Age difference

[reldas]

Anyone in this situation? I'm a 68 year old guy and met a wonderful Filipino woman who is 27. Ha ha, we did not mean to fall in love but it happened !

Now that was 18 months ago so would just like the advice of anyone in same situation.

Thankyou.

[Steve.r]

Welcome to the forum.

To be honest, and I don't mean to judge, but if the lady is 27 with no children, I would certainly question her motives. I can quite believe that you fell in love with her, Filipinas are enchanting, beautiful and sexy. But think long and hard about if she could really fall in love with someone who is nearly 40 years older. Remember that she will be very family orientated, maybe pressured to find a man at any cost (maybe for the benefit of the wider family) so be very careful. We have had horror stories from members who fell into this trap before with very sad endings for the guy involved.

Don't get me wrong, age makes no difference to many many people. But last time I was in Phils my wife and I saw an older gent with a young beautiful girl wraped around him, and we both thought the same thing.

I wish you luck and love, but please be careful.

[grahamw48]

Lucky man. :biggrin:

You're only here once...but as above, beware the rose-coloured specs of course. :wink:

My girl is also 27, but then again, I'm a mere 61 year-old youngster. :Jump:

[Steve.r]

No offence meant Graham, but I know you have a vast knowledge of the territory and you already have your eyes open to everything I mentioned. Maybe you can offer more advice than me. But, what you say about only being here once, is spot on too.

[bigmarco]

anyone in this situation im a 68 year old guy and met a wonderful Filipino woman who is 27 ha ha we did not mean to fall in love but it happened now that was 18 months ago so would just like the advice of anyone in same situation thankyou

Hi and welcome to the forum :Hellooo:

Graham's right you only live once so ignore the numbers, tread carefully and have fun.

Tell us a bit more - how did you meet? Have you been to the Philippines yet and what are yours and the lady's plans?? There are plenty on here who have trodden the same path so you're amongst friends. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[stevewool]

Well go for it, you have known each other for 18 months, so just be careful and take each day as it comes

[grahamw48]

No offence meant Graham, but I know you have a vast knowledge of the territory and you already have your eyes open to everything I mentioned. Maybe you can offer more advice than me. But, what you say about only being here once, is spot on too.

Hey...none taken mate.

I can't help it if my lady has appalling taste. :icon_lol:

[sars_notd_virus]

anyone in this situation im a 68 year old guy and met a wonderful Filipino woman who is 27 ha ha we did not mean to fall in love but it happened now that was 18 months ago so would just like the advice of anyone in same situation thankyou

Don't get me wrong but I think you are old enough to be given or listen to any advice.

A Perfect example of an ''old man'' who doesn't listen to any advice is my great grandad 85y/o - married his carer (28y/o), yes it amuses all the family to see them together even shocked the whole clan when the wife bear a child :yikes:

Anyway, after 3 years of marriage he died and he left a ''will'' ...ONLY his son got a share in his properties '' EXCLUDING'' the wife !!.. Smart Aarse!! :biggrin::xxgrinning--00xx3:

[malditako]

If u think she will makes you happy and stick with you and will be loyal to you, it doesn't matter. Whatever her intentions, then go for it. Just makes sure you oriented yourself first with the cultures and family values.

Age is just a number and marriage not only involve love and trust...above all respect, understanding and acceptance. Which by your age you already knew.

[jennyludo]

Age really doesn't matter..I'm 19 year old when I first met my husband and he is 45 ..and now we are still together. The important thing is, as long as you love each other and put GOD in your relationship, that will really makes your relationship strong.

[oakwell]

I was 61 and my wife 25 when we first met online. We met in person after 9 months and any doubts I may have had about "age difference" were cast aside during our first meeting. We have been blissfully married for 6 years come April. So Reldas, if you and your love truly believe your relationship will work then go for it. Don't get hung up on what other people might think, it's what you think and believe that counts. I really suspect that your posting tells me you are concerned about reactions from your friends and family. Good look anyway.

"People do things for their own reason"

[Steve.r]

I really suspect that your posting tells me you are concerned about reactions from your friends and family.

I think you may be right.

No matter what anyone says, if you are both happy then walk proud with your lady. I think here in the Uk the reactions can be hard to take, maybe people will talk behind your back and snigger, but what do they know? If you really got to the hub of why they say bad things it is because they are jealous and are stuck in lifeless relationships. At least you have the balls to try to find love on the other side of the planet.

Most of us here have also made a similar move in our lives. It is never going to be easy, but in the end it is your happiness that really matters. My first post was probably a little negative, but just a warning. The main thing that I will say is that your lady may also get pressure because of the age difference, but it can work, also good examples here in the forum. Give your lady and her family respect and they wont see the age difference but just see a 'couple' in love. Enjoy life. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[mickcant]

I married a Filipina lady in 2008, I was 64 and she was 28, she was a young beautiful woman, but she had no children and, I was worried because I had had the snip around 20 years ago that meant it likely could not be reversed, and I thought at some time she would want children, she assured me she would rather us be together with no children than not, which made me happy.

We had had money issues with her using money I sent for the wedding being used for other things with no explanation but I put that down to her not being used to having money.

We had a big wedding in the Philippines with all her family present, after the wedding and honeymoon she disappeared with money I had left for her visa and fare to the UK, that she insisted she wanted to book herself, she did come to the UK around 18 months later but I soon saw she did not want to be with me, only to be in the UK.

It turned out when she disappeared after our wedding, she was with a boyfriend she had had all along, and they then had a child, which she left with him so she could come to the UK, with of course me paying her visa and fare again.

I loved her but she used that too for her need for money.
Mick.:olddude:

[RickyR]

Proceed with caution, get to know one another well. Appreciate that with cultural differences and a large age gap the future won't be plain sailing. However, if you are both happy, then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

[reldas]

Thankyou to everyone who answered very helpful indeed. Can I just add, this lady does not want to leave her homeland and does not want to come to England. She has one child. She has, on multiple occasions, turned down offers of help from me so money is not the motive. She also works self employed full time, lives in the country - not a city. All in all, she's a decent woman - not after cash gifts or anything like that. We both have tried very hard to resist our feelings but failed, ha ha. Again, thankyou for your comments

[Michael Parnham]

I am 70 years of age and my Maritess is 28 next month, we first met 3 years ago and we have been living together two years 1 month, we married on October 18th 2011. We are extremely happy together and are now looking forward to many more years of happiness together. I suggest you go for it as long as you are sure she is the one you want to spend your life with. If you have any specific questions you would like to ask, don't hesitate, I will try to help you as much as I can. Good luck Reldas. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Janedan0913]

My mum has a partner who is 78 years old - same age as my grandma,lol. My mum is just 48 at that time. I know their relationship is genuine because that old man doesn't receive much from his pension. He loves spending his money in the Philippines because cigs and alcohol are cheap there (according to lolo Mick). That's why my mum message me in skype or fb asking for money because that old man doesn't share at all on the expense at home. He has free accommodation, food and utilities. That's why I can prove that not all Filipina ladies are after the money of British men. My mum is just unlucky to have a hooligan. lol

[Jhen]

My British bf is 30 yrs older than me, he visited me many times. I'm not asking for money from him, but he sent for no reasons. And everytime he came here to Phils, I always show to him his money that he sent to me...I told him 'I chose u not because of ur money, but for ur attitudes, that u can handle me when I have this 'tantrums' or when I feel sad...in a simple way he can make me smile...most of the time, he acts as a joker...just to make me laugh in times that I'm lonely when we're together..or even when we are apart...but in the end ..he will say "the money that I sent to u before, we use it for the rest of the days I am here in the Phils with u" :icon_lol:

[Steve.r]

Thankyou to everyone who answered very helpful indeed. Can I just add, this lady does not want to leave her home land and does not want to come to England. She has one child. She has, on multiple occasions, turned down offers of help from me, so money is not the motive. She also works self employed full time, lives in the country - not a city. All in all, she's a decent woman - not after cash gifts or anything like that. We both have tried very hard to resist our feelings but failed, ha ha. Again thankyou for your comments

It sounds like you found yourself a real diamond. I wish you much happiness. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[johncar54]

My wife is 32 years younger than me, I was 66 when we married she was 34. We came to live in Spain. I was concerned that we might get adverse comments re our age difference.

That was 8 very happy years ago, and I know now that my concerns were unfounded.

[reldas]

You sound just like my g\f, she just sends cash back to me so no point in sending more. Thanks

[timbo]

Well, my story. Met my wife now in 2008. Skip forward to today. We have a nearly three year old son who calls me "Panget "!! And a beautiful wife that calls me daddy in my local. Needless to say, truly happy and with our 10 year gap. Enjoy !!!!!!! And use your experience of life. Timbo

[KeithD]

If I was just 17 my wife would be 1 :omg:

[marksroomspain]

Well, I am 42 my wife 24 - so 18 years' difference. She is so mature for her age, that the difference does not matter, plus with little one here we have both never felt happier...:smile:

[bigmac]

me--65

she--42

big deal!

[stevie c]

If I was just 17 my wife would be 1 :omg:

That's a coincidence boss - cos if I was 17, my wife would be 1 also :biggrin:

[jake]

If I was 17, my wife might be breaking the law :biggrin:

Do you think she could prove without a doubt it was consensual? :icon_lol:

She is 2 years older than me!

[highlander01]

I did use to wonder about such relationships, but I met quite a few ex-pats when over in the Phils who had married much younger women & both parties seemed to be very happy in most cases. Whether such a huge age gap would work in the UK though, I would wonder.

What are ones motives in forming a relationship - love, security, companionship, etc? If all these factors are in place, really what does it matter?

[malchard888]

I'm 62, my wife is 35 and we now have a 5 month old baby who is younger than 2 of my grandchildren. And as u can see on here, there are quite a few couples who have a large age gap. So go for it - and be happy. :smile:

[Michael Parnham]

Just looking back, This was a really good thread, very positive comments. What thread did you find that you enjoyed? :Erm:

[Darlyngeorge]

I liked reading through all the comments, seems like everyone is sincere in their opinions. I don't have anything more to add but hey, welcome to the forum reldas! :Wave:

[primdale]

me - 55.

she -42.

works great for us, been together 13 years.

[blessed_ekim0826]

How difficult is it to be with a partner in the UK who is 40 yrs older than you. I've got visa already but not in UK yet and there's a possibility that I cant come to UK because my partner and his kids are really worried about the culture and society in the UK about what comments they will heard against my age. Any advice is very much welcome and appreciated.:smile:

[mickcant]

How difficult is it to be with a partner in the UK who is 40 yrs older than you. I've got visa already but not in UK yet and there's a possibility that I cant come to UK because my partner and his kids are really worried about the culture and society in the UK about what comments they will heard against my age. Any advice is very much welcome and appreciated.:smile:

Hi,
If your partner sponsored your visa application, why did he not bring up any age difference worries before?
unless his family are now saying something to him?

There should be no problems you cannot overcome if you both want to be together, other men may be a bit jealous :Rasp:
Mick.:smile:

[grahamw48]

How difficult is it to be with a partner in the UK who is 40 yrs older than you. I've got visa already but not in UK yet and there's a possibility that I cant come to UK because my partner and his kids are really worried about the culture and society in the UK about what comments they will heard against my age. Any advice is very much welcome and appreciated.:smile:

So, what is his 'plan B'....to join you in the Phils ? :Erm:

[blessed_ekim0826]

Hi,
If your partner sponsored your visa application, why did he not bring up any age difference worries before?
unless his family are now saying something to him?

There should be no problems you cannot overcome if you both want to be together, other men may be a bit jealous :Rasp:
Mick. :smile:

Yes he did sponsor the visa. He sponsored tourist visa in 2012 but was denied and now is the fiance visa which he thought I couldn't get it. We both want to live together but he is afraid that he might lose his kids and job if I live with him. His family cares other comments than their dads feeling. We already booked my flight but not yet sure if its gonna happen. His kids have probs with my young age or is it really bec of our sex orientation. :smile:

[blessed_ekim0826]

Not sure yet. He doesn't want to live here in the Phils bec of not free medical unlike in the UK as he has an insurance.

[FilipinaDiver]

Hello mike_steve,

My husband is 21 years older than I am, he just turned 50 and I'm turning 29 this coming July. My hubby has a daughter who is 24 years old, a very smart and a very good looking young lady, she just finished her university in Bristol major in Spanish and is now backpacking around the world. I have not met her yet because she refused to accept me and her Dad as well.

What is funny though, my hubby told me that if his daughter and I were in a pub (without him as an issue), we would definitely get along so well. We had a few spats because he was a bit scared to lose his relationship to his daughter as they were really close, the relationship of a daughter and a father is incomparable - I know that for sure as I'm one and only daughter among 3 brothers. Now, even my mum in law is giving my hubby a hard time about his chosen path (with me).

I don't give a d@mn, it is true that I feel saddened that I couldn't hug her the way I would hug my mom though. My mum in law had given 30 years of hell with her another daughter in law (hubby's bro's wife) and she is still giving her a hard time. Life is too short to burden yourself with hurtaches and heartaches dear. Goodluck!

[Michael Parnham]

43 years between us, no problem to us and we're not bothered if it's a problem to anyone else. Good luck to you hope it works out for you! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[blessed_ekim0826]

hello mike_steve,

my husband is 21 years older than I am, he just turned 50 and I'm turning 29 this coming July. My hubby has a daughter who is 24 years old, a very smart and a very good looking young lady, she just finished her university in Bristol major in Spanish and is now backpacking around the world. I have not met her yet because she refused to accept me and her Dad as well. What is funny though, my hubby told me that if his daughter and I were in a pub (without him as an issue), we would definitely get along so well. We had a few spats because he was a bit scared to lose his relationship to his daughter as they were really close, the relationship of a daughter and a father is incomparable-I know that for sure as I'm one and only daughter among 3 brothers. Now, even my mum in law is giving my hubby a hard time about his chosen path (with me). I don't give a d@mn, it is true that I feel saddened that I couldn't hug her the way I would hug my mom though. My mum in law had given 30 years of hell with her another daughter in law (hubby's bro's wife) and she is still giving her a hard time. Life is too short to burden yourself with hurtaches and heartaches dear. Goodluck!

Our age difference is twice than your gap. My partner is afraid of losing his kids and his jobs. His kids knew about their dad's sex orientation but employers don't know about it. That's why he's afraid. We're both confused on what we need to do in our situation.

[blessed_ekim0826]

43 years between us, no problem to us and were not bothered if it's a problem to anyone else. Good luck to you hope it works out for you! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Our age differnce is 41 yrs. What will u do if u r in my partner's shoes? He has 4 kids ages 30-20 y.o. They don't accept their dad to live with a young guy and they're worried about the culture and society.

[Jentobeharrison]

Our age differnce is 41 yrs. What will u do if u r in my partner's shoes? He has 4 kids ages 30-20y.o. They don't accept their dad to live with a young guy and they're worried about the culture and society.



Hi, quite confused... So you're a man and he is a man as well?

Not to judge but just asking :)

[grahamw48]

I can see his point. :cwm25:

[blessed_ekim0826]

hi, quite confused... So you're a man and he is a man as well?

Not to judge but just asking :)

yes!!!!!!

[Michael Parnham]

Our age differnce is 41 yrs. What will u do if u r in my partner's shoes? He has 4 kids ages 30-20 y.o. They don't accept their dad to live with a young guy and they're worried about the culture and society.

It's your partners choice not his family's, I put my wife before my family! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Longweekend]

I'm sure you must understand that it's a very delicate and embarrassing situation for his family - especially if you intend to live in the same town ...

[joebloggs]

I have not met her yet because she refused to accept me and her Dad as well.


That's happened to a few people on here, but it's his and your life and if she can't accept that, it's her problem not yours :NoNo:

[NoRest]

Our age differnce is 41 yrs. What will u do if u r in my partner's shoes? He has 4 kids ages 30-20 y.o. They don't accept their dad to live with a young guy and they're worried about the culture and society.
They're hardly kids anymore, they'll realise that their Dad deserves that chance to be happy. Britain is supposed to be an open minded society (same sex marriage is now legalised just a few months back if I remember right), not like the Philippines...

[Michael Parnham]

I'm you must understand that its a very delicate and embarrassing situation for his family especially if you intend to live in the same town.....

Why? :Erm:

[SimonH]

Why?:Erm:


Probably because as much as we like to think we're a liberal open minded country, a lot of people find it hard to accept. In this case I think the older gentleman's children and his colleagues are not aware of the situation yet.

[Jentobeharrison]

yes!!!!!!

Sorry but why is your fiance is acting like that now? After you got really stressed with the visa application? First of all, he should've settled his family problems before getting your hopes up.

And all I can advise you is, if you know yourself that you are not stepping on others, and your intentions are clear, then do not be bothered.

[Jentobeharrison]

I agree.

Same sex relationship is "accepted" nowadays but people still raise their eyebrows at it, you cannot please everybody.

[aprilmaejon]

Our age difference is twice than your gap. My partner is afraid of losing his kids and his jobs. His kids knew about their dad's sex orientation but employers don't know about it. That's why he's afraid. We're both confused on what we need to do in our situation.

Hi Mike,

You remind me of my friend here. His name is Jack. He is 25 and partner (Paul) is 40 years older than him. He was on student visa when he met his partner online so before the visa expired, they got married then applied for FLR last year. Paul was once married to an English woman and they have 4 kids, eldest is 18 and youngest is 7 years old. 3 kids living with his ex wife and the eldest is living with them now. 2 elder children are aware about the situation (Dad married to a man) while the little ones doesn't know anything. Everytime the kids come and visit daddy's house, they asked who Jack is and why is he living there. Paul will just tell them that Jack is his tenant. The ex wife don't know anything about their marriage neither.

Paul's reason why his little children shouldn't know about his marriage to Jack is that he doesn't want them to be bullied at school. Although UK is a very open minded country and same sex marriage was just legalised in church some time ago, social STIGMA about same sex marriage is still there whether we like it or not. There are still a lot of people in this country who are against it and thinks that it is wrong...but don't mind them, it is your life, not theirs.

What is his employer's business on how your partner runs his life? It would be a discrimination on his part if they will fire him only because of his sexual orientation. Every employee or any person in the UK has the right to equality and be given dignity regardless of anything.

He won't lose his job as it is against the law to discriminate against anyone because of:

*Age
*being or becoming a transsexual person
*being married or in a civil partnership
*being pregnant or having a child
*disability
*race including colour, nationality, ethnic or national origin
religion, belief or lack of religion/belief
*sex
*sexual orientation

He is protected from discrimination in these situations:

1. at work Discrimination at work
The law protects anyone against discrimination at work,inc.:

*dismissal
*employment terms and conditions
*pay and benefits
*promotion and transfer opportunities
*training
*recruitment
*redundancy

Some forms of discrimination are only allowed if they’re needed for the way the organisation works, eg:

A. A Roman Catholic school restricting applications for admission of pupils to Catholics only
B. Employing only women in a health centre for Muslim women

2. in education
3. as a consumer
4. when using public services
5. when buying or renting property
6. as a member or guest of a private club or association

He is legally protected from discrimination by the Equality Act 2010.
He has nothing to worry about losing his job.

He won't loose his kids, later on in their stage of life, they will understand that at the end of the day, it's their dad's happiness that matters.

[marksroomspain]

Hi Mike,

You remind me of my friend here. His name is Jack. He is 25 and partner (Paul) is 40 years older than him. He was on student visa when he met his partner online so before the visa expired, they got married then applied for FLR last year. Paul was once married to an English woman and they have 4 kids, eldest is 18 and youngest is 7 years old. 3 kids living with his ex wife and the eldest is living with them now. 2 elder children are aware about the situation (Dad married to a man) while the little ones doesn't know anything. Everytime the kids come and visit daddy's house, they asked who Jack is and why is he living there. Paul will just tell them that Jack is his tenant. The ex wife don't know anything about their marriage neither.

Paul's reason why his little children shouldn't know about his marriage to Jack is that he doesn't want them to be bullied at school. Although UK is a very open minded country and same sex marriage was just legalised in church some time ago, social STIGMA about same sex marriage is still there whether we like it or not. There are still a lot of people in this country who are against it and thinks that it is wrong...but don't mind them, it is your life, not theirs.

What is his employer's business on how your partner runs his life? It would be a discrimination on his part if they will fire him only because of his sexual orientation. Every employee or any person in the UK has the right for equality and be given dignity regardless of anything.

He won't lose his job as it is against the law to discriminate against anyone because of:

*Age
*being or becoming a transsexual person
*being married or in a civil partnership
*being pregnant or having a child
*disability
*race including colour, nationality, ethnic or national origin
religion, belief or lack of religion/belief
*sex
*sexual orientation

He is protected from discrimination in these situations:

1. at work Discrimination at work
The law protects anyone against discrimination at work,inc.:

*dismissal
*employment terms and conditions
*pay and benefits
*promotion and transfer opportunities
*training
*recruitment
*redundancy

Some forms of discrimination are only allowed if they’re needed for the way the organisation works, eg:

A. A Roman Catholic school restricting applications for admission of pupils to Catholics only
B. Employing only women in a health centre for Muslim women

2. in education
3. as a consumer
4. when using public services
5. when buying or renting property
6. as a member or guest of a private club or association

He is legally protected from discrimination by the Equality Act 2010.
He has nothing to worry about losing his job.

He won't loose his kids, later on in their stage of life, they will understand that at the end of the day, it's their dad's happiness that matters.

A very good posting for Mike and a well deserved rep Aprilmaejon.....:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[aprilmaejon]

His family cares other comments than their dads feeling. His kids have probs with my young age or is it really bec of our sex orientation. :smile:

People comments/talks no matter what the situation is.

{My personal experience:

People talks because I married early. I was 22.
People talks because me and my husband met online.
People thinks that I married my husband only for the sole purpose of getting a British passport.}

People always love to discuss other people's lives...you can't get away with it...

So the best thing to do is just ignore them, get on with your life, focus on building a stronger happy relationship with your partner and be happy. Make him realise that.

And might as well think that your life is more interesting than theirs. People talk about your life because their life is boring, nothing like yours! :smile:

[aprilmaejon]

A very good posting for Mike and a well deserved rep Aprilmaejon.....:xxgrinning--00xx3:

:68711_thanx: Mark...

[blessed_ekim0826]

Thank you so much for all your nice advices!!!

[tiger31]

Well, here,s my 2 pennies worth: Mike,s partner is right to be worried. Although people on here are saying same sex marriages are accepted, they are accepted through gritted teeth by most people - as it is an offence to speak out otherwise. With an age gap like this between 2 males, it will make living together ten times worse in my view.

It,s ok for people on here to say never mind other peoples views, but they,re not the ones that have to live in that situation. His partner is clearly worried about his family,s reaction to this and he has a lot to lose in my view. His employers and co-workers don,t know either. He clearly wants his sexuality kept private, which is an added pressure on him.

My question is why sponsor his partner with all these problems around him?. The UK is not as tolerant as we,re led to believe on many issues. But good luck on your journey as you are clearly going to need it.

[Longweekend]

Why? :Erm:

I'm surprised you don't understand....

[Michael Parnham]

I'm surprised you don't understand....

I do understand, but if family are so bothered what outsiders think, don't worry about it. Also if they are bothered what their friends think, they are not your friends really are they? I've got a family who are the strangest people I've ever had to put up with.

After leaving home at a very young age to work away, I was the one who always contacted my family either by travelling a long way or calling them and after many years of doing this I realised they never contacted me. So I stopped visiting and calling and it was twenty years before any family member contacted me.

It's true what they say, You can choose your friends but not your relations! :anerikke:

[Jentobeharrison]

Well, here,s my 2 pennies worth: Mike,s partner is right to be worried. Although people on here are saying same sex marriages are accepted, they are accepted through gritted teeth by most people - as it is an offence to speak out otherwise. With an age gap like this between 2 males, it will make living together ten times worse in my view.

It,s ok for people on here to say never mind other peoples views, but they,re not the ones that have to live in that situation. His partner is clearly worried about his family,s reaction to this and he has a lot to lose in my view. His employers and co-workers don,t know either. He clearly wants his sexuality kept private, which is an added pressure on him.

My question is why sponsor his partner with all these problems around him?. The UK is not as tolerant as we,re led to believe on many issues. But good luck on your journey as you are clearly going to need it.


I agree. And to be honest this is not others' point of view, it is actually his partner's/sponsor's feelings. Why did he let you went through all of these before sorting out the problem. Now, he is not the only one bothered, but also you Mike and I am sorry to read your feelings. This situation can't be helped you know, but the only thing you can do is to be with your man always and strong enough for him to stand with his decisions.

[Rory]

If I was 17 my wife of 2 years would not be born. With a 20 year age gap we are both happy. I have had a few negative comments from people at work but I knew before I married her I would at least get people staring at us in the street or people whispering behind our backs. People talk and always will. If we all took to heart what people thought about us or said then we would all be suicidal.

Be happy, it is your life. As said, you only have one go at it.

[Jentobeharrison]

If i was 17 my wife of 2 years would not be born. With a 20 year age gap we are both happy. I have had a few negative comments from people at work but i knew before i married her i would at least get people staring at us in the street or people whispering behind our backs. People talk and always will, if we all took to heart what people thought about us or said then we would all be suicidal.

Be happy, it is your life. As said, you only have one go at it.


But the one who thinks is his partner and his family.

I quote from OP:

"How difficult is it to be with a partner in the UK who is 40 yrs older than you. I've got visa already but not in UK yet and there's a possibility that I cant come to UK because my partner and his kids are really worried about the culture and society in the UK about what comments they will heard against my age. Any advice is very much welcome and appreciated."


It's not really what others' think, it's what his partner's think. If that's only about others, their relationship shouldn't be bothered but his main concern is his partner's worries.

[Michael Parnham]

Mick Jagger has a new g/f 43 years younger than him, I can't see a problem if you really love one another! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Arthur Little]

Mick Jagger has a new g/f 43 years younger than him, I can't see a problem if you really love one another! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

:cwm25: ... Mick Jagger? :biggrin: "Bony" but "nae boannie"! :NoNo:

:icon_sorry:, folks .................. :yeahthat:'s just my opinion! :wink:

[Michael Parnham]

:cwm25: ... Mick Jagger? :biggrin: "Bony" but "nae boannie"! :NoNo:

:icon_sorry:, folks .................. :yeahthat:'s just my opinion! :wink:

Like it Arthur! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[marksroomspain]

I do understand, but if family are so bothered what outsiders think, don't worry about it. Also if they are bothered what their friends think, they are not your friends really are they? I've got a family who are the strangest people I've ever had to put up with.

After leaving home at a very young age to work away, I was the one who always contacted my family either by travelling a long way or calling them and after many years of doing this I realised they never contacted me. So I stopped visiting and calling and it was twenty years before any family member contacted me.

It's true what they say, You can choose your friends but not your relations! :anerikke:

Well said Michael.....:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[marksroomspain]

If I was 17 my wife of 2 years would not be born. With a 20 year age gap we are both happy. I have had a few negative comments from people at work but I knew before I married her I would at least get people staring at us in the street or people whispering behind our backs. People talk and always will. If we all took to heart what people thought about us or said then we would all be suicidal.

Be happy, it is your life. As said, you only have one go at it.

Totally agree Rory. There are loads of jealous people out there - but leave them to their own miserable lives. An 18 year age gap for us, but I am the one who's smiling. :biggrin::xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Michael Parnham]

Totally agree Rory. There are loads of jealous people out there - but leave them to their own miserable lives. An 18 year age gap for us, but I am the one who's smiling. :biggrin::xxgrinning--00xx3:

I totally agree! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[chris28]

What a terrible story Mick :omg:, we cannot blame most Caucasian doubted filipino woman now because there are lot who became victims like what happened to u. Hope u not mad to all filipina just what happened I know there are some who is not like her.

You must have to be careful next time. :smile:

[Rory]

What a terrible story Mick :omg:, we cannot blame most Caucasian doubted filipino woman now because there are lot who became victims like what happened to u. Hope u not mad to all filipina just what happened I know there are some who is not like her.

You must have to be careful next time. :smile:

In most cases it takes a while before there is a next time if at all.

[mickcant]

What a terrible story Mick :omg:, we cannot blame most Caucasian doubted filipino woman now because there are lot who became victims like what happened to u. Hope u not mad to all filipina just what happened I know there are some who is not like her.

You must have to be careful next time. :smile:

Hi Chris,

Thank you for your reply and comments.

I do know from the many good marriages in the forum that very few Filipinas act as my ex wife did.

It has not put me off wanting to meet other Filipinas but as I have now turned 70 - and even more because of the higher income requirement to allow me to sponsor another - it just cannot happen.

I first met a Filipina when in hospital and was treated by Filipina nurses then met some in Dubai while visiting my son and his Filipina partner there, I have many good Filipina memories to look back on. :Jump:

Mick. :smile: