pregnant filipina

[scared]

ok this is a weird one i guess

my friend has got himself into a situation, he thinks he might've got a girl pregnant.

he is british, she is from the philippines.

he has got it into his head that she has got pregnant on purpose, to stay in the UK

i don't know what her status is, but i believe she has only been in uk a short time (less than a year) and she is a domestic worker.

is that possible, would it be to her advantage to get pregnant? or actually is the opposite true and if she cannot keep her job she will have to return to the philippines?

i realise i might not get much sympathy, as he does not want a baby and has been very stupid and irresponsible, but i would appreciate any info a lot

thanks so much

[junior02]

ok this is a weird one i guess

my friend has got himself into a situation, he thinks he might've got a girl pregnant.

he is british, she is from the philippines.

he has got it into his head that she has got pregnant on purpose, to stay in the UK

i don't know what her status is, but i believe she has only been in uk a short time (less than a year) and she is a domestic worker.

is that possible, would it be to her advantage to get pregnant? or actually is the opposite true and if she cannot keep her job she will have to return to the philippines?

i realise i might not get much sympathy, as he does not want a baby and has been very stupid and irresponsible, but i would appreciate any info a lot

thanks so much

I dont know if it would be an advantage for the girl to stay in uk. But what i would say is tell your friend next time to use a CONDOM...

[grahamw48]

Yes, he has been very stupid, irresponsible and SELFISH.

The poor girl will eventually have to leave the country and return to an even tougher life in the Philippines.

I hope he supports her and the child properly for the next 18 years.

[bornatbirth]

i realise i might not get much sympathy, as he does not want a baby

are you the friend :Erm:

telling her after having sex that he doesnt wants a baby...kinda sucks, its a pity he didnt tell her this before...i hope you tell your friend that he should support her and the baby for the rest of his life :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Arthur Little]

Yes, he has been very stupid, irresponsible and SELFISH.

The poor girl will eventually have to leave the country and return to an even tougher life in the Philippines.

I hope he supports her and the child properly for the next 18 years.

:iagree: ... on all three counts!!! Should've kept his "dickie" in his trousers!! :angry:

[Tawi2]

No sympathy here,scared your mate sounds a total idiot,he has had his fun now is scared that she might be buntis?Hasnt he ever had a birds-and-bees lecture?Doesnt his brain work:Erm:

[joebloggs]

if the baby is born in the uk, then it will be a British citizen, and its possible that the mother could try and apply for a visa to have access to the baby.

but why would she get pregnant just to stay in the UK, when there are other ways, a baby is for life not just xmas :rolleyes:

[sars_notd_virus]

ok this is a weird one i guess

my friend has got himself into a situation, he thinks he might've got a girl pregnant.

he is british, she is from the philippines.

he has got it into his head that she has got pregnant on purpose, to stay in the UK

i don't know what her status is, but i believe she has only been in uk a short time (less than a year) and she is a domestic worker.

is that possible, would it be to her advantage to get pregnant? or actually is the opposite true and if she cannot keep her job she will have to return to the philippines?

i realise i might not get much sympathy, as he does not want a baby and has been very stupid and irresponsible, but i would appreciate any info a lot

thanks so much

dont be scared,..make sure that the filipina is pregnant first then take it from there...i hope your friend pay his dues and learn to tie his peni$ around his back the next time he sees a woman or particularly a 'filipina' (what is it with us filipinas??,,..hmm i wonder) but am sure its not just the visa to hold to keep a man to love us and give us the most wonderful precious gift a woman can have ..a baby!! bless her!!

[scared]

telling her after having sex that he doesnt wants a baby...kinda sucks, its a pity he didnt tell her this before...

well, it was a one night stand, and she told him she was on the pill and didn't want to use a condom. i realise this does not make him any less stupid, but i think if you tell someone you are on birth control you can assume that they are not doing this for a baby!

i am just wondering whether he is just being paranoid about now thinking she may have had an ulterior motive.

she doesn't like her job, and i am sure she does like babies, so this is why he thinks she might be thinking a british baby will get her able to stay in the uk with no need to work.

so, whilst i accept there will be no sympathy available, my question is if anyone knows how likely this is?

and to come clean, it IS a "friend", it's not me, but my "friend" is kinda my boyfriend, we were "on a break", so whilst i can forgive a drunken one night stand, i cannot accept him back with a baby in tow.
thanks

[bornatbirth]

a filipina and a one night stand :Erm:

i think joe already said everything...it will be hard for her even with a baby to stay in the uk.....i guess all three of you need to decide whats the best?

[Tawi2]

a filipina and a one night stand
I have had dozens of those but always took precautions :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[bornatbirth]

I have had dozens of those but always took precautions :xxgrinning--00xx3:

did you sleep with a gun under the pillow or a wedding ring :Erm:

anyway your a babe magnet:)

[scared]

did you sleep with a gun under the pillow or a wedding ring :Erm:

anyway your a babe magnet:)

what are you getting at, sorry to be naive? i think i have got this horribly racist stereotypical view that filipinas are all out to "trap" british men? am i right?

[Tawi2]

anyway your a babe magnet
pangit kaayo ko sama sa nakasala, pero naay maayohon sa akoa mga puti kay kabalo ko saila gina istoryahan;)

[Tawi2]

what are you getting at, sorry to be naive?
Its called BAB humour,its a bit like slapstick or a standup comedy routine :icon_lol:

[bornatbirth]

what are you getting at, sorry to be naive? i think i have got this horribly racist stereotypical view that filipinas are all out to "trap" british men? am i right?

it was a joke, i was quoting tawi...dont get so worried :D

is this a forum with british husbands married to filipinas and its easy to stereotype, so most of us have to put up with so called banter at so point in life.

whilst they're are some filipinas that will marry or try to trap a husband these are few and far and between.

your bf on a break is at fault here, he should of used a condom and the filipina played her part to... but cant take all the blame...besides he could of gotten any woman pregnant?

[grahamw48]

Being trapped by a gorgeous Filipina...http://img79.imageshack.us/img79/7780/cloud90fz.gif

[scared]

your bf on a break is at fault here, he should of used a condom and the filipina played her part to... but cant take all the blame...besides he could of gotten any woman pregnant?

yes, yes of course, it actually makes no difference she is filipina i guess. he could've been so stupid with any girl. i came on here, cos part of my worry is that getting immigration status could be a motivating factor? if it was a UK girl i would be scared she was after a council house and benefits!

i am not trying to blame the girl really, just trying to work out if the paranoia that he might've been set up is valid or not.

or get some re-assurance that it is unlikely as it would actually work against her.

thanks all for replying anyways.

[scared]

Being trapped by a gorgeous Filipina...http://img79.imageshack.us/img79/7780/cloud90fz.gif

yes she is gorgeous. and i am not. doesn't help either :bigcry:

[grahamw48]

But this IS about your friend...right ? :Erm:

[scared]

But this IS about your friend...right ? :Erm:

i did do another reply earlier that is not showing, but some people seem to be able to see as they have referred to it. it's not me, the "friend" is my sort of boyfriend. we were "on a break". we were supposed to be getting back together when he tells me this is what happened. i realise the obvious answer is it's his problem and he was stupid etc, but it's hard to stop caring overnight

[scared]

it was a drunken one night stand, she told him she was on the pill and encouraged him not to use a condom. i just didn't think in these days of stds and hiv people did that anymore? that's why the doubts now....

[bornatbirth]

how did they both meet?

how did he find out that she is pregnant and is she planning to keep the baby?

you dont know what status to stay in the uk she is on?

if it was me, i would dump him and let him sort it out...its his mess.

[Tawi2]

The truth will out ;)
Making light of the situation give your boyfriend this e-mail addie,its the lady who does DNA tests on the Jeremy Kyle show:rolleyes:tracey.moore@granadamedia.com
To be more serious he cant turn his back on a child he has actively participated in making,if he does he is a grade-A sal-sal'er ;) She didnt do this to trap him,and the show wasnt one-sided neither,he takes 50% responsibility,Pinas isnt a place social welfare so hope the CSA makes him pay for his dalliance,he has at least 18 years to ponder on his stupidity.

[Steve.r]

Oh nooooo ...... I have been trapped by my pregnant filipina too, save me :Help1: Oh.. hang on :Erm:, maybe I trapped her :xxgrinning--00xx3: :icon_lol::icon_lol:

[scared]

how did they both meet?

how did he find out that she is pregnant and is she planning to keep the baby?

you dont know what status to stay in the uk she is on?

if it was me, i would dump him and let him sort it out...its his mess.

i don't know her status, but she is a domestic worker, and i think there is a special visa for that? but i really don't know.

we don't know if she IS pregnant or not, it's still early days, but he has tried to talk to her and she will not return his calls. of course, if she is trying to get a baby on purpose, she is unlikely to admit this now isn't she? he is completely screwed.

i do realise i need to dump him, but right now i stupidly still care. i am so desperate i am trying to get answers from an internet forum!

she told him she hates her job, and i suspect that is her basis for being in the UK, hence my question is, if she IS pregnant, will having the baby get her status in the UK without having to do the job she really hates?

[Tawi2]

he is completely screwed.:Erm:
I think you will find its HER who was completely...........

[scared]

The truth will out ;)
Making light of the situation give your boyfriend this e-mail addie,its the lady who does DNA tests on the Jeremy Kyle show:rolleyes:tracey.moore@granadamedia.com
To be more serious he cant turn his back on a child he has actively participated in making,if he does he is a grade-A sal-sal'er ;) She didnt do this to trap him,and the show wasnt one-sided neither,he takes 50% responsibility,Pinas isnt a place social welfare so hope the CSA makes him pay for his dalliance,he has at least 18 years to ponder on his stupidity.

i know, i know. and as i am stupidly in love with the boy, maybe I have to pay for 18years also. i am not trying to blame the girl, i know he is responsible, i am just (desperately, pathetically) trying to find out how likely this scenario is.....

[bornatbirth]

she told him she hates her job, and i suspect that is her basis for being in the UK, hence my question is, if she IS pregnant, will having the baby get her status in the UK without having to do the job she really hates?

thats depends if shes is on a visa, even if she is then she may need to leave the uk after the visa runs out and take the baby with her. Visas havent been given out for domestic wokers for a long time.

until you find out her status this topic is left hanging in the air?

[grahamw48]

i don't know her status, but she is a domestic worker, and i think there is a special visa for that? but i really don't know.

we don't know if she IS pregnant or not, it's still early days, but he has tried to talk to her and she will not return his calls. of course, if she is trying to get a baby on purpose, she is unlikely to admit this now isn't she? he is completely screwed.

i do realise i need to dump him, but right now i stupidly still care. i am so desperate i am trying to get answers from an internet forum!

she told him she hates her job, and i suspect that is her basis for being in the UK, hence my question is, if she IS pregnant, will having the baby get her status in the UK without having to do the job she really hates?

Stay with us. You've probably come to the best place for advice. :)

[Arthur Little]

cant take all the blame...

... :gp: ... it takes two to "tango!!" :REDancedancer08::REDancedancer08:

[mhaedonald]

hi Scared im a filipina too... well i might say that filipina are just like women from other country,we have different cultures and values,,there are modern and old fashioned and there are different character traits and different morals same as in any other country, extremely difficult to generalise- same as women here in the uk... It sometimes based on how they were raised. I know alot of filipina women who making themself pregnant for the man to stay with her and ofcourse for a better life but theres also lots of woman who want to be with man for the sake of love, if u gonna ask me if i will get myself pregnant just to have visa to stay in the uk,well i will say im not yet INSANE to do that-but no one will ever know the answer to the filipina girl that ur 'friend' might get pregnant but herself...

Anyway make it sure that she is pregnant and if its really just a 1 night stand?...and if she is really pregnant then he should be responsible coz its both their fault... Hope all will be clear soon..tc

[gWaPito]

dont be scared,..make sure that the filipina is pregnant first then take it from there...i hope your friend pay his dues and learn to tie his peni$ around his back the next time he sees a woman or particularly a 'filipina' (what is it with us filipinas??,,..hmm i wonder) but am sure its not just the visa to hold to keep a man to love us and give us the most wonderful precious gift a woman can have ..a baby!! bless her!!

Ive got to agree with you on that Sars ' the most wonderful precious gift a woman can have..a baby'

My wife just gave birth to our beautiful son.....the giving birth was the most amazing sight I ever did see. One I will never forget.

Its completed Jane.......amazing!.......now for a brother or a sister :)

[joebloggs]

Ive got to agree with you on that Sars ' the most wonderful precious gift a woman can have..a baby'

My wife just gave birth to our beautiful son.....the giving birth was the most amazing sight I ever did see. One I will never forget.

Its completed Jane.......amazing!.......now for a brother or a sister :)

:xxgrinning--00xx3: congrats to you and your misses Gawpito :Jump::Hellooo:

little joe is everything to me :rolleyes:

[grahamw48]

Congratulations to you both from me too. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Takes me back. :)

[raynaputi]

Ive got to agree with you on that Sars ' the most wonderful precious gift a woman can have..a baby'

My wife just gave birth to our beautiful son.....the giving birth was the most amazing sight I ever did see. One I will never forget.

Its completed Jane.......amazing!.......now for a brother or a sister :)

:Jump: Congrats gwapito! :baby1:

[gWaPito]

Congratulations to you both from me too. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Takes me back. :)

Thanks Joe Thanks Graham and thanks Rayna :)
The birth was my most awesome event in my life.........he's nearly 6 weeks and has put on a third of his birth weight.

I didn't realise how selfish id become over the years until now.....James is now a bouncing baby, he sleeps on our chests...what a joy....id give my life for him......like Joe said 'he means the world to me', actually to the both of us.

[grahamw48]

I never wanted kids...but now, well I don't need to tell you.:)

Let's have a picture ASAP.

[gWaPito]

I never wanted kids...but now, well I don't need to tell you.:)

Let's have a picture ASAP.

Ill tell you what Graham, im the same as you on this. If you can have them, support them and bring them up in a totally loving environment then why not. We want a tribe!

[grahamw48]

Absolutely...why not.:icon_lol:

This is the picture I had at my bedside when I was away working in Hong Kong, and missing my wonderful little boy so much. They are sooo cute at that age. :)

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http://img96.imageshack.us/img96/8083/richatsarmientost.jpg

[sars_notd_virus]

Ive got to agree with you on that Sars ' the most wonderful precious gift a woman can have..a baby'

My wife just gave birth to our beautiful son.....the giving birth was the most amazing sight I ever did see. One I will never forget.

Its completed Jane.......amazing!.......now for a brother or a sister :)

What a wonderful family we have met and ever so handsome little boy James,he grows twice as big as when i first see him.:):xxgrinning--00xx3:

[stevie c]

congrtatilations to you & jane on the birth of your baby all the best to the three of you :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[gWaPito]

What a wonderful family we have met and ever so handsome little boy James,he grows twice as big as when i first see him.:):xxgrinning--00xx3:

Thank you Stevie C :) Your best wishes are greatly appreciated.....your looking well Steve, looks if you've put on a few pounds.......must be happiness.

Thank you Mari.....the same sentiments go to your family too :) Baby weighing tomorrow, I wonder what our little man is now.