Part of Old Age???

[lavander]

Hi guys,
its been a while that been active in the forum, nevertheless..it feels good to be back, start writing and and intent to post..

Am engaged for 6months now with an english guy, he is 49 yrs old ,working as a supervisor at the train. and i can say he is physically fit at his age.

We get along well, since day one. By the way, i known him for 1yr before we make it official.

So, why bring me to post here.. So part of being into relationship is to have intimate moments.
So far so good for the 1st month, but lately then, he is having dysfunctional erection.And things always end up miserable,
him feeling humiliated or me on the other hand.

We tried to patch things, if it happen, consoling him in a way that its ok and let it be...
But the more he feel self pity does resulting to argument and fight...

Considering its part of the old age process, but if u are physically active and not the grouchy type then this should not be an issue.

Want to help him in anyways i can, but when i see him feeling humiliated on this circurmstance the more i feel helpless..

For lad here, anything else that contributes to this problem?, can be pshycological or what?
In case,what do u expect from your lady to do, i mean in terms of support ?

The topic i consider sensitive and would assumed that most of us here are matured enough to gasp it.

Well..Life still goes on... Good day to everyone.



Lavander

[bornatbirth]

you say the first month was fine :Erm:

i know men don't like to discuss this issue, maybe its best he went to the doctor and arguing over this will make him feel worse?

[KeithD]

It's definitely not part of old age, it's more pyschological.... the more he thinks he has a problem the more of a problem it will be. Simple solution is Viagra but that doesn't solve the underlying issue, you may find that forgetting 'sex' and just doing oral will help (that incudes cuddling, kissing etc as well as :omg:), and that should help with better control, as he won't be worrying about :Sex:

[lavander]

you say the first month was fine :Erm:

i know men don't like to discuss this issue, maybe its best he went to the doctor and arguing over this will make him feel worse?

This option has been brought up since a week it started, but a big NO for him which i understand. It's so challenging for a guy to discuss his flaws
with someone... Human nature i guess.


I have noted that there will be 'skeptical' replying on my post.. Nevertheless, i have tried as i considered myself helpless and clueless what to do.

Last option is to end the relationship, but i dont think this would help him or us.. He blocked this option as well.. So am caught on the weakness side.

[rusty]

This link should give you more informaton and could help you both.

http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Erectile-dysfunction/Pages/Treatment.aspx

[lavander]

Viagra is NO for him. Kissing and sort of things work ok, but when thing goes well,, something is not.. :( .. this makes him feel terrrible and ruine the moments.

[bornatbirth]

there are forums he can go to and read so he doesnt need to see anyone, like most men the issue isnt for talking about :Erm:

i had a embarassing problem for years and never discussed it, so i went to the doctors and it was gone...i dont know why i waited so long, i feel so much better after, you should tell him the same :D

[lavander]

i had a embarassing problem for years and never discussed it, so i went to the doctors and it was gone...i dont know why i waited so long, i feel so much better after, you should tell him the same :D

I take note on this. Thanks BAB.

[lavander]

there are forums he can go to and read so he doesnt need to see anyone, like most men the issue isnt for talking about :Erm:

i had a embarassing problem for years and never discussed it, so i went to the doctors and it was gone...i dont know why i waited so long, i feel so much better after, you should tell him the same :D


My partner is not keen to any forum or so , or anything to do with the computer or internet.
Maybe i can insist on him to see a doctor or so..


Boss Kate, dont want to prolong this topic or so....some pm message which i think considerably helpful. Kindly lock this post. Thanks again.

[ghee101]

this is really hard to discuss. imagine me...i am 36, my boyfriend is a good looking, gorgeous guy @ 28. i am chubby, havent really been active AND I AM DIABETIC. do the math :bigcry:

my body didn't cooperate with my mind when we were together :NoNo: talk about embarrassing moment :Cuckoo: good thing it was just one time.

im slowly getting back and i hope my system cooperate this time. i am a fairly hotblooded woman :shehumper: i wish i still got many more years to enjoy :Sex:

[stevewool]

well you say old age and being 49, well first things first whats old age?????you are as old as you feel i am 51 and before you all say i dont look it, i know:icon_lol::icon_lol:, sex and loving each other is part of being happy content and showing each other affection, sometimes it may be hard to get into the mood and all you need is 1 silly thing to happen then the moment has been lost, like keith says lots of cuddles kisses and see what happens , have you tried watching sex films together,that may help or if that dont try placeing 2 sucker sticks each side of willy place elastic band over the sticks and enjoy the night too:Sex::Sex:

[jimeve]

Give him a good BLOW JOB.:icon_tonguew:

[KeithD]

Give him a good BLOW JOB.:icon_tonguew:
Any chance you could be a little more descriptive??? :omg:

[Pete/London]

Any chance you could be a little more descriptive??? :omg:

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[triple5]

It may be physical rather psychological. If he's fit and active and not stressing over anything, it's possible it's a physical problem. I'd go the docs asap :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Where is our resident in house doctor today :Erm:

[Steve.r]

Maybe he is thinking it is the 'same old routine' If you say for instance, we do it every Sunday morning and it is getting boring, then try to change the situation. Become exciting again, I'm not talking about dressing up, or watching movies, but give him the option to take you when the mood takes him, you could be just sat watching the TV or stood doing the washing up or even out in the car :xxgrinning--00xx3: Whenever there is the chance of making it different, exciting, dangerous, go for it. Make a challenge, and have fun.
Damn!! I'm on my own ...... it always happens when she's not here !! :doh

[KeithD]

Damn!! I'm on my own ...... it always happens when she's not here !! :doh
Nature gave us hands for a reason :D

[joebloggs]

Nature gave us hands for a reason :D

:Erm: one to eat with and the other to wipe your :butthead: with

what i find is part of 'old age' is not much bothers me any more :voodoo::cuss:
:rolleyes:

[Steve.r]

Nature gave us hands for a reason :D

and a knob to stop our hands flying off the end, aint nature great!! :xxgrinning--00xx3: