is it HARD to say SORRY???...

[bher]

met my old friends few days ago and been talking bout our husbands/boyfriends and we have something in common that we chatted about our partners.. complaining why most of men are having a hard time to say SORRY when they commit mistakes or when its their fault??? why they are like that? is EGO involve? or if a guy is older than his wife/gf is it hard/difficult to say SORRY?...

[stevewool]

yes and no , and this is a man saying this, we all like to think we know lots and are very realy wrong , but sometimes we are , we try to laugh our way out of a problem and sometimes we are digging a bigger hole to get out, i find it hard to say sorry if i had a bad day and just come home and i snap at emma, but after a few mins i do always go to her and say sorry,

[Arthur Little]

met my old friends few days ago and been talking bout our husbands/boyfriends and we have something in common that we chatted about our partners.. complaining why most of men are having a hard time to say SORRY when they commit mistakes or when its their fault??? why they are like that? is EGO involve? or if a guy is older than his wife/gf is it hard/difficult to say SORRY?...

Not really, Bher :NoNo: ... I have this somewhat annoying [to others!] habit of using the word - without even thinking about it, sometimes; I'm sure we all do! :rolleyes:

[stevewool]

naughty of you arthur saying sorry before you do something wrong,:icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:

[Arthur Little]

For instance ... how many of us have, on the odd occasion, bumped into a lamp'post and found ourselves saying: "Sorry"?! :doh

[stevewool]

never ever said sorry its usualy something hell:icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:

[Arthur Little]

naughty of you arthur saying sorry before you do something wrong,:icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:

:blahblah: "Confession time", Steve ... and I'm not even a Catholic! :cwm24:

[bher]

yes and no , and this is a man saying this, we all like to think we know lots and are very realy wrong , but sometimes we are , we try to laugh our way out of a problem and sometimes we are digging a bigger hole to get out, i find it hard to say sorry if i had a bad day and just come home and i snap at emma, but after a few mins i do always go to her and say sorry,

yess steve we are all like that in some ways..we want that all we think are good and right without even thinking others esp with their feelings... i'll ask u, if u had a little mistake and ate emma didnt like/she didnt agree bout it, but u think u are right' wat will u do?..

[bher]

Not really, Bher :NoNo: ... I have this somewhat annoying [to others!] habit of using the word - without even thinking about it, sometimes; I'm sure we all do! :rolleyes:

but admit it sir arthur that most men rarely say sorry?.. their ego is one of the reasons.. people always say MEN are still MEN.. :)

[stevewool]

saying sorry and meaning it too, i think everyone should accept this, and laugh about it together later, now if emma did not let it drop after saying this , i would just stick out my tonge and blow a raspberry at her till she laughs:Rasp::Rasp: and if that did not work i would go to the pub alone:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Arthur Little]

:Erm: ... sorry, Bher ... you were saying ... ? :icon_lol:

[stevewool]

but admit it sir arthur that most men rarely say sorry?.. their ego is one of the reasons.. people always say MEN are still MEN.. :)

thats is wrong,if i am wrong i say it, i am not to proud to admit i am wrong, but very rare may i add:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[bher]

they do accept but the thing is they jst don't show or tell their partners ok its my fault.. yeah jst laugh aftr or:do_it::do_it: all night but with most of women those kind of situation/misunderstanding remains and still in our minds bout wat happend even aftr few hrs or minutes..

[Terpe]

met my old friends few days ago and been talking bout our husbands/boyfriends and we have something in common that we chatted about our partners.. complaining why most of men are having a hard time to say SORRY when they commit mistakes or when its their fault??? why they are like that? is EGO involve? or if a guy is older than his wife/gf is it hard/difficult to say SORRY?...

I needed to think a little bit before I gave my own view.
On balance I probably agree.
Why?
Don't know.:doh
But... I know that if my wife says I did something wrong, I initially try to use all kind of 'weasel words' to give reasons why I did something. What I mean is that some other reason caused me to get it wrong rather than me so ... no 'Sorry I made a mistake'.
So means trying to put the blame on something or someone else.:D
Yep. There I go again.:rolleyes:
But..... seems hard for Carina to say sorry also. Then.... if I mention that maybe it's the time for her to say sorry ... well i could be 'tampo' time.

I probably say sorry to all kind of things more than she does.:)

It's just a human thing ... right.
Sorry:icon_sorry:

[bher]

:Erm: ... sorry, Bher ... you were saying ... ? :icon_lol:

hahaha... sir:ReadIt: never mind lol...

[Arthur Little]

... , if i am wrong i say it, i am not to proud to admit i am wrong ... xxgrinning--00xx3:

... me too!! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[stevewool]

talk and more talking is needed before :do_it:, what happens bher when you are wrong:rolleyes:

[stevewool]

see bher you have 2 men here that will and do say sorry when we are wrong , i told you we should have married:icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:

[bher]

I needed to think a little bit before I gave my own view.
On balance I probably agree.
Why?
Don't know.:doh
But... I know that if my wife says I did something wrong, I initially try to use all kind of 'weasel words' to give reasons why I did something. What I mean is that some other reason caused me to get it wrong rather than me so ... no 'Sorry I made a mistake'.
So means trying to put the blame on something or someone else.:D
Yep. There I go again.:rolleyes:
But..... seems hard for Carina to say sorry also. Then.... if I mention that maybe it's the time for her to say sorry ... well i could be 'tampo' time.

I probably say sorry to all kind of things more than she does.:)

It's just a human thing ... right.
Sorry:icon_sorry:

.. u will try to blame others or to something else so that carina won't :furious3::cwm23: you ha? lol... sometimes i do that, make tampo to hubby but when he talk to me that will be gone.. even if he's not yet forgiven... but for me i stil want to hear him saying sorry but thats very rare to happend hay....

[bher]

talk and more talking is needed before :do_it:, what happens bher when you are wrong:rolleyes:

yesss more talking is needed aftr a fight and before:Sex:...lol!

when im wrong i think about everything first, like wat i've done, wats wrong wit me etc.etc.. then when i realize i am wrong i often say sorry, all the time.. i say it and mean it.. even if sometimes i guess its not my fault i stil say sorry... is that right?..

[bher]

yess we should lol.. ate emma will gonna kill me hahah:icon_lol::icon_lol:... u steve and sir arthur :icon_sorry: good boy lol.. thats wat men have to do when they know its thier fault...

[bher]

good boy sir arthur ...:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[stevewool]

anyone can say sorry but its saying it and meaning it that counts sorry and a kiss helps and i wont tell emme if you dont :icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:

[bher]

yess u are right.. it should be from the heart when u say that word... hahaha, don't worry i won't:NoNo:

[rani]

its better for me to say sorry than to sleep with a heavy heart :)

is the question for men only?? :doh

[bher]

nope ...its for everyone...

[KeithD]

I always say sorry.... even though I'm always right :D

[bher]

its better for me to say sorry than to sleep with a heavy heart :)

is the question for men only?? :doh

i know that.. but sometimes its hard to do that esp when u know that you are right and your partner is wrong..jst go to bed and sleep without talking:angry:..

[bher]

I always say sorry.... even though I'm always right :D

aaawww, can i marry you sir? lol...:icon_lol:

[stevewool]

hi rani i think rani you would never have to say sorry :)

[rani]

hi rani i think rani you would never have to say sorry :)

because i'll stay single??? oh steve.... :bigcry::bigcry::bigcry:

[bher]

don't say that te rani.. lots of single men out there whom u deserve for a lifetime...:)

[Baliw99]

If I have done something wrong, then I am not afraid to admit it and say sorry, sometimes I may say it too many times, but I like to make sure that everything is ok between the other person and myself and the problem has been sorted, as I hate having a bad atmosphere.

[Terpe]

For me whatever happened that caused any problem I must have it finished before we sleep . Period.
A hug, sweet words etc etc I will do anything to smooth things, but I never want to sleep before we are in good terms.
Is that being weak?
Not for me.
Unless it's something really marriage damaging. Then I would need to think more and probably would not go to bed until I had a clear mind. Can't see that happening, usually any problems are just normal couple small disagreements.
Men are from Mars Women from Venus ( see previous Thread):D

[raynaputi]

Win2Win: I always say sorry.... even though I'm always right:D

Errr...who says you're always right? :Erm:

But yeah, he does say sorry ;)

[dontpushme]

my two cents: I think it depends on the way you've built your relationship. I've been in relationships where even I got defensive and did anything to get out of saying sorry. Those were relationships with guys who didn't want to sit with me and discuss what happened, why things were said/done, and what we could have done differently.

I think when I first started dating my bf, we were the same way. But we figured out soon enough that if we wanted to make things work being this far apart, we had to talk things through without letting things fester between us. He's learned to apologise for things he's done, and I've learned to swallow my pride and do the same. We still get back into the old habit of making excuses instead of admitting we'd made mistakes, but as long as we correct things as soon as we notice, it's all good.

Pride is never easy to swallow. It's easier to mumble an apology when you've bumped into someone than it is to admit you've made a mistake when you were damn sure you were doing things right.:NoNo:


For instance ... how many of us have, on the odd occasion, bumped into a lamp'post and found ourselves saying: "Sorry"?! :doh

*raises hand* LOL! I don't think that's the kind of apology she's asking about.

[raynaputi]

i agree with u dontpushme..it depends on the way the couple has built on the relationship..i always say sorry to him if i think i've offended him..it doesn't matter if he's really offended or not..and he does the same thing too..whether small/big arguments, if both of u know that nothing and no one is perfect and is entitled to some misunderstandings, saying sorry is not hard..good thing with his and my wacko attitudes we both know how and when to say sorry.. ;) though i'm the one who say it often and he usually has to do a lot of convincing that he's not offended or not pissed off after the misunderstandings..haha :icon_lol:

[malditako]

a lot of people expecially in the phils find it hard to say it simply b'coz they are ashame to admit their fault or shy for the mistake they have done.

[miss.piggy]

a lot of people expecially in the phils find it hard to say it simply b'coz they are ashame to admit their fault or shy for the mistake they have done.

I think otherwise. Thought Filipinos say sorry for everything! We have an overpowering guilty conscience because of history and religion. :Erm:

[sars_notd_virus]

Some men find it hard to say sorry when caught in an argument with partner because '' they think'' they are always right:D:icon_lol:
Im just lucky to end up with a man who knows how to say '' sorry'' and who is '' right all the time'':cwm23::xxgrinning--00xx3::icon_lol:

[Arthur Little]

*raises hand* LOL! I don't think that's the kind of apology she's asking about.

:D ... just my 'little' :joke:!

[bher]

For me whatever happened that caused any problem I must have it finished before we sleep . Period.
A hug, sweet words etc etc I will do anything to smooth things, but I never want to sleep before we are in good terms.
Is that being weak?
Not for me.
Unless it's something really marriage damaging. Then I would need to think more and probably would not go to bed until I had a clear mind. Can't see that happening, usually any problems are just normal couple small disagreements.
Men are from Mars Women from Venus ( see previous Thread):D

its not weak, thats just you terpe.. hopefully my husband and i can do that' talk and fix wat is the problem :NoNo::doh:angry::furious3::bigcry: then aftr that :icon_lol::):icon_sorry::D:Jump::Sex::do_it:...thats the best way to make peace with wife and husband..

thank's terpe...

[bher]

Errr...who says you're always right? :Erm:

But yeah, he does say sorry ;)

oohh so boss say sorry, he's good boy too then lol..:icon_lol:

[bher]

and I've learned to swallow my pride and do the same. We still get back into the old habit of making excuses instead of admitting we'd made mistakes, but as long as we correct things as soon as we notice, it's all good.

Pride is never easy to swallow. It's easier to mumble an apology when you've bumped into someone than it is to admit you've made a mistake when you were damn sure you were doing things right.:NoNo:

same as me girl.. most of the time i prefer to swallow my pride than not talking to him all day..
.

[bher]

I think otherwise. Thought Filipinos say sorry for everything! We have an overpowering guilty conscience because of history and religion. :Erm:

i agree..:)

[bher]

Some men find it hard to say sorry when caught in an argument with partner because '' they think'' they are always right:D:icon_lol:
Im just lucky to end up with a man who knows how to say '' sorry'' and who is '' right all the time'':cwm23::xxgrinning--00xx3::icon_lol:

is that their nature? men think that they are always right?..:Erm::doh

[Piamed]

met my old friends few days ago and been talking bout our husbands/boyfriends and we have something in common that we chatted about our partners.. complaining why most of men are having a hard time to say SORRY when they commit mistakes or when its their fault??? why they are like that? is EGO involve? or if a guy is older than his wife/gf is it hard/difficult to say SORRY?...

Personally, it is not difficult to apologise for something I have done or caused, whether knowingly or otherwise! From what I have seen on the forum during my tenure here, the problem from time to time is that when in tampo the woman may not readily accept said apology!

[stevewool]

because i'll stay single??? oh steve.... :bigcry::bigcry::bigcry:

rani you may be single for now, but soon you will be happy sharing your life with someone i am sure , but in the mean time you have all us men to talk too :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[JimOttley]

Not really, Bher :NoNo: ... I have this somewhat annoying [to others!] habit of using the word - without even thinking about it, sometimes; I'm sure we all do! :rolleyes:

Yes I have that habit too Arthur, my ex partner Shona hated that, one of the reasons she dumped me 25 year ago :)

If you make a mistake and realise it you should have no difficulty in saying sorry, the problem is in recognising that you are at fault in the first place, I think that is where most guys trip up.

[malditako]

I think otherwise. Thought Filipinos say sorry for everything! We have an overpowering guilty conscience because of history and religion. :Erm:

just an observation filipinos hardly say the word sorry..well not all. if they do something they just let time heals the gap.

[KeithD]

Hey guys, if you're wrong..... then say sorry ... if you know you're 100% right.... then just say sorry anyway.... you want some peace don't you? :laugher:

[bornatbirth]

i say sorry so much its the first thing i say when i wake up, so for me its easy....besides whats wrong in letting your wife think shes right all the time ;)

[dontpushme]

:D ... just my 'little' :joke:!
Yeah, I know.:icon_lol:


Personally, it is not difficult to apologise for something I have done or caused, whether knowingly or otherwise! From what I have seen on the forum during my tenure here, the problem from time to time is that when in tampo the woman may not readily accept said apology!

LOL. From what I see in other women, when they're sulking (nagtatampo), it's better to grovel than to just say a quick "sorry."


If you make a mistake and realise it you should have no difficulty in saying sorry, the problem is in recognising that you are at fault in the first place, I think that is where most guys trip up.

You're quite right. Sometimes men can be so clueless!:icon_lol:


just an observation filipinos hardly say the word sorry..well not all. if they do something they just let time heals the gap.


Hey guys, if you're wrong..... then say sorry ... if you know you're 100% right.... then just say sorry anyway.... you want some peace don't you? :laugher:

Don't ever forget who's boss in the relationship.:xxaction-smiley-047 :icon_lol::D


i say sorry so much its the first thing i say when i wake up, so for me its easy....besides whats wrong in letting your wife think shes right all the time ;)

It's funny to joke about it, but some people (men and women) do resent being told they're wrong.:NoNo:

[JimOttley]

LOL. From what I see in other women, when they're sulking (nagtatampo), it's better to grovel than to just say a quick "sorry."

On a serious note my partner and I have had a very very difficult time this last few months and I was not the one at fault, I have been applying the male equivalent of (nagtatampo) and I have certainly had little in the way of grovelling in return, much as I deserve it ;)

You are right, without going into details I would have been extremely upset with an insincere apology, long drawn out tampo on my part has been more effective ;)

High dudgeon is a trait that my partner expresses at the slightest misunderstanding and often she has simply completely misunderstood the situation :doh it is painful trying to make everything work out all-right in the end because she rarely see's the direction in which I am trying to help, I love her none the less.




i say sorry so much its the first thing i say when i wake up, so for me its easy....besides whats wrong in letting your wife think shes right all the time
It's funny to joke about it, but some people (men and women) do resent being told they're wrong.:NoNo:

I have read a lot of BAB's posts, I think he is being serious here :) either that or he has a very very consistent direction to his sense of humour :) there is a point where you realise you just have to compromise because you love the person.

[dontpushme]

LOL! I don't see being p***ywhipped as compromising (I'm in no way saying anyone here is that). I've always been headstrong and I know I'd be unhappy with anyone who would give in to me without a fight, or with anyone who wouldn't defend his point of view if he felt strongly about something.

I hope noone takes this to mean I give my bf a hard time. :icon_lol: In fact, my friends are still reeling from the discovery that the wildcat they knew (who was just as reliable as any guy in a fistfight or a classroom debate) had been tamed (somewhat).

[Languish]

I have no worries saying sorry whatsoever. The only time i refuse is when it is not my fault - which admittedly it always is! :doh

[bher]

i say sorry so much its the first thing i say when i wake up, so for me its easy....besides whats wrong in letting your wife think shes right all the time ;)

that will be very NICE and less arguements if ALL the husbands are like you...:icon_lol:

[bher]

i say sorry so much its the first thing i say when i wake up, so for me its easy....besides whats wrong in letting your wife think shes right all the time ;)

i wish all HUSBANDS are like you' lol... then' there will be peace all the time esp when hubby is here...:)

[bher]

i agree with that jimottley... if you really LOVE your partners sometimes jst to make them happy and stop the arguements we jst say YES/ AGREE with what ever they tell us.. COMPROMISING each other is also one of the ingredients to a HAPPY and WONDERFUL MARRIED LIFE..:)

[junior02]

Its only hard to say sorry, if you dont really mean it..

[gWaPito]

For a quiet life, I say 'sorry' every time. Even if I know im right. You asked if it got harder to say sorry as we get older, for me, the answer is no. I was awful in my 20's, I would argue every time. Now, im the opposite. like I said, anything for a quiet life. Not good trying to score points against your wife.

[shrek48]

i never say sorry as i never make mistakes :D
dont u no by now men only make unavoidable errors :Erm:
:olddude:

[bbmick]

When my asawa is grumpy and not sweet i know she has tampo with me and i dont even know why but i still say what ever i did to upset you please sorry but she will answer you dont know what did you do to upset me? then why your asking sorry.

You have to remember first what did you do before you will say sorry then i will believe your sincere. She is so sweet but sometimes she drives me buang when she dont talk and i dont know the reason why.

[dontpushme]

:icon_lol: That's because we women tend to forget that men literally have to be smacked in the face with something before they see it. Women are very good at understanding hints, but men are almost completely blind to them. I know if a woman were to be in the same situation and your wives were mad at that woman, she'd know what she did wrong. She'd get the hints.:D:rolleyes:

[bher]

ooohh, really shrek? wat a perfect/ ideal guy,.lol...:icon_lol:

[Terpe]

:icon_lol: That's because we women tend to forget that men literally have to be smacked in the face with something before they see it. Women are very good at understanding hints, but men are almost completely blind to them. I know if a woman were to be in the same situation and your wives were mad at that woman, she'd know what she did wrong. She'd get the hints.:D:rolleyes:

So means that us men always meet the level of performance expected:D
:icon_sorry:

[stevewool]

best thing i think is we all make mistakes its our you deal with it between yourselves that will make the differance forgive and forgive i recall but hey we some love to stretch it out and see what they may get out of it , ups another clout i feel coming:icon_lol:

[bher]

got it right...:icon_lol::xxgrinning--00xx3:

[meca]

interesting thread,
in my own opinion and experience..
older guys than girls can apologise easily to their partner when they are wrong, they have more experience and can understand the situation more and most of all can understand situation better... but with the younger guys, they finds it difficult coz they sometimes they said they understand things and insist whats in their head even its wrong,,, girls most likely banging their head in the wall... :)

[grahamw48]

Sometimes it is good to swallow your pride and say you're sorry.

My friend of 20 years died of cancer this afternoon, leaving his wonderful Filipina wife and their two lovely boys behind.

They had been married and living in the Phils for over 20 years, but came back to England in 2007.

My friend and I had fallen out for a while over some silly thing, but when I heard that he was ill I started to visit him, and we were friends again, and I think I brightened up his last few weeks.

He was an intelligent and funny man, and as a couple they were inseparable, even though he was 25 years her senior.

I'm so glad that WE were able to say sorry, and that our last meetings were happy ones, also that he knew that I would be there to help his widow and the boys when he was gone.

[mmmab]

I think it depends on the person or the couple involved...

I mean for me, my mahal finds it really really hard to say sorry even when we both know she was in the wrong, she will realy try put all the blame on me first before even daring to say sorry.

I keep telling her it's gonna be a problem if it continues, because of her pride, problems last days instead of minutes or hours. But she eventually says sorry anyway.

On my part, I have a habit of saying the F word a lot, which she hasn't got used to, so she automatically assumes that it is her a am aiming the F word at. Now that's when I find it hard to say sorry, because for me, that's a habit I have, no harm intended, but it's just something I got used to.

But in our relationship, it is far more easier for me to swallow my pride and say sorry, when I realise I am wrong, I will admit to it. The only problem comes when I say the F word and she think it's aimed at her, especially when I say "wtf are you on about"... doesn't sound good does it? But something I always say a lot, it's become my expression so to speak and because of that, I find it hard to say sorry...

[Terpe]

On my part, I have a habit of saying the F word a lot, which she hasn't got used to.......

Maybe better to try hard to avoid saying that. Even your wife may have gotten a little used to it, it's still culturally a big NO-NO
I think most of SE Asia is the same. Japan certainly is.

[mmmab]

Maybe better to try hard to avoid saying that. Even your wife may have gotten a little used to it, it's still culturally a big NO-NO
I think most of SE Asia is the same. Japan certainly is.
I know, I just ended up saying it again yesterday to my mahal in the philippines, and guess what, i havn't heard from her since, her cell fone is off, landline is unplugged, I literally have no means of contacting her apart from waiting for her to get online...

I mean, she makes mistakes too, but never have I ignored her this bad, I think this is a bit too much for only saying "wtf are you talking about", I mean, it's not like I cheated right...

I left her emails countless of times saying I'm sorry but still nothing, and I know she has read them too, because I sent them to an email address where we both know the password, and when I checked, all my emails have been read...

Maybe I'm just more commited than she is, and when times get hard, I'm always there and she always turns off her fone and becomes uncontactable

[grahamw48]

Sounds like a great relationship. :NoNo:

Maybe you need to SERIOUSLY learn to drop the construction site language and have some respect for her ?

[mmmab]

I know man, but I have been like that for a long time, saying ****** has become so normal to me, it's like smoking, you can't just tell someone to stop smoking, it takes time...

I know I'm wrong for saying the F work, but ignoring someone you supposedly love for that long isn't right... right?

And respect her... Of course I respect her, I wouldn't tell her I'm sorry or I love her if I didn't respect her... Maybe you grew up where the F word meant something really really bad... I grew up in a school where the F word was said like it was nothing and now I'm realising it aint so good, but trying to change isn't as easy as most people think it is...

[grahamw48]

I grew up in the rougher part of a coal mining town where our neighbour, the Mayor's wife used to walk up to the corner shop in her curlers, slippers and dressing gown, fag in mouth, and getting your head kicked in on the way home from school was nothing out of the ordinary.

I worked on construction sites, starting as a tunnel labourer and concreter and later as a plant operator.

One thing I was always taught as a young lad was never to use bad language in front of a woman. :)

[Terpe]

I know I'm wrong for saying the F work, but ignoring someone you supposedly love for that long isn't right... right?

Using the F word to someone in the Phils is going to get you into some extreme problem at some point.
Using the F word to your Mahal is also going going to end up in problems.
It's just that you probably have no idea of the effect.

I personally would not compare it to smoking.
Why not try to use some other word?
Better to explain to your lady about your problem and how you will work hard to change.

[bher]

One thing I was always taught as a young lad was never to use bad language in front of a woman. :)[/QUOTE]

your right...:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[mmmab]

@Terpe, you're right, because I got so used to it, I never realised the effect it had on my mahal. We managed to talk today and fixed everything.

We both acknowledged that we both have problems/flaws we need to work on to make our relationship stronger.

I promised her I will try my best to stop using the F word so frequently and told her that I may need her help to remind me when I use it, coz it just slips out my mouth like it means nothing.

And she promised that she wouldnt be that distant again, coz she said she realises that being that distant won't solve the problem, it will only prolong it and that's something we both don't want...

But yeh... It is hard to say sorry, especially when to you it means nothing, but realising you are wrong always takes an open mind, because with a closed mind, no matter what anyone else says, it won't make a difference...

[JimOttley]

@Terpe, you're right, because I got so used to it, I never realised the effect it had on my mahal. We managed to talk today and fixed everything.

We both acknowledged that we both have problems/flaws we need to work on to make our relationship stronger.

I promised her I will try my best to stop using the F word so frequently and told her that I may need her help to remind me when I use it, coz it just slips out my mouth like it means nothing.

And she promised that she wouldnt be that distant again, coz she said she realises that being that distant won't solve the problem, it will only prolong it and that's something we both don't want...

But yeh... It is hard to say sorry, especially when to you it means nothing, but realising you are wrong always takes an open mind, because with a closed mind, no matter what anyone else says, it won't make a difference...

Try changing to frick and then to something else, expletives are an important part of our language but overdo it and they become meaningless.

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Try changing to frick and then to something else, expletives are an important part of our language but overdo it and they become meaningless.

That's a good idea, thanks for that one JimOttley! By doing that, I don't have to change the way I express myself too much. Changing F to frick would be a good change