Loyalty of Filipina girl

[bikerpat]

Hi to all on the site.

Just need an opinion and I hope I don't offend anybody.

I met a Filipina girl on a dating site 3 years ago and we have developed a serious relationship since. I have visited her 5 times, met her family who seem real nice and shared some lovely times together where we got on really really well.

When I met this girl she was working in a mall and has since moved to Manila to live with her uncle and she now works in a factory.

She's a most lovely person. I have really fallen for her and my dream is to move to Philippines to live together. I am retired and always loved South East Asia but I'm not sure I'd like to move there and be alone.

Over the last 3 years she has been totally honest, open and loyal to me.

There is a large age difference between us. I'm 59, she's 21 but from the very first time we met we have have got on so well you'd never think of that age difference.

As I said over the last 3 years she has come across to me as a sincere and honest girl. She says she loves me so much and hopes we can be together. Also I speak to her family and friends on Facebook and they all say that she loves me and is totally loyal and faithful and hope that we can be together as we seem a perfect match.

My girl does not want to leave Philippines and would be quite happy for us to settle in someplace where we both are happy with. She does want to do some studying.

The reason I'm posting here is that I married a Thai lady before and took her to Ireland after 7 years she walked out on me and went to live with her sister in another part of Ireland.

And I had treated this girl really well. Am currently in the legal process of trying to separate from her legally.

So back to this lovely Filipina girl I have met and am in love with.

Are Filipina women trustful, loyal and faithful once they commit themselves to a man? Does the age difference become a problem later?

I know in my girl's situation it's a call I have to make for myself so I am looking for a general view from you men folk on here.

I do know if I moved there set up home with her and she left me it would leave me in a very bad place at this stage of my life as I may have to sell my home here in Ireland to settle with this Thai woman and pay all the legal fees.

In general I have found Filipina people much nicer people than the Thai's.

Would appreciate your views and comments.

Thanks

Pat

[imagine]

it doesn't seem to matter at all the age difference,

there are bad apples in every bunch, but generaly i would say they are more faithful and caring than our western women,

be sure that she wants you for the right reasons, and not for money, which it doesn't look that way, seeing as how you will loose half your house wealth to your ex, plus she doesn't want a visa to come live with you, so i would say that looks good,

give some thought to the fact that medical care is private there, and your getting older,with respect to that, keep money aside for emegency,

i had one led me on for over 3 years,

but i am glad to say i have met my diamond at last,

i too am going to live with her, i am selling up here in uk,and expect to start my new life there this september, like you i am 59 also, my asawa is 10 years younger,

for me i think go for it , you only live once :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[bikerpat]

it doesn't seem to matter at all the age difference,

there are bad apples in every bunch, but generaly i would say they are more faithful and caring than our western women,

be sure that she wants you for the right reasons, and not for money, which it doesn't look that way, seeing as how you will loose half your house wealth to your ex, plus she doesn't want a visa to come live with you, so i would say that looks good,

give some thought to the fact that medical care is private there, and your getting older,with respect to that, keep money aside for emegency,

i had one led me on for over 3 years,

but i am glad to say i have met my diamond at last,

i too am going to live with her, i am selling up here in uk,and expect to start my new life there this september, like you i am 59 also, my asawa is 10 years younger,

for me i think go for it , you only live once :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Thanks for that. She has seldom asked me for money over the three years. I bought her a laptop on my last trip as a 21st present but more so to make it easier to keep in touch. She used to have to go to internet shops all the time. She seems very sincere and after three years is still with me. According to her family and friends I am her first man. She tells me she loves me very much and that she wants to be with me. No, money is not a motivation. I found your answer very positive. Thank you. What's your name and where do you live. Regards, Pat

[joebloggs]

it might be possible if you go and live with her for 2yrs in the phils, to be able to apply for a un-married partner visa, bring her to the uk and let her study in the uk for a few years, then see if she wants to stay or go back to the phils :cwm25:

[imagine]

you live in ireland, i think thats eu rules for a visa if she wanted to come to you at some point,

im stewart, an english man living in scotland :biggrin:

[grahamw48]

From what I've read about Western/Thai versus Western/ Filipino relationships over the years, the latter do seem to last better, and the cultures seem to blend a little better too.

As your relationship has already endured for a few years, and with the other info you've supplied, then I see no reason why you and your partner shouldn't have a happy future together, regardless of any age gap. All you can do is give things a try. As we know, there is never a relationship that comes with guarantees.

I too am hoping to retire to the Phils, and be with my (very much younger :biggrin:) lady there, after having previously been married for 15 years to another Filipina, who was 16 years my junior (age gap never was an issue with the ex).

I would urge you not to 'burn your boats' entirely in your home country though, and certainly to keep some funds back home...just in case you need to return, for whatever reason. :smile:

[bikerpat]

you live in ireland, i think thats eu rules for a visa if she wanted to come to you at some point,

im stewart, an english man living in scotland :biggrin:

Sorry I only noticed afterwards you were still in Scotland. Are you going for the retirement visa or what visa? And have you a plan yet for where you are staying in Philippines?

She doesn't want to come to Ireland and it would be impossible for her to get a visa.

I'm retired and I want to go to Philippines where I'll get better value for my pension and be with this wonderful woman in her own environment.

Regards

Pat

[bikerpat]

it might be possible if you go and live with her for 2yrs in the phils, to be able to apply for a un-married partner visa, bring her to the uk and let her study in the uk for a few years, then see if she wants to stay or go back to the phils :cwm25:


Hi and thanks for your response. She doesn't want to leave Philippines. I want to go there. Am retired and my pension will go much further over there than here. That 2 year deal sounds good. Didn't know about the unmarried partner visa, is that a Philippine visa? I was thinking of applying for a retirement visa under the Philippine Retirement Agency. It's expensive process though but it's a permanent visa. Any further thoughts appreciated. Pat

[bikerpat]

From what I've read about Western/Thai versus Western/ Filipino relationships over the years, the latter do seem to last better, and the cultures seem to blend a little better too.

As your relationship has already endured for a few years, and with the other info you've supplied, then I see no reason why you and your partner shouldn't have a happy future together, regardless of any age gap. All you can do is give things a try. As we know, there is never a relationship that comes with guarantees.

I too am hoping to retire to the Phils, and be with my (very much younger :biggrin:) lady there, after having previously been married for 15 years to another Filipina, who was 16 years my junior (age gap never was an issue with the ex).

I would urge you not to 'burn your boats' entirely in your home country though, and certainly to keep some funds back home...just in case you need to return, for whatever reason. :smile:

Sound advice and thank you. I will keep funds here just in case !!!!

[bikerpat]

Hi folks,

Please post any other advice here. I really appreciate any words of wisdom because at my age uprooting from Ireland and moving to Phils is a major step. I also worry re healthcare over in Phils.

[imagine]

Sorry I only noticed afterwards you were still in Scotland. Are you going for the retirement visa or what visa? And have you a plan yet for where you are staying in Philippines?

She doesn't want to come to Ireland and it would be impossible for her to get a visa.

I'm retired and I want to go to Philippines where I'll get better value for my pension and be with this wonderful woman in her own environment.

Regards

Pat

im going for the 13a residency visa , this is if you are married to her, a lot of work to get it but its a cheaper option than renewing tourist visa every few months, and cheaper than retirement option with regard to how much you need stuck in an account,
of course if you marry, there is the balakbayan privilege which gives you 1 year visa free,
there are many threads and post you can read up on, which will give a lot to think about

[sweet_mazza]

Hi bikerpat, healthcare here is not for free and very expensive especially meds. make sure you have emergency savings. we have Philhealth but you will only be covered if you are legally married to your partner here.

If you are planning to have kids, education is not free too. we have public schools but i dont recommend that. private schools are much better but University of the Philippines is the only exception.

[sheriel]

Hi bikerpat, healthcare here is not for free and very expensive especially meds. make sure you have emergency savings. we have Philhealth but you will only be covered if you are legally married to your partner here.

If you are planning to have kids, education is not free too. we have public schools but i dont recommend that. private schools are much better but University of the Philippines is the only exception.











Age is just a number,Filipinas are Loyal,Loyal,you have found a diamond,good luck for the future :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Michael Parnham]

Hello BikerPat, don't worry about age gap, my wife is 43 years younger than me and we were made for each other!:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Ako Si Jamie]

As someone once told me, Thai women consider sex as a gift from God and Filipino women consider marriage as a gift from God. So the Pinays win :xxgrinning--00xx3::smile:

It might be a good idea to do a few '59 day visas' each year before committing to a decision. Gives you time to get to know her better before making the plunge plus you need to know what's going to happen with your ex. I wouldn't make a commitment until that matter was sorted out.

[bigmarco]

Hi Pat
From what you've said looks like you've met a gem.
I think the fact you've hooked up 5 times and speak to all the family is a great sign.
Is there no way you could rent your place in Ireland out for say 12 months and give it a go for a year so your completely confident about the future.
If not then perhaps it's just time to take the plunge after all life's far to short .
Good luck :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[marksroomspain]

Hiya Pat

I think you have answered most of your worries regarding your fiances loyalty and sincerity by all the positive insight into how you feel about her and vice versa.

I too was worried about the age gap between myself and my beautiful wife but here we are nearly 2 years later both happy as can be with our son to boot.

One bit of advice from me is to use your gut instinct and reminisce from all the times you spent together how you felt at that time, how happy you both were/are and go from there, if she makes you happy and you make her happy then forget whats happened in the past and go for it good luck.:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Arthur Little]

There is a large age difference between us. I'm 59, she's 21 but from the very first time we met we have have got on so well you'd never think of that age difference.

Pat ... as you'll have already observed, the 38-year age gap is "NO BIG DEAL" in the eyes of the OTHER respondents to this thread. :NoNo: And it doesn't seem to matter a jot to the lass herself, who - from what you've mentioned here about her - comes across as being a pretty mature-minded person, in spite of her comparative youth.

But ...



According to her family and friends I am her first man. She tells me she loves me very much and that she wants to be with me.

... without wishing to put a dampner on the hopes & dreams of either of the two of you for a future together, I must express just a little concern about the words I've highlighted in bold above. Not that I'm doubting their sincerity, :nono-1-1: ... AT THIS POINT IN TIME! But by all accounts, you're her first boyfriend ... my point there, being ... :anerikke: ... how can someone of such tender years be sure her feelings will remain the same several years down the line if she's never been in any previous relationships to compare this one with?

[keith britten]

I met a Filipina lady online about 2 1/2 years ago, I came to visit her in the Phils and it was love at first sight. We have been married for 18 months now and I couldn't ask for a more loyal, loving and trustworthy wife. I'm 66 and she's 42 but that doesn't make love any less secure. I have moved out here and we are very happy together. Not to sure about the retirement visa option, seems like you have to deposit a load of money here for that. I'm here on a 13a residents visa, had no problems getting that after we were married. If your instinct tells you to do it then go for it. But I will add a foot note, I've known of 2 or 3 Filipina women since I've been here that seem to be using westerners.

[joebloggs]

But I will add a foot note, I've known of 2 or 3 Filipina women since I've been here that seem to be using westerners.

and a few members on here have been scammed, used and abused over the years :cwm24:, thankfully only a SMALL number :wink:

[Iani]

I've had experience in Thailand, had friends there so spent time there and got to know many people and heard many stories.
Thai society is very different to pinoy and cannot be compared.
Frankly listeners going to Thailand and thinking they have found love......the culture clash and not realising what is really happening.....it is like a train wreck waiting to happen.

I would say you are more likely to find an honest woman in Phils. Its awful to make such a generalization but there you go. You cannot judge your current lady on your Thai ex, the only thing in common is that they are both Asian.

Then again there are many Pinay scammers. Just trust your judgement. Life would be boring if you didn't take risks sometimes though huh. Some things we just have to give a try or later regret.

Oh and slightly off topic, if you want an insight into how a relationship can go so wrong....especially when some westerner thinks he's found love in a place he shouldn't look if he had sense, then read a book called Private Dancer by Stephen Leather. You can download it for free legally as well as buy a paper copy from the usual outlets.

[bikerpat]

Thanks all. Arthur your comment re no previous relationship is well noted and I had difficulty with this at first but am convinced she's being honest about that fact. We have discussed this a lot and she is absolutely certain I am the one for her. And I knew when I first met her, after seeing how nervous she was, that this was all a new experience for her. Jamie, agreed re sorting out the current matter and is prepared to wait. She has assured me she is not the same type of woman as the THAI that I can depend on her. My Filipina is fully aware of the matter. My Filipina girl just started a job yesterday to keep her occupied. And Iani I have read Private Dancer. The Thai woman before was not a sex girl, I met her in Wales, UK and I know now I was used to get her into Ireland so she could reunite with her sister who is already in Ireland for over 12 years. My Filipina girl most certainly has never been in the sex business. She was raised by her aunt , whom I've met, under very strict guidelines. My girl's mother died when she was young. I agree with some comments. I think I have met a gem, I suppose the Thai experience has me on a higher state of alert than I should be. I love this girl and she's a total joy to be with. I have never met anyone like her before who is so caring and loving and after 3 years she is still with me. She is very pretty, has been courted but has refused all advances and even her friends tell me on FB that she has no interest in other men and talks about me a lot.

Thanks again folks and keep the comments coming.

Re renting my house here. I cannot do that because if the Thai woman here about it she can come and order the tenants out and take over whilst I'm away. That's Irish law for you. So I need to clear that whole mess first, see if I have to sell the house, what pension I will still have, in case she's entitled to a share and then hopefully make plans to go to Phils where I know I'll be happy with this girl.

Regards

Pat

[Iani]

Hi don't worry I wasn't suggesting your ex was from that sort of background. That book though does provide an insight on to huge cultural misunderstandings. One thing you do notice is that there are no good or bad guys......both sides are at fault and it should just not have happened.

Anyway, good luck :-)

[bikerpat]

Hi don't worry I wasn't suggesting your ex was from that sort of background. That book though does provide an insight on to huge cultural misunderstandings. One thing you do notice is that there are no good or bad guys......both sides are at fault and it should just not have happened.

Anyway, good luck :-)

Completely understand my friend. However most guys here in Ireland have picked up their Thai women from bars and the majority have ended in disaster. The thing about me moving to Phils, if I can, is that my lovely girl will be in her own environment and I love it there so it shouldn't be as complicated as she coming here. I do believe I have found someone special in Phils and damn it I think I will never rest in peace unless I try a move there with her. She makes me happy in so many ways and has a calmness about her that really relaxes and soothes me, yet has a wicked sense of humour. Doesn't smoke, rarely drinks, eats little (she's slim), is happy in herself and is always willing to try new things and so a lovely sense of gratitude when I bring her somewhere and do something for her. And when we do go on a holiday she never demands this or that, buy me this or that. Never. But I always give her money to get herself something and she seems to always have a sense of getting something I like.

I better stop this now or I'll have myself in a state. I really miss being with her and when we cam and go offline I get a terrible sense of loss.

Thanks for your support.

:xxgrinning--00xx3:

Pat

[raynaputi]

Completely understand my friend. However most guys here in Ireland have picked up their Thai women from bars and the majority have ended in disaster. The thing about me moving to Phils, if I can, is that my lovely girl will be in her own environment and I love it there so it shouldn't be as complicated as she coming here. I do believe I have found someone special in Phils and damn it I think I will never rest in peace unless I try a move there with her. She makes me happy in so many ways and has a calmness about her that really relaxes and soothes me, yet has a wicked sense of humour. Doesn't smoke, rarely drinks, eats little (she's slim), is happy in herself and is always willing to try new things and so a lovely sense of gratitude when I bring her somewhere and do something for her. And when we do go on a holiday she never demands this or that, buy me this or that. Never. But I always give her money to get herself something and she seems to always have a sense of getting something I like.

I better stop this now or I'll have myself in a state. I really miss being with her and when we cam and go offline I get a terrible sense of loss.

Thanks for your support.

:xxgrinning--00xx3:

Pat

Glad that you've found the right girl for you Pat! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Ako Si Jamie]

If you're looking for somewhere for her to study, check out Dumaguete as it's known as a university town.

[Mathe]

Hi! I got interested in your query because it seemed very earnest and sincere.

Just like any other ethnic groups, some Filipinos are good and some are not. In the case of your Filipina lady, she seems to be uninterested in coming over here, so that indicates that she is not just after citizenship, etc.

If you have sustained a relationship long distance from her for a few years, then perhaps, she deserves your trust. You just have to be very sensitive to communication cues that Filipinas usually give. They are not very frank about their feelings sometimes and even when they are embarrassed or hurting, they would still be smiling. If her English is good enough, then she should be able to open up to you if you ask her about her sincerity.

Filipinas are naturally caring. They don't leave their husbands when the going gets tough, especially when they were treated well. If you are going to reside in the Philippines, though, you have to be prepared to "marry her entire family", if you know what I mean. You would be, by some unwritten agreement, obliged to help her entire family if they have money or something like that. They are not taking advantage of you - that is just how they think. So that when you are in need of their help and they can, they will be there for you as well.

I hope you will find happiness with her.

[Terpe]

Hi! I got interested in your query because it seemed very earnest and sincere.

Just like any other ethnic groups, some Filipinos are good and some are not. In the case of your Filipina lady, she seems to be uninterested in coming over here, so that indicates that she is not just after citizenship, etc.

If you have sustained a relationship long distance from her for a few years, then perhaps, she deserves your trust. You just have to be very sensitive to communication cues that Filipinas usually give. They are not very frank about their feelings sometimes and even when they are embarrassed or hurting, they would still be smiling. If her English is good enough, then she should be able to open up to you if you ask her about her sincerity.

Filipinas are naturally caring. They don't leave their husbands when the going gets tough, especially when they were treated well. If you are going to reside in the Philippines, though, you have to be prepared to "marry her entire family", if you know what I mean. You would be, by some unwritten agreement, obliged to help her entire family if they have money or something like that. They are not taking advantage of you - that is just how they think. So that when you are in need of their help and they can, they will be there for you as well.

I hope you will find happiness with her.

Hello Mathe, good post, well put. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Welcome aboard Filipino UK forum :welcomex:

Hope you'll stay around and make new friends here :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[bikerpat]

Thanks to all. My girl can be sensitive. I tend to speak my mind when something is bothering me and sometimes that upsets her and I feel crap but at least the problem is resloved. Whereas she tends to say something is 'secret' if she appears to have some issue. Cultural difference again maybe?

[grahamw48]

I'd say yes, definitely cultural differences and pretty much the norm.

Filipinas are often quite emotionally sensitive, so you do need to be careful with the British 'speak your mind' habit, as it's very much in opposition to the 'saving face' culture of the Filipinos. Lip-biting time. :smile:

[bigmarco]

Hi! I got interested in your query because it seemed very earnest and sincere.

Just like any other ethnic groups, some Filipinos are good and some are not. In the case of your Filipina lady, she seems to be uninterested in coming over here, so that indicates that she is not just after citizenship, etc.

If you have sustained a relationship long distance from her for a few years, then perhaps, she deserves your trust. You just have to be very sensitive to communication cues that Filipinas usually give. They are not very frank about their feelings sometimes and even when they are embarrassed or hurting, they would still be smiling. If her English is good enough, then she should be able to open up to you if you ask her about her sincerity.

Filipinas are naturally caring. They don't leave their husbands when the going gets tough, especially when they were treated well. If you are going to reside in the Philippines, though, you have to be prepared to "marry her entire family", if you know what I mean. You would be, by some unwritten agreement, obliged to help her entire family if they have money or something like that. They are not taking advantage of you - that is just how they think. So that when you are in need of their help and they can, they will be there for you as well.

I hope you will find happiness with her/

Hi Mathe and welcome to the forum :Hellooo:
What an excellent first post and suitably rewarded :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[sweet_mazza]

Filipinas are naturally caring. They don't leave their husbands when the going gets tough, especially when they were treated well. If you are going to reside in the Philippines, though, you have to be prepared to "marry her entire family", if you know what I mean. You would be, by some unwritten agreement, obliged to help her entire family if they have money or something like that. They are not taking advantage of you - that is just how they think. So that when you are in need of their help and they can, they will be there for you as well.


Marriage is sacred. We all have differences but because of love we tend to find ways to resolve the issue and not running away from it.

:smileybigtmouth:

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Hi Pat,

I suggest that if ever you will visit or stay here in the Philippines, you might be interested to attend a pre-cana seminar being handled by CEFAM at Ateneo. It can really help you a lot with regards to your relationship with your lovely girlfriend. It helped me and my fiancee on how we deal with our differences (cultural, emotional and spiritual). It'll explain the 'Authentic Love' and the 5 Languages of Love. hehe. it made feel like its First Love. ^_^

AJA!

:love::love::love:

[bikerpat]

That sounds like a great idea. Thanks my friend.

[somebody]

Some great advice already given but do of course keep your eyes and ears open. Is the family fully open and all the members apparent to you?
Are there any ticking time bombs waiting for you?

Sorry to sound clinical but it's worth thinking about and just noting anything which doesnt seem right. Many pinay just like people from all over the world are just looking for friendship and love but there are many examples both of users of this forum and elsewhere who have been sucked in on a long term scam.

She needs to get though university how did.her age.group peers in her family fund university?

Is there a house in good repair?

Are there any family members who have serious health issues?

Just ask how did you meet?

Why did she click with you and not someone else?

Does she mention other suitors?

Have you told her your situation and it might be worth a few times indicating your not a rich man the best relationships even between pinay and westerns have love at the centre not money, looks or visa status.
I know of very pretty, intelligent young girls be loyal to guys much older who are not well off, not good looking living in not the best house in the uk in happy long term relationships.

I know of many pinay who are loyal and loving whatever happens to the man they love. Hoping this is the case for you :-D

[gWaPito]

and a few members on here have been scammed, used and abused over the years :cwm24:, thankfully only a SMALL number :wink:

Yes, I can vouch for that. ...I also agree on Arthur's initial post as well. ..no good me subscribing my opinion, I'm currently going through the bitter and twisted stages. ...the bright light is that she don't wanna leave the Philippines. Always a good sign unless you plan on building a multimillion peso gaff then that wld throw a different complexion on matters. You are right, if the relationship goes pear shaped you do indeed lose everything. ....the only women I trust with my life are my Mother and Daughter. ..so don't mind me

[stevewool]

i cant add much more to this thread , many before have given very good advice, but in the end its what you feel that counts,
Just remember you are only here the once so enjoy it all

[Michael Parnham]

Hi Bikerpat, My summing up of everything I have read so far is, you seem to have found a very genuine loving and caring young lady and my advice would be to go ahead with whatever plan you have for your future together. I will say, that I wish you and your lady all the best for the future and you can get all the help you need with anything you need to know from the members of this forum as you go along! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[highlander01]

Do your due diligence but if it works out & checks out then go for it. Life is too short.

But as others have said - do leave yourself a fall back position ( property etc in Ireland ) if everything does go pear shaped.

[gWaPito]

Highlander is right. ..you need a back up plan if only for peace of mind and a good night's sleep. ......I certainly wouldn't tempt fate, at least not again.

I agree with life bein too short and going for it etc. ..surely their has to be a balance between calculated risk and mindless stupidity, something I've been reminded of on a daily basis. I sure as hell wouldn't want other forum members to go through the same excrement as I am presently bein dragged through.

[bikerpat]

Hi all,

Too many to reply to individually.

I love the honesty and openess of the members on this forum and I am not offended in any way by any comments or flattered by the positive comments (although I like them better).

I have know my g/f for 3 years. I know the family. I was just speaking with my g/f today and it's so uplifting listening to her and her excitment about out future plans.

She and her family know all about the crap I'm curently going through with a Thai woman I brought over from Wales and who after getting her Irish passport scarpered off to live with her sister in the West of Ireland. Initially the Thai woman was great but didn't stick around.

So because of that I am on full alert but there is no comparison between the two women.

There seems no issues with her family and I have clearly stated I am not a rich man, am retired on pension and will not be coming to Phils to support anyone but my g/f. I organised a meeting to clear this fact plus other matters so we're all in the clear before this goes any further. And I have not received any negative reaction from the family.

I speak regularly with an aunt of hers and some of her friends and they all they me she is madly in love with me and misses me everytime.

My g/f in Phils has no wish to leave the Philippines, she is very mature for her age. Has never tried to scam me and anytime we have been together she never drags me into shops to get me to spend etc.... She does not smoke, drinks very litte and only with me, eats shag all when we go out, and is so gentle and sweet to be around. Sometimes I don't even think she's in the room. She's very affectionate and as she says to me, I'm her teacher. When I met her first I was her first man and she said that her desire to meet me was built up over the 6 months we were chatting online. She admits to having many suitors back in her town and even in the jobs she worked in but she refused and still refuses them all. I have put an engagement ring on her finger and I think word is out that she's taken. Even when we're out guys look at her and she gets very uncomfortable and sometimes switches chairs so that she is not being stared at.

My mind is made up on her. My gut tells me go for it or I'll regret not doing this for the rest of my life. I honestly couldn't imagine my life without her. She has all the things I ever dreamed about in a woman.

However my plan will be to come to Phils, travel around until we find a suitable place to live, that we both like. Work off a budget that reasonable, save money but I will have funds back in Ireland that will be staying in Ireland.

I have other option in SEA should things not work out and I can always come back here if I wish.

But I have to admit it folks, I have fallen for my Filipina g/f and I hope our plans come through.

Thanks for taking the time to read my ramblings. Appreciate it very much and again feel free to write back.

Love you guys,

Pat

[Terpe]

Nice post Pat :xxgrinning--00xx3:

We all wish you well.

Hope you'll continue to stay around, share you experiences, join the banter and humour and hopefully pick up some genuine help from a broad range of experience here.

Some here will be following the same path as you.

The Philippines is a marvelous, wonderful country and the people are the best in the world. So polite and hospitable and always willing to help.

The Philippines is pretty much the same as any other country, keep your wits about you, use good common sense, stay out of known trouble areas and you'll be OK.

Most of the negative moaning and complaining you'll hear is from people who were mostly unprepared for a move to another country and culture. They likely didn't do their homework.
Make no mistake the Philippines is different. Not bad, but different.
Many become upset because the Philippines isn't western enough. Not like UK
If you're looking for a life-copy of a Euro Zone country the you'll not find anything like that in the Philippines.
Better to stay in Ireland.

What I hope you'll discover is wonderful experience. A great country with great people who mostly have their own unique way of doing stuff. Read the forum, ask questions, search past postings and you'll gain a lot and minimise any unpleasant surprises.

It's a wise strategy to rent at first until you both find a place you're comfortable with.
I wish you good luck.

[bikerpat]

Nice post Pat :xxgrinning--00xx3:

We all wish you well.

Hope you'll continue to stay around, share you experiences, join the banter and humour and hopefully pick up some genuine help from a broad range of experience here.

Some here will be following the same path as you.

The Philippines is a marvelous, wonderful country and the people are the best in the world. So polite and hospitable and always willing to help.

The Philippines is pretty much the same as any other country, keep your wits about you, use good common sense, stay out of known trouble areas and you'll be OK.

Most of the negative moaning and complaining you'll hear is from people who were mostly unprepared for a move to another country and culture. They likely didn't do their homework.
Make no mistake the Philippines is different. Not bad, but different.
Many become upset because the Philippines isn't western enough. Not like UK
If you're looking for a life-copy of a Euro Zone country the you'll not find anything like that in the Philippines.
Better to stay in Ireland.

What I hope you'll discover is wonderful experience. A great country with great people who mostly have their own unique way of doing stuff. Read the forum, ask questions, search past postings and you'll gain a lot and minimise any unpleasant surprises.

It's a wise strategy to rent at first until you both find a place you're comfortable with.
I wish you good luck.

Thanks Terpe,
That is so kind of you. I have been travelling to SEA since 1992 and have always felt I 'belong' in that region. So I have no hang-ups about living there especialy with the lovely g/f I have.
It'll take a bit of time to settle etc... but I'm leaving myself covered by keeping monies back in Ireland.
When I've been to Philipinnes or Thailand or Cambodia I have never had a problem in 21 years and I always seem to get on with people in both cities and rural places. I travel with a smile and I love meeting people. I'm no fool and will be careful of course and having her ladyship along will be of great help. She's a smart woman for her age and as she says I', your asawa and it's now my job to watch over you.

Am going to give it a try and thank you again for your words of encouragement.

Of course I'll keep in touch with this forum and would love to meet any of the forum people who live in Phils.

Regards,

Pat

[Terpe]

You'll be just fine mate :xxgrinning--00xx3:

It's funny what you said, I too always felt more comfortable and more at home in Asia.

We'll both be fine I feel :Jump:

[alesypalsy]

So are you out there now bikerpat?

Would be interesting to see how you got on 3 years later

[mickcant]

All the best to both of you Pat :xxgrinning--00xx3:
Make the most of life.
Mick.:smile:

[Harry T]

Yeah would be lovely to know how these two guys got on.:smile:

[baileyjay]

If you're looking for somewhere for her to study, check out Dumaguete as it's known as a university town.