sending money before you met

[tiger31]

ok hands up who admits to sending money to their future loved one before ya met in person .I am guilty as charged lol when I first hooked up with my misus I was very green to the internet dating game and was not even aware of scammers etc etc .so after 2 months I decided to send 30 quid to her even though she never even asked for money or tried the sob story in any way .It was only when the chinese guy in the western union kiosk said to me do you know that this is a lot of money to a philippino and mentioned the word scam that I really sort of thought what if she is ? anyway she was shocked that I sent her money and thought it was a joke ,she sent her sister to collect the money because she did,nt want to be embarressed in case it was a joke lol .I told the chinese guy well its not a lot to me so if it is then I have,nt lost much .Then I sent a further 50 quid 2 weeks later and then we connected on cam for the first time ,she was very shy at first but soon the chatting started to flow and the rest is history 3 years later we are still blissfully happy :smile:

[stevewool]

you are right , its not a lot to us ,most if not all has sent something even me,

[joebloggs]

:xxparty-smiley-004: I'm guilty, but it was a lot more than £80 :cwm24:

[tiger31]

:xxparty-smiley-004: I'm guilty, but it was a lot more than £80 :cwm24:

LOL yeah my total was a lot more too and i,m still paying :biggrin:

[joebloggs]

LOL yeah my total was a lot more too and i,m still paying :biggrin:

yes just like the slogan, 'A puppy is for life, not just for Xmas' :icon_lol:

:cwm24:

[tiger31]

yes just like the slogan, 'A puppy is for life, not just for Xmas' :icon_lol:

:cwm24:
joe she,s a rottweiler not a puppy trust me lol

[Terpe]

joe she,s a rottweiler not a puppy trust me lol

:laugher::laugher:

[stevewool]

joe she,s a rottweiler not a puppy trust me lol

:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[grahamw48]

No, but she collected the 200 grand later. :cwm3:

[raynaputi]

Keith didn't send me money before we met..but he sent me PHP3000 worth of Starbucks GC for my birthday! :xxgrinning--00xx3: A lot of savings for me from my every night consumption of Starbucks at work..Hahaha :icon_lol:

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[Michael Parnham]

No, but she collected the 200 grand later. :cwm3:

Regarding my ex, same here!:thumbsdown:

[gWaPito]

No, but she collected the 200 grand later. :cwm3:

Tell me about it :NoNo: Muggins here used to send it by the sack load :icon_lol::xxgrinning--00xx3: Gotta laugh :icon_lol:

My first adventure cost me a business and a share of my first divorce = £80,000 in total there..at least when she left she took nothing else from me

2nd one is on going :icon_lol:...all in all, like you Graham around the £250000 mark.

I wouldn't of changed a thing had I had my time again.....as a result I got 2 wonderful boys....Something money can't buy :biggrin:

Onwards and upwards as my lovely friends tell me :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Cheers
Gwaps xx:Wave:

[Terpe]

....Onwards and upwards as my lovely friends tell me :xxgrinning--00xx3:

That's the only way to go :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[andy222]

Guilty sent her money for a laptop to save her going to the internet cafe.

[Arthur Little]

:olddude: kuripot here, got off lightly in never needing to send ANY money. But then ... :anerikke: ... I consider myself fortunate ... since Myrna earned a good salary as a teacher and all her family were self sufficient. :wink:

[han]

:biggrin:
My husband sent me 15 pounds to buy some flowers, He said please accept it as a token of friendship :icon_lol: :biggrin: :icon_lol: I remember when I arrived here in the UK I got bunch of flowers too... sweet man!!! :xxgrinning--00xx3: :wink: :heartshape1:

[Terpe]

:biggrin:
My husband sent me 15 pounds to buy some flowers, He said please accept it as a token of friendship :icon_lol: :biggrin: :icon_lol: I remember when I arrived here in the UK I got bunch of flowers too... sweet man!!! :xxgrinning--00xx3: :wink: :heartshape1:

My wife loves flowers. I often buy some just because I know she'll be so happy for that.
:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[bhem_bhem]

it wasn't my husband who gave me money,, it was my in laws.. they put 2 grand in my bank. i am gobsmacked as they haven't met me in person that time.:biggrin:

[bigmarco]

it wasn't my husband who gave me money,, it was my in laws.. they put 2 grand in my bank. i am gobsmacked as they haven't met me in person that time.:biggrin:

Sounds like they were eager to get rid of their son :biggrin:

[grahamw48]

Yeah..." here...take him ! " :icon_lol:

[bhem_bhem]

They can't believe their son is getting married. They said it's their wedding present.. :icon_lol:

[grahamw48]

I didn't even tell my parents. I just married her and then brought her home with me...happy bachelor until 40. :biggrin:

[bhem_bhem]

My husband has no plan of telling his parent but i insisted.. he is a private person..:biggrin:

[Arthur Little]

My husband has no plan of telling his parent but i insisted.. he is a private person..:biggrin:

:cwm24: ... not that private, surely!

[Slip]

I didn't even tell my parents. I just married her and then brought her home with me...happy bachelor until 40. :biggrin:
Exactly what I plan on doing. Planning to get married at 40 too... I've sort of mentioned her and that I am getting married to my mum. My parents are long divorced and i don't plan on telling my Dad. He's not the easiest of men to talk to and i just can't be bothered to have to go through the lecture.


My husband has no plan of telling his parent but i insisted.. he is a private person..:biggrin:


:cwm24: ... not that private, surely!

I am a very private person..... I've only told my Sister and cousin about the marriage. My sister only found out because she's on Facebook and saw the messages between us. My cousin is like my best mate and i tell her most things.
Other than that i value my privacy and don't give away much!

[tiger31]

it wasn't my husband who gave me money,, it was my in laws.. they put 2 grand in my bank. i am gobsmacked as they haven't met me in person that time.:biggrin:
wow 2 k I bet that felt like winning the lotto lol thats a lot of money to a philippino.

[jake]

Was the other way round in our relationship as i was the poor one :cwm25:

My wife lent me 15,000hkd (1,200 pounds) to get my own flat in Hong Kong. At the time i was fond of drinking and spent whatever i earned! After 18 years she is probably regretting that decision :biggrin:

[grahamw48]

Was the other way round in our relationship as i was the poor one :cwm25:

My wife lent me 15,000hkd (1,200 pounds) to get my own flat in Hong Kong. At the time i was fond of drinking and spent whatever i earned! After 18 years she is probably regretting that decision :biggrin:

You gigolo ! :icon_lol:

[bhem_bhem]

:cwm24: ... not that private, surely!

he don't share what he's up to even to his family,, he has just change when he met me.. he still don't like telling people his personal life but he is open to his family now.. no one in his family know i exist until he was due to fly to visit me. if he didn't get drunk few days before his flight, no one will know that he is getting married.

[bhem_bhem]

wow 2 k I bet that felt like winning the lotto lol thats a lot of money to a philippino.

it is normal to me as i am used of handling big amount,, my former boyfriend is loaded, he always carry thousands to squander it to casinos,, i am more surprised that my in laws trusted me that quick to think they haven't met me nor talk to me.

[BoholoX]

I met my wife in the Philippines but if handing a P500 load card over the fence separating our houses so we could talk and text before I got to know her then yes!

[sars_notd_virus]

sending money before you met

ok hands up who admits to sending money to their future loved one before ya met in person .

NO, I will never ever send money to someone I haven't met .

[Ako Si Jamie]

I didn't send any for over two years but I did dish out some when I was over there so I'm not a complete tightwad :biggrin:

[ynwa]

We met in Scandinavia and he used to come over every month. He always gave me cards with nice message on it flowers and poundshop stuffs i feel like saying wheres the cash? haha

[grahamw48]

We met in Scandinavia and he used to come over every month. He always gave me cards with nice message on it flowers and poundshop stuffs i feel like saying wheres the cash? haha

:icon_lol::xxgrinning--00xx3:

He and I would get along...except maybe trying to outlast each other buying the first beers. :biggrin:

[Michael Parnham]

:icon_lol::icon_lol::icon_lol:
:icon_lol::xxgrinning--00xx3:

He and I would get along...except maybe trying to outlast each other buying the first beers. :biggrin:

[ynwa]

:icon_lol::xxgrinning--00xx3:

He and I would get along...except maybe trying to outlast each other buying the first beers. :biggrin:
graham you'll get drunk just looking at booze prices over there

[grahamw48]

My ex-wife lives in Stockholm now, and my stepdaughter is over there visiting her (she just posted about it on FB this evening).

Also my son's girlfriend is Finnish, but brought up in Sweden...both living here with me now.

My son says everything is really expensive in Sweden, and they don't have big supermarkets like here...so I suppose no 50p cans of lager from Tesco ?

[tone]

Its strange as I met Rina in person and I was with another woman at the time, something just clicked 3 days later I was hoping I would see Rina again as I got my flight back to the UK.
Fate has a way of getting you - "if you love someone set them free - should our paths cross again forever we will be".
Once we were established I spent a fortune on her - we travelled all over Asia, staying in the best hotels and having as much fun as possible. "those were the days"!
Now we are living as man and wife and Rina looks after me and my parents so well - could never put any price on that but I secretly think those that sow - reap and our lives are so much more positively endowed with goodness now!

Personally I would never send anyone any money before meeting them, but I never have done internet dating so I dont know what strings get pulled.

[han]

We met in Scandinavia and he used to come over every month. He always gave me cards with nice message on it flowers and poundshop stuffs i feel like saying wheres the cash? haha

:biggrin: :icon_lol: :xxgrinning--00xx3: good one ynwa.
I remember the 15 pounds that He sent, I spent it for flowers and pony shoes and when I showed it to Him via Skype, He can't believe for that amount I got shoes too. :biggrin: :smile:

[grahamw48]

Yes, but Filipina shoes are very small. :biggrin:

[han]

Yes, but Filipina shoes are very small. :biggrin:

Totally right grahamw48!! :wink: :biggrin:
Here if I can't get any of my size in womens section my husband will point me straight away to kids/teens isle. :yikes: :hubbahubba: :icon_lol: :xxgrinning--00xx3:
No VAT.

[grahamw48]

Yep...for my ex it was 11-13 year-olds section at M & S. :icon_lol:

[Terpe]

Totally right grahamw48!! :wink: :biggrin:
Here if I can't get any of my size in womens section my husband will point me straight away to kids/teens isle. :yikes: :hubbahubba: :icon_lol: :xxgrinning--00xx3:
No VAT.

First place my wife heads for .................. kids section :icon_lol::icon_lol:

[han]

First place my wife heads for .................. kids section :icon_lol::icon_lol:

:xxgrinning--00xx3: :biggrin: :icon_lol:

[ynwa]

My ex-wife lives in Stockholm now, and my stepdaughter is over there visiting her (she just posted about it on FB this evening).

Also my son's girlfriend is Finnish, but brought up in Sweden...both living here with me now.

My son says everything is really expensive in Sweden, and they don't have big supermarkets like here...so I suppose no 50p cans of lager from Tesco ?

haha No but you can take the empty bottles back for a few quid

[jlags90]

This is an interesting thread.:xxgrinning--00xx3: David didn't send me money before we met but he sent me books (mostly written by English authors :cwm25: probably to make a point) to keep me occupied:ReadIt:. When he came back to the UK after we met in Davao, he sent me around 80 quid to process my passport. But before he did that, I had to listen to his :blahblah::blahblah::blahblah: about how broke he was. Now, we're still broke.:laugher:

[tiger31]

This is an interesting thread.:xxgrinning--00xx3: David didn't send me money before we met but he sent me books (mostly written by English authors :cwm25: probably to make a point) to keep me occupied:ReadIt:. When he came back to the UK after we met in Davao, he sent me around 80 quid to process my passport. But before he did that, I had to listen to his :blahblah::blahblah::blahblah: about how broke he was. Now, we're still broke.:laugher:

hahaha nice one ,did he give you the i,ll take good care of ya line ?

[jlags90]

hahaha nice one ,did he give you the i,ll take good care of ya line ? He didn't say that but he did! 3 months after I started working as a teacher, he sent me his debit card so I can use it when I process my visa and that was when the shopping spree started.:Rasp:

[grahamw48]

This is an interesting thread.:xxgrinning--00xx3: David didn't send me money before we met but he sent me books (mostly written by English authors :cwm25: probably to make a point) to keep me occupied:ReadIt:. When he came back to the UK after we met in Davao, he sent me around 80 quid to process my passport. But before he did that, I had to listen to his :blahblah::blahblah::blahblah: about how broke he was. Now, we're still broke.:laugher:

:icon_lol:

Great posts. Some rep coming for making me laugh out loud. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

What a guy...I wonder if we're related. :Erm: :biggrin:

[grahamw48]

He didn't say that but he did! 3 months after I started working as a teacher, he sent me his debit card so I can use it when I process my visa and that was when the shopping spree started.:Rasp:

Hmm, just noticed....if you're ever in Morrisons in Halifax, the Filipina lady who works there (Alma) is my ex-wife's cuz. I've known her 23 years, and we're still good friends. :smile:

[jlags90]

Hmm, just noticed....if you're ever in Morrisons in Halifax, the Filipina lady who works there (Alma) is my ex-wife's cuz. I've known her 23 years, and we're still good friends. :smile:
He's been living in Yorkshire for almost ten years so I think that explains what you have in common.:Rasp: I haven't been to Morrisons in Halifax. We shop at Lidl. :icon_lol: Thanks for the reps Graham! (The shopping spree never happened - - to make you feel better.):Erm:

[Mikester]

Despite all the advice not to, I have sent money, and also made some purchases off ebay.ph (paying with Paypal) and will probably continue to do so. OK I know I may be being scammed, but I think I'm a pretty good judge of character, and the endless chats and hours on Skype convince me that she is genuine. The problem is she is still young and studying to be a teacher, and yes I have helped with study costs. The way I figure it, if it does all go wrong, then at least I have helped someone get a foot on the ladder Its an amount I can afford, but that makes the world of difference to her. She is keen for me to visit next year, which I hope I can do.

[grahamw48]

:xxgrinning--00xx3:

In the end it's up to us all to make our own judgment...and it's our money. :smile:

I must admit that even I get a warm feeling sometimes:Erm:

...then I thought, ah, maybe this is age-related. :olddude:

[joebloggs]

I have helped with study costs. The way I figure it, if it does all go wrong, then at least I have helped someone get a foot on the ladder Its an amount I can afford, but that makes the world of difference to her.

:xxgrinning--00xx3: I've done the same and been married more than 11yrs now:wink:

[Michael Parnham]

Despite all the advice not to, I have sent money, and also made some purchases off ebay.ph (paying with Paypal) and will probably continue to do so. OK I know I may be being scammed, but I think I'm a pretty good judge of character, and the endless chats and hours on Skype convince me that she is genuine. The problem is she is still young and studying to be a teacher, and yes I have helped with study costs. The way I figure it, if it does all go wrong, then at least I have helped someone get a foot on the ladder Its an amount I can afford, but that makes the world of difference to her. She is keen for me to visit next year, which I hope I can do.

Nothing wrong with what your doing Mike, good luck for the future!:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[stevewool]

i am hoping to move out there soon , i wonder is Ems would stay here and still work and then send money to me :biggrin::biggrin::biggrin::biggrin:

[Ako Si Jamie]

Good luck Mikester. Just be on your toes and don't be afraid to say no. :wink:

[gWaPito]

Despite all the advice not to, I have sent money, and also made some purchases off ebay.ph (paying with Paypal) and will probably continue to do so. OK I know I may be being scammed, but I think I'm a pretty good judge of character, and the endless chats and hours on Skype convince me that she is genuine. The problem is she is still young and studying to be a teacher, and yes I have helped with study costs. The way I figure it, if it does all go wrong, then at least I have helped someone get a foot on the ladder Its an amount I can afford, but that makes the world of difference to her. She is keen for me to visit next year, which I hope I can do.

That's the way I see it Mike...I've made a world of difference to two families already..both with a life in the UK and one with a thriving business in the phil..I've certainly doing my bit for the 3rd world..........there's no fool like an old fool :icon_lol::xxgrinning--00xx3: