im going to philli to marry [Archive]

aromulus

6th October 2009, 18:12

im gong to see if i can get a month of at xmas so i can go over there and marry my women
is there anything that i will need to know and wat sort of documents should i take

Chances are, that if you go over Christmas, you may need longer than a month.....:NoNo:

For civil ceremony...
CNI, from your registrar.
Birth certificate
Passport.

If you marry in church.............:omg:
Apart from the above.
The list is endless.

http://www.weddingsatwork.com/culture_laws_familycode01.shtml

swayze

6th October 2009, 18:12

but i dont think the company will allow that 2 months can it not be done in 1 month

James Hubbard

6th October 2009, 18:14

but i dont think the company will allow that 2 months can it not be done in 1 month

tbh, it's a bad idea then, go there, get all the requirements, then come back to UK, then go back when u get another holiday and marry.

You will be disappointed if you only come for a month tbh

swayze

6th October 2009, 18:15

wat is cni registrar

James Hubbard

6th October 2009, 18:18

aromulus

6th October 2009, 18:18

wat is cni registrar

Certificate of No Impediment.

From
The Registrar of Birth and Marriages

If you are divorced, a valid copy of your Decree Absolute.

aromulus

6th October 2009, 18:22

certificate of no impediment (to contract marriage)

and, do yourself a favour, don't waste 15 quid to get it in the UK (like i did), because it's invalid here, you need to get it from British embassy in Manila. So if you're not staying in manila, you'll need to go there for the CNI.

You need Cenomars

gosh, it's endless.

I'm glad I got it over with ... endless paperwork and money outlay. Just bring a lot of money and patience

He needs to waste 15 quid here, coz he needs to validate it at the Embassy anyway...:doh
So it is easier to post it on the bans here for 21 days, before he leaves, rather than in Manila and waste time accordingly...

He is trying to get married in a month....:omg: Remember...???:Erm:

James Hubbard

6th October 2009, 18:24

He needs to waste 15 quid here, coz he needs to validate it at the Embassy anyway...:doh
So it is easier to post it on the bans here for 21 days, before he leaves, rather than in Manila and waste time accordingly...

He is trying to get married in a month....:omg: Remember...???:Erm:

I forgot to bring my certificate of waste of 15 quids, left it back in UK, here in Phils, they told me it doesn't matter coz it's inconsequential, I still need to get the same piece of paper (for 5000 pesos) in manila,

yet,

it could just be Negros Oriental?

peace :ARsurrender:

swayze

6th October 2009, 18:31

why is nothing easy it seems to me the only people that can get visa or marry is poeple who dont work and ave plenty of time on there hands lol

swayze

6th October 2009, 18:36

what if just moved there and be done with

James Hubbard

6th October 2009, 18:39

why is nothing easy it seems to me the only people that can get visa or marry is poeple who dont work and ave plenty of time on there hands lol

In my case, that was true. I gave up my job to come here :( now I gotta go back and get a job ;)

It also costs quite a bit to get married here, ya, less than UK, but the prices that people tell you it costs for marriage here, just double it and you'll do OK.

You're right though, it's a real bummer.

Plus, as is the system in the Philippines, everything is very hierarchical. The constant list of requirements and payments and more payments. Ya, it's the Philippines, where everything is exhaustingly drawn out and unnecessarily lengthly.

You'll need to get her birth certificate authenticated by the NSO, and if there's a mistake on it (as often there is), you'll need to pay to get that rectified. If you- or the officials - make a mistake on paper work, you gotta be prepared to pay twice.

Philippines!:Brick:

swayze

6th October 2009, 18:43

what if i was to go out there do i need visa for lenthy time

aromulus

6th October 2009, 18:45

why is nothing easy it seems to me the only people that can get visa or marry is poeple who dont work and ave plenty of time on there hands lol

I did it in less than 3 weeks, as I was prepared.:D

The only thing that we had to wait for, was the marriage licence, 10 days.:doh

Everything else had been organized by me online, and by my wife doing the legwork with "small" details, like wedding dress, Barongs, Maids dresses, and paying the deposit at the hotel.:xxgrinning--00xx3:

Arrived sunday 4th feb, applied for licence on monday the 5th, married on monday 19th, left on the 23d.

Easy.....:xxgrinning--00xx3:

You have lots of time to plan ahead, only forget Xmas time.... Try to go in January:xxgrinning--00xx3:

James Hubbard

6th October 2009, 18:45

what if i was to go out there do i need visa for lenthy time

when you get there, you get a 21 day visa, just renew it on day 20 and you're cool (and so on).

If you did want to stay in the Philippines, take your wife on a holiday to outside the Phils and when you come back get a free Balikbayan visa for a year! :)

lizaphil

6th October 2009, 18:49

In my case, that was true. I gave up my job to come here :( now I gotta go back and get a job ;)

It also costs quite a bit to get married here, ya, less than UK, but the prices that people tell you it costs for marriage here, just double it and you'll do OK.

You're right though, it's a real bummer.

Plus, as is the system in the Philippines, everything is very hierarchical. The constant list of requirements and payments and more payments. Ya, it's the Philippines, where everything is exhaustingly drawn out and unnecessarily lengthly.

You'll need to get her birth certificate authenticated by the NSO, and if there's a mistake on it (as often there is), you'll need to pay to get that rectified. If you- or the officials - make a mistake on paper work, you gotta be prepared to pay twice.

Philippines!:Brick:

yea only in the philipines lots of hassle:mad::mad:

swayze

6th October 2009, 18:50

renew it were manila she lives in cebu

GaryFifer

6th October 2009, 18:50

when you get there, you get a 21 day visa, just renew it on day 20 and you're cool (and so on).

If you did want to stay in the Philippines, take your wife on a holiday to outside the Phils and when you come back get a free Balikbayan visa for a year! :)

See if you get married in PHIL, do they still do that sexual counselling marriage interview stuff at the churches to see if you are a compatible couple.
See what i mean here:

In the town where you wish to marry, you must attend at the Local Rural Health Unit, you must attend for Pre-Marriage Guidance and Sexual Health Counselling

This does seem of course to be an absolute Joke in this day and age, since no doubt, many of you sponsors are on either your 2nd marriage, or more importantly are well along in years, however, it is a requirement for you to obtain a marriage licence, so you cannot side step it, some people attempt to get around it by paying for the certificate to be obtained without sitting in on the pre-marriage counselling, that is of course entirely up to you, if you are able to pay an 'express' fee to avoid the counselling, good for you, its worth it.

Here is pete and gina site http://www.british-filipino.com/How%20to%20Marry.html

James Hubbard

6th October 2009, 18:52

See if you get married in PHIL, do they still do that sexual counselling marriage interview stuff at the churches to see if you are a compatible couple.
See what i mean here:

In the town where you wish to marry, you must attend at the Local Rural Health Unit, you must attend for Pre-Marriage Guidance and Sexual Health Counselling

This does seem of course to be an absolute Joke in this day and age, since no doubt, many of you sponsors are on either your 2nd marriage, or more importantly are well along in years, however, it is a requirement for you to obtain a marriage licence, so you cannot side step it, some people attempt to get around it by paying for the certificate to be obtained without sitting in on the pre-marriage counselling, that is of course entirely up to you, if you are able to pay an 'express' fee to avoid the counselling, good for you, its worth it.

Here is pete and gina site http://www.british-filipino.com/How%20to%20Marry.html

THEN you must also undergo the pre marriage seminar which is an 8 hour snooze fest in the local language delivered patronizingly sponsored by the government.

swayze

6th October 2009, 18:53

i really dont think im not smart enough for all this the visa application was a mind blower

James Hubbard

6th October 2009, 18:57

i really dont think im not smart enough for all this the visa application was a mind blower

your fiancee will be able to find out everything there ...

James Hubbard

6th October 2009, 18:57

renew it were manila she lives in cebu

Cebu Bureau of Immigration. Just get into a taxi and tell them where you want to go, and it's in Mactan!

swayze

6th October 2009, 19:10

im thinking it may be best to leave it till later on in the next year and stay there for a while or for good

swayze

6th October 2009, 19:13

we had enough arguments who filled in visa form this will start another fude:cwm23:

James Hubbard

6th October 2009, 19:13

im thinking it may be best to leave it till later on in the next year and stay there for a while or for good

that way would be beneficial in that you can get to adjust to married life together right away, without you having to run back here.

Just so long as you're financially prepared. 500 quid a month is good to live a moderately comfy life here.

James Hubbard

6th October 2009, 19:15

we had enough arguments who filled in visa form this will start another fude:cwm23:

you don't want feuds.

if you have problems with technicalities talk to

-Peterginab
-Aromulus
-Joebloggs
-Somebody

I'll do my best from my experience to help, but I made a lot of mistakes in the process of getting married here.

Those 4 above know all there is to know between them to stop any feuds from happening.

peace

swayze

6th October 2009, 19:16

my word i dident spend a 100 pound a week wen i visited there
and i went to the chocolate hills aswell

James Hubbard

6th October 2009, 19:18

my word i dident spend a 100 pound a week wen i visited there

but living here is another matter, although, I guess it depends on what quality of life you want. Just breathe, read the other few messages I put for you here....

100 a week is 400 quid, alth0ugh, the pound is about 74 peso right now ... looking bad ... My budget for the last year was about 450 per month, definitely overshot.

whiteraven

6th October 2009, 19:25

i was lucky managed to get married within the 21 days, no mention of counselling when i got the licence. couldnt get a judge to marry us in time so day before we had wedding party arranged we found us a friendly pastor and i changed my religion to baptist for the day,wedding ceremony next morning:xxgrinning--00xx3:

James Hubbard

6th October 2009, 19:27

swayze

6th October 2009, 19:27

to be honest james i dont spend more than 100 punds a week in uk on myself

James Hubbard

6th October 2009, 19:30

to be honest james i dont spend more than 100 punds a week in uk on myself

the difference is that as a married man you got to spend a LOADA dosh on the wifey!

Plus, you'll be expected to help with the family.

Plus, if you want to have home comforts it's an initial outlay right there.

I'm just glad it's past!

It'll be worth it after you get married though.

GaryFifer

6th October 2009, 19:31

Looks to me...the judge is the fast track. But how do I know that the marriage is legal, and binding. I don't want to get found out the guy was dodgy and married many people wrong!

James Hubbard

6th October 2009, 19:31

the difference is that as a married man you got to spend a LOADA dosh on the wifey!

Plus, you'll be expected to help with the family.

Plus, if you want to have home comforts it's an initial outlay right there.

I'm just glad it's past!

It'll be worth it after you get married though.

then you got the endless expenses for weddings, paper work, flights to embassy, hotel etc etc

James Hubbard

6th October 2009, 19:32

Looks to me...the judge is the fast track. But how do I know that the marriage is legal, and binding. I don't want to get found out the guy was dodgy and married many people wrong!

which is a legitimate fear when we're talking about Philippines.

swayze

6th October 2009, 19:34

im allready paying for house that we ave bought out there together well its in her name as were not wed yet

whiteraven

6th October 2009, 19:35

some people think its so easy to get married to a filipina over there, takes a lot of research,patience and money:yikes: the queing up in there local registry office in davao was unbelievable:Brick:

James Hubbard

6th October 2009, 19:36

im allready paying for house that we ave bought out there together well its in her name as were not wed yet

even when you are married it will still be in her name - which is cool, coz you got somewhere to live. Excellent. Do you have a fridge, tv, etc there?

whiteraven

6th October 2009, 19:36

it would have to be in her name you are not allowed to own a home or business in your name.

James Hubbard

6th October 2009, 19:38

some people think its so easy to get married to a filipina over there, takes a lot of research,patience and money:yikes: the queing up in there local registry office in davao was unbelievable:Brick:

yeah, it's horrible.

most places don't have AC (at least here in neg or). so I just smell like a sweaty baboy in there.

I am so glad that torture is over, and I feel for Swayse!

swayze

6th October 2009, 19:38

yup james sure as nice cold fridge cool

James Hubbard

6th October 2009, 19:38

it would have to be in her name you are not allowed to own a home or business in your name.

technically, you can own a business, but only 49% or something.

But, you can do what you want if you employ 10 filipinos or something like that

James Hubbard

6th October 2009, 19:39

yup james sure as nice cold fridge cool

so you got a nice setup there already?

where in the phils is it?

swayze

6th October 2009, 19:40

i thought i could own ounce we are married

swayze

6th October 2009, 19:41

just outside of cebu city

James Hubbard

6th October 2009, 19:41

i thought i could own ounce we are married

nope, foreigners are second class citizens. You can't own property in philippines.

James Hubbard

6th October 2009, 19:41

just outside of cebu city

kabalo ka mosulti sa cebuano?

swayze

6th October 2009, 19:42

james its called pigibag loan you dont pay interest on it look into it mate

GaryFifer

6th October 2009, 19:42

yeah, it's horrible.

most places don't have AC (at least here in neg or). so I just smell like a sweaty baboy in there.

I am so glad that torture is over, and I feel for Swayse!

I feel for swayse or feel like you sway over and fall over cos you sweaty?:Erm:

I wonder, I think keep it simple. Filipinos would probably want absolutely everyone at the ceremony, including the garden gnomes for food, dancing and everything.

James Hubbard

6th October 2009, 19:43

james its called pigibag loan you dont pay interest on it look into it mate

yes, we got pag ibig where I live too :) it's fantastic :)

actually, i'm quite close to cebu also (negros oriental)

whiteraven

6th October 2009, 19:43

i heard of one guy built a house over there with his wife.when the marriage broke up her family wanted the house from him so he said ok, bulldozed the house and gave them the land:laugher:

swayze

6th October 2009, 19:44

lol yes i think ive allready thought about that and my girl knows its a NO

James Hubbard

6th October 2009, 19:44

i heard of one guy built a house over there with his wife.when the marriage broke up her family wanted the house from him so he said ok, bulldozed the house and gave them the land:laugher:

the actions of a (funny) bitter man! lolz

swayze

6th October 2009, 19:46

well its more in mandaue city the house costs 5000 a month

swayze

6th October 2009, 19:49

whooh i ate them cockroaches though they bite my ass lol

Tawi2

6th October 2009, 21:49

Cebu Bureau of Immigration. Just get into a taxi and tell them where you want to go, and it's in Mactan!

Next to the fire station,I saw two women fighting outside it back in March,at the small coffee/eatery place to the left hand side,loads of screaming and shouting :cwm24:

IainBusby

6th October 2009, 22:02

but i dont think the company will allow that 2 months can it not be done in 1 month

It can probably be done in a month, but if you go at Christmas time it's less certain with holidays etc to consider.

GaryFifer

6th October 2009, 23:05

Next to the fire station,I saw two women fighting outside it back in March,at the small coffee/eatery place to the left hand side,loads of screaming and shouting :cwm24:

oops, and the her cigarette fell from her mouth, and now her hair is on fire. What a scene!

Sophie

7th October 2009, 00:12

congratulations on your upcoming wedding swayze and best wishes to both of you :xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:

cheesewiz

8th October 2009, 22:33

to be honest james i dont spend more than 100 punds a week in uk on myself

when ur future wife arrives in UK for sure you will spend twice of that:Erm: and more extras with her family in Phils unless they are well off back home then you should have no prob.

Just let your fiancee sort's everything out for you there so when you get there all sorted.

Good luck

swayze

14th February 2010, 19:40

james hubbard can you tell more about this balikbayan visa mate the year one

aromulus

14th February 2010, 19:55

james hubbard can you tell more about this balikbayan visa mate the year one

The only way for you to obtain a balikbayan visa would be to enter the Philippines together with your Filipina wife.:xxgrinning--00xx3:

Other way is to enter alone, normally, with the customary 21 days visa from immigration, and have it renewed at the usual intervals.

keithAngel

14th February 2010, 20:05

james hubbard can you tell more about this balikbayan visa mate the year one

Hi swarze Im not james but I can tell you that the Balikbayan visa is a priviledge given to the spouse and dependents of Fillipina/os returning to the phils after an absence of a year or more

Sometimes they are awarded after a trip for example to Hong Kong for the weekend cant think why:rolleyes:

I presume your in the Phils now having got married? I havnt read all this thread or looked up your posts but if you are and intend staying there are other options 13a for example or you can of course just keep renewing every 59 days for a year or so and then leave to hong kong return the next day and start again:xxgrinning--00xx3:

swayze

14th February 2010, 20:14

thanks keith but i was told you ad to renew every 21 days how is 59 days poss

keithAngel

14th February 2010, 20:24

thanks keith but i was told you ad to renew every 21 days how is 59 days poss

The first 21 days is a visa waiver whith in that time you apply for an extension at the local office which gives you 59 days and last year cost 2570 piso

then befor that expires you apply for a further extension 59 days which WAS 3800
and so on if your there longer than 6months you will have to get exit clearance get fingerprinted etc befor leaving but if you exit for the day and return it all starts again that could of course change without notice.

Sim11UK

14th February 2010, 20:54

The first 21 days is a visa waiver whith in that time you apply for an extension at the local office which gives you 59 days and last year cost 2570 piso

then befor that expires you apply for a further extension 59 days which WAS 3800
and so on if your there longer than 6months you will have to get exit clearance get fingerprinted etc befor leaving but if you exit for the day and return it all starts again that could of course change without notice.

This has been mentioned before, but the extension visa seems to vary in price, depending how much they want to rip you off for.

When I extended mine for 59 days, it cost 5000 something.
I remember Arthur saying his varied in price too. :bigcry:

keithAngel

14th February 2010, 21:03

Its probably improving slightly now as its all computerised no more room for the fixers plus if you do try that route it will be picked up on exiting as its a central system the expreess line fee is still a subject of debate :xxgrinning--00xx3:

PS dont forget to keep all and any reciepts that are printed on grey paper with all the costs dont settle for just the handwritten bits on the stamp in your passport

IainBusby

15th February 2010, 21:07

i thought i could own ounce we are married

Once your married it will become joint ownership. Your name can be on the documents, but if she dies before you do it won't mean a damn thing because the house will then become your property, but the land that it stands on will become the property of her nearest Filipino relatives and as others have found in the past, those relatives that you may have given many a handout to over the years will suddenly only want to talk to you through their attorney.