over protective

[stevewool]

are you over protective with your partner, your new wife or partner comes to england and its all different for them but they cope better then we would , but we are still protective for them, WHY, they are not little kids and dont know anything, for me its hard knowing what i know about england, dont walk alone in dark places, be careful with your purse, dont trust anyone, is it just me that thinks this and if not how long do we feel like this,i dont want to ever say i told you so but also i do worry, with the dark nights getting early , what do you girls think are we over protective with you

[grahamw48]

Well this was the ex a week after arriving here...at 23.

Even though she actually had two kids already...how could you not worry. They're so tiny ! :biggrin:

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....and even though my son is a strapping muscle-bound 19 year-old now, I still fuss over him like a mother hen and tell him to be careful on his bicycle...which he doesn't appreciate. :biggrin:

[Steve.r]

I am sure it is human nature to worry and want to protect those who you love the most.

[jlags90]

are you over protective with your partner, your new wife or partner comes to england and its all different for them but they cope better then we would , but we are still protective for them, WHY, they are not little kids and dont know anything, for me its hard knowing what i know about england, dont walk alone in dark places, be careful with your purse, dont trust anyone, is it just me that thinks this and if not how long do we feel like this,i dont want to ever say i told you so but also i do worry, with the dark nights getting early , what do you girls think are we over protective with you

I am surprised my husband hasn't told me about not walking alone in the dark, and being careful with my purse. I've walked several times during midnight from a pub to my mum-in-law's house since I can't bear the loud band and being squeezed in between drunk pub-goers with deadly alcoholic breath. :icon_lol: He even gladly gave me the key! He just gets over protective when it comes to health matters and the clothes I wear. Probably, with the fact that I am TINY.I once fainted in a cold morning uphill walk to Heptonstall and the next day, we went to a GP and he was butting in while I was talking to the doctor which I find so annoying! Anyway, to cut the over protective story short, that day on, I had to weigh myself everyday and record what I have eaten from breakfast to tea -- and the things in between!:doh

[melovesengland]

are you over protective with your partner, your new wife or partner comes to england and its all different for them but they cope better then we would , but we are still protective for them, WHY, they are not little kids and dont know anything, for me its hard knowing what i know about england, dont walk alone in dark places, be careful with your purse, dont trust anyone, is it just me that thinks this and if not how long do we feel like this,i dont want to ever say i told you so but also i do worry, with the dark nights getting early , what do you girls think are we over protective with you

My husband and his family are very similar to you. :icon_lol: I find it nice and I guess its natural. :smile: It gives me ideas and information on whats going on outside and etc. :xxgrinning--00xx3: It makes me more careful and aware about my sorroundings specially walking round London Town (we visit more often) and also major big cities round the country which they reckon is not that safe. :anerikke:

Its very sweet that you know people around you do care for you and for your safetyness. I dont find it annoying, too. For me its one way of showing how you care and how you love the person much. :smile:

[lastlid]

I am surprised my husband hasn't told me about not walking alone in the dark, and being careful with my purse. I've walked several times during midnight from a pub to my mum-in-law's house since I can't bear the loud band and being squeezed in between drunk pub-goers with deadly alcoholic breath. :icon_lol: He even gladly gave me the key! He just gets over protective when it comes to health matters and the clothes I wear. Probably, with the fact that I am TINY.I once fainted in a cold morning uphill walk to Heptonstall and the next day, we went to a GP and he was butting in while I was talking to the doctor which I find so annoying! Anyway, to cut the over protective story short, that day on, I had to weigh myself everyday and record what I have eaten from breakfast to tea -- and the things in between!:doh

My wife fainted in Boots about 6 months ago due to low blood pressure, but she was pregnant at the time. Luckily I was there and also they were very good to her in Boots. And then we had a free ride to the hospital in an ambulance, so they could check her over. :icon_lol:

They advised her to eat regularly also.

She is 4ft 11 inches.

[jlags90]

My wife fainted in Boots about 6 months ago due to low blood pressure, but she was pregnant at the time. Luckily I was there and also they were very good to her in Boots. And then we had a free ride to the hospital in an ambulance, so they could check her over. :icon_lol:

They advised her to eat regularly also.

She is 4ft 11 inches.

I am 5 ft 2 inches I reckon. And the doctor said I was under weight for my height and age.:icon_lol: I wasn't pregnant - probably that is the reason why my husband went in with me during the consultation because he wants to hear the news himself. :biggrin: Well, the GP (who was Chinese) advised me to prefer eating rice than potato and keep crackers handy in case.

[lastlid]

Well, the GP (who was Chinese) advised me to prefer eating rice than potato and keep crackers handy in case.

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[Leen]

When i had my job interview a couple of weeks ago hubby insist that he will go when me even if i told him im capable of going back home on my own:icon_lol: and he wont allow me to go on my own even daytime coz he said there are so many idiots here and much worse when we go to a pub and just want to go home on my own he will just leave his friends to be with me.i find it sweet but i told him he cant be with me all the time and he gets annoyed when i said that....:icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:

[Michael Parnham]

Wifey weigh's 6stone 11lbs wet through and is 5ft tall and she refuses to go anywhere without me, I think she is secretly protecting me! With regard to going to doctors ect, she likes me to do the talking because she sometimes says things the wrong way round, and its hard to understand what she's trying to say. So I have my uses after all.

[jlags90]

.i find it sweet but i told him he cant be with me all the time and he gets annoyed when i said that....:icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:

Haha! I agree with that statement. I think we all want a little bit of freedom every now and then..:biggrin:

[jlags90]

Wifey weigh's 6stone 11lbs wet through and is 5ft tall and she refuses to go anywhere without me, I think she is secretly protecting me! With regard to going to doctors ect, she likes me to do the talking because she sometimes says things the wrong way round, and its hard to understand what she's trying to say. So I have my uses after all.

Very useful indeed:biggrin:

[DaveW]

When my wife first came over 2 years ago I didn't like her going out. Where we live it can be dangerous with muggings and rape. Also when she did go out men in cars would slow down and try to chat her up. But since she was given permission to work last year I have had to stop worrying too much, and now she is out all the time working late at night as a home carer. I think when they get used to the transport and the area it becomes easier.

[bhem_bhem]

my hubby's quite protective as well,, been here nearly 4 years now but still he won't let me go out on my own (should always be with someone):NoNo:. if i want to go somewhere, it's either he drive or he will ask his dad to take me. i can't even take the bin out at night to think it's only few steps away. he's doing my head in but still love him to bits.. lol.. :biggrin:

[raynaputi]

Well, the thing that Keith ALWAYS tell me is to never ever leave even a pound in the car, as there would be someone desperate enough to smash the windows of the car just to get the pound. :omg:Anyway, I can't go out of the house without Keith as I don't know how to drive yet, and town is around 3 miles from our small village here and bus only comes around once in the morning and once before night time..:doh Though I've tried walking from the house to the town one time, when I was too :censored: with Keith after blaming me for not remembering he needed french bread from the shop :icon_rolleyes:..so just to make him shut up :blahblah:, I walked to the town..:crazy: well i found out that I can walk that far and familiar with our place already..:cwm24: BUT I have to text him to pick me up from the shop as my feet were already hurting and I have to walk up the hills to get home :bigcry: and it was getting dark already..I don't mind walking in the dark as I used to work on night shifts for 2 years when I was in the Philippines..but walking at night with only the hills and farms and all the sheep and cows around you made me think twice..hahaha! :icon_lol: Keith wasn't worried about me though as we both know there's only one way going home and like I said, only animals and hills around us. :Cuckoo: Mind you, I didn't talk to him for a couple of hours after that..:wink: hahahaha :biggrin:

[Steve.r]

But this all works the opposite way around when 'we' (us men) go to Phils too. My wife does not like me going to town on my own because she is worried I will be mugged or ripped off if I try to buy something. Not so bad in our little home town, but anywhere further she has to come too. :smile:

[Michael Parnham]

Yes when we lived in Dumaguete, Maritess wouldn't like me going out without her because she said she was afraid someone would attack me or rob me. I myself felt quite safe when in town.

[hawk]

same here i want a motorbike or trike in phil but wife says its not safe i have rode bikes fast and safe in uk and when in army off road how dangerouse can it be in phil lol you just need your finger on the horn :laugher:and do what they do

[Arthur Little]

But this all works the opposite way around when 'we' (us men) go to Phils too. My wife does not like me going to town on my own because she is worried I will be mugged or ripped off if I try to buy something. Not so bad in our little home town, but anywhere further she has to come too. :smile:

That's exactly the way it was with us too, Steve ... and for the very same reasons. :icon_rolleyes: Myrna simply wouldn't allow ME to go out ANYWHERE alone - night or day - both times I was over in the Philippines :nono-1-1: ... lest I be mistaken for a *rich American. :doh ... *I wish!

[Terpe]

But this all works the opposite way around when 'we' (us men) go to Phils too. My wife does not like me going to town on my own because she is worried I will be mugged or ripped off if I try to buy something. Not so bad in our little home town, but anywhere further she has to come too. :smile:

So true :xxgrinning--00xx3:
That's a good point Steve.

It certainly happens for me.
Although I'm now allowed to roam around the shopping mall alone, as long I can keep contact by phone :icon_lol:

[Arthur Little]

Even if I'd had 'a little' secret pocket sewn into my **boxer shorts (in which to conceal a wad of cash) any pleas to travel solo would've inevitably "fallen on deaf ears" ... because ... the possible outcome might as well have been likened to an old :joke: of mine about 'Polaris' (a US nuclear submarine based on the River Clyde) knickers:-

"One 'Yank' :action-smiley-081: ... and **they're down!"

[Michael Parnham]

Did Myrna allow you to walk around alone whilst in Spain? By the way, good to have you back Arthur!

[bigmarco]

But this all works the opposite way around when 'we' (us men) go to Phils too. My wife does not like me going to town on my own because she is worried I will be mugged or ripped off if I try to buy something. Not so bad in our little home town, but anywhere further she has to come too. :smile:

So very true Steve. It does feel a little claustraphobic over there sometimes as everyone is always worrying about you. I remember when I paid a surprise visit to my wife last December they were all shocked that I managed to find my way from the Airport to the house in Malabon on my own and I made it in one piece.
It's only natural that we worry about them when they first arrive here as it's totally new for them . It's only been a month but my wife is learning quite well and is already venturing out on her own. She has free travel in London so she's enjoying the fact that she can jump on the Tram Bus and Tube and go anywhere for free. Still have to be careful though so she doesn't go out on her own in the evening until she's a bit more street wise in our area.

[lastlid]

So very true Steve. It does feel a little claustraphobic over there sometimes as everyone is always worrying about you. I remember when I paid a surprise visit to my wife last December they were all shocked that I managed to find my way from the Airport to the house in Malabon on my own and I made it in one piece.
It's only natural that we worry about them when they first arrive here as it's totally new for them . It's only been a month but my wife is learning quite well and is already venturing out on her own. She has free travel in London so she's enjoying the fact that she can jump on the Tram Bus and Tube and go anywhere for free. Still have to be careful though so she doesn't go out on her own in the evening until she's a bit more street wise in our area.

Thats a great freebie, that. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Arthur Little]

Even if I'd had 'a little' secret pocket sewn into my **boxer shorts (in which to conceal a wad of cash) any pleas to travel solo would've inevitably "fallen on deaf ears" ... because ... the possible outcome might as well have been likened to an old :joke: of mine about 'Polaris' (a US nuclear submarine based on the River Clyde) knickers:-

"One 'Yank' :action-smiley-081: ... and **they're down!"

Sadly ... :bigcry: ... my 'little' joke :yeahthat: seems to've [also] "fallen on deaf ears" - yet ANOTHER time, alas!

Oh well ... :anerikke:

[stevie c]

My wife florsel has been here in the uk 2yrs now she has a permanent job at our major shopping centre here & always gets the the Bus to & home from work..... I must admit i was worried at first but then I could see she was a very confident & assured person..... But like many others she worries about me so much when we are in the Phils always telling me there are very many bad people about there... But as I say to her no more so than here in the uk :NoNo:

[Arthur Little]

Did Myrna allow you to walk around alone whilst in Spain?

Hmm ... come to think of it, :NoNo:


By the way, good to have you back Arthur!

It's nice to be back, Michael ... :68711_thanx:

[bigmarco]

Sadly ... :bigcry: ... my 'little' joke :yeahthat: seems to've [also] "fallen on deaf ears" - yet ANOTHER time, alas!

Oh well ... :anerikke:

Welcome back Arthur and I hope you both had a wonderful holiday.
Sadly we're suffering from withdrawl symptoms due to a lack of Arthurisms lately. Now your back I'm sure it wont be long before we fall into line again.
Keep up the good work and a welcome home rep is on it's way. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[stevie c]

Yes as others have said a big welcome back Arthur I don't get to come on the forum as much as I once did but it is always a pleasure reading your informative & witty posts keep them coming Arthur they are a real pleasure :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Arthur Little]

My wife florsel has been here in the uk 2yrs now she has a permanent job at our major shopping centre here & always gets the the Bus to & home from work..... I must admit i was worried at first but then I could see she was a very confident & assured person.....

... that's great news to read about Florsel - especially in relation to her job, Stevie - and, very soon now, she'll have ILR. :xxgrinning--00xx3:


But like many others she worries about me so much when we are in the Phils always telling me there are very many bad people about there...

... understandably, she will worry about your safety in general. But I should imagine :cwm25: the "bad people" she mentions are mainly to be found amongst the widespread Muslim Communist communities.


But as I say to her no more so than here in the uk :NoNo:

That's true for the most part ... :iagree:

[sars_notd_virus]

are you over protective with your partner, your new wife or partner comes to england and its all different for them but they cope better then we would , but we are still protective for them, WHY, they are not little kids and dont know anything, for me its hard knowing what i know about england, dont walk alone in dark places, be careful with your purse, dont trust anyone, is it just me that thinks this and if not how long do we feel like this,i dont want to ever say i told you so but also i do worry, with the dark nights getting early , what do you girls think are we over protective with you

It's not being over protective...it's knowing the place and where you are going ...my husband and I avoid crowded and risky places like the pubs and clubs at night ...we are happy to stay in together or a stay in dinner with friends and have lots of food and drinks lol..
with regards to going home from work ... if I am on a night shift , it is his(my husband) job to come and collect me.