Am I being treated Unfairly?

[jameskirk]

Hello everybody,
I know I'm a newbie here but I what I cannot understand is that why this thread of mine had been closed on the Introduce yourself forum. All I did was to explain the things that I've posted and if theres any problem with that, just pinpoint what my mistakes are then I can easily accept my mistakes.
But rather here, the thread had been closed. Am I not being reasonable to say that this is unfair since I've not been given to explain my point of view. Just that I have been proven that I have a point in my post then suddenly, someone just suggested that the thread be closed. I have not used any bad words to anyone and anybody. Instead I am offering my advice. I am not forcing anybody to take advice. Rather it is I who has received many bad words - though some people says that I do deserve such words- but then again it is ok with me if I've been accused of such, just you guys just got to prove your point when saying something bad to someone, it is of my opinion people should be given a fair chance to explain their side......

[KeithD]

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[gracia143]

Hello everybody,
I know I'm a newbie here but I what I cannot understand is that why this thread of mine had been closed on the Introduce yourself forum. All I did was to explain the things that I've posted and if theres any problem with that, just pinpoint what my mistakes are then I can easily accept my mistakes.
But rather here, the thread had been closed. Am I not being reasonable to say that this is unfair since I've not been given to explain my point of view. Just that I have been proven that I have a point in my post then suddenly, someone just suggested that the thread be closed. I have not used any bad words to anyone and anybody. Instead I am offering my advice. I am not forcing anybody to take advice. Rather it is I who has received many bad words - though some people says that I do deserve such words- but then again it is ok with me if I've been accused of such, just you guys just got to prove your point when saying something bad to someone, it is of my opinion people should be given a fair chance to explain their side......
Let me say this in Tagalog, I hope you don't mind and I hope Keith and the Moderators won't mind. Ang kulit mo kasi eh!!! Tsaka mali talaga ang timing nang pasok mo...Buti na lang hindi ka banned, that could have been worst. Why don't you just accept the fact na you were wrong...even if you did not single out any Filipina, the fact na nilait lait mo ang mga Filipina, masakit yon ha!

[scotsfiancee]

:xxgrinning--00xx3:http://prayerthoughts.com/Images/Animated_blind_man_hg_clr.gif

U really made me laugh Boss :icon_lol:


P.S Jameskirk, brits are smart enough to know those things.
Im sick and tired hearing this :bigcry:

:angry:

[fred]

No goldigging Filipino`s in the R.P?
Yeah right!
If I was trapped in a third world country that discriminates against those too poor to afford a college education (which may get me a job in Mc doo`s earning P150 a day, if Im very lucky), I`d be a gold digging opportunist in a heartbeat..
In that situation,would I marry for money? Damned right I would!
Much easier these days too, with modern internet connection.

Having said that,I haven`t heared about Filipina`s leaving their husbands en masse once here in the UK so your "advice" on that score is obviously not much in demand...
Perhaps you should justify that statement with hard facts before you get another page of pixels rendered "Locked" !!

[KeithD]

Perhaps he should read this;

http://www.dale-carnegie.com.hk/images/book/howwinfriends.jpg

[gm47]

At the risk of being slated, I think he has been treated unfairly, I've read his original post and there is truth in all of it. We know that there are some bad as well as so many good Filipinas, we know that there are gold diggers in all societies, there has been examples of women (all nationalities) getting into a country via romance then ditching their husband.


So why has he been so lambasted.... or am I missing something ??


The only thing that I can guess at is that he put himself up as expert judge but is that so bad ?



Gerry

[KeithD]

It's a majority of how the context is read, you are the very small minority....not that it says the massive majority are correct in, but......

[eljean]

He may not really said it directly or not say anything bad at all but...if you are too smart enough it should be the big boss here that has to do with what he has been trying to offer for advices or he should have made his own forum.
i mean members here are already couples and are happily married brit and fil couples...its more of visa thing being discussed around...he can do some searching some are having some trouble of their fil gf he can give a great advices if he want to...

[hilda_danao]

I agree with gm47.

[eljean]

:doh

[KeithD]

If I bought a kilo of oranges....and one of them was bad....then ate a strawberry...that was not bad....would that mean the carrots grow on trees or the milk is black?

[nparvus1202]

I read the original post, I think the problem was he came into the forum greeting everybody knowing that a lot of posters here are happily married to Filipinas and suddenly he says there are lot of Filipina gold diggers etc etc. Of course there are, it's everywhere, but if you are in a place where people are happily exchanging greetings, news about new babies, happy families, it is inappropriate for those kind of comments. Maybe he should have gone to other forum site where a lot of people are complaining about their marriage or broken families.

[pennybarry]

Sorry James you had many Filipina GF in the past? and didn't find a genuine one. I still believed, you can still find a genuine without telling bad words with other Filipinas in this forum:doh.
My husband also a victim of a fake one, but he is happy now realizing that not all Filipinas are gold diggers as when he marry me, I had already my own properties and never asked him money before. :xxgrinning--00xx3::):BouncyHappy:

[fred]

At the risk of being slated, I think he has been treated unfairly




I agree with gm47.


Keith..This is how it begins!!
The Great filipinouk rising (2007) may have begun!!
Your peasants are revolting!!
:ARsurrender:

[fred]

If I bought a kilo of oranges....and one of them was bad....then ate a strawberry...that was not bad....would that mean the carrots grow on trees or the milk is black?


I don`t know what you are taking Keith but I bet its not rotten oranges!!
If you see little red men jumping out of your monitor,dont worry!! It will pass!

[fred]

http://www.whatrain.com/moon/teams/LittleRedMen2.jpg

[fred]

:NoNo: :gp:

[fred]

http://i42.photobucket.com/albums/e343/punkgerl/starabstract-3dateliercom.jpg

[KeithD]

I don`t know what you are taking Keith but I bet its not rotten oranges!!
If you see little red men jumping out of your monitor,dont worry!! It will pass!

:Erm:

[joebloggs]

:gp:

jameskirk your just in the wrong place to give advice on filipina's, most on here are already married or are engaged to a filipina. your too late, you should try one of the dating sites.. where scammers might be lurking :xxparty-smiley-004:

dont get offended, :ARsurrender: , most of already know about scammers. :D

[tiger@tigress]

:gp:

jameskirk your just in the wrong place to give advice on filipina's, most on here are already married or are engaged to a filipina. your too late, you should try one of the dating sites.. where scammers might be lurking :xxparty-smiley-004:
dont get offended, :ARsurrender: , most of already know about scammers. :D

Thats true and the reason why it was locked up to put a period in the topic you are not banned so you are fairly treated and like you they also way what they feel :ARsurrender::ARsurrender::REDancedancer08::xxgrinning--00xx3:

[joebloggs]

oh i'm waiting for my filipina wife to get a full time job :D, maybe there is a web site somewhere mentioning british gold diggers :REGamblMoney01HL1: :Britain::REGamblMoney01HL1:

i've got a list of things i want to spend her wages on :rolleyes:

:D

[walesrob]

I think Joe sums it up perfectly "jameskirk your just in the wrong place to give advice on filipina's, most on here are already married or are engaged to a filipina. your too late, you should try one of the dating sites".

Normally I would have banned you jameskirk, but at least you patiently persisted in your explanation of your original post, but it all just came out the wrong way. For that reason, I opted for a thread lock, and jameskirk is not banned, and is welcome to post again on forum.

[silver13]

James Kirk as everyone has said, we are not stupid in here, we would check up on any girlfiriend who we would one day wish to marry, there are gold digging girls all over the world, even if I was t marry an english woman she could still be a gold digger? Is it wrong to want a little bit of financial security, oranges do not grow on trees? Ok they do but usually someone wants paying for them!!!! There are plenty of women from all around the world who may just marry for the money, they are usually easy to spot, if you are not absolutely blinded by beauty and your own stupidity, they will have thier hand in your pocket quicker than you can say Jack Robinson. Before I met Anilyn I spoke to women from all over the UK and all around the world, I did not trust any of them till I spoke to them for a long time and checked out addresses etc I did not even trust my Anilyn who will soon be my wife, I trust her now. We are all intelligent enough to do our own research on different cultures and also scammers, so we do not need your advice in that matter. I say use your head and not your heart, you can fall in love later when your loved one proves themselves worthy of a lifetime commitment. Anilyn did, some others disapeared when I falsly claimed I could not afford to visit them for about 2 years, Mmmmm no money they ran, no matter what part of the world they came from. So James Kirk either provide useful information on Visas etc or start your own web site! Also Learn to Love Others and not **** them off and maybe you will find someone who will love you, or you may grow old and lonely trying? One more thing James Kirk, yeah you have fel victim of British Sense of Humor and yes it can be that vicious it can cut like a knife, this is normal, so understand our culture and don't get too offended

Ingat and good luck in finding love, but learn to love yourself first

[bornatbirth]

i missed ur posts before so i read them as u got banned!(not that i missed to much).
But have u tryed writing english which doesnt offend people and doesnt make u sound like a moron because thats how u come across to anyone who reads ur posts!
if u want to give advice on how to spot so called scammers then give it?

my girlfriend doesnt want a guy from there because they cheat!her last boyfriend did before they was going to get married and his lover had his baby,they went out for 7 years so i guess he had many lovers before he got found out?.But u will probably agree with him,as u do the same thing?i guess in a country its easy to get many girls there as they are from poor backgrounds and fooled into false money and promises,my gf does like spending my money(what girl doesnt?)but wants a guy who will love her and not CHEAT on her,i have a feeling you do this too?

can i ask u something? did u get scammed urself and ur still mad?

[walesrob]

The only thing that I can guess at is that he put himself up as expert judge but is that so bad ?


Gerry if he hadn't have chosen the name jameskirk, maybe I'd have taken him more seriously, and no, I'd doubt if he's an expert judge. Also his posts are not really relevant to FilipinoUK. Let's face it, if a British guy suspects his Filipina girlfriend of scamming, he's hardly going to trust the opinion of a "James Kirk", someone who "accidentally found this forum"?

Do a google search for "Pointman Cebu", now he's an expert in the field of spotting scammers.

[gm47]

Gerry if he hadn't have chosen the name jameskirk, maybe I'd have taken him more seriously Yes I take your point.

he's hardly going to trust the opinion of a "James Kirk", someone who "accidentally found this forum"? I don't disagree with that but I just think that the abuse he got was OTT, if anyone was to do a search, you will find that some of the most respected members of this forum have made similar statements.

Do a google search for "Pointman Cebu", now he's an expert in the field of spotting scammers.[/quote] Yes I know about Pointman Cebu but I think that is now defunct.

I just feel that everyone jumped on the bandwagon of abuse, if say...for example admin or yourself had said something positive after the original post, I bet you most posters after that would not have said anything negative.

my 2 cents

Gerry

[KeithD]

But we didn't, as he posted something that was arrogant. I always respond with the same, best to keep things in the correct context it was meant, otherwise it gets confusing.

[gyle2007]

You must have a very high expectation morally from Filipinas which is actually quite commendable. Unless you've only ever had a girlfriend from the Philippines, you'll find that gold diggers come in different nationalities, including British. I'm sorry that your experiences with Filipinas have so far been nothing but disappointing. But now that you're armed with experience, add a bit of open-mindedness and I'm sure you'll get to meet someone decent.

Cheers!

[fred]

I just feel that everyone jumped on the bandwagon of abuse, if say...for example admin or yourself had said something positive after the original post, I bet you most posters after that would not have said anything negative.

Can`t argue with that.:iagree:
Still..We all know how much the Welsh love their sheep!!
:xxparty-smiley-004:

[joebloggs]

:Blacklistliar:

:gp:

[Peanutz]

Hello everybody,
I know I'm a newbie here but I what I cannot understand is that why this thread of mine had been closed on the Introduce yourself forum. All I did was to explain the things that I've posted and if theres any problem with that, just pinpoint what my mistakes are then I can easily accept my mistakes.
But rather here, the thread had been closed. Am I not being reasonable to say that this is unfair since I've not been given to explain my point of view. Just that I have been proven that I have a point in my post then suddenly, someone just suggested that the thread be closed. I have not used any bad words to anyone and anybody. Instead I am offering my advice. I am not forcing anybody to take advice. Rather it is I who has received many bad words - though some people says that I do deserve such words- but then again it is ok with me if I've been accused of such, just you guys just got to prove your point when saying something bad to someone, it is of my opinion people should be given a fair chance to explain their side......

James Kirk, you are the kind of a person that doesn't have any tact and you have a brain of a chicken. You brag that you had a lot of filipina gf past and present and that allows you to recognize a gold digger filipina by just talking to her? and this is your forte;...[ As you have spent your miserable life studying on how to unveil an ill will person...]. Does anyone here asked for your help? Have you read first the post here and what is this forum about before writing and introducing yourself? Your writings tells us about you... And you whine because your limited mind can't comprehend why do the members here replied to you like the way they did? You are such an *****. Here let me tell you one thing, people like you who brag about their abilities (a gold digger spotter) and offers advice (without anyone asking for it) are those people who should be burned. (i.e. you are being advice to think first before posting anything here).

...and this is a mere example of idiocy and stupidity Part II.


HELLO TO EVERYONE!!! AM BACK-ISH!!!:D

[gracia143]

Welcome back (we miss you hehe)! I think you've said it all there. Hope this time he'll understand, that is, if he has the ability to do so.

[walesrob]

I just feel that everyone jumped on the bandwagon of abuse, if say...for example admin or yourself had said something positive after the original post, I bet you most posters after that would not have said anything negative.

my 2 cents

Gerry


No, I don't buy that, and don't try to shift the blame on me (or Keith).

This is a free forum, everyone is allowed their own opinion and I don't believe that everyone was being negative just because Keith, Joe or myself didn't say anything positive after jameskirk's original post. I'm sure most members on here have their own mind, and I'm even more sure that they don't just post just to appease Mr Admin or either me or Joe, if so, it would be a very boring forum. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Without sounding patronising, I closed the other thread to save jameskirk any further embarrasment and ridicule, and at the time (and now) I think jameskirk was bang out of order for what he said.

[walesrob]

Still..We all know how much the Welsh love their sheep!!
:xxparty-smiley-004:

:D

[scotsfiancee]

James Kirk, you are such an *****.




Does it mean EEJIT peanutz???

:Blacklistthatsucks:

[tiger@tigress]

Does it mean EJEIT peanutz???
:Blacklistthatsucks:

Nice pic Scott! :D:D:D

[Peanutz]

Does it mean EJEIT peanutz???

:Blacklistthatsucks:


:DI think that is how you call it in "english".:Hellooo:

[Peanutz]

Welcome back (we miss you hehe)! I think you've said it all there. Hope this time he'll understand, that is, if he has the ability to do so.



<Missed you all>:Hellooo:Hug!

[gm47]

No, I don't buy that, and don't try to shift the blame on me (or Keith). It wasn't about blame, don't know how you came to that conclusion, it was just an example.

This is a free forum, everyone is allowed their own opinion and I don't believe that everyone was being negative just because Keith, Joe or myself didn't say anything positive after jameskirk's original post. I'm sure most members on here have their own mind, and I'm even more sure that they don't just post just to appease Mr Admin or either me or Joe

Ok if that's your opinion, we'll leave it at that.

[KeithD]

This is a democratic forum....you all get to vote on something.....and I do what I was going to do in the first place anyway :xxgrinning--00xx3:

...that's Western democracy :NoNo:

[Peanutz]

I just feel that everyone jumped on the bandwagon of abuse, if say...for example admin or yourself had said something positive after the original post, I bet you most posters after that would not have said anything negative.

my 2 cents

Gerry


Gerry, I assure you that if I was here I will be the first one to burn him. Not because I want to please anyone, but just to make him realize that he needs a little more learning. I would not call it an abuse as you stated but I would give him a lesson that there is nothing worse than aggressive stupidity.

[hilda_danao]

I have to say something about what Jameskirk said. gold digging does exist amongst filipinas. but i only heard that so far on filipinas who married DOM americans & DOM Japanese. A friend of my friend married american & this girl divorced her husband after getting her green card. A 20-yr old girl I met at CFO seminar said she is a japan entertainer(japayuki) and she married a 70-yr old Jap so she can get a higher salary rate for being an entertainer. also, she has a secret filipino bf to satisfy her need in :censored:. I also had an officemate b4 who told all her bf in internet that she's separated but she's actually happily married & she's ditching money from them..long story about her....& more other true stories...
I am telling this truthfully. it does happen but it's so rare now, now that there are more civilized and educated pinays. we have conscience and we believe in Karma. it only hurts if Jameskirk mention your name & told you that you are gold digger when you're not.

Anyways I haven't heard that issue from UK so far. perhaps british men are worth loving :D
In my case, my husband is poor so i didn't marry him for his money(poor here in uk is having no spare money. poor in Phil is having mantika at asin, or bagoong for your viand :bigcry:). most filipinas prefer westerner coz majority of them(accdg to them:D. noh, accdg to most pinays) are faithful unlike most filipino married men who even brag about their mistresses to their mates. most westerners love our natural tan complexion unlike most filipino men who likes white skin ( that's why it's so difficult to find a lotion that is not whitening in Phil. i only learn to love my color when i met my husband.hehe...). most westerners like our petite small hips & butt. filipino men like chubby big fat wide a**. It's better to be loved for what you are, right? Apart from that, we just want a happy married life which some find in a westerner....

(I hope no one will hate me for agreeing with jameskirk in some of his views. i am also happily married to my british man but i only say this based on fact)

[Peanutz]

I have to say something about what Jameskirk said. gold digging does exist amongst filipinas. but i only heard that so far on filipinas who married DOM americans & DOM Japanese. A friend of my friend married american & this girl divorced her husband after getting her green card. A 20-yr old girl I met at CFO seminar said she is a japan entertainer(japayuki) and she married a 70-yr old Jap so she can get a higher salary rate for being an entertainer. also, she has a secret filipino bf to satisfy her need in :censored:. I also had an officemate b4 who told all her bf in internet that she's separated but she's actually happily married & she's ditching money from them..long story about her....& more other true stories...
I am telling this truthfully. it does happen but it's so rare now, now that there are more civilized and educated pinays. we have conscience and we believe in Karma. it only hurts if Jameskirk mention your name & told you that you are gold digger when you're not.

Anyways I haven't heard that issue from UK so far. perhaps british men are worth loving :D
In my case, my husband is poor so i didn't marry him for his money(poor here in uk is having no spare money. poor in Phil is having mantika at asin, or bagoong for your viand :bigcry:). most filipinas prefer westerner coz majority of them(accdg to them:D. noh, accdg to most pinays) are faithful unlike most filipino married men who even brag about their mistresses to their mates. most westerners love our natural tan complexion unlike most filipino men who likes white skin ( that's why it's so difficult to find a lotion that is not whitening in Phil. i only learn to love my color when i met my husband.hehe...). most westerners like our petite small hips & butt. filipino men like chubby big fat wide a**. It's better to be loved for what you are, right? Apart from that, we just want a happy married life which some find in a westerner....

(I hope no one will hate me for agreeing with jameskirk in some of his views. i am also happily married to my british man but i only say this based on fact)

:Erm:...I...I think it is not about the gold digger or ill will person is the main point...or I have misunderstood something? :Brick:

[robeth]

Hello everybody,

But rather here, the thread had been closed. Am I not being reasonable to say that this is unfair since I've not been given to explain my point of view. Just that I have been proven that I have a point in my post then suddenly, someone just suggested that the thread be closed. I have not used any bad words to anyone and anybody. Instead I am offering my advice. I am not forcing anybody to take advice. ......

everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but NEVER, NEVER give unsolicited advise!!

The fool wont heed it, the wise dont need it.:)

[jameskirk]

Hi to everyone,
I have read everything that you posted, I do admit there is an error in the timing and the manner in which I’ve posted since this is supposed to be a site wherein the majority (I do assume) of British male who are successfully married or are engaged with a Filipina. When I accidentally browsed this site, I was overwhelmed because there are many happily married to Brits, that’s why I chose to register, be a member then post here. I also like to tell everybody that my intentions are good, I have no ill will on what I’ve posted, and I’ve just been misunderstood. I don’t think anybody here is stupid. I like to thank Mr. Walesrob from his intention in saving me from further embarrassment and ridicule. I feel that I got a point in what I’m saying but I respect his decision in closing the thread. Thanking and respecting doesn’t mean that I am agreeing. I am not offended or hurt in any way about the things said about me.
I’d like to tell everybody here that I am an open minded person. I like to learn things. I am happy with the way my life and relationship is going. I also would like to learn more about British culture, especially if there’s anyone here who’s willing to share it with me. I would also want to know you guys better, if any of you plans to visit here in the Philippines, maybe you can call me, and then maybe we can have a drink or two…

[joebloggs]

sorry guys, but i thought i had to explain a few things..

nothing wrong with offering advice and help, its one of the reasons why scouser keith created this forum :xxgrinning--00xx3:..

i'm a user on a few forums, and they get idiots - as this forum does to, and no i'm not saying jameskirk is one of them, who get a buzz or something from posting messages for advice and help, in thier posts they ask for help, other users give advice, and then they make another post in a different section asking for advice again but with completey different information from thier previous post. its the idiots out there, who come across forums like this and have nothing to do in their dinner hour or work time, and make up :censored: stories. you dont get to see them all as the mods have deleted them. so mods look at a new users first post and decide wether this new user is just a :censored: or really wants to contribute and be a member of the forum. sometimes the mods get it wrong, for a number of reasons..

for me in jameskirk first post its the tone of his post, its a fairly negative post for a new user, 'there are many filipina who will marry just to get out of poverty since philippines is a very poverty stricken country' - this happens in every country and culture, its nothing to do with being a filipina - look at Anna Nicole Smith :NoNo:, I'am sure everyone knows about povery in the philippines, this could have offended some filipina users on here, who have married brits and also their husbands, by suggesting that 'many' filipina only marry to get out of poverty :NoNo:.

' but there are those filipina who are really bad, e.g. gold diggers, those who will depart after arriving at your country, those who got ill will, those with bad attitude, these filipinas are the ones you guys should avoid' .. again really negative statement, there are many reasons why filipina's go back home, thier husband is a :censored:, they miss their family, culture shock :omg: or lonely, in the UK 1/3 of marriages end in divorce for what ever reason, so you could assume 1/3 of filipina's married to brits will end the same way, common sense says you dont marry some one who is only after your money, and who wants to marry someone with a bad attitude , who you cannot get along with ?.

' i do assume you cannot really spot someone especially if you're not familiar our culture and our way of living here. sometimes just by personally conversing with someone i can easily spot these types as to whether they are really worth the effort or not.'

for most people on here, who are engaged or married to filipina's, he did assume wrong, as most are aware of and familiar with the way of living there, again scam marriages and gold diggers are in every culture not just in the philippines.

maybe jameskirk your not fimiliar with our english culture, and the tone of your post upset some users on here, i wonder if i took advice from you, nearly 8 years ago, and would you have told me my wife of 5 years is 'whether they are really worth the effort or not', and i've been there, after chatting for a few months to the filipina online, who is now my wife, she told me she had to get a job quick, she needed about £1,000 to pay for her uni fees next month, as her sister who was working was supose to pay it , she had spent the money, a gold digger ?? so i said i would send her the money (scouser keith, i was well off in them days :bigcry:), she told her mom, and i got a letter from her mom, saying thanks , but no thanks, she would not take my help, after weeks of me nearly begging her mom to take the money, she finally gave in, and said she would take it as a loan, and near 8 years later, and nearly 5 years married, what advice would you have given me then ? was she worth it taking the risk ???. many filipina have a lot of pride, and i know me offering her money, dented my wifes and her moms pride. filipina's are proud people, so dont put them down :xxgrinning--00xx3:

for me the tone and content of your post offended me a bit, but then maybe its a culture thing :D

you are right thou, there are gold diggers out there, and new users need to be warned. but none on here ,, i hope :D

anyway no one is dead :D

so :ARsurrender:

:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[joebloggs]

Hi to everyone,
I have read everything that you posted, I do admit there is an error in the timing and the manner in which I’ve posted since this is supposed to be a site wherein the majority (I do assume) of British male who are successfully married or are engaged with a Filipina. When I accidentally browsed this site, I was overwhelmed because there are many happily married to Brits, that’s why I chose to register, be a member then post here. I also like to tell everybody that my intentions are good, I have no ill will on what I’ve posted, and I’ve just been misunderstood. I don’t think anybody here is stupid. I like to thank Mr. Walesrob from his intention in saving me from further embarrassment and ridicule. I feel that I got a point in what I’m saying but I respect his decision in closing the thread. Thanking and respecting doesn’t mean that I am agreeing. I am not offended or hurt in any way about the things said about me.
I’d like to tell everybody here that I am an open minded person. I like to learn things. I am happy with the way my life and relationship is going. I also would like to learn more about British culture, especially if there’s anyone here who’s willing to share it with me. I would also want to know you guys better, if any of you plans to visit here in the Philippines, maybe you can call me, and then maybe we can have a drink or two…


:xxgrinning--00xx3:, just take it easy ..

[scotsfiancee]

sorry guys, but i thought i had to explain a few things..

nothing wrong with offering advice and help, its one of the reasons why scouser keith created this forum :xxgrinning--00xx3:..

i'm a user on a few forums, and they get idiots - as this forum does to, and no i'm not saying jameskirk is one of them, who get a buzz or something from posting messages for advice and help, in thier posts they ask for help, other users give advice, and then they make another post in a different section asking for advice again but with completey different information from thier previous post. its the idiots out there, who come across forums like this and have nothing to do in their dinner hour or work time, and make up :censored: stories. you dont get to see them all as the mods have deleted them. so mods look at a new users first post and decide wether this new user is just a :censored: or really wants to contribute and be a member of the forum. sometimes the mods get it wrong, for a number of reasons..

for me in jameskirk first post its the tone of his post, its a fairly negative post for a new user, 'there are many filipina who will marry just to get out of poverty since philippines is a very poverty stricken country' - this happens in every country and culture, its nothing to do with being a filipina - look at Anna Nicole Smith :NoNo:, I'am sure everyone knows about povery in the philippines, this could have offended some filipina users on here, who have married brits and also their husbands, by suggesting that 'many' filipina only marry to get out of poverty :NoNo:.

' but there are those filipina who are really bad, e.g. gold diggers, those who will depart after arriving at your country, those who got ill will, those with bad attitude, these filipinas are the ones you guys should avoid' .. again really negative statement, there are many reasons why filipina's go back home, thier husband is a :censored:, they miss their family, culture shock :omg: or lonely, in the UK 1/3 of marriages end in divorce for what ever reason, so you could assume 1/3 of filipina's married to brits will end the same way, common sense says you dont marry some one who is only after your money, and who wants to marry someone with a bad attitude , who you cannot get along with ?.

' i do assume you cannot really spot someone especially if you're not familiar our culture and our way of living here. sometimes just by personally conversing with someone i can easily spot these types as to whether they are really worth the effort or not.'

for most people on here, who are engaged or married to filipina's, he did assume wrong, as most are aware of and familiar with the way of living there, again scam marriages and gold diggers are in every culture not just in the philippines.

maybe jameskirk your not fimiliar with our english culture, and the tone of your post upset some users on here, i wonder if i took advice from you, nearly 8 years ago, and would you have told me my wife of 5 years is 'whether they are really worth the effort or not', and i've been there, after chatting for a few months to the filipina online, who is now my wife, she told me she had to get a job quick, she needed about &#163;1,000 to pay for her uni fees next month, as her sister who was working was supose to pay it , she had spent the money, a gold digger ?? so i said i would send her the money (scouser keith, i was well off in them days :bigcry:), she told her mom, and i got a letter from her mom, saying thanks , but no thanks, she would not take my help, after weeks of me nearly begging her mom to take the money, she finally gave in, and said she would take it as a loan, and near 8 years later, and nearly 5 years married, what advice would you have given me then ? was she worth it taking the risk ???. many filipina have a lot of pride, and i know me offering her money, dented my wifes and her moms pride. filipina's are proud people, so dont put them down :xxgrinning--00xx3:

for me the tone and content of your post offended me a bit, but then maybe its a culture thing :D

you are right thou, there are gold diggers out there, and new users need to be warned. but none on here ,, i hope :D

anyway no one is dead :D

so :ARsurrender:

:xxgrinning--00xx3:


And that makes u a good Mod Joe :xxgrinning--00xx3:


:cwm38:

[robeth]

there are gold diggers out there, and new users need to be warned. but none on here ,, i hope :D

anyway no one is dead :D

so :ARsurrender:

:xxgrinning--00xx3:

Now that I am in the UK, i am planning to DIG some gold...will that make me a gold digger? I need the golds coz its sooo :censored: expensive here!! :Help1:
Like:

A friend parked near to where I work i offered him coffee so he stayed a few mins and his car get clamped and he have to pay £190 bec its a private road...i felt so sad and guilty bec that made a very expensive coffee to have...:furious3::furious3:

[KeithD]

No clamping in Liverpool........the cars are usually nicked before the clamper arrives :action-smiley-081::D

[robeth]

No clamping in Liverpool........the cars are usually nicked before the clamper arrives :action-smiley-081::D

:omg::omg::yikes::yikes::NoNo:

its terrible.

london gets smaller and smaller.

[joebloggs]

yes and its the clampers who nick them !
if they can't nick them, they clamp'em :D

only place you'll find gold is where scouser keith is , up in the welsh hills, i can see him now bent over panning away :action-smiley-081:

:omg:, yes not a nice sight :D

[KeithD]

At least I get to see the crack of dawn...........This is Dawn....:xxgrinning--00xx3:

http://www.bigxtits.com/blog/images/april/mask1.jpg

[Tonet]

Hello everybody,
I know I'm a newbie here but I what I cannot understand is that why this thread of mine had been closed on the Introduce yourself forum. All I did was to explain the things that I've posted and if theres any problem with that, just pinpoint what my mistakes are then I can easily accept my mistakes.
But rather here, the thread had been closed. Am I not being reasonable to say that this is unfair since I've not been given to explain my point of view. Just that I have been proven that I have a point in my post then suddenly, someone just suggested that the thread be closed. I have not used any bad words to anyone and anybody. Instead I am offering my advice. I am not forcing anybody to take advice. Rather it is I who has received many bad words - though some people says that I do deserve such words- but then again it is ok with me if I've been accused of such, just you guys just got to prove your point when saying something bad to someone, it is of my opinion people should be given a fair chance to explain their side......


You know what? you were not giving advise with your first post :Erm: you gave bad comments about pinays... and that is rude specially you are in a such happy forum...

And its so sad to think you're a pinoy... and not only pinays are gold digger there's a LOT more gold digger in other country,, And why people always see gold digger pinays? (TAGALOG) anong tawag mo sa kabaro mo na okey lang makisalo sa japayuki na nakikisisping rin sa hapon para magkapera,, why people tend to notice bad things pinay do? what about MEN?

yeah there are pinays who get married with other nationality to get out of philipppines,to find for a better life, but is that wrong? is it a sin to wish the best for your self and your family? why dont you look at cases of pinays being maltreated by their foreign partner? and its also a fault of a peson been fooled. they didnt spent lil more time to know their woman very well,,it takes two to tanggo, no one will sell themselves if no one bother to buy them..

Everybody is aware of gold digging issue,its everywhere, you dont have to come in this forum to tell us that thing as if you were insinuating something....

[eljean]

I have to say something about what Jameskirk said. gold digging does exist amongst filipinas. but i only heard that so far on filipinas who married DOM americans & DOM Japanese. A friend of my friend married american & this girl divorced her husband after getting her green card. A 20-yr old girl I met at CFO seminar said she is a japan entertainer(japayuki) and she married a 70-yr old Jap so she can get a higher salary rate for being an entertainer. also, she has a secret filipino bf to satisfy her need in :censored:. I also had an officemate b4 who told all her bf in internet that she's separated but she's actually happily married & she's ditching money from them..long story about her....& more other true stories...
I am telling this truthfully. it does happen but it's so rare now, now that there are more civilized and educated pinays. we have conscience and we believe in Karma. it only hurts if Jameskirk mention your name & told you that you are gold digger when you're not.

Anyways I haven't heard that issue from UK so far. perhaps british men are worth loving :D
In my case, my husband is poor so i didn't marry him for his money(poor here in uk is having no spare money. poor in Phil is having mantika at asin, or bagoong for your viand :bigcry:). most filipinas prefer westerner coz majority of them(accdg to them:D. noh, accdg to most pinays) are faithful unlike most filipino married men who even brag about their mistresses to their mates. most westerners love our natural tan complexion unlike most filipino men who likes white skin ( that's why it's so difficult to find a lotion that is not whitening in Phil. i only learn to love my color when i met my husband.hehe...). most westerners like our petite small hips & butt. filipino men like chubby big fat wide a**. It's better to be loved for what you are, right? Apart from that, we just want a happy married life which some find in a westerner....

(I hope no one will hate me for agreeing with jameskirk in some of his views. i am also happily married to my british man but i only say this based on fact)

I 100% agree on that!:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[scotsfiancee]

I don't dig GOLDS, i only dig DIAMONDS:cwm24:

[joebloggs]

At least I get to see the crack of dawn...........This is Dawn....:xxgrinning--00xx3:



does your wife know about dawn :action-smiley-081: :yikes:

:D

[jameskirk]

Hi everyone,
I have been carefully reading my threads on the opinion of everybody regarding my post. I want to thank everybody for taking time in in participating and reacting. It's been a very good learning experience. Upon browsing this and my first thread in the introduce yourself forum, I've read several Filipina who in their their opinion (correct me if I'm wrong cause I don't want to be misquoted) have preference on foreign partners over Filipino men since in their opinion Filipino men tend to be womanizing type and foreigners (especially Brits) tend to be loyal type. I would like to open a thread on this topic and am hoping, if anybody had the time, to come and join to explore this issue....

[fred]

I tell you what.You answer my question..Then I`ll have a stab at answering yours..How about that?:cwm3:
I do have some other questions for you..But first things first eh?

[KeithD]

Psychiatrist or Pyschopath?......You lot choose :icon_lol:

[bigtombowski]

gosh, i go away for a short time and suddenly the lunatics are running the asylum! My goodness, it's like the Northern Ireland Assembly in here LOL! Anyway . . . ummm i hope everything's ok in here! eek!