Our 19-year age gap was only an issue to other people

[lastlid]

"Samantha Booth was 21 and working behind a bar at her local pub in Glasgow, when Martin, a man nineteen years her senior, walked into her life."


"Martin, a truck driver, now 54, was a regular in the pub Samantha had begun working in after moving home following a trip to America, and the pair were introduced by her brother".

http://uk.lifestyle.yahoo.com/our-age-gap-relationship-was-only-an-issue-to-other-people.html

[Terpe]

Common story, age difference.
Doesn't bother either of us one little bit.
It did seem to bother a couple of my friends initially. But that was their problem not mine.
I think the only time age difference ever came to my mind was when we first met, and I did have a few fleeting moments thinking my chances might not the best.
Soon forgot those, the chemistry was there almost immediately.
I think psychological age and outlook much more important than physical ages or how we look.

Just sharing my opinion.

[grahamw48]

Only the jealous and small-minded see it as a problem. :NoNo:

There are far more important things in life for people to be concerning themselves about.

As the lady in the report says 'people are people'.

If such relationships are happy and fulfilling for both partners, then it has sod all to do with any other busybodies....whose own relationships with their contemporaries may have only lasted a few short miserable years anyway. :angry:

[lastlid]

I agree with you two chaps. It did bother me at first but looking back I really have had no issues at all, anyway. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Steve.r]

There is a gap betweem my wife and I, but I really don't care and nor does she, although she ribs me about it sometimes :icon_lol:.
If others have a problem then it is tough. I think a compatability is far more important and that we love eachother. I think it comes down to jealousy and lack of sight from the 'haters'. I think this argument comes into the same category as those who think we have 'Thai brides' :cwm23: :censored: idiots

[lastlid]

There is a gap betweem my wife and I, but I really don't care and nor does she, although she ribs me about it sometimes :icon_lol:.
If others have a problem then it is tough. I think a compatability is far more important and that we love eachother. I think it comes down to jealousy and lack of sight from the 'haters'. I think this argument comes into the same category as those who think we have 'Thai brides' :cwm23: :censored: idiots

I thought this age gap story was of special interest as it involved an all British couple......

[grahamw48]

Yes, that IS more unusual.

Different rules if you're rich... :D

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[RickyR]

I'm heavily troubled by the 9 year age difference between my wife and I. She is older then me, but looks younger!! grrrrrr.

[Arthur Little]

Hmm ... :rolleyes: ... mighty midget, Bernie Ecclestone's missus doesn't look too enamoured, though, DOES she? And no wonder ... !

[mickcant]

If the new couple are attracted to each other, than that’s the first important step, none of anyone else’s business:xxgrinning--00xx3:

If it’s a Brit man and a younger beautiful Filipina then it’s his ex wife who might be most jealous :doh
Mick.:)

[Arthur Little]

Aye ... :olddude: *Rupert Murdoch's Chinese wife was probably "press"-ganged into the public eye. But ... given the certainty of his limited lifespan - not to mention his vast wealth - she has decided to :D and *"bear" it! :do_it:

[Steve.r]

I thought this age gap story was of special interest as it involved an all British couple......
Makes no difference imo

[lastlid]

Hmm ... :rolleyes: ... mighty midget, Bernie Ecclestone's missus doesn't look too enamoured, though, DOES she? And no wonder ... !

Is she much taller than him? I thought she might be on a step or something...

[grahamw48]

Is she much taller than him? I thought she might be on a step or something...

Yes, he's about 5'3". :D

Another famous age-gap couple....and that famous question:


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lj-9lSEBBm0

[juvyjones28]

Talking about age gap, I was bit annoyed yesterday when we went to waitrose to shop for some bits, the old lady cashier was looking at me insanely then she looked at my husband, I don't know what's her problem :xxaction-smiley-047 so I just ignored it, our age difference is 20 so that might freaked her out :icon_lol::NoNo: But I don't care really as we've been together for nearly 5 years, I just have to get used to these people who can't accept the fact that age really doesn't matter. ;)

[Terpe]

Yes, he's about 5'3". :D

Another famous age-gap couple....and that famous question:


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lj-9lSEBBm0

:laugher::laugher:

Classic :icon_lol::icon_lol:

I'd really forgotten that. Still just as funny:icon_lol:

[Arthur Little]

Hmm ... :rolleyes: ... mighty midget ...

.................................. :yeahthat: ...


Is she much taller than him? I thought she might be on a step or something...

... maybe the 'Grand Prix' :icon_tonguew: the BIG attraction! :cwm24:

[lastlid]

Yes, he's about 5'3". :D

Another famous age-gap couple....and that famous question:



Stunning costume....:D

[lastlid]

Talking about age gap, I was bit annoyed yesterday when we went to waitrose to shop for some bits, the old lady cashier was looking at me insanely then she looked at my husband, I don't know what's her problem :xxaction-smiley-047 so I just ignored it, our age difference is 20 so that might freaked her out :icon_lol::NoNo: But I don't care really as we've been together for nearly 5 years, I just have to get used to these people who can't accept the fact that age really doesn't matter. ;)

I dont get that problem as every other cashier is a Filipina......:laugher:

Also, Mrs Lastlid loves the self service checkout anyway.....:D

[grahamw48]

If I was there I would have to say something...like " yes, am I a lucky guy".
Accompanied by my normal big schoolboy grin. :D

[Arthur Little]

Stunning ....:D

... which is CONSIDERABLY more than can be said for their respective husbands ... :omg: ... *they're *no' :censored: boannie!!

[hawk]

my last wife was 25 yrs younger than me but this time with my fiancee i closed the gap a little she,s 15 yrs younger the only people that seem to be bothered about the age gap was ss social sevices if your happy dont let it bother you there prolbly jelouse anyway

[grahamw48]

My fiancee is 34 years younger than me.

Do I win ? :icon_lol:

[stevie c]

The social services what the :censored: has it go to do with them :Erm:

[Jimbojac]

My fiancee is 34 years younger than me.

Do I win ? :icon_lol:

NICE ONE!
One of my best Mates was on holiday years ago in the Canary Islands, just divorced from his ex gold digger of a wife. Having a quiet beer at the bar, asked for a light for his smoke off a cute 17 year old German girl. Got chatting. 10 years on they are married, have a lovely kid and a business together, she is 27 and my Mate 59! Happy as Larry. Good on 'em!!:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[hawk]

i just been to court to get acces to see my kids and they kept going on about the age bettween me and her saying it was wrong that she going out with someone my age if i could have said what i wanted i would be locked up now:laugher:ss think they know it all

[stevie c]

There is a 15yr age gap between me & my wife & we couldn't be happier:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[lastlid]

..........and they kept going on about the age bettween me and her saying it was wrong that she going out with someone my age.......

That's not good.

[grahamw48]

i just been to court to get acces to see my kids and they kept going on about the age bettween me and her saying it was wrong that she going out with someone my age if i could have said what i wanted i would be locked up now:laugher:ss think they know it all

That is :censored: out of order, and indeed now may be against the law (age discrimination).

If I'm not allowed to discriminate against homosexuals, etc etc etc, I'm also entitled to marry whomsoever I wish, as long as they are of legal age.
At least we're from opposite sexes ! :cwm23:

[Arthur Little]

I'm heavily troubled by the 9 year age difference between my wife and I. She is older then me, but looks younger!! grrrrrr.

That's like my first [late] wife and I. She was 5 years older than me ... but - being petite & dainty - looked younger. :anerikke:

[Arthur Little]

... petite & dainty ...

... her name was Iris; I used to refer to her as "my 'little' flower"! ;)

[Arthur Little]

There is a 15yr age gap between me & my wife & we couldn't be happier:xxgrinning--00xx3:

:xxgrinning--00xx3: Stevie ... I'm 15 years older than Myrna; and, like you & Florsel, we're blissfully happy together.:lovecouple:

[Arthur Little]

Now, :rolleyes: ... going back to the yahoo article citing the 19-year age gap between a Glasgow couple:

Let me tell you about my late wife's brother, Robin (Bob) and his wife, Linda ... who met in 1967, when Bob, an Architect, was already 35 and Linda - his Office Junior - sweet 17. They married the following year ... and will celebrate 44 years of marriage a week today. Come July, she'll be 62 ... then, in September, he will turn 80.

Quite a remarkable achievement :rolleyes: - by ANY standards :rolleyes: - let alone for a British couple.

[Leen]

it doesn't bother us a little bit i am proud walking about hand in hand with my hubby....we just laugh every time people ask how old he is and they will know the 19 years difference but hey age is just the number,what matters most is the feelings and respect you had for each other.
I am so glad i had found my bestfriend,my soulmate,my lover and my hubby all in one:xxgrinning--00xx3::D:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[lastlid]

Now, :rolleyes: ... going back to the yahoo article citing the 19-year age gap between a Glasgow couple:

Let me tell you about my late wife's brother, Robin (Bob) and his wife, Linda ... who met in 1967, when Bob, an Architect, was already 35 and Linda - his Office Junior - sweet 17. They married the following year ... and will celebrate 44 years of marriage a week today. Come July, she'll be 62 ... then, in September, he will turn 80.

Quite a remarkable achievement :rolleyes: - by ANY standards :rolleyes: - let alone for a British couple.

Yes. I thought the article shed age gap marriages in a positive light. Nice to see as sometimes in our society it isn't the case.

[songz777]

My fiancee is 34 years younger than me.

Do I win ? :icon_lol:

Ohh darn it you beat me :) my gilr is 25 years younger :) and honestly we have the same outlook and fun attitiude etc so yeah age is noting we both love each other and thats all that matters.
I guess lot of people get jealous or just stereotyped by what society has conditioned them to believe, but we know better! ;)

[grahamw48]

Very true.

Nothing like a gorgeous young lady to keep one 'perked up'. :D

[stevewool]

age is just a number we are all told, its what you feel inside, and i feel GREAT

[grahamw48]

Good man. :xxgrinning--00xx3:...and woman. :icon_lol:

[lastlid]

You are as old as the woman that you feel, so they say....

[malchard888]

there is a 27 year gap between me and my wife and i dont give a french connection uk what others think especially as im also going to be a dad again:Sex:, i wonder what my grandchildren will think :hubbahubba:

[grahamw48]

:appl:

:baby1:

:iagree: :censored: em. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Iani]

Thing to remember with age gaps, is that most couples, the gap is just a couple of years. It's no accident, because what attracts people together in the first place, might have been that they met at school (so obviously similar year), or out in town (40 year olds don't frequent the same clubs as 22 year olds normally - they have more bloody sense :icon_lol: ) etc.
It's also because relationships can be about shared experiences, and that means very similar age. You can't talk about Thatch, Duran Duran, big hairstyles etc with a 20 year old, because she'd be hard pushed to remember anything before dance rave music.

This is why when you look at most average couples, there is a very small age gap.

Then, you have to consider other things. Just as for many people, we are attracted to the same sort of person - for others, then the opposite can attract. I know enough people with big age gaps to know this........and we are talking about both uk people.

There are other instances - sometimes it is cultural - where women prefer older men and will seek this sort of relationship. As many on here will know, this is not unusual with SE asia ladies to want older men.

Sometimes this is the issue of these women just looking for a financial way out of a bad place - the proverbial mail order bride. For this reason, some people have an issue about this. It is a shame that it makes "proper" couples who are together for real love, look bad. It makes some people think he is just some dirty old man with a temper problem who can't get a girlfriend in his own country (unfortunately I know some also fitting this description)

With age gaps, you have to always consider, when one partner is retired, maybe 70, 80, might be incontinent, if the gap is so big, then the other might still be in the prime of life, wanting to go out.
This is why someone once said to work out the maximum normal age gap, to half your age and add 7.
Well even that is arbitary, and although it might be a guide, for others it's a load of rubbish.

What really counts is this

First -that it is an equal relationship and there are no power games. So that means that it isn't some power one over the other - one just wanting a route out of the shanty town for example. I mean - that they are together because that is the man/woman they want to share their life with

Second - that both partners have considered the age gap and what it really means. If it is so big, that there won't be issues later in life as the example I gave.

And really, if both of those simple things are satisfied, then it is no-ones damned business but theirs, and the couple shouldn't give a rats ass what anyone else thinks.

That 45 year old guy walking around with a 20 year old, all the other guys would like to be him tonight, and the other women will be thinking that he must have something special to offer, and will remember that when they go to their potbellied tattoo'd husband tonight, as he's sitting there farting on the sofa.

What matters most is compatibility. The norm is 2 year age difference, but that is irrelevant if it isn't right for the two of you. In the end, it is what the two of you think that really matters

[allyn]

Hummm... Me and my partner got 20 years difference... And it never bother us at all... Not even other people's opinion about our age gap... I think the worst opinion toward us is not our age gap but our status...(bcoz we are both separated) its more on between us, how we treat each other... He been patient with me and very supportive... I wouldn't trade my relationship with him with a younger guy who have no sense of responsibility and backbones.

So as long as you know what you feel towards each other I guess nothing really matter outside your reationship

[Iani]

I wouldn't trade my relationship with him with a younger guy who have no sense of responsibility and backbones.



Yes, this is something I have often heard, especially with SE asian ladies saying why they want an older man who will be a real man and look after her.

Age gap? Meh, you can be sure she loves you for you (and as I've said elsewhere, you can tell deep down if something is right or not)

What matters is that both partners go into it with eyes open, know the advantages and disadvantages, and if the age gap is really big, that at some point, one of them will feel older.
Get over that, and it's all go :xxgrinning--00xx3: It's no different from a couple the same age. Yes there will be more shared experiences and outlooks, but there will be other problems, there always is in every relationship.

You always have your ups and downs, but if you feel right together - it is absolutely no-one else's damned business, and they're probably only jealous anyway :D

[allyn]

Don't know about what se Asian girls prefer... But I said my opinion about age gap based on my own personal experience... I been married to a younger scot guy, I work fair to be with him, but treated like a .... ( excuse my word pls) and been steriotype by his family...
Now I'm with my new partner I also work, look after our baby and him... He treated me like his wife and never did he stereotype me about anything .....
Just my own opinion :Jump:

[gWaPito]

Hmm ... :rolleyes: ... mighty midget, Bernie Ecclestone's missus doesn't look too enamoured, though, DOES she? And no wonder ... !

Its all the same laying down :Sex:

[grahamw48]

Missionary is not so good when you're tall and she's short.

I either get backache or she has only my hairy chest to snog with...so not quite true. :)

[gWaPito]

Missionary is not so good when you're tall and she's short.

I either get backache or she has only my hairy chest to snog with...so not quite true. :):do_it::D:xxgrinning--00xx3: Could I suggest you shave 'your hairy chest' xxxx

[deeen]

I was thinking about this yesterday, cos some workmates were btching about age gaps.

I don't notice the same narrrow minded-ness in the Philippines.

Is this more of a problem in the UK than the Philippines?

Or is it just becuase I don't understand Tagalog? :doh

Interested to hear any Filipinos / Filipinas comment on how their countrymen view age gaps in RP.

[grahamw48]

There are busybodies everywhere who see it as a 'problem'.

Like a lot of things, it's normally THEIR problem, not yours. :)