Hello I'm from Philippines!

[ImaSimpleGirl]

I'm sorry for my english coz honestly I'm not really good at it.
By the way I'm Ms. M. :Wave: my intials are MFBT I have super long name yeah? and new here..well I decided to join coz recently I've been reading some of the threads here especially those which are about love and relationships between british men and Filipinas..So there! I will be posting another topic about my concern (I mean my personal dilemma's in life :D ) hope to get many advices from all of you..thank you!

[ImaSimpleGirl]

I'm actually new here and decided to join because I really want to hear advices about what I am going through right now..

Well, I met this guy online I think it's been two weeks that we are exchanging messages through email. He was the one who approached me first at another social networking site, he said that he is searching for a his life partner (wife) who is loyal, good, etc. etc. and a friend of him advices him to look and try online coz it worked for him( to his friend) so when he saw my picture he said that he likes me and wants to know more about me..

to make the story short, we end up exchanging messages, coz I think he is really busy to chat so what we usually do is to send messages to each other everyday and since we started our friendship he already me three times..He is telling me he is really planing to see me in person and her mom can't wait or him to get marry, those words get me too excited coz I like to him so much! and it's my first time ever having intimate relationship with a foreigner and just through online.

This is my question:
He is already telling me that he loves me even though we get to know eac h other for two weeks only! but as of for me, I really like him and I thik I'm starting to fall for him too. but I am just confused and afraid that I might end up broken hearted..and aside from that I dont know the real score between the two of us, It's really complicated but I can feel the sincerity of what is telling me..Is that really possible for him to love me in just a short span of time we've known each other?though I feel the same way but I just could't help but think as I dont want to end up broken..

Sorry for the long post, I really want to hear some advices about this..thank you

[Steve.r]

Welcome Simple,

My advice is 'go slow' He says 2 weeks and he is in love already..... sorry alarm bells ringing already!!

Go careful, take your time.

[mickcant]

Hi:Wave:
In that short time he likes you, but cannot be "in love" in the true sence until you have at least met and spent time together.

He is more "in lust" take things easy and do not get too carried away and see how you feel when you do meet:Cuckoo:

All the best,
Mick.:):)

[mickcant]

Hello ImaSimpleGirl:Hellooo:
Welcome to the forum.
Mick.:)

[hawk]

hi and welcome it takes time to build a relationship its was months before i met my girl now my wife after i first meet her i told her this is a relationship i wanted and was not after sex she was ok about this on been honest you should work on the same dont rush into having sex give your time to geather to build a strong bond as with me it was a year till i meet my wife after the first meet and now married time will tell if this person is realy wanting a relationship or just sex if you give into having sex then her dosent want you then you end up hurting but if he respect you then he will wait till you both know each other better i wish you all the best and that it works out for you :Wave:

[Terpe]

:Hellooo: Hi there Mrs M, welcome aboard :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Looking forward to you postings

[malchard888]

Hope u enjoy this forum, u will get lots of advice from some very knowledgeable members who will make u welcome.:)

[Bluebirdjones]

Have u actually seen him on cam ?

"Scam" is ringing in my ears..... but lets hope I'm mistaken.

(if u get a parcel/present from him, and "customs" contact you asking for a clearance fee, then you'll know for certain !)

[Arthur Little]

I'm sorry for my english coz honestly I'm not really good at it.

:meet-1: Firstly, there is no need to apologise :nono-1-1: ... I've just been perusing both of your threads, and - if I may say so - your command of English is beyond reproach. Indeed, your spelling is excellent ... and I mean that sincerely! :)

It seems to me, that what you need most right now, is self-confidence ... a characteristic that can be cultivated to grow and develop naturally over time. ;) We're here to help and guide you towards achieving this goal - as you've seen from the very sensible responses already posted.




I'm actually new here and decided to join because I really want to hear advices about what I am going through right now..


... secondly, I have taken the decision to merge and relocate your two threads under 'Courting & Relationships' so that the replies you receive are kept in one place for easy reference.

Meanwhile ... a warm :welcomex: to our friendly, online filipino community.

[Dave0555]

Hi ImaSimpleGirl

Like others replying here I would tread very very carefully here. I cannot believe anyone can fall in love so quickly when they are so far apart and only communicate electronically. I think there are a lot of people out there who see Filipinos as an "easy target" because you are, in general all very nice, friendly and sincere human beings. I have personally witnessed some very sad stories of men who acquire Filipino "Trophy Wives" and I would not want that to happen to you.
On my first stay with my soon to be wife who is from Cebu we both agreed on separate rooms so we could have the opportunity to get to know each other without distractions and it was very very successful (by the way we stuck to our guns and had separate rooms throughout our first stay together).
I wish you luck but please please be very very careful and try not to get your hopes built up too much. Trust me - there are a lot of good guys out there and unfortunately a lot of insincere ones too.

Dave

[imagine]

hello ImaSimpleGirl welcome to the forum,

as others say take time, be careful , it is time that will show you if he is genuine or a scammer,
even if he is genuine you owe each other time to know each other, good luck, anything occurs that seems suspiciouse, like asking for money ect, ask here for advice :)

[Terpe]

Mrs M,
You already received plenty of good advice. I hope you will take notice and just slow down.
I'm not actually the best person to give out relationship advice for all sorts of reasons.

Contrary to what most people will tell you, I DO believe in "love at first sight" as that is essentially what happened to me. But I never disclosed my true feelings for quite some time, until I had rationalised them internally myself.
'Love at first sight' is quite far away from 'love at first chat' in my opinion.

So I say take the advice given, slow down don't allow yourself to be taken in by words alone in just 2 weeks. The more and the longer you communicate the less likely it is to be untrue.
It takes time.
Good luck

[stevewool]

its good to talk, so keep talking for a little longer, maybe in a few months you may know each other better, its strange that its the male is saying i love you after 2 weeks, just be careful,

[bigmarco]

Hi Miss M and welcome to our forum :Hellooo:

[ImaSimpleGirl]

Yeah..I'm going crazy right now :bigcry: am I such a fool to believe in all his telling me :(

[ImaSimpleGirl]

Hi:Wave:
In that short time he likes you, but cannot be "in love" in the true sence until you have at least met and spent time together.

He is more "in lust" take things easy and do not get too carried away and see how you feel when you do meet:Cuckoo:

All the best,
Mick.:):)

Helo and thank you for the advice..well, honestly I am really aware about scamers and all about that so what I did when he first approached me I did searched online for his other possible accounts trying to find other info's about him but I end up nothing..I didn't get any answer and that's when I thought that maybe he's telling me the truth..and aside from that, He never talked about sex or anything malicious..so what is that?what does that mean?thanks for your advices :)

[ImaSimpleGirl]

its good to talk, so keep talking for a little longer, maybe in a few months you may know each other better, its strange that its the male is saying i love you after 2 weeks, just be careful,

that is what I am also thinking about, I have read that british men are not that open on talking or expressing on how they are feeling so I was really amazed that he did tell me that he loves me though he only knew me for 2 weeks. arrghhh :doh

[ImaSimpleGirl]

Mrs M,
You already received plenty of good advice. I hope you will take notice and just slow down.
I'm not actually the best person to give out relationship advice for all sorts of reasons.

Contrary to what most people will tell you, I DO believe in "love at first sight" as that is essentially what happened to me. But I never disclosed my true feelings for quite some time, until I had rationalised them internally myself.
'Love at first sight' is quite far away from 'love at first chat' in my opinion.

So I say take the advice given, slow down don't allow yourself to be taken in by words alone in just 2 weeks. The more and the longer you communicate the less likely it is to be untrue.
It takes time.
Good luck

He told me that he is already planning to meet me atleast for the first time but he is always saying that in God's grace all those things will take in place..I'm not asking for anything I just want ti be sure if he really do love me..

Yesterday I ask him coz it really bothers me a lot that I am actually telling him that I love him and he is also telling me that he loves me so much but we actually dont have that kind of closure about our relationship status, we are not talking about on what we are right now so I was really confused and he told me to take his word and trust him and give him a chance to prove to me that he is serious about me..Is that enough for me to have this peace of mind?? oh my God I want to cry :( :bigcry:

[ImaSimpleGirl]

Hi ImaSimpleGirl

Like others replying here I would tread very very carefully here. I cannot believe anyone can fall in love so quickly when they are so far apart and only communicate electronically. I think there are a lot of people out there who see Filipinos as an "easy target" because you are, in general all very nice, friendly and sincere human beings. I have personally witnessed some very sad stories of men who acquire Filipino "Trophy Wives" and I would not want that to happen to you.
On my first stay with my soon to be wife who is from Cebu we both agreed on separate rooms so we could have the opportunity to get to know each other without distractions and it was very very successful (by the way we stuck to our guns and had separate rooms throughout our first stay together).
I wish you luck but please please be very very careful and try not to get your hopes built up too much. Trust me - there are a lot of good guys out there and unfortunately a lot of insincere ones too.

Dave

Thank you Dave :thankyou:
I am aware about and so far, all he is telling me as of the moment is that he loves me and he is really thankful that he met me at the right time, like what I have said he is searching for his life partner and tried to look online to find out if he'll be lucky enough to find one so here I am falling for him now.. I dont know what to do, just the thought of him being fake my heart will be broken in pieces :reaction:

[ImaSimpleGirl]

Have u actually seen him on cam ?

"Scam" is ringing in my ears..... but lets hope I'm mistaken.

(if u get a parcel/present from him, and "customs" contact you asking for a clearance fee, then you'll know for certain !)

Helo..and thank you for your response.

well as of now we were just exchanging messages through email, I saw his picture coz he sent to me one and he also ask for my picture too and told me that he will show that to his mum but until now we dont got the chance to chat coz I think he is busy at work..I am getting one mail from him everyday and he already called to me three times. He never ask for anything our topic were all about getting to know each other, etc. etc. I hope and pray that he is not a scammer or anything :(

[ImaSimpleGirl]

hi and welcome it takes time to build a relationship its was months before i met my girl now my wife after i first meet her i told her this is a relationship i wanted and was not after sex she was ok about this on been honest you should work on the same dont rush into having sex give your time to geather to build a strong bond as with me it was a year till i meet my wife after the first meet and now married time will tell if this person is realy wanting a relationship or just sex if you give into having sex then her dosent want you then you end up hurting but if he respect you then he will wait till you both know each other better i wish you all the best and that it works out for you :Wave:

helo hawk..

as of now, he never open up about sex or anything malicious and I by the way he is telling me, it seems that he's a true gentleman, there's no sign of him being horny or something like that.

[Steve.r]

Maybe he is true to you, how old is he? why does he need approval from his mother:Erm:

Like people have said, maybe he is not experienced with ladies, or he is just in 'lust' right now. Why have you not seen him on webcam yet? you can tell far more when talking face to face.

Just take care, and go slow, make no promises :)

[ImaSimpleGirl]

Maybe he is true to you, how old is he? why does he need approval from his mother:Erm:

Like people have said, maybe he is not experienced with ladies, or he is just in 'lust' right now. Why have you not seen him on webcam yet? you can tell far more when talking face to face.

Just take care, and go slow, make no promises :)

Hi steve thanks or your comment.
well, according to him he is now 42 yrs old and working as a Marine Engineer. His mom came from ASIA too (singapore) and that's one o the reason why he wants to get marry to an asian instead of english ladies..he said his mom wants him to get marry soon maybe because of his age..
It's not that I dont believe in what he is telling me, I can feel that he is sincere but I just want to be sure.. Is that really possible for him to love me even though he haven't seen me in flesh??hay..I am always asking that to myself :doh

He said he had several relationship with english ladies but ending up broken with them and he has never been married..I just ask him to chat face face with me..I dont know what is going to be his response. :Erm:

[Dave0555]

Glad to help ImaSimpleGirl

The more I read on this thread the more concerned I become. I am really sorry but I find the whole story very suspicious. I dont necessarily think he is a scammer but I do get the impression that he is desperate to get married and is also being pressured by his mother. Is that really what you want?
I am 57 and Lolita arrives here from Cebu on July 1st. She is 48 so we are both mature people and we have lots of experience between us. I am sure she would say the same to you as one of her friends recently got married to a guy from the UK and within days the marriage was in difficulty. She is 26 and he is late 40's early 50's.
You are getting fantastic advice from others on here so dont be afraid to just keep asking. We are all here to help.
I hope this helps and I hope you dont get too disheartened by it all. By the way have you seen each other on cam yet - that is always a great way of getting a feel for each other.
Good luck and keep in touch. DAVE and LOLITA

[Bluebirdjones]

The more I read on this thread the more concerned I become. I am really sorry but I find the whole story very suspicious.

Ditto

[sars_notd_virus]

This is my question:
He is already telling me that he loves me even though we get to know eac h other for two weeks only! but as of for me, I really like him and I thik I'm starting to fall for him too. but I am just confused and afraid that I might end up broken hearted..and aside from that I dont know the real score between the two of us, It's really complicated but I can feel the sincerity of what is telling me..Is that really possible for him to love me in just a short span of time we've known each other?though I feel the same way but I just could't help but think as I dont want to end up broken..

Sorry for the long post, I really want to hear some advices about this..thank you

Give him ultimatum....tell him to visit and meet you in the Philippines...you cant say ''I LOve You'' to someone you dont know??? you dont even know how he looks ,how he speaks , how he walks, ...strange eh!!:doh
anyway, welcome to the forum ImaSimplegirl!!

[careedee]

hi simplegirl,

welcome and have a great time here in the forum!:)

I think the best thing to do with your dillema, just like what most people here are saying is to slow down and be patient. Dont be too carried away with all the fruitful things his telling you. if everything he says is true then why not encourage him to chat with u online (skype) yes he maybe be busy at work but surely he'll have atleast an hour or two to chat with u, although ofcourse you both have to sacrifice because of the time difference specially you simplegirl. To be honest regularly chatting online is the best thing to do to know each other well. take it from the experiences of the people here, if you want to be sure of the man you're speaking to then take your time and be patient, the longer you know and chat with the person the more you know his intentions are real. :)

[ImaSimpleGirl]

Glad to help ImaSimpleGirl

The more I read on this thread the more concerned I become. I am really sorry but I find the whole story very suspicious. I dont necessarily think he is a scammer but I do get the impression that he is desperate to get married and is also being pressured by his mother. Is that really what you want?
I am 57 and Lolita arrives here from Cebu on July 1st. She is 48 so we are both mature people and we have lots of experience between us. I am sure she would say the same to you as one of her friends recently got married to a guy from the UK and within days the marriage was in difficulty. She is 26 and he is late 40's early 50's.
You are getting fantastic advice from others on here so dont be afraid to just keep asking. We are all here to help.
I hope this helps and I hope you dont get too disheartened by it all. By the way have you seen each other on cam yet - that is always a great way of getting a feel for each other.
Good luck and keep in touch. DAVE and LOLITA

Hi Dave,
I also dont like the idea of him getting marry to me just because his mum want him to.. and I haven't seen him ever since we started to chat..we only share messages through email. By the way, I just ask him to chat with webcam with me and if he refuses then maybe he is a real fake :bigcry:

[ImaSimpleGirl]

hi simplegirl,

welcome and have a great time here in the forum!:)

I think the best thing to do with your dillema, just like what most people here are saying is to slow down and be patient. Dont be too carried away with all the fruitful things his telling you. if everything he says is true then why not encourage him to chat with u online (skype) yes he maybe be busy at work but surely he'll have atleast an hour or two to chat with u, although ofcourse you both have to sacrifice because of the time difference specially you simplegirl. To be honest regularly chatting online is the best thing to do to know each other well. take it from the experiences of the people here, if you want to be sure of the man you're speaking to then take your time and be patient, the longer you know and chat with the person the more you know his intentions are real. :)

Helo Careedee,
Thanks for your comment..I just ask him to chat with me..and now, by reading all of your comments and opinions about this, I am starting to think to slow down and just go with the flow, if ever he refuses to chat with me then maybe he's a real fake (and that will make me cry! :bigcry: ) Thank you very much for all your concerns and opinions..I really really appreciate it :)

[ImaSimpleGirl]

Give him ultimatum....tell him to visit and meet you in the Philippines...you cant say ''I LOve You'' to someone you dont know??? you dont even know how he looks ,how he speaks , how he walks, ...strange eh!!:doh
anyway, welcome to the forum ImaSimplegirl!!

Hi Sars :)

Thanks for your comment. frist of all we've been chatting for two weeks now, it's just two weeks and I dont want to demand anything from him as I dont want him to think of me as a Scammer or anything coz I'm not :) I only saw his picture when he sent one to me..I am expecting his response in an hour from now..I just hope that he will agree to have a meet and greet chat with me through webcam hehe :)

[mickcant]

Most mums want their sons to marry a nice girl, nothing wrong with that, if he does chat with you using Skype or somthing like that so you can see each other it will help you come to your own conclusion, it is your thoughts that count.

I would be wary though if he does not want to chat where he can also see you.

I used to chat to my Filipina girl friend at 6am British time, before i went to work.:hubbahubba:
I think that was early afternoon for her.

Take it slow all could be fine.:xxgrinning--00xx3:
Mick.:)

[ImaSimpleGirl]

:Jump::bigcry::bigcry:
Most mums want their sons to marry a nice girl, nothing wrong with that, if he does chat with you using Skype or somthing like that so you can see each other it will help you come to your own conclusion, it is your thoughts that count.


Hi Mickant,

You're absolutely right! and that is what he used to tell me always that her mom wants a nice girl for him to marry.. I am just waiting for his response and if he says no, that will break my heart into pieces :bigcry: but maybe he's not the right man or me :(

[careedee]

your welcome simplegirl...

if you dont mind me asking how old r u? judging by your photo you look very young....dont rush, remember this qoute "Good things comes to those who wait".. I did and Im happily married and contented...:)

[sars_notd_virus]

Hi Sars :)

Thanks for your comment. frist of all we've been chatting for two weeks now, it's just two weeks and I dont want to demand anything from him as I dont want him to think of me as a Scammer or anything coz I'm not :) I only saw his picture when he sent one to me..I am expecting his response in an hour from now..I just hope that he will agree to have a meet and greet chat with me through webcam hehe :)


well, welll,welll hope he agrees with you ...In a virtual and high tech world of the internet ,two weeks is long enough to ask someone to turn on his cam :rolleyes:

[Steve.r]

Avoiding the webcam makes me feel very bad for the situation.... he is probably sat in a steamy room in Lagos, Nigeria furiously typing to 20 women at the same time.... just my cynical view.

On a side, why would you be crying for this guy that YOU have only talked to for 2 weeks, Sars is right, you need to wait, and in the well penned words in a song by Phil Collins..... ' you cant hurry love, you just have to wait'

Oh, and dont take an excuse that he doesn't have a webcam, everyone has cams these days, and if he doesn't have one, tell him to man up and go buy one!! the cheapskate :rolleyes:

[Dave0555]

Great idea - that will definitely flush him out if he is a fake. I found several scammers on FH when I first started out on this road. They are very easy to spot. Either they ask for money or never let you see them on cam.

I am very glad you are listening to all the advice here - we are not being negative, just realistic. Let us know what his reply is regarding the cam request. Good Luck and God Bless.....................................Dave and Lolita

[ImaSimpleGirl]

your welcome simplegirl...

if you dont mind me asking how old r u? judging by your photo you look very young....dont rush, remember this qoute "Good things comes to those who wait".. I did and Im happily married and contented...:)

I'm only 21 years old :) I am not rushing things like this..All I want is to be sure about him coz I dont want to waste my time for nothing so as early as possible I want to know his real intention..that's all :) I am still young I know but if its really true love and I also love him then why not.. Glad to know your happily married now. I want to be like you someday when the right one comes along :pray:

[ImaSimpleGirl]

Avoiding the webcam makes me feel very bad for the situation.... he is probably sat in a steamy room in Lagos, Nigeria furiously typing to 20 women at the same time.... just my cynical view.

hi Steve,
I just hope he's not one of those scammers :NoNo:


On a side, why would you be crying for this guy that YOU have only talked to for 2 weeks, Sars is right, you need to wait, and in the well penned words in a song by Phil Collins..... ' you cant hurry love, you just have to wait'

why am I going to cry? because I like him so much!! though I have never seen him that's what I'm feeling and by the thought of him being such a fake/scammer makes want to cry! :bigcry: (am I being childish?yes I am I know but that's what I am feeling :( )


Oh, and dont take an excuse that he doesn't have a webcam, everyone has cams these days, and if he doesn't have one, tell him to man up and go buy one!! the cheapskate

and thank you for reminding me this :) just in case if he's a real fake he might think of using this kind of alibi..

[ImaSimpleGirl]

Great idea - that will definitely flush him out if he is a fake. I found several scammers on FH when I first started out on this road. They are very easy to spot. Either they ask for money or never let you see them on cam.

I am very glad you are listening to all the advice here - we are not being negative, just realistic. Let us know what his reply is regarding the cam request. Good Luck and God Bless.....................................Dave and Lolita

all of your opinions and advices will really help me a lot to re-think about this matter,.Thank you very much..

I will keep you posted when I get his reponse :)

[careedee]

Oh, and dont take an excuse that he doesn't have a webcam, everyone has cams these days, and if he doesn't have one, tell him to man up and go buy one!! the cheapskate :rolleyes:

this reminds me of my then boyfirend (now my husband) after one week of exchanging messages I ask him if we could chat with webcam, he ask if I could wait for a couple of minutes as he needs to go out and buy a new one I thought he's just making an excuse not to show his self yet after almost an hour he's back with his new webcam, set it up and that starts it all............

simple girl, one day you'll meet the guy who's meant for you, you just have to keep the doors open. Dont get me wrong, i dont think your inlove with this guy, you are just being carried away by the sweet words he's telling you.. just relax girl if he's really into you, he'll do everything, find way to communicate properly to you..

[Steve.r]

if he's really into you, he'll do everything, find way to communicate properly to you.. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[ImaSimpleGirl]

this reminds me of my then boyfirend (now my husband) after one week of exchanging messages I ask him if we could chat with webcam, he ask if I could wait for a couple of minutes as he needs to go out and buy a new one I thought he's just making an excuse not to show his self yet after almost an hour he's back with his new webcam, set it up and that starts it all............

simple girl, one day you'll meet the guy who's meant for you, you just have to keep the doors open. Dont get me wrong, i dont think your inlove with this guy, you are just being carried away by the sweet words he's telling you.. just relax girl if he's really into you, he'll do everything, find way to communicate properly to you..

Thannk you so much Careede for such a nice advice..I will keep that in mind. Maybe you're right, maybe it's just because of him being so sweet and caring about me that made me feel and think that I'm inlove with him already..
I am not rushing things coz I'm still young and I still have many plans in my life that I want to pursue..thank you very much for the advice :)

[ImaSimpleGirl]

there's another thing guys!!!!
he already responded to my email..
here's what i asked him, I asked him if we could chat with cam so that I could see him at least for the first time..

his response??he said he doesn't know much about internet, he just had profile in one social networking site because of his search for a wife.. (is that really possible???for a Head Engineer like him??)

other thing is, he told me that sometimes even on sundays he is forced to report at their office coz as Head of their department they might be needing his assistance.. (arrghh!! i dont know what to say! :doh )

and lastly, he told me that he will be having a 3 weeks off from work starting on the 25th of this month and that he will come here in the Philippines to finally meet me and my family and to prepare for our wedding..

uh oh!! I think things are getting worst..I really dont know what to say! :NoNo:

PLEASE GUYS HELP ME.. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO RIGHT NOW..I AM REALLY CONFUSED! WHAT SHOULD I DO AND AM I GOING TO BELIEVE HIM?? :(

[Bluebirdjones]

starting on the 25th of this month and that he will come here in the Philippines to finally meet me and my family and to prepare for our wedding..

... then fate will step in, and for some reason his airline ticket will be rejected, or he'll be stranded in HK or Singapore as his credit card won't work ....

..... but if you could send him the money by Western Union, he'll immediately pay you back when he gets to the Philippines.


Insist that you see him on webcam .... tell him to pop into his nearest internet cafe.

[joebloggs]

starting on the 25th of this month and that he will come here in the Philippines to finally meet me and my family and to prepare for our wedding..

... then fate will step in, and for some reason his airline ticket will be rejected, or he'll be stranded in HK or Singapore as his credit card won't work ....

..... but if you could send him the money by Western Union, he'll immediately pay you back when he gets to the Philippines.


Insist that you see him on webcam .... tell him to pop into his nearest internet cafe.

:yikes: it could be worse, maybe he's so deluded he will turn up and expect you to marry him :doh:crazy:

ask him to scan his CNI, he nneds ones if he's going to marry you in the phils
http://voices.yahoo.com/how-obtain-certificate-no-impediment-cni-when-4301317.html

[ImaSimpleGirl]

starting on the 25th of this month and that he will come here in the Philippines to finally meet me and my family and to prepare for our wedding..

... then fate will step in, and for some reason his airline ticket will be rejected, or he'll be stranded in HK or Singapore as his credit card won't work ....

..... but if you could send him the money by Western Union, he'll immediately pay you back when he gets to the Philippines.


Insist that you see him on webcam .... tell him to pop into his nearest internet cafe.

I am receiving only one mail of him per day just like today.. I really dont know what to say.. arrgggh :bigcry: is that really possible that he doen't know much about chatting or anything..

what am I going to response to him telling me that he's going here within the month? pls help me..

I dont want to insist not because I am believing in what he is saying but because I dont have any chance of telling him that.. and what if he is telling the truth??is that possible that what he is telling me are true?? oh my God :doh

[ImaSimpleGirl]

:yikes: it could be worse, maybe he's so deluded he will turn up and expect you to marry him :doh:crazy:

ask him to scan his CNI, he nneds ones if he's going to marry you in the phils
http://voices.yahoo.com/how-obtain-certificate-no-impediment-cni-when-4301317.html

He said that we are to going to get married in UK not here and he also told me that he will tell me on his next email his schedule.. that's all what he said.. :cwm3:

[joebloggs]

well that gives you time to :Bolt: away.
and cue for me to do some work :doh

[mickcant]

If he said he is coming on the 25th of this month that is 5 days time!

Or was he meaning July, next month?

He seems a strange man if he does not want to see you on cam though?
I wanted to see my girl as soon as possible:Cuckoo:
Mick.:)

[ImaSimpleGirl]

well that gives you time to :Bolt: away.
and cue for me to do some work :doh

you think so?? I am beginning to be scared because of this!!! :bigcry:

[ImaSimpleGirl]

If he said he is coming on the 25th of this month that is 5 days time!

Or was he meaning July, next month?

He seems a strange man if he does not want to see you on cam though?
I wanted to see my girl as soon as possible:Cuckoo:
Mick.:)

yeah I know it's really strange! so what will I do now?? I dont know if what he is tellingme is true or not.. :Erm:

[raynaputi]

there's another thing guys!!!!
he already responded to my email..
here's what i asked him, I asked him if we could chat with cam so that I could see him at least for the first time..

his response??he said he doesn't know much about internet, he just had profile in one social networking site because of his search for a wife.. (is that really possible???for a Head Engineer like him??)

other thing is, he told me that sometimes even on sundays he is forced to report at their office coz as Head of their department they might be needing his assistance.. (arrghh!! i dont know what to say! :doh )

and lastly, he told me that he will be having a 3 weeks off from work starting on the 25th of this month and that he will come here in the Philippines to finally meet me and my family and to prepare for our wedding..

uh oh!! I think things are getting worst..I really dont know what to say! :NoNo:

PLEASE GUYS HELP ME.. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO RIGHT NOW..I AM REALLY CONFUSED! WHAT SHOULD I DO AND AM I GOING TO BELIEVE HIM?? :(

a piece of advice...DON'T BELIEVE ALL THESE CRAPPY THINGS HE JUST SAID...Definitely a scammer...

Have a read at this thread by Juvy..this may be the same thing this guy would do to you.. Beware of fake relationship & scam (http://filipinaroses.com/showthread.php/35598-Beware-of-fake-relationship-amp-scam)

[sars_notd_virus]

yeah I know it's really strange! so what will I do now?? I dont know if what he is tellingme is true or not.. :Erm:

well girl, are you willing to marry a man you dont know, you never seen ,?? sends you email for two weeks of conversation and said he loves you?? just ask yourself?? its not rocket science!!!:Cuckoo::crazy:

[ImaSimpleGirl]

a piece of advice...DON'T BELIEVE ALL THESE CRAPPY THINGS HE JUST SAID...Definitely a scammer...

Have a read at this thread by Juvy..this may be the same thing this guy would do to you.. Beware of fake relationship & scam (http://filipinaroses.com/showthread.php/35598-Beware-of-fake-relationship-amp-scam)

read that.. now it's clear to me that he's not real! :bigcry: I wanted to punch myself for being such a fool to believe those crappy lies.. :angry:

This is how I did it,
with all of your advices I am really in the status of believing that he's a scammer and a f*ck*ng fake.. so I searched online for scam incidents and read this forum discussing about scammers tactic, and pictures they were using etc. they have there different stories of scammers victims and as I am reading it all one by one it seems that the same format of letter were used for me.. I tested their IP Address tracker and of course I tested it first before jumping into my final conclusion just to know if that IP Tracker is working and accurate, I tried to track IP Address used by some of the email senders I received that I know were here in the Philippines. and it worked! I found out that the email sender A.K.A this gggrrr.. :bigcry::angry::cwm23: scammer is now located at Malaysia I think he's going online through net cafe's too coz I noticed that the IP Address were all different but all located in Malaysia..

what am I feeling right now??
relief! and thankful to all of you who did listen to me and gave advices. it helped me a lot to realized this!!! THANK YOU SOO MUCH for all of you..

[ImaSimpleGirl]

Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart.. without your advices maybe I'm still experiencing this stress of thinking about that m*th**f*C**r.. thank you!! :68711_thanx::thankyou:

[Iani]

Hi there, I've only just seen this thread, and I'm sorry but this sort of thing makes me really angry.

I don't know you, but from your words, I get the measure that you are a nice lady and somewhat trusting - maybe too trusting.

Thing is, I get protective towards people like you, and I am not alone in this amongst some of the men on this forum, as you have probably guessed by some worded replies.

We can never go by stereotypes, for example - this might make you laugh - there is a stereotype amongst men who have never spent time with asian women, that you are all quiet, serve your men without complaint, and are happy to be at home all day ironing his underwear whilst he gets drunk. A human version of Hello Kitty.
You have heard that British men are not in to declaring love so fast - well, it is a stereotype, but it's more or less true.
I am afraid that alarm bells should have started ringing as soon as he said he loved you - after not even seeing you?

Now of course, there is too much evidence that he is low-life. Even if he isn't, do you really want to marry a 40-something man who is controlled by his mother?

Look at it this way, if he really did "love" you, he would go out there and buy that webcam.

Another question, you have spoken to him - this might be hard if you don't know British accents (they vary), but did he sound British?
Maybe next time - ask him quickly what time it is here, and what is the weather doing. Ask him if he likes Britains Got Talent, and who is his favourite presenter if he says yes - and ask if he likes Eastenders (TV shows)

I am really sorry someone is doing this to you, and if he is British, I am ashamed of my countryman. I do suspect however he won't be really

I really hope you will find someone who deserves you

Ian x

[Ann1984]

Hi steve thanks or your comment.
well, according to him he is now 42 yrs old and working as a Marine Engineer. His mom came from ASIA too (singapore) and that's one o the reason why he wants to get marry to an asian instead of english ladies..he said his mom wants him to get marry soon maybe because of his age..
It's not that I dont believe in what he is telling me, I can feel that he is sincere but I just want to be sure.. Is that really possible for him to love me even though he haven't seen me in flesh??hay..I am always asking that to myself :doh

He said he had several relationship with english ladies but ending up broken with them and he has never been married..I just ask him to chat face face with me..I dont know what is going to be his response. :Erm:

Hi Imsimple girl, only an advice to you, take a lot more patience. be more conservative on his motives towards on you., and dont be rush on your feelings to him. coz i see he is still doubted to you. or in short.. still hanging hes feelings towards on you..
I have a link here to share with you to read, this will help you a lot. These is a sign when a man serious about you.

http://www.futurescopes.com/advice/774/10-signs-tell-you-man-serious-about-you

[joebloggs]

Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart.. without your advices maybe I'm still experiencing this stress of thinking about that m*th**f*C**r.. thank you!! :68711_thanx::thankyou:

stick around on the forum, you might find your mr.right on here :rolleyes:

[lastlid]

Another similar story........

http://filipinaroses.com/showthread.php/32074-Is-this-a-scam?highlight=scam

[grahamw48]

Welcome to the forum Mrs. M.

Wow, you're popular...going towards 1200 views in 1 day ! :cwm24:

As others have advised, take it slowly.

To be quite honest I could easily 'fall in love' every few minutes when searching on Date in Asia dating site. :icon_lol: :mrstraetz::luv4::panach28::love:

BUT we are talking FANTASY here.

When the man of your dreams comes there and knocks on your door, that is when the REAL relationship starts.

Meanwhile enjoy the thrills and the daydreams, but protect yourself too by not getting your hopes up and accepting everything that people say to you over the internet as FACT.

Sadly there are many thousands of guys searching the internet for girls to line up for sex, and thousands more looking for the opportunity to scam you.

It has happened to members of this forum.

It may sound both clinical and cynical, but the first thing you need to do is start a serious bit of searching to establish exactly who the man is.

First and foremost, TALK TO HIM ON WEBCAM. If he can't or won't do that...HUGE alarm bells ringing. (Doesn't matter whether YOU can access a cam or not).

Google his email address.

Google his name and any 'user names' he has.

Get phone numbers for him and try sending a text (not too expensive).

His phone number should also tell what country he is located in.

Search for him on facebook.
Most people have facebook accounts nowadays, and a genuine man 'in love' with you will happily add you as a friend on facebook. (If not, why not ?).

We all leave a trail on the internet.

Good luck, let us know how things progress.

If he says he's on his way to see you, but is stuck at an airport and desperately needs money......SCAM !

[ImaSimpleGirl]

Welcome to the forum Mrs. M.

Wow, you're popular...going towards 1200 views in 1 day ! :cwm24:

As others have advised, take it slowly.

BUT we are talking FANTASY here.

When the man of your dreams comes there and knocks on your door, that is when the REAL relationship starts.

Sadly there are many thousands of guys searching the internet for girls to line up for sex, and thousands more looking for the opportunity to scam you.

It has happened to members of this forum.

It may sound both clinical and cynical, but the first thing you need to do is start a serious bit of searching to establish exactly who the man is.

First and foremost, TALK TO HIM ON WEBCAM. If he can't or won't do that...HUGE alarm bells ringing. (Doesn't matter whether YOU can access a cam or not).

Google his email address.

Google his name and any 'user names' he has.

Get phone numbers for him and try sending a text (not too expensive).

His phone number should also tell what country he is located in.

Search for him on facebook.
Most people have facebook accounts nowadays, and a genuine man 'in love' with you will happily add you as a friend on facebook. (If not, why not ?).

We all leave a trail on the internet.

Good luck, let us know how things progress.

If he says he's on his way to see you, but is stuck at an airport and desperately needs money......SCAM !

Hi Graham,

I am really happy that I got many response and advices from real people here like you and I appreciate that..Thank you so mcuh..

atleast now I know that he's a real fake I will no longer answer his mails.. I want to do more about him but as what I have read there's no any other move that I can do to stop this scammer from doing things like this so I decided to just ingnore him if ever he tried again to contact me.

Thank you very much for that wonderful piece of advice. I am really thankful that I've joined here and got so much attentions from all of you :)

[ImaSimpleGirl]

Hi there, I've only just seen this thread, and I'm sorry but this sort of thing makes me really angry.

I don't know you, but from your words, I get the measure that you are a nice lady and somewhat trusting - maybe too trusting.

Thing is, I get protective towards people like you, and I am not alone in this amongst some of the men on this forum, as you have probably guessed by some worded replies.

We can never go by stereotypes, for example - this might make you laugh - there is a stereotype amongst men who have never spent time with asian women, that you are all quiet, serve your men without complaint, and are happy to be at home all day ironing his underwear whilst he gets drunk. A human version of Hello Kitty.
You have heard that British men are not in to declaring love so fast - well, it is a stereotype, but it's more or less true.
I am afraid that alarm bells should have started ringing as soon as he said he loved you - after not even seeing you?

Now of course, there is too much evidence that he is low-life. Even if he isn't, do you really want to marry a 40-something man who is controlled by his mother?

Look at it this way, if he really did "love" you, he would go out there and buy that webcam.

Another question, you have spoken to him - this might be hard if you don't know British accents (they vary), but did he sound British?
Maybe next time - ask him quickly what time it is here, and what is the weather doing. Ask him if he likes Britains Got Talent, and who is his favourite presenter if he says yes - and ask if he likes Eastenders (TV shows)

I am really sorry someone is doing this to you, and if he is British, I am ashamed of my countryman. I do suspect however he won't be really

I really hope you will find someone who deserves you

Ian x

Hi Ian

Thank you for your comment. :)
the only thing that I regret about is that I had wasted my time thinking about him coz I thought he's real but at the end of day I am more thankful that finally I have known the truth by the help of you guys..

I just hope that with this incident that I've had, some of the readers or members here will be more aware and will be protective of themselves in chatting or having an online relationship with a person they only met online.

Thank you so much for your concern.. :) I really do appreciate it :thankyou:

[ImaSimpleGirl]

Hi Imsimple girl, only an advice to you, take a lot more patience. be more conservative on his motives towards on you., and dont be rush on your feelings to him. coz i see he is still doubted to you. or in short.. still hanging hes feelings towards on you..
I have a link here to share with you to read, this will help you a lot. These is a sign when a man serious about you.

http://www.futurescopes.com/advice/774/10-signs-tell-you-man-serious-about-you

Thank you so much Ann :)
I will definitely read that.. Next time I know what to do.

:68711_thanx:

[ImaSimpleGirl]

stick around on the forum, you might find your mr.right on here :rolleyes:

Helo :)
Yes I will stay here, so that just in case there will be another issue like this I can also give an advice based in what I've experience :))

If ever the right one for me is here..I will just sit here and wait or him to approached me.. :luv4:

Thank you Joe :)

[ImaSimpleGirl]

BEWARE OF THIS SCAMMER! Hope this would help for those who were in doubt about their online bf/gf..He might use these details again!

Name : David Mark
Location: Oxford Road, Manchester, UK
Email Address: dmarkline6854@yahoo.com
Phone # : +447031895897
This are some of the IP Address he is using
120.140.244.43
120.141.247.205
120.141.165.158
120.141.113.167
http://us.mg61.mail.yahoo.com/ya/download?fid=Inbox&mid=2_0_0_1_30481_AAORCmoAAJRQT9W21Q8PkHz%2FG9I&pid=2&tnef=&YY=1340313950309&file_name=F2.jpg&appid=YahooMailNeo

[Iani]

Hrmph, clever enough to get a UK sim card for his phone, not clever enough to hide his IP (Yes you're right, it's Malaysia), and as for Oxford Road in Manchester, well he MIGHT live there - if he lives as the university, or above McDonalds, or sleeps on a park bench, but that's deep in commercial territory, not so many people actually live there.

That's not to say he doesn't of course, I used to live in an old bank opposite the Town Hall, but you can be absolutely sure he rents a bedsit or similar.

[grahamw48]

BEWARE OF THIS SCAMMER! Hope this would help for those who were in doubt about their online bf/gf..He might use these details again!

Name : David Mark
Location: Oxford Road, Manchester, UK
Email Address: dmarkline6854@yahoo.com
Phone # : +447031895897
This are some of the IP Address he is using
120.140.244.43
120.141.247.205
120.141.165.158
120.141.113.167
http://us.mg61.mail.yahoo.com/ya/download?fid=Inbox&mid=2_0_0_1_30481_AAORCmoAAJRQT9W21Q8PkHz%2FG9I&pid=2&tnef=&YY=1340313950309&file_name=F2.jpg&appid=YahooMailNeo

Thanks for helping others to avoid this evil man . :ReadIt:

At least you were able to find him out fairly quickly.

On the positive side, you've found this forum. :D

Stick around. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Ann1984]

Thank you so much Ann :)
I will definitely read that.. Next time I know what to do.

:68711_thanx:

your welcome before i met my man.... i had an experience also same as you now. so i only advice take a little patience and dont give 100% your feelings to him. only half %, reason is. you not seen him in real? i will not believe he fall in love with you quickly for 2 weeks only exchanging emails..

[Dave0555]

There is only one answer to this ImaSimpleGirl .....................RUN !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Do not communicate any further with this swine. All of the replies below are incredibly helpful and I am so glad you listened to the advice. Very obviously a scammer and you almost got very badly hurt.

I sincerely hope you have learned a lot from this. Take your time and you will know when someone is being serious. They will make every effort possible to chat with you whenever they can and on cam too. I remember many hours talking with Lolita in the early hours of the morning but I would not change it for the world. In just over a week's time she will be here and we will be starting the rest of our lives together and we BOTH know it is right.

Be patient, tread carefully and if in doubt seek advice. The very best of luck to you and God Bless.

Dave and Lolita

[Arthur Little]

I used to live in an old bank opposite the Town Hall, but you can be absolutely sure he rents a bedsit or similar.

:anerikke: ... wouldn't bank on it! :NoNo:

[Dedworth]

BEWARE OF THIS SCAMMER! Hope this would help for those who were in doubt about their online bf/gf..He might use these details again!

Name : David Mark
Location: Oxford Road, Manchester, UK
Email Address: dmarkline6854@yahoo.com
Phone # : +447031895897
This are some of the IP Address he is using
120.140.244.43
120.141.247.205
120.141.165.158
120.141.113.167
http://us.mg61.mail.yahoo.com/ya/download?fid=Inbox&mid=2_0_0_1_30481_AAORCmoAAJRQT9W21Q8PkHz%2FG9I&pid=2&tnef=&YY=1340313950309&file_name=F2.jpg&appid=YahooMailNeo

Well done for working out that this maggot is a scammer :appl:

[sars_notd_virus]

Helo :)
Yes I will stay here, so that just in case there will be another issue like this I can also give an advice based in what I've experience :))

If ever the right one for me is here..I will just sit here and wait or him to approached me.. :luv4:




good girl!! stay on the forum ....although a lot of males here are taken there are still some left singles and looking,....hope you find your true happiness soon:):xxgrinning--00xx3:

[LeeUK]

He's defo trying to scam you. Well done for taking people's advice on aboard. I highly doubt it's possible to fall in "Love" in just 2 weeks WITHOUT having met at all. :Erm:

[imagine]

Hi ImaSimpleGirl just caught up with your posts since i read last time, im so glad to hear you sussed this low life out, these sort turn my stomache:cwm23:
congratulations on your lucky escape :xxgrinning--00xx3:
put it behind you now, you have everything going for you to find that special true someone,:):xxgrinning--00xx3:

[simply.gurl]

hi there Imasimplegirl!
Hmm he sounds like scammer.. he never asked u anything for the first time.. Dont believe him what he saying through an email.. i was the victim of the scammer he said from the scothland and he kept calling me.. he was using uk nos.... he got too many blah blah... at the end he's scammer.. he was asking for the money usd 500.. omg.. so becareful dont sent ur pic.. or ask him if he has a cam u can chat him c2c but becareful maybe cam recorder.. stop sending ur picture. I really learned my lesson through dating site.. mostly they are from nigeria using uk nos. watch out simplegirl.... :doh

[songz777]

Hi young lady my advise is as others have said go slow, and dont open all your heart to him yet, be friends and see how he treats you, the love he feel is more like "attracted" he fancies you. Go steady and let peace and cal follow your way, if you feel somethings not right dont force the friednship also your very wise to seek others advise cool for you, but if things dont work out there are may sincere men out there who will really love you truly and care about and give their whole heart to you, so make sure the man you love or who says loves you, makes you feel like the best most amazing woman in the world, last of what ever happens learn for next time and never give up on your hearts dreams!