Searching for a genuine filipina girl

[London_Manila]

Jumped in on this late, but I think an important thing to look for, is someone who is at least working, and beware of anyone who seems to spend a lot of time online - be it dating sites or facebook and the like - without a good reason.

I won't go into reasons, just boredom I suppose, but I have been chatting to both Filipino and Thai girls over the last year and have found Thai girls more likely to be in work, maybe because there is so much money being sent to families in Philippines from overseas workers and they have been made lazy, or the economy is not as good.

Language is a problem in Thailand though, but I do like Thailand and prefer the food.

The Philippines is much more western and the culture is not so different to ours.

Thailand and its people are far removed from western culture.
Thai people don't even think along the same lines us.

[Ako Si Jamie]

I think most woman in this world are attracted to wealth.
Let's face it most paupers are not going to make good husbands.You sound a bit defeatist there, LM.

Not all women are materialistic, some see a man's loyalty for instance as a form of wealth.

At the end of the day there is somebody out there for everyone and you need to install a positive belief into your mind that someday you will find her. :wink:

[stevewool]

Not all women are materialistic, some see a man's loyalty for instance as a form of wealth.

Well said Jamie

[grahamw48]

Very true.

My girl knows I have naff all, but she loves my smile and captivating personality. :biggrin:

[Arthur Little]

Not all women are materialistic, some see a man's loyalty for instance as a form of wealth.

:gp: Jamie ..................................... :yeahthat:'s CERTAINLY what matters most to Myrna ... and :iagree:!

[fred]

Very true.

My girl knows I have naff all, but she loves my smile and captivating personality. :biggrin:

And modesty..I`m sure!

[Iani]

The Philippines is much more western and the culture is not so different to ours.

Thailand and its people are far removed from western culture.
Thai people don't even think along the same lines us.

OMG you're right there.

Absolutely don't want to go too deeply into this, but it's nuts how some people compare Thai's to Pinoy. Maybe it's both coming from SE Asia, and some people have trouble telling the difference. It's a bit like this - some say the Scots and English are different, and we've been in the same country for centuries. Few would deny there's a different temperament between say the British and Greeks or Spanish - and these are all Christian (nominally) countries.

Thais in religion, outlook, temperament and many others are very different to Filipinos. Neither is "better" of course, just different.

Many people have come a cropper going into relationships with Thais, as they have failed to realise a huge culture and temperament difference.

Well, that and there's a disproportionate number of men going on holiday there and getting entirely the wrong end of the stick with many young women working in the resorts.

PS Thai food is awesome, one of the best in the world

[Ako Si Jamie]

Someone once told me Pinay's believe that marriage is a gift from god whereas Thai women believe sex is a gift from God.

[Arthur Little]

Thais in religion, outlook, temperament and many others are very different to Filipinos. Neither is "better" of course, just different.

So ... :anerikke: ... basically, what you're saying is ... it's a "Thai" between the two!! :Erm:

[Michael Parnham]

So ... :anerikke: ... basically, what you're saying is ... it's a "Thai" between the two!! :Erm:

Well said Arthur! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[andy222]

I'm chatting to a few at the moment, and unfortunately on the site I use, get the impression that after the usual introductions etc then money pops up.

Last one was maybe only 20 mins when medicine needed for Father reqd :yikes:

Its them who should be cautious over you les. :biggrin:
The cost only £250.00 bargain I thought as I accidentally deleted her :icon_lol:

I did meet a girl which brought me to this Forum a few years ago. She was there when I arrived, but more importantly we had spent 18 months chatting.

I would chat at least 6 months before considering going over again as it gives you a chance to see if she is genuine :xxgrinning--00xx3:

My impression and knowledge of the dating sites is 2 out of 5 are genuine, I reckon.

I feel sorry for the girls who chat with you Les. :icon_lol:

Seriously though Nick, do your research first there are good and bad on there. Even if you don't find anyone to meet over there you can still have a good time. Just do your homework on the culture of the country. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[les_taxi]

I feel sorry for the girls who chat with you Les

Me too :icon_lol:

[lordna]

OMG you're right there.

Absolutely don't want to go too deeply into this, but it's nuts how some people compare Thai's to Pinoy. Maybe it's both coming from SE Asia, and some people have trouble telling the difference. It's a bit like this - some say the Scots and English are different, and we've been in the same country for centuries. Few would deny there's a different temperament between say the British and Greeks or Spanish - and these are all Christian (nominally) countries.

Thais in religion, outlook, temperament and many others are very different to Filipinos. Neither is "better" of course, just different.

Many people have come a cropper going into relationships with Thais, as they have failed to realise a huge culture and temperament difference.

Well, that and there's a disproportionate number of men going on holiday there and getting entirely the wrong end of the stick with many young women working in the resorts.

PS Thai food is awesome, one of the best in the world

It's easy to tell the difference between Thailanders and Filipino's......Thailanders cannot say "Sainsburys" and Filipinos cannot say "Sheet" without it sounding like something else! lol

[London_Manila]

You sound a bit defeatist there, LM.

Not all women are materialistic, some see a man's loyalty for instance as a form of wealth.

At the end of the day there is somebody out there for everyone and you need to install a positive belief into your mind that someday you will find her. :wink:

Actually I have a very good standard of living here in London and my house is paid off already

I will never get married again because I want my property to remain mine :wink:

Getting married and purchasing houses or lots in the Philippines is for the loved-up lot who think things will never go wrong. If it does you only have yourself to blame

I will probably end up living with a Filipina in the Philippines in rented accommodation of course

Marriage or bringing someone to the Uk will never be in my plans

[London_Manila]

It's easy to tell the difference between Thailanders and Filipino's......Thailanders cannot say "Sainsburys" and Filipinos cannot say "Sheet" without it sounding like something else! lol

Try asking a Thai to say RED RIVER = wed wiver

How about this Pinoy expression: "I don't know to you?" :Rasp:

[Michael Parnham]

Actually I have a very good standard of living here in London and my house is paid off already
I will never get married again because I want my property to remain mine :wink:

Getting married and purchasing houses or lots in the Philippines is for the loved-up lot who think things will never go wrong. If it does you only have yourself to blame

I will probably end up living with a Filipina in the Philippines in rented accommodation of course

Marriage or bringing someone to the UK will never be in my plans

I'm very surprised that you said that! :Erm:

[Ako Si Jamie]

I will probably end up living with a Filipina in the Philippines in rented accommodation of course

Marriage or bringing someone to the UK will never be in my plans


When I split with Maria, I said to myself, if I was to meet another Pinay abroad I'd either live with her in the Philippines for two years or regularly visit her for a minimum of five years, before thinking of marriage.

[Iani]

I'm very surprised that you said that! :Erm:

I'm not particularly. I'll make a guess the guy isn't in a relationship. and make a guess (without trawling back through his posts) he's either divorced or has friends who are and whose ex's have walked out and taken everything leaving him stood in his underwear.

Your opinion often changes a lot when you meet "the one", but whilst your single, that mindset from being stung in the past is very strong.

[Terpe]

I will never get married again.....


I said that too.
Kept to it for many years.
Then one day out of the blue it all changed.

I'm happy but I'll never marry again ...whatever :biggrin:

[stevewool]

Been there done that. Some of us just like wedding cake. Would I do it again? Well there is no need I think these days,

But I will say this, what is mine is Ems. For what she has given me in such a short time she is worth every penny

[Michael Parnham]

Been there done that. Some of us just like wedding cake. Would I do it again? Well there is no need I think these days,

But I will say this, what is mine is Ems. For what she has given me in such a short time she is worth every penny

Nice! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[grahamw48]

When I find someone daft enough... :cwm25:

[London_Manila]

I'm very surprised that you said that! :Erm:

Seen too many guys taken to the cleaners by x wives
They fall madly in love with some woman and bring her to the Uk
After a few years of marriage she clears off with someone else taking half of the guy's hard earned wealth with her

I am just protecting myself from the worst case scenario and loved up guys seem to lose all sense of reality

"It will never happen to me" and "my wife is not like that"

[Michael Parnham]

Seen too many guys taken to the cleaners by x wives
They fall madly in love with some woman and bring her to the Uk
After a few years of marriage she clears off with someone else taking half of the guys hard earned wealth with her

I am just protecting myself from the worst case scenario and loved up guys seem to lose all sense of reality

"It will never happen to me" and "my wife is not like that"

Be aware it can happen to anyone, it's no use going through life distrusting every woman that comes into your life! :Erm:

[grahamw48]

Seen too many guys taken to the cleaners by x wives
They fall madly in love with some woman and bring her to the Uk
After a few years of marriage she clears off with someone else taking half of the guys hard earned wealth with her

I am just protecting myself from the worst case scenario and loved up guys seem to lose all sense of reality

"It will never happen to me" and "my wife is not like that"

Yep, exactly as happened to me. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Ako Si Jamie]

Scammers not only think we're rich but also stupid - thanks to the goons who brag on their dating profile about what they have. :crazy:

[London_Manila]

Be aware it can happen to anyone, it's no use going through life distrusting every woman that comes into your life!:Erm:

Yes thats true but you can do many things to protect yourself for future events
Not getting married and not purchasing any land or accommodation overseas are 2 that spring to mind
With 2 out of 3 marriages ending in divorce i would say the stakes are pretty high!

I have worked hard all my life for what i have got and i am not about to let any x wife get her hands on it :wink:

[Pete/London]

I have worked hard all my life for what i have got and i am not about to let any x wife get her hands on it :wink:

I agree with some of what you say but sometimes you have to share. I would never buy anything I did not have full rights of ownership to. We have been married for 25 years and have 2 grown up children and if we did decide to divorce I would expect her to walk away with half our assets, even though I owned my house before we met.
If I wanted to fight over it I am not sure how successful I would be but the kids would get it in the end anyway.
If your marriage was going pear shaped I suppose you could always remortgage and run off with the money.:smile:

[Pete/London]

This man finds it hard to learn

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2741364/The-man-scammed-THREE-TIMES-lovers-met-online-plans-propose-woman-hes-seen-Skype.html

[Ako Si Jamie]

This man finds it hard to learn

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2741364/The-man-scammed-THREE-TIMES-lovers-met-online-plans-propose-woman-hes-seen-Skype.html
Scammed three times in as many years by girls he's never met and he's still going back for another portion:Brick:

Someone needs to take this young man aside and have a word. :ReadIt:

[stevewool]

Learn by your mistakes, and it should never happen again, be careful keep something in reserve and live life everyday

[grahamw48]

This man finds it hard to learn

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2741364/The-man-scammed-THREE-TIMES-lovers-met-online-plans-propose-woman-hes-seen-Skype.html

Just read that.

What a :censored: ! :laugher:

[fred]

Scammed three times in as many years by girls he's never met and he's still going back for another portion:Brick:

Someone needs to take this young man aside and have a word. :ReadIt:


Someone in the comments section below the article suggests that this kid may have Aspergers or something similar.. Got to say that I do feel sorry for him..
Hopefully he gets what he is looking for.

[Michael Parnham]

After almost 22 years of marriage, I returned home from the Philippines to find my key would not open the door at home, my car was in the drive, and divorce proceedings were in motion. Also, my savings had been moved into another a/c - all on the strength of a rumour - and never did see my home again. And out of my half of our savings, I was left with a £5000 shortfall.

Never fought for anything - just calmly let everything go to my ex. Without going into detail, I have some regrets but decided to move forward with my life. My ex wife and I had a perfect life (or so I thought) no mortgage no debt. We had savings and a very beautiful home in a nice rural area that we purchased in 2007. Cornwall and Philippines every year - sometimes twice a year - also, the last twelve years of our time together we had a new car every year (no finance) and during all the years together never argued - just an occasional difference of opinion (Perfect life).

Forgot to mention no :Sex: the last thirteen years of our life together! :wink:

[Pete/London]

I reckon the clue was in the last sentence Michael.

[Michael Parnham]

I reckon the clue was in the last sentence Michael.

Partly Pete, but my biggest regret was not fighting for what I was entitled to! :Erm:

[worthingmale]

Sorry to hear Michael

[Ako Si Jamie]

Someone in the comments section below the article suggests that this kid may have Aspergers or something similar.. Possibly, but my guess he's like this because his head is always in a bible and cut off from the real world.

[Ako Si Jamie]

After almost 22 years of marriage, I returned home from the Philippines to find my key would not open the door at home, my car was in the drive, and divorce proceedings were in motion. Also, my savings had been moved into another a/c - all on the strength of a rumour - and never did see my home again. And out of my half of our savings, I was left with a £5000 shortfall.

Never fought for anything - just calmly let everything go to my ex. Without going into detail, I have some regrets but decided to move forward with my life. My ex wife and I had a perfect life (or so I thought) no mortgage no debt. We had savings and a very beautiful home in a nice rural area that we purchased in 2007. Cornwall and Philippines every year - sometimes twice a year - also, the last twelve years of our time together we had a new car every year (no finance) and during all the years together never argued - just an occasional difference of opinion (Perfect life).

Forgot to mention no :Sex: the last thirteen years of our life together! :wink:A rumour probably concocted by herself to serve as an excuse for her actions and also to make you look like the bad guy.

[London_Manila]

A rumour probably concocted by herself to serve as an excuse for her actions and also to make you look like the bad guy.

Spot on and the best way to get everyone on their side is to say the "husband" was a heavy drinker, a wife beater and never provided any food

Most people will turn against you after hearing that................

[Terpe]

........the "husband" was a heavy drinker, a wife beater and never provided any food
.

Sadly that can also often turn out to the case :mad:

A very unfortunate outcome for the wife

[Blesslady]

Hi everyone,

I agree with you Jamie xxxMarie.nowadays, it's hard to trust anyone and to those ladies who are just after money I hope you have a conscience. Some guys are just wanting to be happy and find the right one. Although I know there are still a lot of genuine Filipina looking for a genuine British guys who will love them back - including my friends. They are beautiful both inside and out. Very nice personalities, and stable with their jobs. I'm happy to recommend them because I know them deeply. Anyone interested just pm me and I am happy to give their photos and email addresses.

[grahamw48]

Time you had some 'rep' young lady. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

I hope your inbox doesn't explode. :biggrin:

[Ako Si Jamie]

I think she deserves a silver star at the very least :biggrin:

[Rosie1958]

So sorry to hear about the break up of your relationship, Jamie. Glad to hear that you don't think all women are motivated by wealth, I'm certainly not :smile:

How about dropping Maria (as you have done in reality) from your name and just becoming JamieXXX
(looks more like Jamie kisses then) :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[andy222]

Hi everyone,

I agree with you Jamie xxxMarie.nowadays, it's hard to trust anyone and to those ladies who are just after money I hope you have a conscience. Some guys are just wanting to be happy and find the right one. Although I know there are still a lot of genuine Filipina looking for a genuine British guys who will love them back - including my friends. They are beautiful both inside and out. Very nice personalities, and stable with their jobs. I'm happy to recommend them because I know them deeply. Anyone interested just pm me and I am happy to give their photos and email addresses.

There is good and bad in all. When I used to go over to see my wife there were lots of foreigners out there trying to take advantage of the pinay girls. In my opinion it works both ways. A genuine British guy is just as hard to find.

[Ako Si Jamie]

So sorry to hear about the break up of your relationship, Jamie. Glad to hear that you don't think all women are motivated by wealth, I'm certainly not :smile:

How about dropping Maria (as you have done in reality) from your name and just becoming JamieXXX
(looks more like Jamie kisses then) :xxgrinning--00xx3:Thanks Rosie. Yep, not all women are gold diggers. She has to be out there somewhere! :wink:

Actually Rosie, I think you could teach the younger female generation a thing or two about morals! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

As for my name, I put in a request for a change a couple of days ago so I'm just waiting for the cheque to clear. :biggrin:

[Terpe]

As for my name, I put in a request for a change a couple of days ago so I'm just waiting for the cheque to clear. :biggrin:

Looks like you got it! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Quicker, less painful and cheaper than if the name was tattooed on you somewhere :wink:

[Ako Si Jamie]

Quicker, less painful and cheaper than if the name was tattooed on you somewhere :wink:I made that mistake earlier in my career :doh but in my defence, I was with her for over a decade.

Fortunately I was able to get another tattoo which completely covered it. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Nobby 54]

I met my husband on Tagged.com, I was 18 back then and he was 27. Tagged is like Facebook, you can see the person's profile (pictures, likes, dislikes, interest, etc), I'm not recommending it as there are also lots of scammers in there as well, scammers are anywhere anyway. I am just saying as my love life started from there...

I sent him a friend request first along with my HELLO message after seeing his gorgeous face (profile picture). He accepted my request then replied to my message and the feeling was mutual, he was attracted to me first thing he saw my picture profile.:wink:

We started exchanging emails everyday, then decided to talk face to face using Skype. I myself sent him actual love letters in a nice perfumed piece of letter every month. The feelings became stronger and stronger each day which made us both scared of the outcome of the relationship...on my part, I thought he was just playing a young bachelors game with me, making me fall for him and leave me afterwards. I thought he was just fooling me around as he was young and people said that western men on their 25-35 still don't want to commit in a relationship as they just want sex, sex, sex and easy life. While on his part, he thought that I might be a scam, and according to him "I am too good to be true". That's why he came over to Philippines to see if I am real and to confirm our feelings to each other. We spent over a year chatting and exchanging emails everyday, then he visited me after I graduated from college, then when he went back home, both of us were struggling because we were apart so he proposed to marry me, get a fiancé visa and marry in England.

In over a year of chatting, we never talked about money. He offered to send me school allowance but I declined it. I am always put off by such a thing so he never mentioned it to me again but in his actual love letter in paper, he put some money in it along with a little present then he apologised for it.

Anyway, to make the story short, we are married for 2 years now and we actually got married twice, one here last April 2012 and one in the Philippines 3 weeks ago and we are happy...........

What a lovely story I wish you both all the happiness and I hope I get the same happiness myself

[ssbib]

I don't know if the OP of this thread is still looking to meet someone but if he is (or anyone else is) then try Tagged. Its a free site that I used to meet my fiancé. I never went on there expecting to meet a Filipino, I tried it to see if there were any local people on there but I wasn't optimistic about meeting anyone. There was not many English people on there but lots of Filipino's chatting and wanting dating and so on. I was getting lots of messages from girls in the Philippines but I didn't want to meet anyone so far away so I quit the site. However I gave my Skype ID to one girl there who I enjoyed talking to. We spoke for a few more weeks and then entered in to a relationship and since there I have been to the Philippines and she has been here and now we are engaged. I think it worked because neither of us were looking for a relationship and we were able to just chat without any expectations and it allowed us to click and fall in love.

I must admit that on the morning of our first meeting when we were due to meet I was nervous as a small part of me was nervous she wouldn't show, not out of maliciousness but maybe being shy (she's really shy!). I had begged her not to be late (as she always runs late for work and she had a long trip to come and meet me) but she made a HUGE effort and arrived at my hotel early. While she was baking outside in the sun to meet me I was sat in the hotel room in my underpants with the air con on watching tv, haha. I went outside and met her bang on our agreed time. She had a huge smile and a hug for me. We went to my room to drop off her luggage and for the first 5 minutes it was weird...not awkward, just different. Here SHE IS!!! FINALLY!!! Not on a computer screen but right in front of me. Once we got to the hotel room and chatted for 5 minutes it was like we were always together and then we hit the ground running and never looked back.

Edit: didn't realise how old this thread was...sorry.

[Ako Si Jamie]

Never bothered with any of the Asian free dating sites myself. I've always paid for them and I've just shelled out another 25 bucks for a months membership on one. First time I've used them this year and I've already had one date with a local Filipina. She wasn't for me though but when one door closes another one opens.

The past week I've been speaking to a very pretty Filipina with a good job who wants me to visit mainland Asia with her early next year as well as the Phils. She is fairly religious so I was quite surprised she took interest in a part-infidel like me although she was looking for a British man because they do make the best romantic partners. Her words not mine but I won't disagree. I think we are high up the list of the more romantic of nationalities. :wink:

I must have made a good impression because all she really wants is for me to accept her as a religious person and her beliefs. That's fair enough especially as she's prepared to accept me for mine, or lack of. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Arthur Little]

I must have made a good impression because all she really wants is for me to accept her as a religious person and her beliefs.That's fair enough especially as she's prepared to accept me for mine, or lack of. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Aye, well ... :anerikke: ... fair dos ... next thing, you'll be going along to confession! :biggrin:

[Ako Si Jamie]

Aye, well ... :anerikke: ... fair dos ... next thing, you'll be going along to confession! :biggrin:

:biggrin: I was brought up as a Protestant so that won't happen but I think she's willing to accept that fact which speaks volumes about her.

Her faith is centred on being a good person and helping others. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Michael Parnham]

Never bothered with any of the Asian free dating sites myself. I've always paid for them and I've just shelled out another 25 bucks for a months membership on one. First time I've used them this year and I've already had one date with a local Filipina. She wasn't for me though but when one door closes another one opens.

The past week I've been speaking to a very pretty Filipina with a good job who wants me to visit mainland Asia with her early next year as well as the Phils. She is fairly religious so I was quite surprised she took interest in a part-infidel like me although she was looking for a British man because they do make the best romantic partners. Her words not mine but I won't disagree. I think we are high up the list of the more romantic of nationalities. :wink:

I must have made a good impression because all she really wants is for me to accept her as a religious person and her beliefs. That's fair enough especially as she's prepared to accept me for mine, or lack of. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Hi Jamie, nice to see you return again and good luck with your new friend:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Trefor]

The past week I've been speaking to a very pretty Filipina with a good job who wants me to visit mainland Asia with her early next year as well as the Phils. She is fairly religious so I was quite surprised she took interest in a part-infidel like me although she was looking for a British man because they do make the best romantic partners. Her words not mine but I won't disagree. I think we are high up the list of the more romantic of nationalities. :wink:



Blame Hugh Grant for that (or give him a pat on the back). I find most Filipinos know little about the UK and just think we're like Americans.

[Arthur Little]

Blame Hugh Grant for that (or give him a pat on the back). I find most Filipinos know little about the UK and just think we're like Americans.

:iagree: Trefor. :yeahthat:'s spot on! I remember once, while in the Phils, accompanying Myrna to buy a lottery ticket for an :oldlady: relative. Upon returning to the person's house, it was discovered the young lass in the booth where she'd bought the ticket had inadvertently sold her one of the wrong kind. Therefore, back to the store Myrna went (on her own) :Bolt: to exchange it.

But, on this occasion ^ (so I'm told) she was served by the Manager who promptly reprimanded the girl for "being too distracted with that 'handsome American' :cwm24:"!

It could only have been me to whom he was referring, :Erm: ... presumably! :icon_lol:

[Ako Si Jamie]

Hi Jamie, nice to see you return again and good luck with your new friend:xxgrinning--00xx3:
Thanks but I've only been away a week or two. :Rasp:

[ssbib]

Never bothered with any of the Asian free dating sites myself. I've always paid for them and I've just shelled out another 25 bucks for a months membership on one. First time I've used them this year and I've already had one date with a local Filipina. She wasn't for me though but when one door closes another one opens.

The past week I've been speaking to a very pretty Filipina with a good job who wants me to visit mainland Asia with her early next year as well as the Phils. She is fairly religious so I was quite surprised she took interest in a part-infidel like me although she was looking for a British man because they do make the best romantic partners. Her words not mine but I won't disagree. I think we are high up the list of the more romantic of nationalities. :wink:

I must have made a good impression because all she really wants is for me to accept her as a religious person and her beliefs. That's fair enough especially as she's prepared to accept me for mine, or lack of. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Good luck, I hope all goes well with this new girl.

[Nick30]

Hi,
Nice to be back here again. On a sad note, me and my Filipina girlfriend Carilene split up this weekend and it made me so sad. It's just one of those things and I felt sad but I'm ready to move on and find another Filipina girlfriend and with all the help on here I hope and pray I find one with help through this site.
I would feel more cheered up if I got to chat with someone through here.

[ssbib]

Hi,
Nice to be back here again. On a sad note, me and my Filipina girlfriend Carilene split up this weekend and it made me so sad. It's just one of those things and I felt sad but I'm ready to move on and find another Filipina girlfriend and with all the help on here I hope and pray I find one with help through this site.
I would feel more cheered up if I got to chat with someone through here.
Good luck buddy. Sorry to hear you and your girlfriend split up.

[Harry T]

Hi,
Nice to be back here again. On a sad note, me and my Filipina girlfriend Carilene split up this weekend and it made me so sad. It's just one of those things and I felt sad but I'm ready to move on and find another Filipina girlfriend and with all the help on here I hope and pray I find one with help through this site.
I would feel more cheered up if I got to chat with someone through here.

Do you not think its time you got off your backside and either went to the Philippines where there are thousands to choose from, or put the same efforts into your relationships that you do into watching Crystal Palace play, nothing comes easy mate.. but good luck..

[ssbib]

Do you not think its time you got off your backside and either went to the Philippines where there are thousands to choose from, or put the same efforts into your relationships that you do into watching Crystal Palace play, nothing comes easy mate.. but good luck..

I'll agree that you will probably have amazing success over in the Philippines. When I first went over to meet my fiancé (then girlfriend) for the first time I had 1 day to myself as she was working. On that day I wondered around Manila and took in the sites and sounds. On that day I had loads of girls flirting with me, telling me I had beautiful eyes, chatting and telling me how they wanted to get to know me etc. These were just girls I met in shops and so on, I'm not even going to tell you what some of the bar girls said to me. The attention you get from the bar girls was too much to be honest so I avoided those places as much as I could. Although it's hard to tell what's a normal bar and what isn't. I was thirsty at one point and wanted to stop for a cold drink. I saw a bar that was EMPTY apart from a tiny old woman serving behind the bar. I thought I could have a quiet drink there without being harrassed so went in and ordered a drink. As soon as the woman gave me my drink and I sat down she shot up and said "I go get ladies!" And then went and got 10 women to come and try and seduce me. Thankfully these women were respectful when I said I wasn't interested and hey just chatted to me for a while as I had my drink.

[Nick30]

I agree with you Harry. My next trip is definetly The Philippines.
I really enjoyed reading your story ssbib. So interesting to know a lot and I look forward to that.
It will be very well worth it.

[Ako Si Jamie]

Good luck, I hope all goes well with this new girl. Thanks, mate :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[ssbib]

I agree with you Harry. My next trip is definetly The Philippines.
I really enjoyed reading your story ssbib. So interesting to know a lot and I look forward to that.
It will be very well worth it.
You're right, you will love it. Great people, great food and great fun. The flight is a bit of a killer but it will be worth it when you're meeting the woman of your dreams. Keep us all updated on your plans and what happens when you are out there.

[Ako Si Jamie]

Do you not think its time you got off your backside and either went to the Philippines where there are thousands to choose from, or put the same efforts into your relationships that you do into watching Crystal Palace play, nothing comes easy mate.. but good luck..

To be fair Harry, at least he's been over to the Philippines. I know one guy from online who lives in the western world and expects the Filipina's to come over and visit him. I don't think that strategy is proving to be very successful for him so far. :biggrin:

[Trefor]

Nick, have you been out there at all yet? You started this thread 2 years ago when you began to look. Just trying to see if you understand Filipinas yet. I understand work commitments meant your last relationship didn't get to the next stage, these ladies won't wait for you forever.

[grahamw48]

I think I've met my Mrs, had about 10 trips to the Phils, got married to her, and had a baby during that time. :icon_lol:

[ssbib]

I think I've met my Mrs, had about 10 trips to the Phils, got married to her, and had a baby during that time. :icon_lol:
I think more time should be spent on this before you can be 100% sure :biggrin:

[grahamw48]

Well, my wife and I will have been together 5 years this coming October... and I first visited her 2 months after initiating online chat. Many 30 day visits since then.

[ssbib]

Well, my wife and I will have been together 5 years this coming October... and I first visited her 2 months after initiating online chat. Many 30 day visits since then.
Surely its 10 years and 2 children before you can be certain? haha, just joking. One thing I like about this community here is how supportive everybody is. I found a similar site to this a few months back that I never joined because everyone seemed so pessimistic and everyone was accusing everyone else's girlfriend of being a scammer. Even those who were married and living together there was always doubt that they would jump ship the second they got ILR. I couldn't be bothered with that paranoia.

[jeff in phils]

Some say to find an educated filipina and one that isn't you should "run" from.. That's entirely not true. My wife has a 3rd grade education and is one of the smartest women I know. Why does she only have a 3rd grade education? Both her mom and her dad got gravely ill in a span of a year (and both passed away) and she couldn't walk the 5 km to school like she once did in Mindanao. She stayed home to take care of her parents. What she may lack in "book smarts" she makes up in life skills. She is mature beyond her years, a hard worker, and doesn't believe "status" is important. Many of the college educated Filipina's that I met in the Philippines were very "status" oriented, which was a total turnoff to me.. They never got a second date. I'm not saying you should look for an uneducated girl... Just saying that you shouldn't overlook them either :)

[stevewool]

Some say to find an educated filipina and one that isn't you should "run" from.. That's entirely not true. My wife has a 3rd grade education and is one of the smartest women I know. Why does she only have a 3rd grade education? Both her mom and her dad got gravely ill in a span of a year (and both passed away) and she couldn't walk the 5 km to school like she once did in Mindanao. She stayed home to take care of her parents. What she may lack in "book smarts" she makes up in life skills. She is mature beyond her years, a hard worker, and doesn't believe "status" is important. Many of the college educated Filipina's that I met in the Philippines were very "status" oriented, which was a total turnoff to me.. They never got a second date. I'm not saying you should look for an uneducated girl... Just saying that you shouldn't overlook them either :)

Look for there heart, once you find that you have the perfect one .

[grahamw48]

I just chose a beautiful one who was accustomed to changing adult diapers. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[stevewool]

I just chose a beautiful one who was accustomed to changing adult diapers. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Where you been ,

[jeff in phils]

Yes, I have to agree.. Also listen to your instincts and don't just fall for the beauty queen when inside you know that she may not be the right one for you.

[jeff in phils]

Surely its 10 years and 2 children before you can be certain? haha, just joking. One thing I like about this community here is how supportive everybody is. I found a similar site to this a few months back that I never joined because everyone seemed so pessimistic and everyone was accusing everyone else's girlfriend of being a scammer. Even those who were married and living together there was always doubt that they would jump ship the second they got ILR. I couldn't be bothered with that paranoia.

Yeah, there is a lot of skepticism... However, after reading many horror stories (before I found my wife), I was pretty cautious and always looking for red flags. You just have to be careful.. Scammers will show their true colors.. Hopefully, your not just blinded by love by then and it's too late. lol