20 online dating cliches - and what they really mean

[Terpe]

January is a boom month for the online dating industry as millions turn to the internet to find love. But composing a profile that makes you sound fascinating and unique is harder than it sounds.

Post-Christmas to the Wednesday after Valentine's Day is the peak season for dating websites, according to Plenty of Fish's Sarah Gooding.


Source:-
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-25410883

[bigmac]

dont that take all the fun out of dating--?

[Ako Si Jamie]

Sounds like online dating is becoming too much of a chore nowadays.

[grahamw48]

I just write the truth, and I wish other people would do also.

What is the point of falling for a load of sales and marketing rubbish that some clever-bugger dating adviser has written for someone ? :NoNo:

[London_Manila]

Demand to see them in webcam and then you can see how different they look from their posted pics :icon_lol:

Photoshop was invented for dating sites :wink:

[Iani]

Nothing wrong with using dating sites! I mean, so many of us are busy WORKING, exactly where are we supposed to meet others?

They can be a great place to meet genuine friendships, but of course they're also full of eejits and men just looking for a screw (usually behind their WIVES' backs :NoNo: )

The thing which made me squirm though when I was on POF, was the phrase "I'm just as happy curled up on the sofa with a dvd" - this to me meant "I want to hedge my bets in case you don't like going out"

This along with the phrase "I like a laugh" or "I'm looking for a laugh". No, I'm not a comedian, go buy a Peter Kay dvd.

[Terpe]

There's a new trend in that 'Speed Dating' now...............couples are not allowed to say anything.
Only gestures, dance, mime etc..............looked like great fun to me.............I would believe it to be a better way to gain an impression of someone than by listening to the same old spiel

[gWaPito]

Sounds like online dating is becoming too much of a chore nowadays.

It's awful Jamie..in fact it's worse that awful. I signed up to one at Christmas only coz the wife was being a bitch again :-( Anyway, like Graham, I just write the truth and nothing but the truth with some nice pictures

No point in saying different you are only kidding yourself and a prospective partner not to mention the time and money

i cant see the point of trying to gloss up the obvious....It is what it is, that's it

[gWaPito]

Demand to see them in webcam and then you can see how different they look from their posted pics :icon_lol:

Photoshop was invented for dating sites :wink:
No cam, no chat..that's the rule..

[grahamw48]

Nothing wrong with using dating sites! I mean, so many of us are busy WORKING, exactly where are we supposed to meet others?

They can be a great place to meet genuine friendships, but of course they're also full of eejots and men just looking for a screw (usually behind their WIVES backs :NoNo: )

The thing which made me squirm though when I was on POF, was the phrase "I'm just as happy curled up on the sofa with a dvd" - this to me meant "I want to hedge my bets in case you don't like going out"
This along with the phrase "I like a laugh" or "I'm looking for a laugh". No, I'm not a comedian, go buy a Peter Kay dvd.

Haha....since when was WORKING for a living something new ? :biggrin:

Didn't stop anyone from having a social life...just that people have become accustomed to having everything at their fingertips now, and no need to get off their fat Rs and meet REAL people....like even their NEIGHBOURS .:NoNo:

[London_Manila]

It's awful Jamie..in fact it's worse that awful. I signed up to one at Christmas only coz the wife was being a bitch again :-( Anyway, like Graham, I just write the truth and nothing but the truth with some nice pictures

No point in saying different you are only kidding yourself and a prospective partner not to mention the time and money

i cant see the point of trying to gloss up the obvious....It is what it is, that's it

The bottom line is

Men want sex and maybe a relationship if she ok and not too demanding

Woman want someone who is preferably rich has a good job and owns their own property = security and comfort

[Arthur Little]

I signed up to one at Christmas only coz the wife was being a bitch again ... I just write the truth ...

Ah, then ... did you simply insert, "my wife doesn't understand me", as your chat~up line? :Erm:

[gWaPito]

Ah, then ... did you simply insert, "my wife doesn't understand me", as your chat~up line? :Erm:

No chat up lines Arthur :NoNo: Why would I put 'the wife doesn't understand me' when she left me June 24 :Erm:
She made a scene, making them both cry during change over on Christmas day.

Just picture this, we had a great Christmas morning then I had to put them into a car and drive 45 minutes down the motorway to a deserted car park to be met 15 minutes with her turning up in a taxi..she gets out the car pulling the boys from it, putting them in another car with a stranger driving it..its bound to upset them...it sure upset me..I was being screamed at because I protested about her demand I pay for the taxi....she said she wanted help to pay the taxi, not me pay the whole fare...anyway, I paid it to stop the fuss...she was still screaming all the Fs and Cs at me while my boys going mad ....there was me left bawling my eyes out in this empty car park...Goodness knows what the taxi driver made of it all... She's still pulling the strings and there's nothing anyone can do about it.

This is why I'm on a sunny beach this moment in time and I'm still sad because I miss my boys!! :bigcry: There's no escape!!!!! Not even a lottery win would made a difference.

At least I'm genuine. Many divorced separated and married women doing the same thing, trying to find a better life, just like me

LM said the guys want sex..well, don't we all, men and women alike :Erm: I'm at an age where sex isn't at the top of my list. True love and the security that comes with it, is.

[malditako]

there are only two ways going on dating site "to find or to be found". for me too much profile info is a turn off. It is like selling yourself to public, desperate and lack of mystery :)

[gWaPito]

there are only two ways going on dating site "to find or to be found". for me too much profile info is a turn off. It is like selling yourself to public, desperate and lack of mystery :)

I disagree..The idea of putting out a comprehensive profile is to make sure the right choices are made. Leave the mystery to the love stories..this is serious real life we are playing with.

Desperate ..you could be right :xxgrinning--00xx3: but, like you implied in other thread few moments ago, desperate times call for desperate measures....I'm in no rush to find another because I know my next will be my last. You'll find it's your filipina sisters who are in the mad rush to get out of Dodge City, not me in my relatively comfortable life

As for ''too much profile info is a turn off'' It's not what my spam box is telling me :icon_lol::xxgrinning--00xx3:

[grahamw48]

Since the looks went to :censored:, I've had to work on developing a personality...sufficient to make up for being poverty-stricken. :cwm3:

[gWaPito]

Since the looks went to :censored:, I've had to work on developing a personality...sufficient to make up for being poverty-stricken. :cwm3:

You're doing a good job Graham :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Such is the paradox of choice....With so much of it, it has been proven that the stress caused by this mind-boggling variety is so large that the male brain reduces the decision to one single criterion, physical attractiveness. Just like LM stated. The consequences of this selection process is one I'm only too well aware of. :doh

Finally, large selection leads to discontent. How can you be sure you are making the right choice when there are hundreds of options that surround and confound you???
The answer, you can never be sure.
So, what Ive done is this, thought carefully about what i want, wrote down the criteria and stuck to it rigidly. I know I must learn to love a 'good' choice. Yes, I know, even in terms of life partners. Only the best will do? In this age of unlimited variety, rather the opposite is true 'good enough' is the new optimum :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[grahamw48]

Nowdays I'm all mouth and no trousers...as we say up here.

The style, looks, and relaxed ease of a well-travelled and cultured lothario...but the wallet of a pauper and the brain of a turkey. :icon_lol:

[gWaPito]

:laugher: You make me laugh Graham..talking of which, it's time to dress for dinner :biggrin::xxgrinning--00xx3: Laters folks
:heartshape1:

[Ako Si Jamie]

for me too much profile info is a turn off. It is like selling yourself to public, desperate and lack of mystery :)Totally agree! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Michael Parnham]

One of the favourite lines in the 70's was, "wouldn't it be amazing if you and I could arrive together" Yuk!!! :Help1:

[grahamw48]

Aww come on Michael, you know you used that line all the time. :biggrin:


One of mine was "I buy a lady a drink to say thankyou, not please".

Another: " What would you like for breakfast ?"

Makes me cringe now. :icon_lol:

[Iani]

My favourite chat up line was "You're ugly, but you'll do"

Well ok, maybe it wasn't really, but there was a nightclub in town, so dodgy it would probably work in there.

[Ako Si Jamie]

I don't think cheesy chat up lines give off a good impression to women. Nowadays anyhow.

You'd be better off chatting about referendums, Diane Abbott and that illegal immigrant working down the local Balti House. :icon_lol::wink:

[grahamw48]

"Tha dunt sweat much fer a fat lass". :smile:

[Arthur Little]

Oh, cum, cum, you guys ... take a shufty:- :grosyeux:

There once was a bloke called Hewitt,
Boasted how quick' ... :anerikke: ... he could :do_it:
But then came the catch
:cwm24: When he met his match
Whereupon - he finally "blew it"! :ReadIt:

............................... :yeahthat:

[gWaPito]

To whoever gave me rep here yesterday. ..you have my heartfelt thanks. ...I only wish you write your username at the end of your comment. ...I can then give you rep back.

Kind regards
Mark

[Arthur Little]

To whoever gave me rep here yesterday. ..you have my heartfelt thanks. ...I only wish you write your username at the end of your comment. ...I can then give you rep back.

Kind regards
Mark

:icon_lol: ... guilty, m'lud!

[grahamw48]

Me too. :biggrin:

[gWaPito]

I guessed one was Graham :biggrin::xxgrinning--00xx3: Cheers Arthur :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[gWaPito]

Totally agree! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

U like mystery Jamie...How's about this for a bit of mystery..your new wife happened not to tell you she got an additional 2 kiddies somewhere..or she was a hooker b4 you came on the scene but forgot to mention it....or u wonder why u got an itch in your grion..oOps you got an std...never mind..it's great to have a bit of mystery

Fun and mystery are for holiday romances..not life long relationships
Just my opinion folks

[Arthur Little]

:biggrin::xxgrinning--00xx3:

Cheers Arthur :xxgrinning--00xx3:

:xxgrinning--00xx3: ... pleasure's mine, Mark. It's most unusual for me not to have appended my Christian name whenever I've dished out rep ... and I only noticed this oversight after I'd submitted the accompanying *message (the *wording of which, was meant in all sincerity - hence its length!)

Thanks for your reciprocal gesture. Happy New Year ... and may 2014 bring you and your loved ones renewed joy & fulfillment. :smile:

[gWaPito]

Cheers Arthur :biggrin::xxgrinning--00xx3: Same as, same as :biggrin:

I know weve been crossing swords of late..I dont mean anything by it Arthur..You me, all mouth and trousers :icon_lol:........just contrasting opinions :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Michael Parnham]

Aww come on Michael, you know you used that line all the time. :biggrin:


One of mine was "I buy a lady a drink to say thankyou, not please".

Another: " What would you like for breakfast ?"

Makes me cringe now. :icon_lol:

What about, "You are beautiful people" :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[gWaPito]

What about, "You are beautiful people" :xxgrinning--00xx3:

i noticed today on the beach a few ladies from the sub continent with middle aged westerners. These chicks were equally beautiful but without the designer gear.........still plenty of filipina here too with their husbands and children

[grahamw48]

Ayup...on which beach ? Have I missed something ? :Erm:

[Ako Si Jamie]

U like mystery Jamie...How's about this for a bit of mystery..your new wife happened not to tell you she got an additional 2 kiddies somewhere..or she was a hooker b4 you came on the scene but forgot to mention it....or u wonder why u got an itch in your grion..oOps you got an std...never mind..it's great to have a bit of mystery

Fun and mystery are for holiday romances..not life long relationships
Just my opinion folksTo be fair, Mark, a lot people have skeletons in the closet or leave the glass half empty so to speak so you'll always have that element of mystery. Although in your case, what she did was pretty naughty and can't be condoned.

Someone once said to me, you don't have a good idea of someone until you've been in their company regularly for at least two years. I go along with that.

[grahamw48]

I thought the same...which is why I lived with the ex for a year in the Phils before getting hitched.

Still didn't stop her successfully hiding the fact that she had a daughter as well as a son (and he was supposed to have been adopted by, and living permanently with her parents in the province) . :NoNo:

[gWaPito]

To be fair, Mark, a lot people have skeletons in the closet or leave the glass half empty so to speak so you'll always have that element of mystery. Although in your case, what she did was pretty naughty and can't be condoned.

Someone once said to me, you don't have a good idea of someone until you've been in their company regularly for at least two years. I go along with that.

yep, I agree..I courted my first wife for 2 years b4 we married...that relationship lasted 27 years The
idea of a long courtship is to find out whether we can put up with each others ways so to speak. Not to see what, if anything, comes out dirty in the washing machine :NoNo:

If honesty isnt forthcoming at the start then in my book, you are flogging a dead horse

[grahamw48]

Yet there are still people arranging fiancee/spouse visas for girls from a totally different culture and lifestyle, with whom they've spent a fortnight. :cwm25:

(For half of which time....the bloke was in jet-lag).

[gWaPito]

Yet there are still people arranging fiancee/spouse visas for girls from a totally different culture and lifestyle, with whom they've spent a fortnight. :cwm25:

(For half of which time....the bloke was in jet-lag).

know Graham....nobody in their right mind would think of doing such a thing with an English girl..we'd all be locked up....yet some, me included, believed the BS being put about by all and sundry. They pot pot and bleed just like us!!..they are no different to us....only their sheltered lives make them different...you and I have both experienced how they change after settling down to a comfortable life here i the UK......They can be no different.

I was observing these sub continent gfs and wives of white males yesterday...they are far from showy types like the ones i lumbered myself with.

Much thought is goin on here..I'm at a crossroads..this time i will make the right choice :biggrin::xxgrinning--00xx3:

Just my opinion

[grahamw48]

Just don't get married again mate...no need. :anerikke:

[Michael Parnham]

Ayup...on which beach ? Have I missed something ? :Erm:

I wonder?:Erm:

[gWaPito]

Barcelo Fuerteventura Thalasso Spa And it's wonderful. Same time difference and only a 4 hour flight. I couldn't ask for more :biggrin:

BTW...I'm in a superior Suite

[Arthur Little]

Barcelo Fuerteventura Thalasso Spa And it's wonderful. Same time difference and only a 4 hour flight. I couldn't ask for more :biggrin:

BTW... I'm in a superior Suite

Good on ya, mate. :xxgrinning--00xx3: Hadn't realised you were on holiday, :nono-1-1: ... but it's well~deserved and I'm sure it'll do you a lot of good! :wink:

[Michael Parnham]

Enjoy Mark, will do you good! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[grahamw48]

Barcelo Fuerteventura Thalasso Spa And it's wonderful. Same time difference and only a 4 hour flight. I couldn't ask for more :biggrin:

BTW...I'm in a superior Suite

Haha...you jammy git. :biggrin: Just go easy on the clubbing and boozing. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Jentobeharrison]

I was a member of some dating sites, I have talked to different kinds of people and I must say that being in a dating site (if you are a person who thinks) makes you exposed to a different world where you have lots of choices, where you can control who you can be or where you can be yourself for the first time. I would tell this as what I experienced being a member of online dating sites.

As a stranger for the eyes of the other members of a dating site, you are free to show who really you are, I know that I am not the only one who will agree to this but all of you, no one really knows who we are aside from ourselves. Even our parents and bestfriends don't really know who we are, who we can be, and what we can do. I was once a stranger to somebody and I was able to tell him the worst, best, darkest, nastiest things that happened/ I did in my life. I can tell a stranger how evil I am and how I do bad things and How I lie to someone I know. I can tell how I hate my mother for that day, and I can tell how I think about the hottest man I know. Once you confess, they will just listen and they will not judge you because yeah, they do not know who you are. That's really one of the perks of being in an online dating site.

My profile contains simple adjectives that best describe me, could be too good to be true but it's real and the people I met could tell, my point is, I am looking for someone who can be my other half someday, and it would be painful if that man met your lies and the person who you want to be and not you, the real you.

I know how to determine if my contact is a poser, they will give you lots of excuses just not to give their facebook, yahoo, or doesnt want to be seen on cam, well you could also tell it from the pictures they sent.

before I met my fiance, I was a member of three dating sites; filipina cupid, date in asia (where I met my fiancee), international cupid for three years.

All in all, I only met 4 foreign men.

A french, A german, An american and my fiancee a british. The french guy was just okay, we met and that's it. the german was a BIG mistake, the american was too perfect and I know we cannot be together and the british is the best among all the men I met (obviously)

Three men who I havent met are still my friends. It is really easy to gain friends especially if you are showing who really you are.

When I saw my fiance's profile on date in asia, I felt strange with his picture, until now I always say it to others, it was real, really real. I felt something strange just looking at his picture, was thinking that something will happen between the two of us. I sent him a message. On his profile he indicated that he is receiving a lot of messages, 200 everyday so he cannot read it all. He later tell me that the women who are messaging him tell the same things; "I know how to cook, I can cook for you." blah blah which made him notice my message. My message was:

"I don't know how you are going to notice my message, BUZZ?"

he replied and told me that he noticed it and it stood out among the 400 others. after exchanging two messages on that site, he then told me "you are funny, I know we will get along well, we should get married one day."


after 392 days, we are now planning for our wedding.

:)