im in philippines now :):)

[\\\\ToNy////]

this was my first ever flight but i loved it, but wish i had a window seat and my knees and legs ache,
Im here with a filipina friend that i used to work with and his wife, ive been chatting to his sister online for over a year and in person she is so sweet, i lover her very much,
Im in a place called nueva ecija,this place is amazeing,the buildings the cars the people and the animals,
Buts vary warm here 32 this week but i know it was 38c last week,i know i will strugle at 38c:cwm3:, even in my room with the aircon on at night its 28c, took my thermometer into the main livingroom where theres no aircon 33c,just some fans to move the hat air about,
They are feeding me all the time until a cant eat no more, just chewing and chewing the meat and strugling to swalow anymore hehe but that good because im so skinny, im trying to drink as much as i can,
Well i hope to stay here for 1 month if i can get a visa for after 21days, not sure what i need yet though,anyone know what documents ect ill need to get an extension visa?
been in the mall and theres so much cool stuff there, i just buy a smart buddy simcard for 75peso i think it was, and we visited there family on the farm,can be tireing blessing everyone hehe, and they all came to the house im staying at to eat foods,
i feel so good here, not lonely anymore, i get upset when i think about going back to uk, i want to stay here with my love, will break my heart when i have to leave her, i want to live here oneday if i can learn to cope with the heat,but that will be 10 years away maybe,been raining here on the evenings and can see the lightning in the distance,
I need to secretly learn how to speak tagalog:D
Hope all is ok there in uk.......

[somebody]

Sounds like you having a great time:xxgrinning--00xx3:

Just take it all in and enjoy:)

[laurel]

glad u made it enjoy your time...well done!!:)

[triple5]

What you doing awake so early? Cockerels wake you :icon_lol: Good to hear your enjoying it Tony :xxgrinning--00xx3: I wish I could tell you that you'll get used to heat, but I know guys been here years and still can't climatize. Try not to think about saying your goodbyes to your gf yet, just enjoy :xxgrinning--00xx3:

I just got my extension visa. You'll need to find the nearest immigration office, and turn up with 2 photocopies of your passport, one with your pic and one with entry stamp. I paid 3050pesos and that gave me an extra 38 days. I didnt realise that the first time you extend its only 38. Thought it would be 59. 21+38=59.

Enjoy dude :Hellooo:

[malditako]

good to hear that :) :Hellooo:

[mickcant]

Hello Tony,:Wave:
Good to hear you got there ok, enjoy all the new experences you will have, when I was there I just tried to wear a hat in the midday period.
Will look forward to hearing more from you.
Mick.:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[\\\\ToNy////]

What you doing awake so early? Cockerels wake you :icon_lol: Good to hear your enjoying it Tony :xxgrinning--00xx3: I wish I could tell you that you'll get used to heat, but I know guys been here years and still can't climatize. Try not to think about saying your goodbyes to your gf yet, just enjoy :xxgrinning--00xx3:

I just got my extension visa. You'll need to find the nearest immigration office, and turn up with 2 photocopies of your passport, one with your pic and one with entry stamp. I paid 3050pesos and that gave me an extra 38 days. I didnt realise that the first time you extend its only 38. Thought it would be 59. 21+38=59.

Enjoy dude :Hellooo:

yup them peski cockerels woke me, sounds like they are being strangled, they probly are for our meals hehe,
i like there pets here, the one dog is my friend now, and the skinny small cats are sweet, they keep meeawing to go into the shower room to drink the water so i let them in, whey dont seam to have a bowl of water,
just got light and warming up now, i was shivering alittle at 26c the other night hehe so i must be starting to get used to the heat:cwm3:
nearly 7am now, more food soon, want to watch tv but there are mom, gran, 2 bros, 3 kids and 2 other ladies sleeing on the floor in liveing room:D

[\\\\ToNy////]

Hello Tony,:Wave:
Good to hear you got there ok, enjoy all the new experences you will have, when I was there I just tried to wear a hat in the midday period.
Will look forward to hearing more from you.
Mick.:xxgrinning--00xx3:
thanks mick, not gone outside much yet, i have camo cap and sunglasses ready though,
think im only getting about 4 hours sleep a night now, in uk i could clock up 10 hours no problem :D,

[vbkelly]

nice to hear that you enjoy your visit in the philippines, have fun!

[Arthur Little]

Good to hear from you, Tony ... and glad you're enjoying your stay in the Phils. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[sars_notd_virus]

think im only getting about 4 hours sleep a night now, in uk i could clock up 10 hours no problem :D,

Must be your body's internal clock is out of sync with the current time zone. ...(Jet lag) dont worry u'll be alright soon:xxgrinning--00xx3:
Have a great time Tony!!

[LEAHnew]

Hi Tony, glad to hear news from you....thanks for the good words to my province that's why I'm proud being Novo Ecijanas:xxgrinning--00xx3:
Enjoy your stay:Wave:

[fred]

Sounds like you are having a good time Tony.
Perhaps the time of your life..
Any cultural confusion? Welcome to the club!!

[Sim11UK]

Good to hear you are there Tony & in good spirits. Sounds like you've taken to it, no problem.
We all struggle with the heat, even the Filipino's.

Keep us posted, as we're all interested. Keep smiling. :)

[liane]

Glad to know that you arrived safe and enjoying your stay in Nueva Ecija :xxgrinning--00xx3:

You could have your visa extension in Clarkfield Pampanga, not too far from where you are. It will cost you about Php3,030.

Enjoy your holidays and be safe.

[pennybarry]

Wow! I am pleased you're enjoying.:xxgrinning--00xx3:

It took me a week to adjust my body clock so I wish you can adjust it very soon.

Sooner or later, you'll get used to cocks "taktalaok" :D

[KeithD]

Sooner or later, you'll get used to cocks....

I'm not even going to say anything :rolleyes:

[pennybarry]

I mean ROOSTERS ! :bigcry::bigcry:

[pennybarry]

I had 2 gold bars before and it was lost after you upgrade license. :Brick::xxaction-smiley-047
http://i982.photobucket.com/albums/ae307/pennypinay/homer2.gif

[somebody]

I had 2 gold bars before and it was lost after you upgrade license. :Brick::xxaction-smiley-047
http://i982.photobucket.com/albums/ae307/pennypinay/homer2.gif


Thats a good point Penny po how do we rep someone or is that on hold at the moment?

[triple5]

Thats a good point Penny po how do we rep someone or is that on hold at the moment?

Took me awhile to find it. its the little star down below.

[Arthur Little]

:icon_lol: ... I expect MOST of us regulars/long-standing members are wondering the same thing, Penn ... I had three gold bars ... but I think Keith, Ginapeterb [Pete] and Joe are the only holders of those "coveted awards" under the new system!!! :rolleyes:

[Arthur Little]

Took me awhile to find it. its the little star down below.

Me too ... thanks for enlightening us, Paul!! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[KeithD]

:hijacked:

[joebloggs]

:icon_lol: ... I expect MOST of us regulars/long-standing members are wondering the same thing, Penn ... I had three gold bars ... but I think Keith, Ginapeterb [Pete] and Joe are the only holders of those "coveted awards" under the new system!!! :rolleyes:

The dark green pips are followed by light green pips, which are then followed by gold pips. When the limit these can display is reached, the (prefix) display of stars begins - starting with the bronze stars, then silver stars and finally gold Stars. If your reputation is zero then the neutral grey pip is displayed. Negative reputations are displayed in a similar manner using light and dark red pips and red stars - however, there is only one star level for negative reputation.

[Arthur Little]

:xxgrinning--00xx3: ... all "ship-shape" again! Many thanks.

[stevewool]

so glad you are there just take it all in and enjoy everything you can , wish i was back there but soon , take care tony

[aposhark]

this was my first ever flight but i loved it.......

Got to hand it to you Tony, your first flight and you went so far, most people go to Spain or Turkey :cwm24:
Well done :xxgrinning--00xx3:
Have fun, it must seem like a new world to you.
Your mahal will help to make you feel at home there too :Rasp:

[kimmi]

its nice to know that u're enjoying ur stay Tony..have fun!:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[\\\\ToNy////]

thanks guys, :) i feel so happy after all your words,
well yesterday had rice and fish and beef then went to the local mall, buy some more phone credit and a plug adaptor, just went to plug it in but theres a skinny spider hanging under bed hehehe, we eat shapoa i think its called,is japanese i think,we always get when there and are force fed to me:), then went back to house after 2 hours then to a birthday party on the rooster farm, more food but with coconut icecream (masarap):),was so sleepy i started nodding off but my mahal said try to forget about being sleepy hehehe, then the birthday girl called me to give me a gift,everyone whistled and cheered hehehe, then we went back homeand eat rice and fishy soup thing then colaped on bed again hehehe, and now wide awake at 2am:doh,
should be going to manila on tuesday but will ask them about the clarkfield pampanga place, well i better try and sleep or tidy room

[\\\\ToNy////]

just moved the bed to plug the adaptor into the spare socked and theres them tiny ants going in and out it and walking along the wall somewhere, about 10 of them, so i push bed back and unpluged the aircon plug above the bed, so ill use that one for now for my laptop, i noticed these ants outside the window, 1000s of them:cwm3::Cuckoo:

[Sim11UK]

Those ants have got a painful bite...ouch! They wont do you any harm, they just get everywhere & can drive you crazy. :crazy::Cuckoo:

[KeithD]

Wait until they make a nest in your cornflakes :crazy:

[triple5]

Those ants have got a painful bite...ouch! They wont do you any harm, they just get everywhere & can drive you crazy. :crazy::Cuckoo:

Too right. I spent an hour the other day enticing an army of them out of my usb socket in my laptop. Mozzies are getting on my nerves at the moment, hence why I'm awake now at almost 3am :doh

[joebloggs]

take it easy tony :xxgrinning--00xx3:
enjoy your time there :rolleyes:

[joebloggs]

Too right. I spent an hour the other day enticing an army of them out of my usb socket in my laptop. Mozzies are getting on my nerves at the moment, hence why I'm awake now at almost 3am :doh

i opened my misses aunts pc to replace the dvd writer, and a mouse ran out :yikes:

[KeithD]

I've had mice in my PC as well ..... pity it didn't die there instead of in the loft so it stinks!!!

[maria_and_matt]

awww i am glad that you are having fun and getting used to the heat.. have fun in manila tony and say hi to your gf from us:)

[somebody]

Hope your taking lots of Photos of your holiday and dont forget to get plenty of you and your Girlfriend especially:) For both memories when apart and if you apply for a visa in the future :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[aposhark]

Hope your taking lots of Photos of your holiday and dont forget to get plenty of you and your Girlfriend especially:) For both memories when apart and if you apply for a visa in the future :xxgrinning--00xx3:

I took lots of small videos of my mahal with my little Fuji compact camera on my visits there.
I watched them all the time in the UK when we were waiting for the visa application to be granted.

I still watch them sometimes, but she will not as she is embarrassed at how her English was back then :Cuckoo:

[aposhark]

just moved the bed to plug the adaptor into the spare socked and theres them tiny ants going in and out it and walking along the wall somewhere, about 10 of them, so i push bed back and unpluged the aircon plug above the bed, so ill use that one for now for my laptop, i noticed these ants outside the window, 1000s of them:cwm3::Cuckoo:

I blew hundreds of the little buggers out of a bag where some chocolate was stored.
They blew back into my eye and I was bitten many times. I couldn't open my right eye for a while :omg:

[Mrs Daddy]

glad someone`s having a good time.enjoy the rest of your holiday!

[keithAngel]

I find it helps if you give them all names:Rasp:

[fred]

Its gone awfully quiet in here..Hope he didnt lose his money or anything.:NoNo:

[IainBusby]

Its gone awfully quite in here..Hope he didnt lose his money or anything.:NoNo:

What Money? I thought he only had £100 to start with, it must be all gone by now!

[triple5]

What Money? I thought he only had £100 to start with, it must be all gone by now!

I hope not. I was going to ask him for a sub :D

[fred]

Well I was about to give you a sub but the Mrs just showed me an invoice for the kids school fees last month !! Anyway, I thought I`d ask Tony for 50 quid...If he had it on him?? Seeing he`s already here..
I`ll pay you back in June Tony.

[fred]

Tony?:Erm:

[triple5]

Hope he's ok, I know what those ants are like. Seriously Tony, let us know your still enjoying & doing fine?

[\\\\ToNy////]

just spent 20 mins typeing a reply, and coppied what i wrote just before the page dissapeared, but fore some reason it diddnt copy grrrrrr, so later ill type my message into a text doc on my pc then paste it on here, going to mall again now:)

[Sim11UK]

Well done Tony...sounds like life is good there...We're pleased for you. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[fred]

just spent 20 mins typeing a reply, and coppied what i wrote just before the page dissapeared, but fore some reason it diddnt copy grrrrrr, so later ill type my message into a text doc on my pc then paste it on here, going to mall again now:)

Good to hear from you Tony!! Sounds like you found yourself a top sugar Mummy!!
Respect!!
Fred.

[\\\\ToNy////]

tuesday i wasnt feeling well, was week and was sick once and skin was sensative to the touch, think it was heat exsaustion or dehydrated or somthing, sunday and monday was 40c in the house and was out with the family in the heat while they did there voteing, on tuesday night i was feeling alittle better and all the family went to the swimming place, i could only watch them all swim and was upsetting me because i realy wanted to swim with them, but i have a bandage on my leg to make it look the same size as my other leg, was born with this problem, but in the end i went in the shower and took off the bandage and went in the pool with my trousers on, was so happy and had a good laugh, its been 30 years since i last had a swim,
to be honest im tired of the constant eating here, i ate as much as i could at breakfast then 90 mins later it was eating time again, and when we went to the mall last night(ne pacific mall) i ate as much as i could to keep my missus happy and when we got home 30 mins later it was rice time again grrrrrr, i said to her im not hungry ive just ate as much as i can at the mall, this upset her then upset me and when i cry you would expect her to hug me, but no, she say she hated me and will kill me, she dost like me crying hehehe, my friends in the past have always said i get the crazy girls hehe, she says she wants me to gain weight so i look better, i said i tried to gain weight 5 years ago, i ate as much as i could and had weight gain drinks, no weight gained gust have a pop belly now, so im fat and thin at the same time, i think i have a high metabalism or my fireroid is over active so it seems impossible to gain weight,only on belly.:cwm3:
well last week we went to the british embassy to get the certificate to marrage thing, took 1 hour and cost 4600piso then went to the philippine embassy to get my visa extension from 21 days to 38 days, took 90 mins and 3000piso,
came here with 12000piso so got about 3000piso left.
today is my birthday, just want to relax and get better and hope my missus starts talking to me again hehehe:doh

[triple5]

Happy Birthday Tony :xxgrinning--00xx3: It could well be the heat thats made you sick. It can be quite deceiving, especially when its coudy those rays can still get you if your out there. I don't know what to suggest with the food, as I know Asians in general can take it quite personally if you knock back a meal offered to you. So you've got the marriage certificate, are you getting married this time or coming back later for the wedding?

[sars_notd_virus]

happy birthday tony!! since u got 3,000pesos left don't forget to treat your missus out for dinner,movie or spa...
and am sure she'll be talking to u endlessly

[\\\\ToNy////]

thankyou, she is talking to me again now, a movie would be good, but she cant keep still for more than 10 seconds before she has to get up and do somthing:crazy:
happy birthday tony!! since u got 3,000pesos left don't forget to treat your missus out for dinner,movie or spa...
and am sure she'll be talking to u endlessly

thankyou, is best if i keep out of the sun,espesialy with my big nose that gets rudolf red, should be getting married while im here and i hope to come back here at the end of the year, whens the coldest month here?
Happy Birthday Tony :xxgrinning--00xx3: It could well be the heat thats made you sick. It can be quite deceiving, especially when its coudy those rays can still get you if your out there. I don't know what to suggest with the food, as I know Asians in general can take it quite personally if you knock back a meal offered to you. So you've got the marriage certificate, are you getting married this time or coming back later for the wedding?

[liane]

Happy Birthday Tony :xxparty-smiley-050:
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[fred]

Happy birthday Tony!!
So are you getting married in a church or in the registry office? I wonder how much that costs these days??
Dont forget to save the airport tax for when you leave eh!
Dont worry about the food thing..Better too much than not enough..
Just give it to the dog when they are not looking...Thats what I usually do!!

[KeithD]

Just give it to the dog when they are not looking...Thats what I usually do!!

What are you doing with Tony's GF's dog? :Cuckoo:

[triple5]

whens the coldest month here?

i'm not sure if there is one :Erm: It always seems red hot to me :cwm23::icon_lol:

[\\\\ToNy////]

What are you doing with Tony's GF's dog? :Cuckoo:
:puppykisses: the dog has been trying to give it to me :Dill try slipping my meat under the table for the dog next time:cwm3:

[jimeve]

:puppykisses: the dog has been trying to give it to me :Dill try slipping my meat under the table for the dog next time:cwm3:

sounds a bit weird to me that Tony. :Erm:

[bornatbirth]

:puppykisses: the dog has been trying to give it to me :Dill try slipping my meat under the table for the dog next time:cwm3:

:Erm: try making love to your gf :icon_lol:

[fred]

Yeah,I wouldn't be slipping my meat under the table to just any old dog Tony..Specially when you GF is eating.:yikes:
Stick it in a doggy bag and do it later.

[Kukupops]

Hey Tony, do u fancy coming to our wedding on the 18th? :Erm: :) Its in Cabanatuan. Of course you're welcome to bring your gf, but not the whole family :D.....:yikes: :omg:
I'll ask Leah to ask the Boss how to give you my contact no. cos we're both newbies:doh:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Kukupops]

Oh pardon me...It's only me who's the newbie:doh:Cuckoo: :)

[KeithD]

Oh pardon me...It's only me who's the newbie:doh:Cuckoo: :)

Yeah... you're other half has been abusing the forum for yonks :action-smiley-081: :xxaction-smiley-047 :omg:

[joebloggs]

Hey Tony, do u fancy coming to our wedding on the 18th? :Erm: :) Its in Cabanatuan. Of course you're welcome to bring your gf, but not the whole family :D.....:yikes: :omg:
I'll ask Leah to ask the Boss how to give you my contact no. cos we're both newbies:doh:xxgrinning--00xx3:

:Wave: your wedding :yikes::yikes: you've been on here for near 3 yrs :D

where have you been newbie :Rasp:

[KeithD]

:Wave: your wedding :yikes::yikes: you've been on here for near 3 yrs :D

where have you been newbie :Rasp:

...trying to figure out how to get big plug in little tight hole :cwm24:

[triple5]

...trying to figure out how to get big plug in little tight hole :cwm24:

:laugher:

[keithAngel]

...trying to figure out how to get big plug in little tight hole :cwm24:

I believe medical assistance will be on hand :rolleyes:

[LEAHnew]

Yeah... you're other half has been abusing the forum for yonks :action-smiley-081: :xxaction-smiley-047 :omg:

:yikes::xxaction-smiley-047:D:Rasp::Cuckoo:


:Wave: your wedding :yikes::yikes: you've been on here for near 3 yrs :D

where have you been newbie :Rasp:
:icon_lol::icon_lol: He is newey newbie:D


...trying to figure out how to get big plug in little tight hole :cwm24:

:Erm:translation please:D I need Doc Alan to explain this matter:D


I believe medical assistance will be on hand :rolleyes:
:rolleyes:

[scott&ligaya]

Hi Chris and Leah, congratulations in advance for Wednesday, woooohoooooo at last you guys got there. :Jump::Jump::Jump:
Ligaya and the babies are back in Puerto Princessa now so if you fancy dropping by she would be very happy to see you both. When you get back give me a call

[RickyR]

Tony,
I'm going to be completely honest and blunt with you here, and say something which many people on here are probably thinking, although some may disagree with. I very much doubt you'll listen, but I'll say it anyway.

Firstly, I think you've taken a big risk travelling to the Philippines on such a low budget. You haven't allowed any leeway for emergencies, flight delays or health issues. Firstly, and most important, ensure that you have the 750 PHP departure tax, YOU WILL NEED this at the airport when you leave. If you don't have this, you could find yourself in very serious trouble, and remember the laws, civil rights and the way the Philippines police treat these situations is very different to the UK, and a jobsworth who wants to make himself look big by being hard with the Foreigner could put you a very precarious situation.
Secondly, if you have not done so yet, YOU MUST register with the Foreign Office on http://www.fco.gov.uk/en/travel-and-living-abroad/staying-safe/Locate .
Thirdly, I would highly recommend that you leave you travel details, current address and plans with your family or friends in the UK, if you haven't done so as yet.

Now, for the honest part, I seriously believe you should take some time to consider that your girlfriend is using/scamming you for a UK visa. From some of your posts, I would really suggest that you proceed with caution and some suspicion. If any of the forum members here are inviting you to meet up with them, I would recommend that too and bring along your missus, they will probably be able to give you a lot of good advice.
I know this isn't what you want to hear, but I think someone has to be honest with you.

Be aware that the UK is still having issues with the ash cloud affecting flights into and out of the UK, and should you find yourself delayed at Manila Airport or in Dubai, you may not get as much support as you'd expect and will probably need some money.

[joebloggs]

I hope he listens to you Ricky, i doubt it thou,

getting married and hes only met the girl for a couple of weeks on his first trip, and whos idea Tony is it to get married on this first trip ?

it all seems very rushed to me :NoNo:

[triple5]

Never understood guys who marry on the first trip :Erm: I know it's costly going and back forth a lot, but it's a decision you could regret for a long time if you don't take your time to properly know her. How are you affording the wedding Tony? Ricky's right in what he says, but only you can make the decision if she's genuine or not. Tell her you love it so much in the Philippines that you want to come here rather than bring her to the UK. See what reaction you get. Might give you a clue :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Sim11UK]

Some good advice above, though I think Tony seems resigned to his fate. :Erm:

It amazes me too, when people rush to get married? (I've often said it on here & probably offended a couple of people, who as far as I know don't post on here anymore)...You need several, fairly frequent trips out there.
I got married on the 4th trip...I don't have any money, but I made it. Some seem to want to marry, as soon as someone shows a bit of interest in them.

[DaveUK]

Some good advice above, though I think Tony seems resigned to his fate. :Erm:

It amazes me too, when people rush to get married? (I've often said it on here & probably offended a couple of people, who as far as I know don't post on here anymore)...You need several, fairly frequent trips out there.
I got married on the 4th trip...I don't have any money, but I made it. Some seem to want to marry, as soon as someone shows a bit of interest in them.

I was the same as you Sim. Myself and Yam were married on the 4th trip. The fact that the time I spent in the Phils on that 4th trip came close to doubling the amount of time we'd actually spent in each other's company did cross my mind.

Don't get me wrong, never at any point did I think we shouldn't be getting married, but I do wonder what must go through the minds of the guys who plan on marrying on the first visit to see their woman!

Of course, as those of us in a relationship know, that time apart leaves a LOT of time for talking and getting to know each other, but spending 24/7 together for 2+ weeks definitely helps to give a little better insight into whether or not you really are compatible. How I've blagged it this far though, I'll never know! :yikes:

[IainBusby]

Never understood guys who marry on the first trip

I agree, I married on the second trip and between the first and second trip there was an eight month gap with almost daily communication on yahoo messenger and texts etc. I think it would be easy to get swept along into getting married when your actually there, but I think it would be much better for Tony to come home, communicate online for a while and reflect on the whole idea of marriage and especially if this girl and himself are really compatible.

[IainBusby]

to be honest im tired of the constant eating here, i ate as much as i could at breakfast then 90 mins later it was eating time again, and when we went to the mall last night(ne pacific mall) i ate as much as i could to keep my missus happy and when we got home 30 mins later it was rice time again grrrrrr, i said to her im not hungry ive just ate as much as i can at the mall, this upset her then upset me and when i cry you would expect her to hug me, but no, she say she hated me and will kill me


hope my missus starts talking to me again hehehe:doh

I really think he should wait and get to know her better if she's doing tampos already and they've only known each other such a short time, what will she be like when they're married.:yikes::yikes::yikes:

[South-east boy]

I really think he should wait and get to know her better if she's doing tampos already and they've only known each other such a short time, what will she be like when they're married.:yikes::yikes::yikes:


Yes, sounds slightly immature behaviour to me and would certainly put me off them! From what I've read it seems like the wedding was planned before he even went and had met her. How much contact have you had with her before meeting her Tony? As I mentioned before, the longer time you have spent in contact together and in person, the better the chance of the visa being granted. If you haven't had any or much contact before + getting married at the first time of meeting, these will arouse suspisions and will not help in having a visa granted.

[stevewool]

its hard to explain this marriage thing as long as the 2 people are happy and are wanting the best for each other then who cares, me and emma started talking getting on for 3 years now planning the future and my first visit was last xmas , i know emma is the one for me but was a little frightened of commiting again and again,but onec she comes here we shall marry and live here for a few more years before going back to the phils to retire

[triple5]

I don't know if this is true of all Filipinas and their families, I'm just going off my 2 experiences with girlfriends here. The first one obviously wanted to get married asap, and had a major strop the last day because I hadn't proposed. Her and her family went completely overboard to make me feel at home and welcome. This time, I get the impression my gfs family are a bit wary of me if anything, just curious of my intentions I guess. I think they're warming to me more now they can see how serious I am about their daughter :)

I know most filipinos are naturally friendly, but with the first experience it was definitely OTT and all for the benefit of getting their daughter/sister married off to a foreigner. I'm not saying any guy who goes over and meets a friendly family is being sucked up to for that reason. I'd just be a bit suspicious myself if I went through that again.

[maria_and_matt]

I don't know if this is true of all Filipinas and their families, I'm just going off my 2 experiences with girlfriends here. The first one obviously wanted to get married asap, and had a major strop the last day because I hadn't proposed. Her and her family went completely overboard to make me feel at home and welcome. This time, I get the impression my gfs family are a bit wary of me if anything, just curious of my intentions I guess. I think they're warming to me more now they can see how serious I am about their daughter :)

I know most filipinos are naturally friendly, but with the first experience it was definitely OTT and all for the benefit of getting their daughter/sister married off to a foreigner. I'm not saying any guy who goes over and meets a friendly family is being sucked up to for that reason. I'd just be a bit suspicious myself if I went through that again.

filipino hospitality seem OTT to foreigners. my parents was very accommodating to past bfs filipino or my ex brit hubby. i tell you from my experience that filipino parents dont show hospitality to 'marry off' their daughters to foreigners. when i eventually married my brit bf my father told me that letting me go is the hardest thing he has ever done in his life. no parent wants their daughter to go off to a foreign land into the 'unknown'.

[South-east boy]

But after what happened with Suzie after Christmas where she just disappeared and it turned out that this Danish 'stranger' friend of her friends husband had gone to seen her, had stayed with the family, had proposed at the end with her proclaiming that she had met the love of her life after knowing him only a few days!), it does seem that a lot of Filipinas & their familes do expect their foreign bf to propose before going home at the first time of meeting and I guess it could be easy to fall to the pressure if you don't stand up for yourself + also get carried along with the whole thing without standing back & thinking clearly. :doh

[RickyR]

I don't want anyone reading this thread to think we're all sceptical and stereotyping all Filipinas. With a population of 92,000,000 you couldn't do that. In my experience the country is a wonderful place, with a wide variety of people of differing backgrounds, cultures, education and values; as you'd expect from any country.
However what I think everyone is trying to say, some of the dating sites, and some of the foreigner/fil situations do entice the wrong kind of people from both sides who are maybe not exactly looking for love. Some of them are families looking for an escape and a better life through marrying a beautiful daughter away, and on the flip side it's a men looking to selfishly take advantage of another culture. Thus, it is prudent to go in with your eyes open and take your time getting to know the person you may spend the rest of your life with.
There are unscrupulous people everywhere in the world, so Tony, if you reading this, proceed with caution, before you enter into a situation you will come to regret.

[triple5]

filipino hospitality seem OTT to foreigners. my parents was very accommodating to past bfs filipino or my ex brit hubby. i tell you from my experience that filipino parents dont show hospitality to 'marry off' their daughters to foreigners. when i eventually married my brit bf my father told me that letting me go is the hardest thing he has ever done in his life. no parent wants their daughter to go off to a foreign land into the 'unknown'.

I disagree, there's many here who are happy for their daughters to go abroad if it means money being sent back. I did say it was from my own experience, and there's no doubt in my mind they were sucking up because they thought there might be a cash cow in it for them. But don't get me wrong, I don't think all Filipino hospitality is something to be suspicious of. Far from it.

You're right Tim, a lot of them would build an alter in the arrivals lounge if they could :icon_lol:

[triple5]

filipino hospitality seem OTT to foreigners. my parents was very accommodating to past bfs filipino or my ex brit hubby. i tell you from my experience that filipino parents dont show hospitality to 'marry off' their daughters to foreigners. when i eventually married my brit bf my father told me that letting me go is the hardest thing he has ever done in his life. no parent wants their daughter to go off to a foreign land into the 'unknown'.

I disagree, there's many here who are happy for their daughters to go abroad if it means money being sent back. I did say it was from my own experience, and there's no doubt in my mind they were sucking up because they thought there might be a cash cow in it for them. But don't get me wrong, I don't think all Filipino hospitality is something to be suspicious of. Far from it.

You're right Tim, a lot of them would build an alter in the arrivals lounge if they could :icon_lol:

[KeithD]

...it does seem that a lot of Filipinas & their familes do expect their foreign bf to propose before going home at the first time of meeting....

Surely if you've been talking to the girl online for months, and you travel 8000 miles the only intention is eventually marriage. If you are only looking at it as a trial, or you're not sure, look for someone more local... like the pub.

[maria_and_matt]

I disagree, there's many here who are happy for their daughters to go abroad if it means money being sent back. I did say it was from my own experience, and there's no doubt in my mind they were sucking up because they thought there might be a cash cow in it for them. But don't get me wrong, I don't think all Filipino hospitality is something to be suspicious of. Far from it.

You're right Tim, a lot of them would build an alter in the arrivals lounge if they could :icon_lol:

and i also said speaking from MY experience... my parents were never happy that i married a foreigner.

[laurel]

I don't want anyone reading this thread to think we're all sceptical and stereotyping all Filipinas. With a population of 92,000,000 you couldn't do that. In my experience the country is a wonderful place, with a wide variety of people of differing backgrounds, cultures, education and values; as you'd expect from any country.
However what I think everyone is trying to say, some of the dating sites, and some of the foreigner/fil situations do entice the wrong kind of people from both sides who are maybe not exactly looking for love. Some of them are families looking for an escape and a better life through marrying a beautiful daughter away, and on the flip side it's a men looking to selfishly take advantage of another culture. Thus, it is prudent to go in with your eyes open and take your time getting to know the person you may spend the rest of your life with.
There are unscrupulous people everywhere in the world, so Tony, if you reading this, proceed with caution, before you enter into a situation you will come to regret.


Wise words indeed

[cheeky]

I disagree, there's many here who are happy for their daughters to go abroad if it means money being sent back. I did say it was from my own experience, and there's no doubt in my mind they were sucking up because they thought there might be a cash cow in it for them. But don't get me wrong, I don't think all Filipino hospitality is something to be suspicious of. Far from it.

You're right Tim, a lot of them would build an alter in the arrivals lounge if they could :icon_lol:

You say there are many who are happy to marry off their daughters, well cannot argue with your personal experience but like Maria says its very hard for most parents to watch their daughter move to the other side of the world.Ricky takes a more holistic view that there are all types in a population of 92m, some that fit your experiences and many like Maria's and my own that dont.
My fiancee Maris family treated me very well but only once they realised I was a decent guy and have left us alone to decide our own future....so from my experience quite the opposite.

[triple5]

Hope people aren't getting the impression that I'm tarring them all with the same brush here :Erm: My first experience is the complete opposite of what it is now. I'm not even sure my gfs parents would even allow her to come to England. I know I still have a long way to go before she's ready to marry, and even then I'm not 100% certain they will agree to it. Keeps me on my toes anyway :icon_lol: So this time around things are more like you describe Maria and Cheeky :)

[pennybarry]

I agree, I married on the second trip and between the first and second trip there was an eight month gap with almost daily communication on yahoo messenger and texts etc. I think it would be easy to get swept along into getting married when your actually there, but I think it would be much better for Tony to come home, communicate online for a while and reflect on the whole idea of marriage and especially if this girl and himself are really compatible.


Never understood guys who marry on the first trip :Erm: I know it's costly going and back forth a lot, but it's a decision you could regret for a long time if you don't take your time to properly know her. How are you affording the wedding Tony? Ricky's right in what he says, but only you can make the decision if she's genuine or not. Tell her you love it so much in the Philippines that you want to come here rather than bring her to the UK. See what reaction you get. Might give you a clue :xxgrinning--00xx3:


Some good advice above, though I think Tony seems resigned to his fate. :Erm:

It amazes me too, when people rush to get married? (I've often said it on here & probably offended a couple of people, who as far as I know don't post on here anymore)...You need several, fairly frequent trips out there.
I got married on the 4th trip...I don't have any money, but I made it. Some seem to want to marry, as soon as someone shows a bit of interest in them.

Well I agree with you boys!:xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:
Marrying on the first trip is very rush and I have witnessed some of it didn't last their relationship and some struggling.

I hope Tony will open his eyes the sooner the better.

[Steve.r]

Tony appears to be AWOL......maybe he has run out of cash already.......:icon_lol:

Tell us whats going on Tony we wanna know :)

[KeithD]

Tony appears to be AWOL....
Maybe he's at the birth of his first child :omg:

[Steve.r]

Maybe he's at the birth of his first child :omg:

:icon_lol::icon_lol::action-smiley-081:

[sars_notd_virus]

he's probably got better things to do like spending all day in bed with his beautiful gf than hanging out in the forum ...goodluck to him as well:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[bornatbirth]

maybe after eating all that food, tony feels like giving birth :)

i have to admit tony needs some help and guidance, well a lot and i hope he isnt being scammed or hes very lucky and found a filipina who pays her own way? :Erm:

[laurel]

Still no word from Tony?????????????
Hope he's ok!!!!!

[Arthur Little]

Maybe he's at the birth of his first child :omg:

... :omg: ... the second "immaculate conception" ... and he's only BEEN out there for three weeks!!!

[stevewool]

hes skint the poor bloke or on the loo with all the food hes eaten

[Steve.r]

Maybe we need to send Leah to the Pacific Mall in Cabanatuan to try to find him :icon_lol:

[LEAHnew]

:D:Erm: I'll try to hunt him:doh:D

[Arthur Little]

To the best of MY knowledge, he was to be staying there for about a month at most ... in which case his time'll be up any day now! :rolleyes:

[KeithD]

To the best of MY knowledge, he was to be staying there for about a month at most ... in which case his time'll be up any day now! :rolleyes:

If he can get the chains off :D

[bornatbirth]

If he can get the chains off :D

with only 12,000 peso, surely they will glad to get rid of him :rolleyes:

[Doc Alan]

I have missed a lot of threads while I was in the Philippines myself ...and sorry to ask the bleeding obvious, but...are there any pics of "Tony" on his visit to Nueva Ecija ? Has anyone met him ?:doh

[Arthur Little]

Last WE "heard", he was being "force-fed" ... and sharing his meals with the family dog. :cwm24: Oh ... and I believe he'd taken the brunt of his girlfriend's tampo on occasion. :23_116_6[1]: Not that the two things are necessarily connected :NoNo: ... at least, I don't think so ... :omg:

[IainBusby]

I have missed a lot of threads while I was in the Philippines myself ...and sorry to ask the bleeding obvious, but...are there any pics of "Tony" on his visit to Nueva Ecija ? Has anyone met him ?:doh

He has not been heard of or from for quite a while now, maybe we should inform the British Embassy in Manila. At least we know that if he's gets kidnapped they'll soon let him go.... once they realise that he's got less money than they have.

[DaveUK]

He (or at least someone) was logged on here a few days ago. Wonder why he hasn't posted! :Erm:

[Sim11UK]

He (or at least someone) was logged on here a few days ago. Wonder why he hasn't posted! :Erm:

Yes I noticed he was on here about a week ago, but he didn't make any replies...I'm sure he's alright?

[Arthur Little]

Yes I noticed he was on here about a week ago, but he didn't make any replies...I'm sure he's alright?

That's right ... :iagree:! I checked too. He last logged-on 10 days ago, on May 17.

[Notavirusalso]

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