Sensitive Filipina

[marksroomspain]

Hiya guys been married to my mahal now 15 months, living in the UK together 10 months, just want any input on the following:

Myself and my wife had a bit of a dispute about a week ago because she found out I had started smoking again:cwm25:

Anyway I turned it into more of a thing than it should of been mainly because I was caught out and felt that I had let myself down also that I had gone behind her back.

To make matters worse I told her to stop being a nagging b----h, well all hell was let lose and now she hasn't spoke for 5 days.

Well after that we started talking again but she said I had hurt her by calling her that and she would need time to get over it.

Honestly guys is this over the top or just normal behaviour is she that fragile and sensitive that this could offend her so much.

I am a good husband/father and a good provider but this seems over the top...

[Michael Parnham]

Yes, Filipina's can be rather sensitive, my advice is "think before you speak" otherwise your best friend will become your worst enemy and you don't want that do you? In future don't do anything behind her back, always share your problems and you will find that a Filipina will be very supportive, don't do anything to lose trust!:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[raynaputi]

Keith and I call each other lots of names but all done in a joking way/matter. We both know that nothing we ever say (such names) are serious or meant to be true. :biggrin:

It depends on what her and your moods were when you both had that conversation. There are times that Keith has offended me when he said something while we are having a serious argument. But we always patch things up afterwards. Did you apologise when you found out it offended her? How long before you found out? Coz that would make a difference especially for a sensitive person.

[raynaputi]

Yes, Filipina's can be rather sensitive, my advice is "think before you speak" otherwise your best friend will become your worst enemy and you don't want that do you? In future don't do anything behind her back, always share your problems and you will find that a Filipina will be very supportive, don't do anything to lose trust!:xxgrinning--00xx3:

:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Dedworth]

5 Days Tampo :yikes: - probably a shot across your bows

Good advice from Michael

[Dedworth]

5 Days Tampo :yikes: - probably a shot across your bows

Good advice from Michael

[tiger31]

I call my girl biatch all the time lol but if I put the word stupid before it he goes crazy hahaha but its all goodv fun to us .I first words she picked up was all the english bad words lol .I,ve been here 3 years and the only word thats registered in ma brain is O O .but yes they can be very sensitive at times I find they just don,t have the same sense of wicked humour as us brits ,and i,m dreading takin her back to the u.k lol

[gWaPito]

Yes, Filipina's can be rather sensitive, my advice is "think before you speak" otherwise your best friend will become your worst enemy and you don't want that do you? In future don't do anything behind her back, always share your problems and you will find that a Filipina will be very supportive, don't do anything to lose trust!:xxgrinning--00xx3:

Take Michael's advice at your peril...unless of course you want to be walking on eggshells and henpecked forever and a day:NoNo: for me, suicide sounds a more attractive option than having to live under those conditons.....''think before you speak''...I should coco:NoNo:...............and let's not paint all filipina as understanding Florence Nightingale's:NoNo:, in the same breathe, not all femail Brits are lazy fat tattooed slags:NoNo:.....they are as human as the rest of us, only just:xxgrinning--00xx3:

I do agree on not doing anything serious to lose trust :xxgrinning--00xx3:.....Having a quiet fag behind one's back is hardly the end of the world stuff:NoNo:

[marksroomspain]

Keith and I call each other lots of names but all done in a joking way/matter. We both know that nothing we ever say (such names) are serious or meant to be true. :biggrin:

It depends on what her and your moods were when you both had that conversation. There are times that Keith has offended me when he said something while we are having a serious argument. But we always patch things up afterwards. Did you apologise when you found out it offended her? How long before you found out? Coz that would make a difference especially for a sensitive person.

It was 2 days before I appologised as I was taken back by a slap in the face ouch!:xxangry-smiley-038:

I am such an outgoing loud person she is so quiet we have never had a night out in over 6 months always in bed with our son at 6pm.

And to add to that myself buying a new bed for the spare room as she doesn't want me in our marital bed after this but thats a good thing because it was getting to me sharing it with our son which I became paranoid I would hurt him.

Oh Happy Days.....:NEW5:

[marksroomspain]

Take Michael's advice at your peril...unless of course you want to be walking on eggshells and henpecked forever and a day:NoNo: for me, suicide sounds a more attractive option than having to live under those conditons.....''think before you speak''...I should coco:NoNo:...............and let's not paint all filipina as understanding Florence Nightingale's:NoNo:, in the same breathe, not all femail Brits are lazy fat tattooed slags:NoNo:.....they are as human as the rest of us, only just:xxgrinning--00xx3:

I do agree on not doing anything serious to lose trust :xxgrinning--00xx3:.....Having a quiet fag behind one's back is hardly the end of the world stuff:NoNo:

I knew this would come out Mark had to throw it open to the forum cheers buddy..

But after everything she is so god damm beautiful in every way arrggghhhhhh...

Just need to understand her more thats all...

Hail Mary...

[Dedworth]

Take Michael's advice at your peril...unless of course you want to be walking on eggshells and henpecked forever and a day

I think Michaels advice is right for me anyway- I have a habit of reacting quickly and wrongly and find it best to bite my tongue then deal with it once the the situation has calmed down

[raynaputi]

I think Michaels advice is right for me anyway- I have a habit of reacting quickly and wrongly and find it best to bite my tongue then deal with it once the the situation has calmed down

I think the members here know that Ded. :biggrin:

:xxparty-smiley-004:

[raynaputi]

It was 2 days before I appologised as I was taken back by a slap in the face ouch!:xxangry-smiley-038:

I am such an outgoing loud person she is so quiet we have never had a night out in over 6 months always in bed with our son at 6pm.

And to add to that myself buying a new bed for the spare room as she doesn't want me in our marital bed after this but thats a good thing because it was getting to me sharing it with our son which I became paranoid I would hurt him.

Oh Happy Days.....:NEW5:

:omg:

I can't slap Keith even if I get so mad at him..I'm more worried about breaking his titanium jaw! :icon_lol:

[marksroomspain]

:omg:

I can't slap Keith even if I get so mad at him..I'm more worried about breaking his titanium jaw! :icon_lol:

Cheers Rayna that made me:biggrin:

A deserved rep:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[irishman12]

tiger -its bad enough filipina calling men -she but calling ur girl -he :Erm:

[sheriel]

We have read the story here,and discussed it,all over a cigarette,good luck for the future, :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[chino]

she will never let it go... but she will forgive over time... they are like this, but we love them all :)

[grahamw48]

I knew this would come out Mark had to throw it open to the forum cheers buddy..

But after everything she is so god damm beautiful in every way arrggghhhhhh...

Just need to understand her more thats all...

Hail Mary...

Time to take a step back and consider what YOU may be doing, and imagine what life would be like without her (and your baby).

Don't call her a **tch, it's a horrible and disrespectful thing for any man to say to his wife.

Yes, Filipinas do have 'tampos'....quite normal.

It's how you learn to understand and deal with it, and the different mindset of a person from another culture that will decide which direction your relationship is going to take.

Buy her a big bunch of Roses and some chocolates, take her OUT for a nice meal, and thank her for trying to stop you from getting lung cancer in the future.:smile:

[gWaPito]

I call my girl biatch all the time lol but if I put the word stupid before it he goes crazy hahaha but its all goodv fun to us .I first words she picked up was all the english bad words lol .I,ve been here 3 years and the only word thats registered in ma brain is O O .but yes they can be very sensitive at times I find they just don,t have the same sense of wicked humour as us brits ,and i,m dreading takin her back to the u.k lol

Sarcasm is wasted on them :NoNo:...like the Yanks, they just don't get it:Brick:

[gWaPito]

Time to take a step back and consider what YOU may be doing, and imagine what life would be like without her (and your baby)

Don't call her a **tch, it's a horrible and disrespectful thing for any man to say to his wife.

Yes, Filipinas do have 'tampos'....quite normal.

It's how you learn to understand and deal with it, and the different mindset of a person from another culture that will decide which direction your relationship is going to take.

Buy her a big bunch of Roses and some chocolates, take her OUT for a nice meal, and thank her for trying to stop you from getting lung cancer in the future.:smile:

On a serious note...I totally agree with Graham

[gWaPito]

tiger -its bad enough filipina calling men -she but calling ur girl -he :Erm:

I can't see what's wrong with Brian calling his wife 'girl' :xxgrinning--00xx3:....mine always called me daddy.....I found it a bit off putting in the bedroom but, I got used to it :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[gWaPito]

:omg:

I can't slap Keith even if I get so mad at him..I'm more worried about breaking his titanium jaw! :icon_lol:

Your fingers will break first, Rayna :biggrin:

[grahamw48]

Well, I did lose my wife Mark, and we all know that we COULD sometimes have done things differently.

[gWaPito]

I knew this would come out Mark had to throw it open to the forum cheers buddy..

But after everything she is so god damm beautiful in every way arrggghhhhhh...

Just need to understand her more thats all...

Hail Mary...

You got to take your time Mark, you both have...rash statements and deadlines are not the way to go with your little man's future in both your's and your wife's hands...you know this, you don't need us telling you so....You both got this common denominator..you have to do what's best for him and hope upon hope that one day soon you will love each other again.

She hasn't been here 5 minutes so probably homesickness as well.....It's a massive anti climax for them once they've been here for a week or so.....you have to work, we all have to work so, it's impossible to stay at home pandering them, that will never work in the long run anyway.
You've told her she needs to get a job so, that's a start in the right direction.

I suppose it can be difficult being a step dad..like you said, you had a social life before now, you are in bed by 6....it's a shock for all of you......

[Dedworth]

I think the members here know that Ded. :biggrin:

:xxparty-smiley-004:

Well spotted Rayna :icon_lol:

[London_Manila]

Hiya guys been married to my mahal now 15 months, living in the UK together 10 months, just want any input on the following:

Myself and my wife had a bit of a dispute about a week ago because she found out I had started smoking again:cwm25:

Anyway I turned it into more of a thing than it should of been mainly because I was caught out and felt that I had let myself down also that I had gone behind her back.

To make matters worse I told her to stop being a nagging b----h, well all hell was let lose and now she hasn't spoke for 5 days.

Well after that we started talking again but she said I had hurt her by calling her that and she would need time to get over it.

Honestly guys is this over the top or just normal behaviour is she that fragile and sensitive that this could offend her so much.

I am a good husband/father and a good provider but this seems over the top...

This kind of post reminds me of all the reasons why i would never get married again

I cant be doing with hissy fits anymore

Been there and done that and much prefer living alone

Freedom counts for a lot diba :wink:

[gWaPito]

This kind of post reminds me of all the reasons why i would never get married again

I cant be doing with hissy fits anymore

Been there and done that and much prefer living alone

Freedom counts for a lot diba :wink:

Absolutely LM :xxgrinning--00xx3:...I'd rep you again but, I'm all spent out :wink:

[Michael Parnham]

:omg:

I can't slap Keith even if I get so mad at him..I'm more worried about breaking his titanium jaw! :icon_lol:

Or break the bones in your hand!:laugher::laugher:

[Michael Parnham]

I've learned over many years with my ex is, if your angry just walk away for half an hour or go in the garden to just get out the way or start cleaning windows, you know what I mean and after a very short time everything should be fine!:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[SimonH]

I've learned over many years with my ex is, if your angry just walk away for half an hour or go in the garden to just get out the way or start cleaning windows, you know what I mean and after a very short time everything should be fine!:xxgrinning--00xx3:

I normally just pop down the pub for about 5 hours, by the time I get back I'm in a good mood and forgotten what the problem was :66::party-smiley-012:

[Michael Parnham]

I can't see what's wrong with Brian calling his wife 'girl' :xxgrinning--00xx3:....mine always called me daddy.....I found it a bit off putting in the bedroom but, I got used to it :xxgrinning--00xx3:
Funny you say that Mark, my Maritess calls me Daddy all the time!:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[grahamw48]

I normally just pop down the pub for about 5 hours, by the time I get back I'm in a good mood and forgotten what the problem was :66::party-smiley-012:

...and if you're in luck she hasn't changed the locks and put your possessions on the front lawn. :icon_lol:

[stevewool]

End of the day you did wrong,just like us men we try to get out of it by saying something stupid rather then sorry,in the end we say the magic word,sorry, and try to talk about it,we all have silly ways and names for each other but there are right ways of saying them too, I am very lucky in the 5 years there has never been tampon:yikes:sorry tempo from Ems but lots from me, funny that

[stevewool]

Yes, Filipina's can be rather sensitive, my advice is "think before you speak" otherwise your best friend will become your worst enemy and you don't want that do you? In future don't do anything behind her back, always share your problems and you will find that a Filipina will be very supportive, don't do anything to lose trust! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Well said michael

[grahamw48]

Welcome back Steve....with some wise words too. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[marksroomspain]

Well thngs are looking up we are on full speaking terms and sorting things out.

She tells me she loves me so much and I have said that in the future I will not act in haste but if a problem arises then we sort it before it escalates.

I asked if it would be ok to play some golf down in Spain with my mates for 5 days leaving Sunday, she gave me her blessing and said to me have a nice time.

:airline:

[stevewool]

Welcome back Steve....with some wise words too. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Still on hols graham, I am waiting for Ems to get ready, we are just going walking around balleroy, enjoying the sunshine here with a nice cup of tea

[grahamw48]

Oh well....enjoy ! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

(Peeing it down here :cwm3:)

[stevewool]

That's made my day, raining there :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[marksroomspain]

Oh well....enjoy ! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

(Peeing it down here :cwm3:)

Going down to Lanzarote Graham 30c :sunshine::party-smiley-012::woohoo:

[grahamw48]

Hmm, my mates's got an apartment there. :Erm:

[gWaPito]

...and if you're in luck she hasn't changed the locks and put your possessions on the front lawn. :icon_lol:
I actually did this once. ....I didn't go to the pub. .I went to see my mother. .that lasted 6 hours. ...by the Time I got back, we were finished, she told all her family and blood suckin friend (perhaps I should include her family) and had arranged a flight back home. This was 2nd Christmas together.

It was all over nothing. .I thought I'd give her time to reflect. ..Needless to say, I didn't do that again. ...at least not until I got the credit card from her. ....ahh...happy days.

[grahamw48]

I had to laugh when I went round to visit my best mate years ago.
He lived in a little terraced house with his girlfriend, and they had a bit of a 'tumultuous' relationship.

Anyway, I turned into the street, and noticed that all the parked cars seemed to be decorated with washing and other bits and pieces.

Turns out she'd caught him kissing another girl the previous night and had stormed off home and chucked all of his precious high fashion clothes and other stuff out of the bedroom window. He got in later and hadn't woken up and noticed anything yet. :laugher:

[tone]

Having read all this I am really lucky as Rina is really chilled - she has to calm me down - really stressed at the moment as I started a new job last month and its right on top of me..
I've let go a couple of times and she just says she loves me and she knows its not me saying anything bad but just my stress.
Guess I am lucky and I know I am, she is one in a trillion and for all my failings she is there to pick me up.

I hope you get sorted mate - I know what its like to have a partner not talk to you for many days - my ex wife used to torture me with it.

Tone

[grahamw48]

You ARE lucky Tone.

Take good care of her. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[tone]

You ARE lucky Tone.

Take good care of her. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Graham - seriously I help her a lot but its a two way street - she gave me an amazing Son and everyday I tell her what she means to me and how much I love her.
I started on the fags actually and just told her that I had started - she was a bit disappointed but she knows I'll drop them when I've overcome this stressful time.
Thanks though!

[marksroomspain]

Having read all this I am really lucky as Rina is really chilled - she has to calm me down - really stressed at the moment as I started a new job last month and its right on top of me..
I've let go a couple of times and she just says she loves me and she knows its not me saying anything bad but just my stress.
Guess I am lucky and I know I am, she is one in a trillion and for all my failings she is there to pick me up.

I hope you get sorted mate - I know what its like to have a partner not talk to you for many days - my ex wife used to torture me with it.

Tone

One way or the other things will have to give, I only have so much tolerance then I do what I always do I walk away and let people fend for themselves.

A bit harsh but I have my own health and sanity to take care of.

You know what they say "There are plenty more fish in the sea"

And also people don't realise what they've lost till it's gone..

Cheers tone... :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[gWaPito]

Funny you say that Mark, my Maritess calls me Daddy all the time!:xxgrinning--00xx3:

I liked it :biggrin::xxgrinning--00xx3:

[sars_notd_virus]

To make matters worse I told her to stop being a nagging b----h




Good thing she didn't tell u to f..ck off......shes ain't no baitch!!:biggrin:

[Ako Si Jamie]

B1tch should only be used if she's done something to earn that title, like cheating for example. :smile:

[gWaPito]

B1tch should only be used if she's done something to earn that title, like cheating for example. :smile:

I wonder why the guy's sensitivity isn't taken into consideration here :cwm25:

You would of thought seeing how he's presumably changed the woman's life and family's for the better so, you would of thought there would of been more understanding on her part. ...I'm not talking about Mark's situation but, in general ....too much pussy footing around these supposedly fragile, delicate types for my liking :)

[grahamw48]

Hmm....'gratitude' is a tricky one Mark.

Are we assuming that we had nothing to gain from the relationship ?

I would tend to leave anything to do with 'what we have done for them' out of the equation. :wink:

[Ako Si Jamie]

I wonder why the guy's sensitivity isn't taken into consideration here :cwm25:

You would of thought seeing how he's presumably changed the woman's life and family's for the better ( massive understatement ) you would of thought their would of been more understanding and gratitude on her part. ...not talking about Mark's situation but in general ....too much pussy footing around these supposedly fragile, delicate types for my liking.Sounds like his partner is concerned about his health which is understandable and a sign of a good woman. Yup, it might be a bit annoying but if she's got his best interest's at heart, he can't knock her for it.

[marksroomspain]

I wonder why the guy's sensitivity isn't taken into consideration here :cwm25:

You would of thought seeing how he's presumably changed the woman's life and family's for the better ( massive understatement ) you would of thought their would of been more understanding and gratitude on her part. ...not talking about Mark's situation but in general ....too much pussy footing around these supposedly fragile, delicate types for my liking.

:appl: :Beer: :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Michael Parnham]

Time to take a step back and consider what YOU may be doing, and imagine what life would be like without her (and your baby).

Don't call her a **tch, it's a horrible and disrespectful thing for any man to say to his wife.

Yes, Filipinas do have 'tampos'....quite normal.

It's how you learn to understand and deal with it, and the different mindset of a person from another culture that will decide which direction your relationship is going to take.

Buy her a big bunch of Roses and some chocolates, take her OUT for a nice meal, and thank her for trying to stop you from getting lung cancer in the future.:smile:

Well said Graham!:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[raynaputi]

Hmm....'gratitude' is a tricky one Mark.

Are we assuming that we had nothing to gain from the relationship ?

I would tend to leave anything to do with 'what we have done for them' out of the equation. :wink:

:xxgrinning--00xx3:

I think it's always unfair to think of the things that you have done for your partner to prove/say that he/she shouldn't have acted the way he/she did. Both have sacrificed things just for both of you to be together. It doesn't matter which one sacrificed or did more. If you are counting the things you did for your wife or husband, then why did you do it in the first place? Your marriage, or any relationship you have, will always be doomed if you keep on counting what you did for the other person.

In the case of markroomspain, he knew his wife wouldn't like it when he started smoking again and worse, he hid it until she caught him. What made things worst, he called her a "nagging *****" which was uncalled for. Did she have a valid reason why she had the "tampo" mode on? A big fat YES.

Filipinas, most often than not, have valid reasons why she goes on tampo mode. You just have to learn how to handle things properly just what Graham said.

[Michael Parnham]

So I assume you are smoking still, hope not Mark!:Erm:

[marksroomspain]

So I assume you are smoking still, hope not Mark!:Erm:
Still am Michael but the wife is sticking by me on this one she said I will stop again.

Funny thing is I was off them for 15 months then started due to stress :doh

I will be trying Champix this time so who knows, I know bidmarco has tried a few times and others on here.

Myself and the missus are still new as a married couple and still getting to know each other and I suppose we test each other to see what our limits are lol.

But we have said to each other many many times we are each others strengths and she said to me we are stronger than most folks she just feels it, I suppose with her being a bit sensitive to the other side:omg: she seems to know...

So if you want a reading give her a call...

Only joking mate... :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[gWaPito]

:appl: :Beer: :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Cheers Mark :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[raynaputi]

By the way, it's TAMPO not tampon. Tampon is the one used by women with menstruation. :biggrin::xxgrinning--00xx3:

Also, winding up people is not always a good type of conversation. Look at what happened to Barry's thread. :Erm:

[marksroomspain]

In the case of markroomspain, he knew his wife wouldn't like it when he started smoking again and worse, he hid it until she caught him. What made things worst, he called her a "nagging *****" which was uncalled for. Did she have a valid reason why she had the "tampo" mode on? A big fat YES.

I totally agree with you on that Rayna which I now duly appologised to my wife for.

What I do not and never will condone is physical violence whether man to woman or woman to man nor do I condone psychological or emotional or any type of abuse whatsoever.

I think this has been taking out of context the nagging b1tch, it can mean hardly nothing to somebody or really hurt somebody else, the way it was said to my wife was with no malice just as passing remark without offence even in terms of a pun hence the thread Sensitive Filipina.

I know for one thing my wife is a very emotional and takes things to heart as I now know, as we in the west would just laugh off but like I said we are still learning about each other and she knows my feelings and vice versa.

Once more we gain from each other through experiences like this and this does make us stronger.

Just my input Rayna...

[raynaputi]

I totally agree with you on that Rayna which I now duly appologised to my wife for.

What I do not and never will condone is physical violence whether man to woman or woman to man nor do I condone psychological or emotional or any type of abuse whatsoever.

I think this has been taking out of context the nagging b1tch, it can mean hardly nothing to somebody or really hurt somebody else, the way it was said to my wife was with no malice just as passing remark without offence even in terms of a pun hence the thread Sensitive Filipina.

I know for one thing my wife is a very emotional and takes things to heart as I now know, as we in the west would just laugh off but like I said we are still learning about each other and she knows my feelings and vice versa.

Once more we gain from each other through experiences like this and this does make us stronger.

Just my input Rayna...

I know what you mean Mark. I'm just saying that your wife had the reason why she felt that way. What I'm saying is most Filipinas having tampo is not something that we do just to annoy the husband/partner and to make them crazy. Because a lot of guys mistake it for something that is very negative. She had a reason why it happened.

I know you understand now that because your wife is sensitive, probably more than anyone else you know, thinking words over before you say it would be essential. :xxgrinning--00xx3: And also, doing things behind her back should be prevented now. :biggrin:

[Arthur Little]

Mark ... I was widowed in December 1991 ... exactly 12 months (give or take a few days) prior to what would've been our Silver Wedding Anniversary.

Thereafter (rightly or wrongly) I relived my teenage years in my 50s. And, in the lengthy duration before eventually meeting Myrna in 2008, I'd occasion to become embroiled in a number of (shall I say?) rather tempestuous "rollercoaster" relationships ... where my emotions were all over the place.:23_111_9[1]:

Which is WHY I felt unable to respond to this particular thread of yours sooner ... because, in the course [of some] of those I've described in the previous paragraph, more than a few harsh words were exchanged - on BOTH sides!! Part of the problem may (with hindsight) have been attributed to the fact that I was still subconsciously emotionally fragile from my bereavement ... thus causing me to become too eager to please - yet (unwittingly) creating the opposite effect - I don't really know, tbh. :NoNo:

Thankfully, however, I've been extremely fortunate in my choice of the two ladies I actually married. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[sheriel]

Interesting Story,we are all learning about each other,are all marriages made in Heaven ? :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[grahamw48]

Mark ... I was widowed in December 1991 ... exactly 12 months (give or take a few days) prior to what would've been our Silver Wedding Anniversary.

Thereafter (rightly or wrongly) I relived my teenage years in my 50s. And, in the lengthy duration before eventually meeting Myrna in 2008, I'd occasion to become embroiled in a number of (shall I say?) rather tempestuous "rollercoaster" relationships ... where my emotions were all over the place.:23_111_9[1]:

Which is WHY I felt unable to respond to this particular thread of yours sooner ... because, in the course [of some] of those I've described in the previous paragraph, more than a few harsh words were exchanged - on BOTH sides!! Part of the problem may (with hindsight) have been attributed to the fact that I was still subconsciously emotionally fragile from my bereavement ... causing me to become too eager to please - yet (unwittingly) creating the opposite effect - I don't really know, tbh. :NoNo:

Thankfully, however, I've been extremely fortunate in my choice of the two ladies I actually married. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Thanks for sharing your experience Arthur.

I'm glad things turned out so well for you. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[marksroomspain]

Thanks Arthur for your words and experiences which I always appreciate also for being a what I call a friend over the past 12 months.

Love to you and Myrna...:smile::xxgrinning--00xx3:

[gWaPito]

Thanks for sharing your experience Arthur.

I'm glad things turned out so well for you. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

I totally agree Graham but, not meaning to put the cobwash on this but, it's my understanding that marriage is always in a state of flux. ...nowadays it's rarely happy ever after. .In my long experience, It's something what HAS to be worked at every single day...The courtship and the marriage ceremony is the easy bit. ...The following decades can be the hardest.

I must admit. ..marrying someone of your own age and cultural understanding makes life mighty easier. ..life is tough enough.

What was important to me in my 20s 30s and 40s is no longer important to me now ..

[gWaPito]

By the way, it's TAMPO not tampon. Tampon is the one used by women with menstruation. :biggrin::xxgrinning--00xx3:

Also, winding up people is not always a good type of conversation. Look at what happened to Barry's thread. :Erm:

No idea what happened with Barry's thread. Been there once only. :Erm:

I just had a gander. .you had him removed.
So I'll take it you got your stick out ready to whack moi
let's hope the other 16 wind up merchants get the same treatment.
It's good to see you are giving Mark advice on his marital woes but chose not to make any comment on mine.
I don't know what happened Rayna?
Whether it's because you were told lies about me slapping my wife around. ..even the judge was having none of it. ..

Anyway. .in future I'll lay off this subject.

[Ako Si Jamie]

I've just read that Barry thread for the first time. He reminds of that Louis character who got banned a month or so ago. :Erm:

[gWaPito]

I've just read that Barry thread for the first time. He reminds of that Louis character who got banned a month or so ago. :Erm:

Louis has gone as well. ..They do sound alike :)

[raynaputi]

No idea what happened with Barry's thread. Been there once only. :Erm:

I just had a gander. .you had him removed.
So I'll take it you got your stick out ready to whack moi
let's hope the other 16 wind up merchants get the same treatment.
It's good to see you are giving Mark advice on his marital woes but chose not to make any comment on mine.
I don't know what happened Rayna?
Whether it's because you were told lies about me slapping my wife around. ..even the judge was having none of it. ..

Anyway. .in future I'll lay off this subject.

Hahaha..Gwap, errr..Barry hasn't been removed..I think Arthur closed the thread. :biggrin: And I haven't said anything about you or whatever happened to your wife. I didn't comment on your marital problems because it goes way beyond my knowledge. I'm just saying sometimes, it's not always good winding people up. Not all can follow the conversation. Cheer up Mark. I have nothing against you. :xxgrinning--00xx3: I even gave you a rep if you haven't seen it yet. :wink:

[raynaputi]

I've just read that Barry thread for the first time. He reminds of that Louis character who got banned a month or so ago. :Erm:

He wasn't banned. His thread was just closed and he hasn't been back since that very confusing story about him and his wife. :anerikke:

[Michael Parnham]

Still am Michael but the wife is sticking by me on this one she said I will stop again.

Funny thing is I was off them for 15 months then started due to stress :doh

I will be trying Champix this time so who knows, I know bidmarco has tried a few times and others on here.

Myself and the missus are still new as a married couple and still getting to know each other and I suppose we test each other to see what our limits are lol.

But we have said to each other many many times we are each others strengths and she said to me we are stronger than most folks she just feels it, I suppose with her being a bit sensitive to the other side:omg: she seems to know...

So if you want a reading give her a call...

Only joking mate... :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Keep trying Mark, don't give up and hopefully you'll crack it! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[robbie bobby]

Hmmmmmmm I think you might be on to something there
Louis has gone as well. ..They do sound a like :)

[grahamw48]

I totally agree Graham but, not meaning to put the cobwash on this but, it's my understanding that marriage is always in a state of flux. ...nowadays it's rarely happy ever after. .In my long experience, It's something what HAS to be worked at every single day...The courtship and the marriage ceremony is the easy bit. ...The following decades can be the hardest.

I must admit. ..marrying someone of your own age and cultural understanding makes life mighty easier. ..life is tough enough.

What was important to me in my 20s 30s and 40s is no longer important to me now ..

All very true.

These days...just put me down as 'desperate'. :icon_lol:

[robbie bobby]

Not all of us were winding him up Gwap! Some of us were trying to understand and help him in his plight but to be honest, it was not really worth the time. Interesting thread tho


No idea what happened with Barry's thread. Been there once only. :Erm:

I just had a gander. .you had him removed.
So I'll take it you got your stick out ready to whack moi
let's hope the other 16 wind up merchants get the same treatment

[Arthur Little]

..I think Arthur closed the thread. :biggrin:

:yeahthat:'s true ... it was me who closed the thread. Barry's responses to members who tried to figure out the purpose of his reams of postings (amounting to almost 4 pages) were LARGELY incoherent and had been leading nowhere! :doh

[Arthur Little]

Some of us were trying to understand and help him in his plight but to be honest, it was not really worth the time.

:gp:, Robbie ... it was like the proverbial :Brick: !

[gWaPito]

Hahaha..Gwap, errr..Barry hasn't been removed..I think Arthur closed the thread. :biggrin: And I haven't said anything about you or whatever happened to your wife. I didn't comment on your marital problems because it goes way beyond my knowledge. I'm just saying sometimes, it's not always good winding people up. Not all can follow the conversation. Cheer up Mark. I have nothing against you. :xxgrinning--00xx3: I even gave you a rep if you haven't seen it yet. :wink:

Thank you Rayna :smile:

I was posting these while working so couldn't respond during the heat.....I actually didn't mean the 'gratitude' bit..you may notice I added it for effect at a later time...in hindsight, it was a dreadful mistake :doh...you can blame my phone for the 'tampon'...it's set on predict.

Thank you for the rep :biggrin::xxgrinning--00xx3:....I've returned the compliment :xxgrinning--00xx3:

:icon_sorry: Sorry for being tough on you, Rayna...your comments are always well meaning, I had no right to jump down your throat :icon_sorry:....so, we are all friends again :Jump: :biggrin:

[gWaPito]

Hmm....'gratitude' is a tricky one Mark.

Are we assuming that we had nothing to gain from the relationship ?

I would tend to leave anything to do with 'what we have done for them' out of the equation. :wink:

You are right of course, Graham. I've edited that post accordingly :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[gWaPito]

Not all of us were winding him up Gwap! Some of us were trying to understand and help him in his plight but to be honest, it was not really worth the time. Interesting thread tho

Like Jamie, I read it through tonight...seems like he was having some fun by himself at the forum's expense :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[grahamw48]

Ok, Mark's a happy bunny again. :Jump: :biggrin: (Thanks for the rep mate).

Don't any of you lot blinkin sleep ? :Erm:

[stevewool]

what have i missed:Erm:

[gWaPito]

Don't any of you lot blinkin sleep ? :Erm:

3 to 4 hours in a 24hr period is enough for me :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[marksroomspain]

Just arrived back from Spain yesterday had a brilliant time with the guys around the golf courses.

My wife texted me all the time and was always first to text looks like she was missing me :icon_lol:

She said she has forgiven me :Hellooo: but still testing the water with me so intimacy :Sex: is a touchy subject.

Well 4 weeks without mmm maybe Spain sounds like a better idea...:grosyeux:

[grahamw48]

It sounds to me like you want to split with her. :Erm:

Perhaps you need to start getting a grip on yourself. :cwm25:

[marksroomspain]

It sounds to me like you want to split with her. :Erm:

Perhaps you need to start getting a grip on yourself. :cwm25:

Light hearted banter Graham just making the best out of a tricky situation.

They say time apart gives time to reflect so I believe it does then we both move on which way who knows but I believe your own happiness is paramount thats the grip I am sensing now.

:xxgrinning--00xx3: