How do you deal with negative comments about The Philippines/Filipina's?

[Englishman2010]

Just wondering how you react or deal with the numerous negative comments and incorrect stereotypes about The Philippines and Filipina's from people who have never been there and probably never met a Filipino/a in their life?

Me, I don't really care what people say or think about me, whatever they think is their opinion and they won't change it to suit me, so I let them get on with it.

However, I feel that I have to come to the defense of my Filipina g/f and The Philippines.

Whenever I mention I have a Filipina g/f or that I am going to The Philippines, the usual comments I get range from tongue in cheek jokes to those who want to be helpful/interfere and warn me of the dangers, to the ones i hear 3rd hand.

Typical comments are:
She's only after a passport and your money.
Be careful, I had a 'friend' who got scammed by a Filipina...etc
Check she isn't really a post operative tranny
Aren't they all prostitutes
I bet she already has a husband who keeps out the way when you are in town
Make sure you don't catch anything when you go there
I bet its full of old white pervs and paedo's

etc, etc... you all know the score by now

Anyway, my beautiful Filipina makes me far happier and looks after me far better than my ex-wife ever could, and she's kinder to my wallet (just).

[raynaputi]

Hey Englishman! I'm not sure if this question is just for the guys...but being a Filipina, I myself hear it quite often, especially with people I've met online who have been told of that as well..Honestly I can't blame some of them sometimes for their comments..coz let's face the truth, there are lots of Filipina who do such things...I myself even give advice to them to be careful...BUT, I make sure to tell them not every Filipina is like those girls! We Filipinas in the forum can attest to that...:xxgrinning--00xx3: When I hear those things from foreigner friends, I just tell them many of us can prove them WRONG..and then let them see what I mean thru my actions, attitude and manners..if they still think the same no matter what I tell them, then I just ignore their comments and doesn't let my life be affected by those who don't understand and know me.. I'M ONE PROUD FILIPINA no matter what everyone else think of us! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[somebody]

Just wondering how you react or deal with the numerous negative comments and incorrect stereotypes about The Philippines and Filipina's from people who have never been there and probably never met a Filipino/a in their life?

Me, I don't really care what people say or think about me, whatever they think is their opinion and they won't change it to suit me, so I let them get on with it.

However, I feel that I have to come to the defense of my Filipina g/f and The Philippines.

Whenever I mention I have a Filipina g/f or that I am going to The Philippines, the usual comments I get range from tongue in cheek jokes to those who want to be helpful/interfere and warn me of the dangers, to the ones i hear 3rd hand.

Typical comments are:
She's only after a passport and your money.
Be careful, I had a 'friend' who got scammed by a Filipina...etc
Check she isn't really a post operative tranny
Aren't they all prostitutes
I bet she already has a husband who keeps out the way when you are in town
Make sure you don't catch anything when you go there
I bet its full of old white pervs and paedo's

etc, etc... you all know the score by now

Anyway, my beautiful Filipina makes me far happier and looks after me far better than my ex-wife ever could, and she's kinder to my wallet (just).



Firstly I would not worry to much about it sadly people will say things one thing i have learned is people from all round the world seem to old bigoted views which seem to be rude about one group or another.

Many if not all of your friends and family hopefully once they meet your Wife and she is suddenly a person not a simply a name will suddenly have a different view point.

For many indigeous Brits who have lived among their own for most of there life it must be tough. I have to say where the Wife and I live in London mixed race couples are nothing unusual. Knowing Fillipino/as is nothing out of the ordinary. But I can imagine that elsewhere in the UK thats not always the same.

Sadly the best way is to grin and bear it know the people to avoid and show the others what an amazing person your Mahal is.

Funny how people change once they meet people and get to know people who they once though lack of awareness used to dismiss.

[RickyR]

Know more about the Philippines then them, and be able to talk about it and your missus confidently. Read a few travel books, at least you'll be able confidently put them right on incorrect assumptions.

[triple5]

I have nothing to do with those kind of people anymore. Put up a few pics on facebook of the perfect beaches here then delete those "friends" a few days later. Those kind of people who make retarded comments are usually the kind who live in boxes staring at boxes every night, then think they're living the dream going to benidorm once a year. You know the type, complain about all the Indians in england, then treat themselves to an Indian takeaway once a month :doh

Don't take it personally mate :xxgrinning--00xx3: The world's full of the narrow-minded fools :rolleyes:

[sars_notd_virus]

Hi Englishman2010..you dont need to deal with negative comments about filipinas.
Women will always be Women regardless of AGE and RACE,..a female specie who will complete the world of Men with great pleasure and satisfaction and should be handled with TLC (tender loving care):heartshape1:

[johncar54]

Stereotyping can be a problem but I think it is universal.

I spent 5 months travelling in USA (15,000 miles) the result I don't like Americans. Having said that I have some very good friends who are Americans.

We live in Spain. The UK media is constantly harping on about 'The Costa Del Crime' implying that, many of us, are criminals. The relatively few Brits who get into trouble here, tends to make us feel we are all being considered as a problem in some way.

I am on the point of taking up Irish Nationality. Last week's headlines here were commenting on 'The Irish Mafia' who is active on the coast. Guess when 'I am Irish' that will include me !

My children in UK were very pleased when I decided not to continue my relationship with a Thai lady but look for a wife in the Philippines as 'All Thais are prostitutes' but 'All Filipinos are nurses.'

I guess at the end of the day we must try to show by example that who ever we are, good, bad or otherwise; we are individuals and should be judged as such.

[pennybarry]

We Filipinas learned how to accept and respect what others have to say and want even if it's different from what we expect if they are speaking generally. BUT we also answer them back to defense ourselves. We hate those Filipinas who contributes bad reputation, destroy our morality as a whole and harming other foreigners by scamming them. We are proud of being Filipina for being educated, beautiful, hardworking, simple, sensible and tried to show the world how good we are! I am a Filipina! :heartshape1:
We can all be Proudly Pinay!:xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3:

[stevewool]

hi englishman, when i use to talk to people about the phils they always came back thinking thailand, i have never been to thailand so cannot comment , but i have been to the phils my future wife is from the phils,i have never known more pleasent people and to tell the truth the people that know me well think i am not that silly now and i think they are a little jeolouse too so i say stuff them them all

[KeithD]

Ask those same people to point out the Philippines on a map and 90%+ won't have a clue.... uneducated most of them that probably believe soaps are real :doh

The English are known as thugs in the EU, Britain as invaders in the Middle East, former Colonialists in India, and many other countries... Poms in Aus .... and if we reverse them they'd be classed as racist views & comments in this country :action-smiley-081:

Personally, as long as you are happy, who gives a :furious3: what others say or think.... I never do? :Sex:

[les_taxi]

My girlfriends picture is my screen saver on my phone and when i get a call the phone lights up and anyone sitting behing me in taxi can see her picture for a few seconds (due to position of phone on dashboard)
I usuallly hear (you lucky sod):xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Alan]

There's only one word for this attitude - ignorance!

Al.:)

[aposhark]

I tell people very proudly that I am married to the most beautiful, loving, tactile woman in the world.
I tell them that I have travelled a lot and, in my opinion, there is no place in the world that can better the Philippines for the beautiful nature of the people.
They seem to glaze over and wish they were there :icon_lol:
I don't really get any bad comments, especially when they say they haven't been there.....
So, how would they know?

Englishman, you say you are not bothered.....but you are.
Use your intellect to educate them, without them realising you are doing it!

[Englishman2010]

Very good replies from all of you, thank you very much. I agree with everything that you all say. I already do much of what's suggested, but there are some other good tips too.

Yes the British are ignorant, I've been lucky enough to see a lot of the world and am always embarrassed when I see a drunk Brit giving a customs official somewhere in the third world a hard time. Unfortunately, Chavs are allowed to have passports too.

[gWaPito]

I have nothing to do with those kind of people anymore. Put up a few pics on facebook of the perfect beaches here then delete those "friends" a few days later. Those kind of people who make retarded comments are usually the kind who live in boxes staring at boxes every night, then think they're living the dream going to benidorm once a year. You know the type, complain about all the Indians in england, then treat themselves to an Indian takeaway once a month :doh

Don't take it personally mate :xxgrinning--00xx3: The world's full of the narrow-minded fools :rolleyes:

Even family, which includes mine and I'm talking about my Son Daughter and first wife.
My wife accepts them, they will not, they have even tried 'It's us or her' thing!
Jane knew I have been married before and that I have 2 grown up kids 26 and 29.
Jane has accepted them and loved them, they on the other hand will not.

I have wondered why they are like this as my brother and sisters mother and father are not like this.

I put it down to being away from home while they were growing up, they were spoilt by there mother.
I guess it was to make up for my absences making a better life, how wrong was I !!!!!!

My loyalty is with my wife of course, they say blood is thicker than water, in this case it's not.
My wife is number 1 and always will be.:)

[gWaPito]

I have nothing to do with those kind of people anymore. Put up a few pics on facebook of the perfect beaches here then delete those "friends" a few days later. Those kind of people who make retarded comments are usually the kind who live in boxes staring at boxes every night, then think they're living the dream going to benidorm once a year. You know the type, complain about all the Indians in england, then treat themselves to an Indian takeaway once a month :doh

Don't take it personally mate :xxgrinning--00xx3: The world's full of the narrow-minded fools :rolleyes:

Even family, which includes mine and I'm talking about my Son Daughter and first wife.
My wife accepts them, they will not, they have even tried 'It's us or her' thing!
Jane knew I have been married before and that I have 2 grown up kids 26 and 29.
Jane has accepted them and loved them, they on the other hand will not.

I have wondered why they are like this as my brother and sisters mother and father are not like this.

I put it down to being away from home while they were growing up, they were spoilt by there mother.
I guess it was to make up for my absences making a better life, how wrong was I !!!!!!

My loyalty is with my wife of course, they say blood is thicker than water, in this case it's not.
My wife is number 1 and always will be.:D

[nigel]

Both Filipinas and Thai Girls maybe Malaysian and other Asian girls get talked about like they're prostitutes who say things like "You handsome man... me love you long time..no money no honey!" I guess it's an inaccurate view of them but harmless fun mostly...I've had fun with such things sometimes...

The comment I don't like is the one that goes "Whats your wife cost ten dollar?" cause this would imply she's cheap or something... it could be friendly sillyness I suppose...but if it isn't...:cwm23::cwm23::cwm23:

[Englishman2010]

Both Filipinas and Thai Girls maybe Malaysian and other Asian girls get talked about like they're prostitutes who say things like "You handsome man... me love you long time..no money no honey!" I guess it's an inaccurate view of them but harmless fun mostly...I've had fun with such things sometimes...

The comment I don't like is the one that goes "Whats your wife cost ten dollar?" cause this would imply she's cheap or something... it could be friendly sillyness I suppose...but if it isn't...:cwm23::cwm23::cwm23:



That's mostly what I get, tongue in cheek stuff like 'me love u long time' 'hope you didn't catch anything' or 'check for meat and 2 veg' type comments on my facebook photo's.
I think that most Brit's think that The Philippines is part of/next door to Thailand and it is the same, or the whole of Asia is the same.

[joebloggs]

That's mostly what I get, tongue in cheek stuff like 'me love u long time' 'hope you didn't catch anything' or 'check for meat and 2 veg' type comments on my facebook photo's.
I think that most Brit's think that The Philippines is part of/next door to Thailand and it is the same, or the whole of Asia is the same.

you can try and ignore the :censored: or :cwm3: them, but i try and educate them a little, i tell people now my misses is from an island called Palawan near the south china sea, Google a couple of pictures to show them where my misses family live, and the only reply i usually get is 'lucky :censored:" :rolleyes:

[Steve.r]

To quite honest, the general person in the street who makes that sort of comment wouldn't even be able to point to the Philippines on the map. I have heard a lot of comments like the ones already mentioned, but shug it off as just narrow minded ignorance. But when does this change? where do you draw the line? Do the comments stop when your friends know you are serious or engaged to your Mahal? I would find it an insult 'to me' and 'my Mahal' if someone I knew came out with those comments knowing we were togther. :cwm23::cwm23:

[DaveUK]

Before Yam arrived in the UK, I've found 99.9% of cases when friends and work colleagues asked me about Yam or when I would be next seeing her, it was always "When are you going back to Thailand?"!! :doh

It frustrated me when they did as you know they don't mean anything bad by it, but you do get a glimpse into what they are thinking sub-consciously!! I always want to slap them and it "upsets" me that even my friends can't even make the effort to get the country right! But as it's my friends, I also don't want to make too big a deal of it as like I say, they don't consciously mean anything nasty by it!

If it ever does happen now, I just look at them disapprovingly and sigh very obviously. Then if they don't get it, I point it out and they feel suitably bad about it and apologise :)

[triple5]

when friends and work colleagues asked me about Yam or when I would be next seeing her, it was always "When are you going back to Thailand?"!!

Yep, I've heard that one before :Brick: One time, right after I said I'm going to the PHILIPPINES, I got, "Hahaha you're not going to come back with a Thai bride are ya?"

Like Steve says, most of them couldn't even point it out on a map. Their loss :rolleyes:

[Languish]

I have had to be somewhat economical with the truth occasionally - especially in the beginning, but since my visit in April, its less of a concern to conceal my feelings and intentions... personally i don't give a rats what they think.

[Dedworth]

Rarely happened to me but would suggest, broad shoulders, water off a ducks back, sticks and stones won't break type attitude

[KeithD]

Just ask them who'd they'd rather :Sex:, their own wife or yours ..... you know what the truth is ;)

[les_taxi]

Just ask them who'd they'd rather :Sex:, their own wife or yours ..... you know what the truth is ;)

Amen to that:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Englishman2010]

Rarely happened to me but would suggest, broad shoulders, water off a ducks back, sticks and stones won't break type attitude

:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[bornatbirth]

theres a element of truth in whatever they say, most people dont even know where the philipines is, so why let it bother you?, why not inform them and show them a photo of your wife :D

[malditako]

am not bother at all...who are them to prove ourselves (filipinas) anyway. i guess they are just ignorant, uneducated and too nosy about who they are and from country they came from...

[nigel]

'hope you didn't catch anything'Oooooh I do not like that!??:cwm23::cwm23::cwm23:


Other comments I get are "I bet she's a petite little thing! Is her name Ding Ding?" I guess this is just friendly fun...

[KeithD]

I just tell them they can come round and meet her as long as she's not busy killing wild buffalo with her hands :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[English Rose]

Sadly I got the same sort of thing from my sons as well as my friends. I thought I had brought them up better.

[gWaPito]

Sadly I got the same sort of thing from my sons as well as my friends. I thought I had brought them up better.

It has been hard for me as I stated in post 15.

Only my family has a problem, she has loads of work friends and where we work in the same place, they all know Jane as my wife and nobody has a problem with us.

I have, in fact Jane and I have both tried so dam hard to get them to accept us and it is 'us' because we come as a package, you can't accept one with out the other.
Together we stand and all that.
Of course I love my kids but, they made me choose and Jane will always come on top.
In an ideal world we would all get along nicely, there is still no reason why not in the future.
My 26yo Daughter texted me to say 'I don't have a Dad anymore and I have deleted you from my phone'.
I replyed and said 'OK Emma, we are here and remember we love you'.
We believe they will come round to our thinking and realise life is just too short.
It's all very sad. I'm so disappointed, I would never of talked to my Dad like that, I guess it's the world we live in here, the UK.
I can't imagine this happening in the Philippines, being spoken to like that.

Anyway Like Jane say's 'we got jobs, our health and a great future all mapped out and all our plans have come to bear fruit so far'.:)

My ray of sunshine:D

[Sim11UK]

It has been hard for me as I stated in post 15.

Only my family has a problem, she has loads of work friends and where we work in the same place, they all know Jane as my wife and nobody has a problem with us.

I have, in fact Jane and I have both tried so dam hard to get them to accept us and it is 'us' because we come as a package, you can't accept one with out the other.
Together we stand and all that.
Of course I love my kids but, they made me choose and Jane will always come on top.
In an ideal world we would all get along nicely, there is still no reason why not in the future.
My 26yo Daughter texted me to say 'I don't have a Dad anymore and I have deleted you from my phone'.
I replyed and said 'OK Emma, we are here and remember we love you'.
We believe they will come round to our thinking and realise life is just too short.
It's all very sad. I'm so disappointed, I would never of talked to my Dad like that, I guess it's the world we live in here, the UK.
I can't imagine this happening in the Philippines, being spoken to like that.

Anyway Like Jane say's 'we got jobs, our health and a great future all mapped out and all our plans have come to bear fruit so far'.:)

My ray of sunshine:D

That is very sad to hear that, about your family :NoNo: I can't imagine that happening.
I would do the same though, if in your shoes...I hope things sort themselves, in time.

[malditako]

It has been hard for me as I stated in post 15.

Only my family has a problem, she has loads of work friends and where we work in the same place, they all know Jane as my wife and nobody has a problem with us.

I have, in fact Jane and I have both tried so dam hard to get them to accept us and it is 'us' because we come as a package, you can't accept one with out the other.
Together we stand and all that.
Of course I love my kids but, they made me choose and Jane will always come on top.
In an ideal world we would all get along nicely, there is still no reason why not in the future.
My 26yo Daughter texted me to say 'I don't have a Dad anymore and I have deleted you from my phone'.
I replyed and said 'OK Emma, we are here and remember we love you'.
We believe they will come round to our thinking and realise life is just too short.
It's all very sad. I'm so disappointed, I would never of talked to my Dad like that, I guess it's the world we live in here, the UK.
I can't imagine this happening in the Philippines, being spoken to like that.

Anyway Like Jane say's 'we got jobs, our health and a great future all mapped out and all our plans have come to bear fruit so far'.:)

My ray of sunshine:D

sorry to hear that..hope everything will be fine soon :)

[sars_notd_virus]

Anyway Like Jane say's 'we got jobs, our health and a great future all mapped out and all our plans have come to bear fruit so far'.:)

My ray of sunshine:D

couple working as a team..i think thats the most important in life:xxgrinning--00xx3:
give my regards to Jane

[triple5]

It has been hard for me as I stated in post 15.

Only my family has a problem, she has loads of work friends and where we work in the same place, they all know Jane as my wife and nobody has a problem with us.

I have, in fact Jane and I have both tried so dam hard to get them to accept us and it is 'us' because we come as a package, you can't accept one with out the other.
Together we stand and all that.
Of course I love my kids but, they made me choose and Jane will always come on top.
In an ideal world we would all get along nicely, there is still no reason why not in the future.
My 26yo Daughter texted me to say 'I don't have a Dad anymore and I have deleted you from my phone'.
I replyed and said 'OK Emma, we are here and remember we love you'.
We believe they will come round to our thinking and realise life is just too short.
It's all very sad. I'm so disappointed, I would never of talked to my Dad like that, I guess it's the world we live in here, the UK.
I can't imagine this happening in the Philippines, being spoken to like that.

Anyway Like Jane say's 'we got jobs, our health and a great future all mapped out and all our plans have come to bear fruit so far'.:)

My ray of sunshine:D

That's harsh mate :NoNo: What's their reason, have they said? My situations nowhere near that bad, but I know people are saying nasty things behind my back, maybe to my kids. People tend to think we should spend the rest of our lives after a break-up being lonely or having another conventional UK relationship :rolleyes:

[adam&chryss]

Ah the old " anyone that doesnt like The Philippines is stupid" scenario again.
Ive had many comments since i began dating a filipina to being married to one now. Mostly the comments are true.
1. bet you know western union? yep i do and yes i`ve sent money using them.
2. if i went there i could have a wife like yours too its easy! yep i expect you could do that.
3. its very dirty with lots of poor people and slums... yes it is like that but of course not everywhere, just as white beaches arnt everywhere.
4. bet you met online and fell inlove within a couple of weeks? yep thats correct.
im assuming that the people that say " ignorant people, probably cant even pick Phil out on a map" have never had to explain where England or Europe even to some of their Filipino in-laws?
Also if asking them wether they`d rather sleep with their own wife or yours means all Filipinas are models and Brits arnt then thats one of the most ridiculous things i`ve ever heard :action-
smiley-081:

[KeithD]

im assuming that the people that say " ignorant people, probably cant even pick Phil out on a map" have never had to explain where England or Europe even to some of their Filipino in-laws?
Also if asking them wether they`d rather sleep with their own wife or yours means all Filipinas are models and Brits arnt then thats one of the most ridiculous things i`ve ever heard

:Erm:

What's the fact that some people in UK can't point out another country on a map got to do with what people in the Philippines can or can't do? :doh

As for the sleep with your wife.... we call that humour in the UK .... tongue in cheek ..... sarcasim .... oh, and as a scouser that exactly what I say, along with many other things that are "the most ridiculous things i`ve ever heard" :action-smiley-081:

[Arthur Little]

It seems to me to be a western failing, that [some] folk are apparently always quick and willing to believe all the negative hype they hear of - or read - about other countries ... and, by definition, its knock-on effect on the decent citizens who've had the misfortune to be have been born and/or raised in certain (invariably impoverished) parts of the world. Why this should be the case - and why such prejudice exists - is, quite frankly, beyond my comprehension. :ARsurrender:

[triple5]

im assuming that the people that say " ignorant people, probably cant even pick Phil out on a map" have never had to explain where England or Europe even to some of their Filipino in-laws?

Have done, but never to Filipinos who make nasty comments about England, and I'm sure they don't to my missus when I'm not around. Thats the point that myself and others were trying to make, that these people in England who make rude comments are doing so about a country they know nothing about apart from the obvious stereotypes.

[Steve.r]

Ah the old " anyone that doesnt like The Philippines is stupid" scenario again.
Ive had many comments since i began dating a filipina to being married to one now. Mostly the comments are true.
1. bet you know western union? yep i do and yes i`ve sent money using them.
2. if i went there i could have a wife like yours too its easy! yep i expect you could do that.
3. its very dirty with lots of poor people and slums... yes it is like that but of course not everywhere, just as white beaches arnt everywhere.
4. bet you met online and fell inlove within a couple of weeks? yep thats correct.
im assuming that the people that say " ignorant people, probably cant even pick Phil out on a map" have never had to explain where England or Europe even to some of their Filipino in-laws?
Also if asking them wether they`d rather sleep with their own wife or yours means all Filipinas are models and Brits arnt then thats one of the most ridiculous things i`ve ever heard :action-
smiley-081:

And the point you are trying to make is what exactly.......... ????

Maybe I am just thick, but I missed it somewhere ...

[badrock]

I just have to ignore them. Ignorance and i don,t have the time to educate them all.

[Arthur Little]

Mark & Jane: I think Mark's immediate family needs to wake-up :poke: to the harsh reality that one in three conventional marriages between UK citizens, sadly :bigcry: ends in divorce nowadays ... whereas, seldom do we hear of matrimonial break-ups involving Brit/Fil relationships.

Whilst it's plain to see that his parents and siblings clearly recognise the positive impact Jane's love is having on Mark's life, his son and daughter's stubborn reluctance to accept this fact :reaction: - in spite of her tireless efforts to befriend them :Brick: - is grossly unfair to Jane and, to my mind, amounts to a form of emotional blackmail on their part.

:rolleyes: Hopefully, in time, they will come to their senses - in the full realisation that your love for your new wife, in no way diminishes your inherent paternal feelings towards THEM. Remember, YOU and Jane have EVERY right to YOUR happiness as a couple, Mark!

[sparky]

i have had trouble with the steriotyping also

i work in an enviroment where banter is a part of the way we work but the ladyboy and "nip" ting tong etc comments and sly digs which my collegues seem to find acceptable are wearing thin.
they think that by not directly mentioning the philippines but overall asianness (?) then they can get away with it

i have stated to them that if anyone upsets myrna with these comments when shes over they will either get sacked or be asked to step outside :cwm23::cwm23:

[gWaPito]

i have had trouble with the steriotyping also

i work in an enviroment where banter is a part of the way we work but the ladyboy and "nip" ting tong etc comments and sly digs which my collegues seem to find acceptable are wearing thin.
they think that by not directly mentioning the philippines but overall asianness (?) then they can get away with it

i have stated to them that if anyone upsets myrna with these comments when shes over they will either get sacked or be asked to step outside :cwm23::cwm23:

The trouble is Sparky, you can't fight everybody. You will find very few with the courage to face up to you..these are the cowards in life

The one's that do, I find in my case its my kids.
Like Arthur said, they try the emotional backmail stuff.
It hasn't worked and never will with me.

You just have to rise above it, or you will be fighting for ever:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[sparky]

i think in the UK as a white male of a certain age you are brought up with racism as a part of life- my granny - bless her was outraged that trevor macdonald used to read the news. i went to a catholic school where coloured people didnt exist. i am sure that in my youth i myself made some racist comments at some point,i was a product of my surroundings and enviroment

its all down to ignorance-and education- or the lack of it.when i travelled and lived abroad i was educated in the ways of the world/ different cultures which i embraced- unlike many who even tho they are expats still look down on the locals as savages etc.

having said that we are not alone in expressing our racist views- the Thais especially are extremely racist and prejudiced- the land of smiles advertising hides a multitude of deceit at times

[Englishman2010]

What you say about education is true to an extent, and you would expect to find that the less educated a person was the more bigoted they were. However, educated people can be just as bad, if not worse because they think they are being really smart if they come up with a witty snipe about foreign girlfriends. All of the jokes I've heard about Asian girls have come from people who I would have thought should have been brought up and educated to know better.

[stevewool]

i find that people dont even know where the philippines are, i still get hows emma in thailand steve? but i keep saying its the philippines i have never been to thailand and cannot coment about the place, i have 5 kids 3 are my naturel kids and 2 are adopted long story there my 3 are happy for me, the other 2 well intime will tell but its my life i have done the best for my children and they are adults now , heres to the next 30+ years

[triple5]

Point out that there's over 7000 islands here and about 100 million people, then ask if they're really so narrow minded to think that every female here lives up to their stereotype :Erm:

Maybe ask them how they think the rest of the world views their women :D

[beppe]

Just wondering how you react or deal with the numerous negative comments and incorrect stereotypes about The Philippines and Filipina's from people who have never been there and probably never met a Filipino/a in their life?

Me, I don't really care what people say or think about me, whatever they think is their opinion and they won't change it to suit me, so I let them get on with it.

However, I feel that I have to come to the defense of my Filipina g/f and The Philippines.

Whenever I mention I have a Filipina g/f or that I am going to The Philippines, the usual comments I get range from tongue in cheek jokes to those who want to be helpful/interfere and warn me of the dangers, to the ones i hear 3rd hand.

Typical comments are:
She's only after a passport and your money.
Be careful, I had a 'friend' who got scammed by a Filipina...etc
Check she isn't really a post operative tranny
Aren't they all prostitutes
I bet she already has a husband who keeps out the way when you are in town
Make sure you don't catch anything when you go there
I bet its full of old white pervs and paedo's

etc, etc... you all know the score by now

Anyway, my beautiful Filipina makes me far happier and looks after me far better than my ex-wife ever could, and she's kinder to my wallet (just).

Look at what is good for you and ignore the rest, you don't have to please anyone.

[fred]

they made me choose and Jane will always come on top.Not sure we required that much info Gwapito!!

I cant remember any of the issues raised in thread ever affecting us for over 20 years in the UK..:Erm:
Must be the company we keep?

[Arthur Little]

What you say about education is true to an extent, and you would expect to find that the less educated a person was the more bigoted they were. However, educated people can be just as bad, if not worse because they think they are being really smart if they come up with a witty snipe about foreign girlfriends. All of the jokes I've heard about Asian girls have come from people who I would have thought should have been brought up and educated to know better.

Fear, prejudice ... jealousy, even? Who knows? :rolleyes: Sometimes so-called "educated" people need to be taught tolerance and good old-fashioned manners!! :meet-1:

[gWaPito]

i find that people dont even know where the philippines are, i still get hows emma in thailand steve? but i keep saying its the philippines i have never been to thailand and cannot coment about the place, i have 5 kids 3 are my naturel kids and 2 are adopted long story there my 3 are happy for me, the other 2 well intime will tell but its my life i have done the best for my children and they are adults now , heres to the next 30+ years

I agree Steve...They are adults now, here's to the next 50 years:D
Like you said, we have done our best for them and if that is how my kids feel then so be it, bearing in mind they are 26 and 29..it's not as if they are teenagers:NoNo:

[gWaPito]

Fear, prejudice ... jealousy, even? Who knows? :rolleyes: Sometimes so-called "educated" people need to be taught tolerance and good old-fashioned manners!! :meet-1:

Best we get Sparky to take them outside.

You can lead the horse to water, you can't always get him to drink it:NoNo:

[gWaPito]

Not sure we required that much info Gwapito!!

I cant remember any of the issues raised in thread ever affecting us for over 20 years in the UK..:Erm:
Must be the company we keep?

It wasn't mean't to sound like that:NoNo:
As soon as I posted it, I realised it may be misconstrud..yes, the wife moved the dictionary:NoNo:

[Arthur Little]

On a brighter note: Yesterday afternoon, a good friend of mine ... chap I've known for more than 40 years ... said to me, "Y'know, Arthur, WE go back a looooong way :rolleyes: ... and YOU seem far more relaxed and content - since you met Myrna :love2: - than I have seen you in ages!". Kinda speaks for itself, doesn't it! :ARsurrender:

[KeithD]

..... Kinda speaks for itself, doesn't it! :ARsurrender:

Yeah.... she's drugging you :laugher:

[stevewool]

most proberly all on here have had at sometime words said to us about visa, money , and are you sure they are not a man , well i bet 99% of us can laugh at all of those sad people now and i bet 100% of those are so jeolous because we all have a beautiful wife partner girlfreind

[sparky]

Best we get Sparky to take them outside.

You can lead the horse to water, you can't always get him to drink it:NoNo:

my fighting days and working doors etc are long gone - and i am far too old now for all of that- tho sometimes....:D:D

prefer to make love not war now that i have found a lovely lady to share my life with.

[Englishman2010]

prefer to make love not war now that i have found a lovely lady to share my life with.

:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[nigel]

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