I am sick of him

[GaryFifer]

I need away from my dad.
Don't know how to word this, but have a father with severe issues. Attitude problem,hit my mom and bully, but speaks to old acquaintances outside better than he speaks to his wife and son (me) Split personality. He is child man who has a vicious nasty:furious3:mood for small reasons. I am tired and sick of that.

I am in catch 22. I want to leave. I want to get house of my own for my own sake. but I do not think it would be right. I do not have money for house of my own that. It is a joke though. I live next to a woman on her own who is younger than me, i saw her lifting slabs and moving big material with a wheelbarrow, she claims DLA. She has a 3 different disablement car since 2002. How nice :Erm: But no point in comparing myself to her, that just makes one bitter. It's pointless.

I do not have job as chemist. I need to get car, but I need to be clear of fits for a year to drive. I passed my test. If I get house on my own, if I take a epileptic fit, I guess I'd be :censored:

Wish can move on life away from that :furious3: father.

[Tawi2]

Caught twixt a rock and a hard place,cant abandon your mum but wanting independance,have a word with your old man Gary,tell him his violence and malevolent moods are causing disharmony and bad feeling,speak to your mum,reassure her,stand up to your dad if he verbally abuses you,tell him your not a kid anymore and explain he is causing the family anguish,and also explain to him if he hits your mum again your going to put him on his **** :cwm23:

[GaryFifer]

Caught twixt a rock and a hard place,cant abandon your mum but wanting independance,have a word with your old man Gary,tell him his violence and malevolent moods are causing disharmony and bad feeling,speak to your mum,reassure her,stand up to your dad if he verbally abuses you,tell him your not a kid anymore and explain he is causing the family anguish,and also explain to him if he hits your mum again your going to put him on his **** :cwm23:

Ah I know the cycle. Silence, drama queen shouting and swearing, apologise, silence and drama queen stuff again. I do not get a week without it.It has also cause problems with my life,my friends, the neighbours. He would start on anyone about anything.

Life is hard living like this. I do not make excuses for his behaviour. If I was to give anyone advice get the heck out and don't look back.

Catchpharses are burned into my brain-Don't talk to me like that. Who you think you are talking to? If you don't like it the doors there. You are not my son you not even act like it.

[KeithD]

.....i saw her lifting slabs and moving big material with a wheelbarrow, she claims DLA. She has a 3 different disablement car since 2002......
:Erm: .....and? Most days I can't lift a brick, but some days I could move flags, it'd :censored: hurt though, but if the job had to be done it'd be done. Just because people have a disablement does not mean they are useless.

[GaryFifer]

:Erm: .....and? Most days I can't lift a brick, but some days I could move flags, it'd :censored: hurt though, but if the job had to be done it'd be done. Just because people have a disablement does not mean they are useless.

Did i say useless?No :iagree: with you. I just find it strange that each time she go for mobility car she gets a huge suzuki grand vitara. 3 of them and a caravan, and a 2 bedroom house. I just watch it and I look at my old mom. That is a separate issue.

[KeithD]

I got a £20,000 Qashqai+2 on my War Pension Mobility, you'll find that we get such 'huge' cars as it is less painfull to get in and out of high vehicles.

[MarBell379]

Even in Philippines, family ties have their limits.
My fiancee and most of her family have pretty much disowned her mother as she is so ridiculously unreasonable.
Sometimes it has to be done!

[triple5]

I am in catch 22. I want to leave. I want to get house of my own for my own sake. but I do not think it would be right.

Why don't you feel it would be right? Most people fly the nest someday.

[GaryFifer]

As Tawi2 said. Abandon my mother, but living on my own too, is risky (as I could have a fit and noone is there to bring me around) If I get a house, who's the carer. I just do not feel its right to have house without a job.

I wish to be independant with medication but at the present time I need to be under control with Epilim. My body still inbalanced after chemotherapy too.