got to know her situation.
Clearly you were sucked into a scam and I would have personally had alarm bells ringing at any request for money before meeting.

If she's had 2 kids by different fathers who she's not married then it sounds like she's not the best wife material.
Unfortunately 2 of my wife's sisters are now unmarried mothers and although they're lovely girls I'm sure it won't be easy for them to find husbands willing to take on a child.

mommyhere

4th July 2009, 09:40

I wonder if you have any single friends over the age of 35 who like sabong Florge :Erm::icon_lol:Oh yeah,and they have to be female :icon_lol:

Hi T2,

1 I am female, :Erm:

2. obviously over and more than 35 :Brick::icon_lol::icon_lol:

3. I know lots about sabong..from their breed especially those from Bacolod, like those from the Chong bien and Maravilla farms,(Im sure those from Bacolod here would be so familiar about) where we get are pansabong or fighting cocks before.

4. I know how to raise them, handle them, for we had like 150 plus heads in our little farm before..I know their feeds like sourgum, jackie oats an the like..

5. We buy, we breeed, we hatched, then my ex husband joined all the cockfight derrby from all over Manila, Norht luzon and as far as Cebu.

6. He always take me to every single derby he joined in for he said, I am his luck..

true enough..

I am his luck..he he he but not mine and sabong is not my game / hobby..
he he he just so happened that my ex was a full time sabonger, thats why he lost first our small business, he lost his friends eventually when he got bankcrupt, he lost his well paying job, he lost the small farm, then eventually, he lost me and the kids...

just giving you an idea of how to be the wife of a sabongero...

so just slow down bro'..just a piece of unsolicited advice..:ARsurrender:

ca143

4th July 2009, 10:42

Sorry, I can't understand why anyone would send money to someone they'd never met!
I never sent money to my wife before we met and only ever sent her money for the UK visa fee and the travelling money to go to the British embassy. But that was after we'd met and had been having a relationship for some time.
As soon as I felt that our online relationship was taking off I flew out to meet her 1 week after first contact. We spent time getting to know each other and I got to know her situation.
MY hubby send me money b4 we meet,,,and nevr ask him for that,,the money he send i used it in a good way BOUGHT A FOOD FOR MY PIGLETS....hehehe as i have them being an excuse for my collegue if they want me to go out with them.....

bornatbirth

4th July 2009, 20:27

Jay&Zobel

4th July 2009, 22:13

Sorry, I can't understand why anyone would send money to someone they'd never met!

NEITHER DO I!!!

I never sent money to my wife before we met and only ever sent her money for the UK visa fee and the travelling money to go to the British embassy. But that was after we'd met and had been having a relationship for some time.
As soon as I felt that our online relationship was taking off I flew out to meet her 1 week after first contact. We spent time getting to know each other and I got to know her situation.

Yep, same here! :xxgrinning--00xx3: :xxgrinning--00xx3:
This is what I really strongly believe. Money involve in an early relationship can be very misleading...:NoNo::NoNo:

eagles

4th July 2009, 22:20

Oh florge... i agree with you about the effects of being a sabungero to the family relationship.. Hubby's Gambling destroyed them.

trader dave

4th July 2009, 22:44

Sophie

4th July 2009, 23:06

everyone to there own i suppose :omg::Erm:sending money to someone you have never met :doh:NoNo: lets face it would you buy a car without going to see it :NoNo:or a house without going to see it :NoNo:?????? but some guys plan to marry a women they have never met :doh and send money for an all manner of things:doh

I totally agree :xxgrinning--00xx3:

somebody

5th July 2009, 00:12

everyone to there own i suppose :omg::Erm:sending money to someone you have never met :doh:NoNo: there are some fantastic storys come from some of them girls they must learn them at school :omg: lets face it would you buy a car without going to see it :NoNo:or a house without going to see it :NoNo:?????? but some guys plan to marry a women they have never met :doh and send money for an all manner of things:doh

oooo well as i said everyone to there own :Erm:

Saying that many on here Marry and apply for visas after a very very short length of time actually physically together. Which a bit like a drive round the block when you intend to use the jam jar for the rest of your life.

aposhark

5th July 2009, 18:09

....but I always thing accidental meetings,unrehearsed and totally at random are best,for me at least :icon_lol:

Be careful, things happen when you least expect them to :icon_lol: :icon_lol:

Northerner

7th July 2009, 15:45

Like I said, lesson learnt..

Jay&Zobel

7th July 2009, 15:53

I'm already moving on!

Like I said, lesson learnt..

Good for you :xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:
Hope you will not mind me asking, will you still want to date a Filipina after all these things? Guess not...:Erm:

Northerner

8th July 2009, 21:31

Good for you :xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:
Hope you will not mind me asking, will you still want to date a Filipina after all these things? Guess not...:Erm:

Already started:)

Which is strange as a month ago I would have said not a chance:cwm23:

Jay&Zobel

8th July 2009, 21:38

eleazebonares

23rd September 2009, 05:18

Hello everyone,

Since mid June of last year I was in a relationship with a young lady from the phils, we had never met except online and I had also gotten to know her family as well.

Everything seemed fine at first. I was planning on going over in october last year, then that didn't pan out I was going over this June, then I had to move home so I was planning on going over to see her in October of this year.

She already had a son but I was happy to accept him as he did not have a father (long story) and I was happy to ensure he had a good birthday late last year. I also got into the habit of providing for her and her family since last July. Buying her a mobile phone and a PC so we could stay connected and I even had broadband installed for her (well, internet).

One of her siblings died last year and I provided the funds to bury him and after that we seemed distant. I thought it was how she coped with this tragedy and so carried on.

But cracks were appearing as I had befriended people she knows and stories came my way as to how she would use the money I sent her and go out ll night. This was denied, but I just thought she was being young.

Anyway, I stopped the money a few months ago as I was getting suspicious and there was an emergency every two weeks that needed money. Plus, due to this demand I needed to move somewhere cheaper.

I never did get to the phils as my spare cash was sent via western union every month.

And then this week, I discover she had given birth to a baby girl last month!

And so... Lesson number one. Never send any money!

The shame of it is this. Her family are very poor, and the babies father was a one night stand, never to be seen agan. And no more money from me means this family will strougle more now than ever.

oh my God..thought those stuff only happen on soap operas. Hope that that same thing doesnt happen to u.damn users.

filipina_owl

23rd September 2009, 08:40

who is the woman in the avatar sean?

KeithD

23rd September 2009, 11:10

....Its very sad....:Help1::Help1::Help1::Help1:
Yeah.....we all agree with you. You are a very sad person who obviously has the humor of diarrhea and the understanding of the world less than that of a dung beetle.

You can get medical help for your condition, but I think you are probably beyond that now and are due to spend you life living in your own self pity.....Ah well....sod all to do with us, we all have full and happy lives :Hellooo::Hellooo::Hellooo::Hellooo:

adam&chryss

23rd September 2009, 11:52

i remember walking around rockwell mall, and seeing all the filipinas, with there overweight , balding european men,, it was so disgusting, they normally had a entourage of the family following them, and they just stick out a mile.. Why they take them to rockwell, its full of very very rich filipinos and expats, .. I did not feel sorry for the men, i used to give them a smirk,, as i knew that they were being used,, buy me a cell phone, ....buy me a designer bag......You are fools to think that they are with you because of your looks, .... its the credit card and passport they want. Although the sad thing is, when you read the wedding bands in the British Embassy, most of these men are divorced aged 60 , and the filipina is 18-23 ...but little do these filipinas realise that when they do get back to the UK, there spouses, are normally very isolated, lonely men, who live in a run down rented house, and are dirty and there is a reason why they cant get a UK bride....Some of the girls live lonely lives, money is not available, and the husbands just really want a person to cook and wash for them and sex on the side......Its very sad, because these girls will never know real love.. but they sacrifice there whole way of live for a little red book...... and maybe at the end of it a small pension....:Help1::Help1::Help1::Help1:

if you don't know them then don't judge them... not everyone you see in rockwell or in any place are the same, like what you are thinking. you're not even sure of their story.. so i don't think it's nice to talk other people that you don't even know :NoNo:
better to think that they are happy and inlove, right? or just mind your own business rather thinking about them :xxgrinning--00xx3:

:) this is just my opinion. cheers! :ARsurrender:

pumpkins

23rd September 2009, 12:02

i remember walking around rockwell mall, and seeing all the filipinas, with there overweight , balding european men,, it was so disgusting, they normally had a entourage of the family following them, and they just stick out a mile.. Why they take them to rockwell, its full of very very rich filipinos and expats, .. I did not feel sorry for the men, i used to give them a smirk,, as i knew that they were being used,, buy me a cell phone, ....buy me a designer bag......You are fools to think that they are with you because of your looks, .... its the credit card and passport they want. Although the sad thing is, when you read the wedding bands in the British Embassy, most of these men are divorced aged 60 , and the filipina is 18-23 ...but little do these filipinas realise that when they do get back to the UK, there spouses, are normally very isolated, lonely men, who live in a run down rented house, and are dirty and there is a reason why they cant get a UK bride....Some of the girls live lonely lives, money is not available, and the husbands just really want a person to cook and wash for them and sex on the side......Its very sad, because these girls will never know real love.. but they sacrifice there whole way of live for a little red book...... and maybe at the end of it a small pension....:Help1::Help1::Help1::Help1:

hi.. i read your posts and i have just noticed its full of bitterness:D

are you jealous or what?:Erm:

ca143

23rd September 2009, 12:08

i remember walking around rockwell mall, and seeing all the filipinas, with there overweight , balding european men,, it was so disgusting, they normally had a entourage of the family following them, and they just stick out a mile.. Why they take them to rockwell, its full of very very rich filipinos and expats, .. I did not feel sorry for the men, i used to give them a smirk,, as i knew that they were being used,, buy me a cell phone, ....buy me a designer bag......You are fools to think that they are with you because of your looks, .... its the credit card and passport they want. Although the sad thing is, when you read the wedding bands in the British Embassy, most of these men are divorced aged 60 , and the filipina is 18-23 ...but little do these filipinas realise that when they do get back to the UK, there spouses, are normally very isolated, lonely men, who live in a run down rented house, and are dirty and there is a reason why they cant get a UK bride....Some of the girls live lonely lives, money is not available, and the husbands just really want a person to cook and wash for them and sex on the side......Its very sad, because these girls will never know real love.. but they sacrifice there whole way of live for a little red book...... and maybe at the end of it a small pension....:Help1::Help1::Help1::Help1:

ahmmmmmmmm i guess u are talking about urself.....i feel sorry on U for a SAD LIFE U had.....:omg:

IainBusby

23rd September 2009, 12:18

blah blah blah rant rant rant blah blah blah

I was wondering how long it would be before she/he would be BANNED :xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:

scott&ligaya

23rd September 2009, 12:19

perhaps she is the wife of Bystander!!!

IainBusby

23rd September 2009, 12:23

perhaps she is the wife of Bystander!!!

Well they sound like they would make an ideal couple. :icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:

pumpkins

23rd September 2009, 12:24

or she lost her husband to a filipina

triple5

23rd September 2009, 12:27

Aww, shouldn't have banned her :cwm34: She was a great advert for "why NOT to have an English wife". :doh doh, all her narrow-minded stereotyping has started to rub off on me :rolleyes:

triple5

23rd September 2009, 12:28

or she lost her husband to a filipina

hahaha, probably :xxgrinning--00xx3:

adam&chryss

23rd September 2009, 12:39

or she lost her husband to a filipina

:xxgrinning--00xx3:

Aww, shouldn't have banned her :cwm34: She was a great advert for "why NOT to have an English wife". :doh doh, all her narrow-minded stereotyping has started to rub off on me :rolleyes:

:xxgrinning--00xx3:

her heart is full of hatred about filipinas and our country :NoNo:

Northerner

23rd September 2009, 13:11

And I thought this thread died a good while ago...

BTW to the people curious. My avatar is of me and Rizza (Northerners Gal) :)

Florge

23rd September 2009, 13:23

waaaaaa.. she's banned?? I'm too late!!!!

gWaPito

23rd September 2009, 14:52

And I thought this thread died a good while ago...

BTW to the people curious. My avatar is of me and Rizza (Northerners Gal) :)

Hi Northerner, A sad story of yours, at least you've come out the other side better for the experience. Put like this Sean, if it were not for the past, you wouldn't have Rizza now. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Northerner

23rd September 2009, 15:29

Hi Northerner, A sad story of yours, at least you've come out the other side better for the experience. Put like this Sean, if it were not for the past, you wouldn't have Rizza now. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Exactly! As I said on another thread... :)

jimeve

23rd September 2009, 16:58

And I thought this thread died a good while ago...

BTW to the people curious. My avatar is of me and Rizza (Northerners Gal) :)

I thought you was conjoined :Erm:

Northerner

23rd September 2009, 17:00

I thought you was conjoined :Erm:

Cheeky :censored:

:laugher::laugher::laugher::laugher::laugher::laugher:

IainBusby

23rd September 2009, 17:36

I thought you was conjoined :Erm:

Not yet, only 35 days to go and they will be I'm sure. :D

scott&ligaya

23rd September 2009, 18:00

oh Iain, that was worthy of a carry on film joke:BouncyHappy::BouncyHappy:

jaishann

23rd September 2009, 19:39

lizaphil

23rd September 2009, 20:01

I was wondering how long it would be before she/he would be BANNED :xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:

she is banned

tiN

23rd September 2009, 20:04

waaaaaa.. she's banned?? I'm too late!!!!

:doh:doh: Im late as well...:rolleyes:

:23_116_6[1]::23_116_6[1]::23_116_6[1]:

perhaps she is the wife of Bystander!!!

Well they sound like they would make an ideal couple. :icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:

Ideal couple indeed:xxgrinning--00xx3::icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:

eleazebonares

25th September 2009, 06:43

Exactly! As I said on another thread... :)

shes pretty,esp. on the thingy when u said she wasnt JLo.lol. Hey,hey, im not bisexual,nor a homo,i just appreciate.

bornatbirth

25th September 2009, 09:58

shes pretty,esp. on the thingy when u said she wasnt JLo.lol. Hey,hey, im not bisexual,nor a homo,i just appreciate.

:Erm: threesome anyone? :D

KeithD

25th September 2009, 09:59

:Erm: threesome anyone? :D
Sometimes you can be scary :omg:

GaryFifer

25th September 2009, 15:28

Money is the root of all evil. And Katy. You are in more dire need of cunnilingus than any woman in history.

KeithD

25th September 2009, 16:55

...... And Katy. You are in more dire need of cunnilingus than any woman in history.
Are you making an offer!:Erm:

eleazebonares

25th September 2009, 19:21

Wahahahahahahahahaha!

Northerner

25th September 2009, 19:41

shes pretty,esp. on the thingy when u said she wasnt JLo.lol. Hey,hey, im not bisexual,nor a homo,i just appreciate.

:D No need to deny bisexuality with a compliment! I knew what you meant :) And thanks...

:Erm: threesome anyone? :D

No comment:doh

Northerner

25th September 2009, 19:42

Money is the root of all evil. And Katy. You are in more dire need of cunnilingus than any woman in history.

As a master on said subject, I again offer no comment :D:D:D:D:D:D:D

bornatbirth

25th September 2009, 19:50

As a master on said subject, I again offer no comment :D:D:D:D:D:D:D

which subject?

money,katy or cunnilingus :Erm:

GaryFifer

25th September 2009, 19:58

which subject?

money,katy or cunnilingus :Erm:

subject bates? Ah we all know him...:xxgrinning--00xx3:

Northerner

25th September 2009, 19:59

which subject?

money,katy or cunnilingus :Erm:

No comment :D

Ayjay

27th September 2009, 22:45

Hello everyone,

Since mid June of last year I was in a relationship with a young lady from the phils, we had never met except online and I had also gotten to know her family as well.

Everything seemed fine at first. I was planning on going over in october last year, then that didn't pan out I was going over this June, then I had to move home so I was planning on going over to see her in October of this year.

She already had a son but I was happy to accept him as he did not have a father (long story) and I was happy to ensure he had a good birthday late last year. I also got into the habit of providing for her and her family since last July. Buying her a mobile phone and a PC so we could stay connected and I even had broadband installed for her (well, internet).

One of her siblings died last year and I provided the funds to bury him and after that we seemed distant. I thought it was how she coped with this tragedy and so carried on.

But cracks were appearing as I had befriended people she knows and stories came my way as to how she would use the money I sent her and go out ll night. This was denied, but I just thought she was being young.

Anyway, I stopped the money a few months ago as I was getting suspicious and there was an emergency every two weeks that needed money. Plus, due to this demand I needed to move somewhere cheaper.

I never did get to the phils as my spare cash was sent via western union every month.

And then this week, I discover she had given birth to a baby girl last month!

And so... Lesson number one. Never send any money!

The shame of it is this. Her family are very poor, and the babies father was a one night stand, never to be seen agan. And no more money from me means this family will strougle more now than ever.

Sorry to hear about this Northerner... Train wrecks line this happen all to frequently... The trick is getting to know an honest Filipina without too much baggage.... Internet romances are difficult to gauge and evaluate.

Anyway guy... chin up..
AJ

Ayjay

27th September 2009, 22:58

i remember walking around rockwell mall, and seeing all the filipinas, with there overweight , balding european men,, it was so disgusting, they normally had a entourage of the family following them, and they just stick out a mile.. Why they take them to rockwell, its full of very very rich filipinos and expats, .. I did not feel sorry for the men, i used to give them a smirk,, as i knew that they were being used,, buy me a cell phone, ....buy me a designer bag......You are fools to think that they are with you because of your looks, .... its the credit card and passport they want. Although the sad thing is, when you read the wedding bands in the British Embassy, most of these men are divorced aged 60 , and the filipina is 18-23 ...but little do these filipinas realise that when they do get back to the UK, there spouses, are normally very isolated, lonely men, who live in a run down rented house, and are dirty and there is a reason why they cant get a UK bride....Some of the girls live lonely lives, money is not available, and the husbands just really want a person to cook and wash for them and sex on the side......Its very sad, because these girls will never know real love.. but they sacrifice there whole way of live for a little red book...... and maybe at the end of it a small pension....:Help1::Help1::Help1::Help1:

It sounds like you are relating your own experiences and prejudices. I have no doubt that such situations do occur. However, I can cite numerous examples where relationships have been positive and enduring. In my case for 20+ years, and three kids of my own all in college..

You need help in managing your bitterness..

AJ

bornatbirth

27th September 2009, 23:22

You need help in managing your bitterness..

AJ

:icon_lol: katy is my ex wife :D

Northerner

28th September 2009, 00:04

Sorry to hear about this Northerner... Train wrecks line this happen all to frequently... The trick is getting to know an honest Filipina without too much baggage.... Internet romances are difficult to gauge and evaluate.

Anyway guy... chin up..
AJ

Thanks for the kind words AJ. However, this was a post I made in May, and even back then I was pretty much over her. Just venting my frustration out on this forum!

But I have long moved on and the lady in my avatar is Rizza, who I know to be honest and sincere. And the reason I will land in the Philippines come October 28:xxgrinning--00xx3:

aposhark

28th September 2009, 00:18

Thanks for the kind words AJ. However, this was a post I made in May, and even back then I was pretty much over her. Just venting my frustration out on this forum!

But I have long moved on and the lady in my avatar is Rizza, who I know to be honest and sincere. And the reason I will land in the Philippines come October 28:xxgrinning--00xx3:

Pity you can't get this thread locked so you can concentrate on Rizza :NoNo:

Northerner

28th September 2009, 00:42

Pity you can't get this thread locked so you can concentrate on Rizza :NoNo:

:icon_lol: Yeah, I thought that the other day after it popped up and Rizza read it, thinking it was a new post (whilst we met to talk on yahoo).. Had a little tampo for a second or two before I explained the date of the post :ARsurrender: :peepwall:

aposhark

28th September 2009, 01:05

:icon_lol: Yeah, I thought that the other day after it popped up and Rizza read it, thinking it was a new post (whilst we met to talk on yahoo).. Had a little tampo for a second or two before I explained the date of the post :ARsurrender: :peepwall:

Hi Northerner, IMO, you won't see Tampo until you are married and living together. Then the "fun" begins. It is not measured in seconds but in hours that feel like days, or days that feel like weeks.....
Being ignored is something I am trying to come to terms with, and not doing a very good job of it :HeadButter: :NoNo::NoNo::NoNo:

The making up is blissful after the silence......:Bouncy:

Ayjay

28th September 2009, 08:07

:icon_lol: katy is my ex wife :D

Seriously... ???

AJ

aromulus

28th September 2009, 08:18

you won't see Tampo until . It is not measured in seconds but in hours that feel like days, or days that feel like weeks.....
Being ignored is something I am trying to come to terms with, and not doing a very good job of it

That was the easy version....:rolleyes:

You just wait till the full blown, all singing all dancing with bells on one, hits you like a sledgehammer.....:icon_lol:

And you sitting there for days, thinking " what the hell is that all about"??? (not in so many words.....)

steadyfornow

28th September 2009, 18:55

im sorry to hear that.and being a filipina i feel bad for what she did to you..land that you have to learn your lesson the hard way but life goes on..and i do believe in karma..so it might hit her one time..just curious?is she the girl on your picture?

Northerner

28th September 2009, 19:36

Queenbee

5th October 2009, 11:56

Hi Northerner,

Put this episode down to experience. We have many bad eggs in the UK too.

Don't be put off by the prospect of getting to know a Filipina.
Go over there one day and see for yourself, there are so many genuine Filipinas there.
When you meet a nice Filipina, they cannot do enough for you and the feeling becomes mutual.

Keep on trying to make friends and if you do, make sure you visit her before sending money.
It is so easy to make a mistake when we have a caring attitude.
That is a plus for you.

At least you didn't go to visit her and find out she was a man, as one of our unfortunate members did once.

:D:omg:I AGREE..Dude like i always say to myself,i have to go through heartbreaks and it lead me to Ma man now...He as well had to go through divorce from his exwife and all,and he doesnt have anything left just me,,But i was always there for him...and always will.Ive met him five and a half years ago here in a party and we were the guestband of that party,,It was like love at first sight,We went out for a week and then when he went back home i thought it also ends but instead we kept on chatting and calling each other everyday...But i have to work in hongkong and Shanghai for 2 years,we lost communication and all.I was real busy then i just knew he got married...:bigcry:After that we live our separate lives..I got another bf and he a wife,,,to make the story short,i broke up just last year with ma german fiance who i met in Shanghai,been with him for 3 years... and just this year May he *ASA*went online on MSN like from out of the blue...He just went online for the first time after for so many years cz he had an accident,broke his ankle from his bike race...So that was the start,its like we got back from where we left off before,he visited the philippines the 2nd time and met ma family jst this august...Maybe FATE or just ma fave word serendipity...

I guess in every storm there's always sunshine after it...WISH U ALL THE LUCK WITH UR NEW LOVE!

somebody

5th October 2009, 17:20

That was the easy version....:rolleyes:

You just wait till the full blown, all singing all dancing with bells on one, hits you like a sledgehammer.....:icon_lol:

And you sitting there for days, thinking " what the hell is that all about"??? (not in so many words.....)

Great stuff I get so much work done at home when Tampo occurs:D:xxgrinning--00xx3:

As I have said any self respecting Brit bloke can go for Days without talking i thought that was why the Great Britsh Shed was invented, walking the dog and the sport of fishing:D

Dont look at tampo as a bad thing but a chance for reflection and chores crossed off the List:xxgrinning--00xx3: