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mylittleuk
27th August 2011, 16:01
I am happy but sad as well. I’ve never been away from my family. Why is it always difficult to leave?:bigcry: I am leaving for UK in 15 days, just the thought of it makes my heart crash into pieces..full of mixed emotions.

Is there any Filipina out there living somewhere near Bromley London....? I need your advise:Help1: please my dear Pinay mentors, how will I cope up with homesickness... sorry po this is going to be my PERS TIME to UK..:Erm::Erm::Erm::NoNo:

angelmhe79
27th August 2011, 16:26
hi po ano ung visa mo now? im gonna apply for tourist this monday po

raynaputi
27th August 2011, 17:11
it's always difficult leaving your loved ones..i was like that when i went to Singapore for work..i think i was crying for a month! :omg: it's the sense of comfort whenever they're around that i missed..i even missed my mom's nags! :D But we all know we can't always stay at home and we'll leave our parent's house, whether just to another town or country..just always have communication with your family when you are in the UK already..always have a chat with them whether thru skype, email, Facebook or yahoo..and keep yourself busy too to take your mind off the homesickness..i'm sure you'd be able to meet new friends too..and ask your fiance/hubby to take you to places..:)

Moy
27th August 2011, 17:37
I’ve never been away from my family. Why is it always difficult to leave?

you were not alone thats for sure..me myself been away for almost 2 years now and i felt like been 20 years:yikes: since i was gone:bigcry::cwm24:
you'll use to it soon when you come to UK:Hellooo:
very normal to felt that way:D
goodluck and have a safe journey:xxgrinning--00xx3:
so while you are there make the most of your time while it last:action-smiley-081::icon_lol::xxgrinning--00xx3:

mylittleuk
30th August 2011, 16:58
it's always difficult leaving your loved ones..i was like that when i went to Singapore for work..


Hi raynaputi :Wave:, thanks for sharing your thoughts, I worked in Singapore too! but I never feel worried as we were only 3 hours away back home... :( adjustment period is always the hardest part...:NoNo: I am excited to meet fellow pinays in London, with them I will surely can cope up with homesickness the soonest :)

mylittleuk
30th August 2011, 17:02
you were not alone thats for sure..me myself been away for almost 2 years now and i felt like been 20 years:yikes: since i was gone:bigcry::cwm24:
you'll use to it soon when you come to UK:Hellooo:
very normal to felt that way:D
goodluck and have a safe journey:xxgrinning--00xx3:
so while you are there make the most of your time while it last:action-smiley-081::icon_lol::xxgrinning--00xx3:

Thanks for the encouragement Moy...:) I need that and I will keep that in mind...:xxgrinning--00xx3:

mylittleuk
30th August 2011, 17:04
hi po ano ung visa mo now? im gonna apply for tourist this monday po


Hi there, welcome to the friendly forum..:Hellooo:.. BTW, I applied for a spouse visa :)

lastlid
30th August 2011, 17:18
Hi,
I identify with what you are thinking as my wife (providing she gets her visa) will also be away from her family for the first time at the age of 24. And she has expressed the same apprehension as you. I am making it a priority that she has a good internet link, here, with her family at home and I am encouraging her to keep contact with her close relatives on a daily basis. I am also establishing contact with fellow pinoys on the Isle of Man and investigating the possibility of pinoy tv, all in an effort to help her not to get too homesick.

lastlid
30th August 2011, 17:21
By the way, I also get the feeling that I going to have to keep my apartment warm in an effort to replicate the kind of temperatures she has been used to all her life!:icon_lol:

scott&ligaya
30th August 2011, 17:28
hi there, I am sure your hubby will be preparing for your arrival and will make sure he can have some time away from work in the 1st few days or longer to at least show you around Bromley. you will have a new barkada before you know it. And if you are an ABS CBN watcher then he can get this service from ABS CBN Europe through a set top box and internet connection, ours is only £19.99 a month and when we got it the box was free. It will start to get a little cooler now so he can take you shopping for some warmer clothes hehhehehe

scott&ligaya
30th August 2011, 17:36
Hi Lastlid, I seem to remember when we were visiting my wifes cousin up near Blackpool, she was having a get together with friends and one lady was living in Douglas and had a pinoy store there.. Let me talk to my mahal tonight and see if my memory is correct, you may know the store/owner.

lastlid
30th August 2011, 17:40
Okay. I havent come across the pinoy store. Thanks.

There is only 60000 people on the island but 2000 are pinoys.

scott&ligaya
30th August 2011, 17:55
yes she mentioned therewas a large community there.. either lots of private residential care homes or very wise men who chose filipina brides :):):)

Dedworth
30th August 2011, 18:00
and investigating the possibility of pinoy tv, all in an effort to help her not to get too homesick.

Online free of charge - you'll soon get sick of the constant soaps, Pinoys Got Talent type stuff etc. I don't mind TV Patrol and miss no longer leering at the Wow Wow Wee girls

lastlid
30th August 2011, 18:15
Hospital and care homes i think....so i gather, scottligaya.

mylittleuk
31st August 2011, 02:33
hi there, I am sure your hubby will be preparing for your arrival and will make sure he can have some time away from work in the 1st few days or longer to at least show you around Bromley. you will have a new barkada before you know it. And if you are an ABS CBN watcher then he can get this service from ABS CBN Europe through a set top box and internet connection, ours is only £19.99 a month and when we got it the box was free. It will start to get a little cooler now so he can take you shopping for some warmer clothes hehhehehe

Woohooh :Jump: I like that idea of yours scotandligaya, I am really looking forward to have a TCF or The Filipino Channel for my entertainment :D, by the way is it different from Pinoy TV and ABS CBN Europe? Also, my husband will be taking his two week leave to be by my side... and yes you're right! we will be heading right away to do some shopping for my winter clothes... :Jump:, but I hope i can keep up with the COLD weather though :NoNo: good luck to me!:cwm3:

mylittleuk
31st August 2011, 02:34
hi there, I am sure your hubby will be preparing for your arrival and will make sure he can have some time away from work in the 1st few days or longer to at least show you around Bromley. you will have a new barkada before you know it. And if you are an ABS CBN watcher then he can get this service from ABS CBN Europe through a set top box and internet connection, ours is only £19.99 a month and when we got it the box was free. It will start to get a little cooler now so he can take you shopping for some warmer clothes hehhehehe

Woohooh :Jump: I like that idea of yours scotandligaya, I am really looking forward to have a TCF or The Filipino Channel for my entertainment :D, by the way is it different from Pinoy TV and ABS CBN Europe? Also, my husband will be taking his two week leave to be by my side... and yes you're right! we will be heading right away to do some shopping for my winter clothes... :Jump:, but I hope i can keep up with the COLD weather though :NoNo: good luck to me!:cwm3:

mylittleuk
31st August 2011, 02:36
Oooops.. sorry for double posting my reply. :Rasp:

lastlid
31st August 2011, 07:38
Woohooh :Jump: ... and yes you're right! we will be heading right away to do some shopping for my winter clothes... :Jump:, but I hope i can keep up with the COLD weather though :NoNo: good luck to me!:cwm3:
Yes. I have it planned for my wife to buy a nice warm jacket as a priority so we hope to go the mall (Trafford Centre) when she steps of the plane in Manchester. ( also so she such doesnt get withdrawal symptoms from Robinsosns or the Mall of Asia....:)

We talked about this and she will be bringing jeans with her and less in the way of shorts. And then we need to get her some warmer tops and some shoes /boots ....

DaveUK
31st August 2011, 08:16
By the way, I also get the feeling that I going to have to keep my apartment warm in an effort to replicate the kind of temperatures she has been used to all her life!:icon_lol:

Don't worry fella, she will adapt to the weather (eventually and for the most part!). The Manx weather won't beat her! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

DaveUK
31st August 2011, 08:16
By the way, I also get the feeling that I going to have to keep my apartment warm in an effort to replicate the kind of temperatures she has been used to all her life!:icon_lol:

Don't worry fella, she will adapt to the weather (eventually and for the most part!). The Manx weather won't beat her! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

aryM
31st August 2011, 10:06
I am happy but sad as well. I’ve never been away from my family. Why is it always difficult to leave?:bigcry: I am leaving for UK in 15 days, just the thought of it makes my heart crash into pieces..full of mixed emotions.

Is there any Filipina out there living somewhere near Bromley London....? I need your advise:Help1: please my dear Pinay mentors, how will I cope up with homesickness... sorry po this is going to be my PERS TIME to UK..:Erm::Erm::Erm::NoNo:

Hello dear, I understand how you feel :) I've felt the same way too. Been here in UK for 8 weeks already and still misses family back in the Phils. But my new family here in UK has been very helpful to take away the pain of missing my Phil. family. and my husband makes sure i get to talk to them every week. I'm sure your husband and his family and friends will make you feel alright. In the main time, make the most of your days there in the Phils with your family and friends. Have a safe journey and goodluck:Wave:

lastlid
31st August 2011, 10:26
Don't worry fella, she will adapt to the weather (eventually and for the most part!). The Manx weather won't beat her! :xxgrinning--00xx3:
Yes. My good wife wants to slide in the snow but I havent told her yet that it doent snow much on the island. May need to take her for a special trip to the mainland for that. :)

Where is the Pinoy shop that scottligaya refer to? I have seen the New Manila Cafe and I know that a range of pinoy foods can be bought at Robinosons
( not the same Robinsons as in Manila, by the way, for those others reading this post :icon_lol: )

scott&ligaya
31st August 2011, 10:42
Hi there, the owner is called Vilma, my mahal is calling her cousin today to try to get her contact details, I will pass them on when I have them

DaveUK
31st August 2011, 11:00
Yes. My good wife wants to slide in the snow but I havent told her yet that it doent snow much on the island. May need to take her for a special trip to the mainland for that. :)

Where is the Pinoy shop that scottligaya refer to? I have seen the New Manila Cafe and I know that a range of pinoy foods can be bought at Robinosons
( not the same Robinsons as in Manila, by the way, for those others reading this post :icon_lol: )

No idea fella I'm afraid. It's a new one on me too! Admittedly though I never made much of an attempt to see if there was one given no other Filipinos have ever mentioned it to my wife! :)

lastlid
31st August 2011, 11:15
Hi there, the owner is called Vilma, my mahal is calling her cousin today to try to get her contact details, I will pass them on when I have them

Ah OK thankyou scottligaya

Dave. It may be up in Ramsey.....

DaveUK
31st August 2011, 11:16
Best pack the sandwiches then if I have to go "up North"!! :D

lastlid
31st August 2011, 11:20
:icon_lol:
Best pack the sandwiches then if I have to go "up North"!! :D

lastlid
31st August 2011, 11:28
Woohooh :Jump: .. and yes you're right! we will be heading right away to do some shopping for my winter clothes... :Jump:, but I hope i can keep up with the COLD weather though :NoNo: good luck to me!:cwm3:

http://www.google.com/search?q=bluewater+mall&hl=en&client=safari&rls=en&biw=1077&bih=683&prmd=ivnsm&tbm=isch&tbo=u&source=univ&sa=X&ei=TAxeTveQMIy08QO-xJmjAw&sqi=2&ved=0CD0QsAQ

Try this link for the Bluewater Mall in Kent.....

lastlid
31st August 2011, 12:24
Best pack the sandwiches then if I have to go "up North"!! :D

Yep. I will need to renew my visa to go to Ramsey!!
:icon_lol:

DaveUK
31st August 2011, 14:50
Yep. I will need to renew my visa to go to Ramsey!!
:icon_lol:

And make sure you confirm what time they close the gates before you go so you can still get out! :)

mylittleuk
1st September 2011, 06:17
Hello dear, I understand how you feel :) I've felt the same way too. Been here in UK for 8 weeks already and still misses family back in the Phils. But my new family here in UK has been very helpful to take away the pain of missing my Phil. family. and my husband makes sure i get to talk to them every week. I'm sure your husband and his family and friends will make you feel alright. In the main time, make the most of your days there in the Phils with your family and friends. Have a safe journey and goodluck:Wave:

Hi aryM, thanks! I will just keep myself busy then and look for a job right away instead of crying in one corner...:D where in the UK do you live? I'm afraid seems like no members here is living in Bromley London...or at least somewhere near there..:Erm:

mylittleuk
1st September 2011, 07:25
We talked about this and she will be bringing jeans with her and less in the way of shorts. And then we need to get her some warmer tops and some shoes /boots ....

I hope your wife gets her visa without a hassle, just make everything clear with your documents and present as much proof of the two of you having a genuine relationship with accommodation and a healthy bank account and a good result will follow quickly :D

Where do you live in Uk? It's good that it does not snow much in your place... does it mean less cold..?:Erm:

South-east boy
1st September 2011, 12:01
Hi aryM, thanks! I will just keep myself busy then and look for a job right away instead of crying in one corner...:D where in the UK do you live? I'm afraid seems like no members here is living in Bromley London...or at least somewhere near there..:Erm:

There are a few members here from around various areas of London, though I'm not sure of any in Bromley yet. I know a few Filipino here and there around London. There is an asian/filipino grovery store near me in Gillingham (that's not far from Bromley), Kent that is run by a filipino couple and I found this shop while seraching: Filipino Foods Supply Ltd, 284 High Street, Orpington, Kent. BR6 0ND. Phone number -01689 838330. Orpington is even nearer to Bromley! You'll have to vist the Bluewater shopping mall, which a few years ago when it was built, was the largest shoppng mall in Europe!

I'm sure you'll meet new friends soon once you're here! :)

lastlid
1st September 2011, 13:19
Where do you live in Uk? It's good that it does not snow much in your place... does it mean less cold..?:Erm:
Hi I don live anywhere near London (Bromley) I am afraid. Where I live it isnt quite so cold in winter as some other places in the UK. But London is okay. And all the pinoys that I speak to here say that they get used to the climate here. My wife is aware of the cooler weather, but as soon as she steps foot off the plane ( literally ) I will be taking her to a mall in Manchester for some warmer clothes, than she has right now in Phils. :)

mylittleuk
1st September 2011, 16:04
There is an asian/filipino grovery store near me in Gillingham (that's not far from Bromley), Kent that is run by a filipino couple and I found this shop while seraching: Filipino Foods Supply Ltd, 284 High Street, Orpington, Kent. BR6 0ND. Phone number -01689 838330. Orpington is even nearer to Bromley! You'll have to vist the Bluewater shopping mall, which a few years ago when it was built, was the largest shoppng mall in Europe!

I'm sure you'll meet new friends soon once you're here! :)

Woooh... thank you for the good info south east boy:Jump: now I have one sure target place to go when I arrive in Bromley and oh the bluewater shopping mall I gooled it and yes looks really big, can I buy cheap items/ clothes there or items in bargain price, if its a place of pricey stores then I think it will take time for me to conquer the place:D

Sad that no one in particular here lives in Bromley :doh:bigcry:9

scott&ligaya
1st September 2011, 16:14
don`t worry .. our usual advice is get your hubby to take you up to the local catholic church at the end of service and you will bump into several Pinoys/Pinays. Also around the hospital there will always be filipina staff, just go to the nearest coffee shop to the hospital and you will bump.

lastlid
1st September 2011, 16:23
Hi again, our biggest malls arent so disimilar to the Mall of Asia. But often items of clothing can be pricey. Depends on what you are after.

My wife likes Tribal clothing ( I dont think there is one in the UK? ) but I noticed that a] she takes a much smaller size than many UK females and b] that the fabrics in Phils are often that bit thinner as they don't need to be so thick. So our clothing tends to be more expensive for those reasons, amongst others.

I know this might sound a bit silly but I have a feeling she might well fit into our childrens range of clothing as she is 4ft 11" and a size 6. So we may find clothing is cheaper for her, here, for that reason. :)

lastlid
1st September 2011, 16:24
don`t worry .. our usual advice is get your hubby to take you up to the local catholic church .......

A coincidence as I have just sent my wife a photo of our local catholic church today...........:)

South-east boy
1st September 2011, 16:52
Woooh... thank you for the good info south east boy:Jump: now I have one sure target place to go when I arrive in Bromley and oh the bluewater shopping mall I gooled it and yes looks really big, can I buy cheap items/ clothes there or items in bargain price, if its a place of pricey stores then I think it will take time for me to conquer the place:D

Sad that no one in particular here lives in Bromley :doh:bigcry:9

Well, Bluewater does have quite a few designery/fancy shops which are more expensive, but it also has the usual high-street shops and quite often shops have sales on when you go anyway. There's also another shopping mall called Lakeside which is in Dartford and not far from Bluewater as well. The Asian/Filipino store near me in Gillingham is called Leo's Oriental mini-mart, 125 Canterbury street, Gillingham, Kent. ME7 5TT. tel no.: 01634 853000.

Bluebirdjones
6th September 2011, 13:55
Sad that no one in particular here lives in Bromley 9

WRONG !

At least 12 Filipinas live in Beckenham alone ! (1-2 miles away).
Half the group met up in Nandos just this past Saturday night.
..... (the men de-camped to the pub & met them later !)

PM me when u are settled, and I'll get my wife to contact you.