Searching for a genuine filipina girl

[Nick30]

Hi, so sorry I haven't been around for a while but hope everyone is well. I'm so nervous of online dating because I hear horror stories that filipino girls chat to more than one guy and once they arrange to meet, the girl never shows up especially at the airport after travelling all this way and that's terrible. It makes me nervous of who I'm chatting online with and I hope I can meet a lovely genuine girl and if any member on this forum knows anyone either friends or family then I will be so grateful to be introduced to them and get to know them.

So sorry for the rant friends but it's just shocking to read the horror stories so thought I share with you all.

[les_taxi]

I'm chatting to a few at the moment, and unfortunately on the site I use, get the impression that after the usual introductions etc then money pops up.

Last one was maybe only 20 mins when medicine needed for Father reqd :yikes:

The cost only £250.00 bargain I thought as I accidentally deleted her :icon_lol:

I did meet a girl which brought me to this Forum a few years ago. She was there when I arrived, but more importantly we had spent 18 months chatting.

I would chat at least 6 months before considering going over again as it gives you a chance to see if she is genuine :xxgrinning--00xx3:

My impression and knowledge of the dating sites is 2 out of 5 are genuine, I reckon.

[Nick30]

Which sites you use Les? Good job you deleted the one who was tricking you into buying medicine for her father. That's a good long time you had both chatting and over a year too and I think yes six months chatting and getting to know the person is better that way.

[les_taxi]

Cherry blossoms is the one-lots of lovely Filipinos on there :xxgrinning--00xx3:

I try to look for early 30s-35 age range, no kids (although some of the nicest have kids).

Often get 18 year olds saying age does not matter but nearly 40 years in my opinion is too big a gap for me.

Just remember the saying, if it's too good to be true it probably is, the most stunning model type ones are very likely chatting to a dozen guys. I go for attractive but with nice smile and softness in their looks.

In your profile you can put that please don't reply to me if it's a financial arrangement you are seeking (in the nicest terms).

That has still not stopped some trying it on with me. :mad:

I do understand their plight tho and if some mug wants to send them all his money in a way even tho it's wrong you can't be too harsh on the girl as we know life for some is real poverty - not the joke poverty we think exists in UK.

[Nick30]

That's why you have to be very careful with Internet dating sites.

[les_taxi]

That's why you have to be very careful with Internet dating sites

Yes, but i would be confident now I have used them and know what to look for. Money should not be mentioned early on, if it is instant - cull! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Michael Parnham]

Good luck with your searches guys! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[fred]

Nick.. What happened with the girl you was introduced to from a member here?

http://filipinaroses.com/showthread.php/51263-This-lovely-young-lady?p=486716&highlight=#post486716

[fred]

I still think the best way to meet people is to ACTUALLY come here and meet them.

To each their own I guess!!

[les_taxi]

I still think the best way to meet people is to ACTUALLY come here and meet them

Not sure Fred, I think you might feel under pressure and a bit like 'Jonny No Mates' turning up on your own wandering around trying to meet someone.

You would know zilch about them and might feel vulnerable.

At least if you chat for at least 6 months you should get to know them a bit and make it easier when you get there.

I did that and when I got there she was waiting and it all fell into place easily.

[Nick30]

It doesn't seem to be working out Fred and Les is right, I don't want to turn up alone there, so hope to be introduced to someone on this site.

[KeithD]

Look for a single Filipina in the UK with citizenship, and save the visa money. :xxgrinning--00xx3: Plenty of them about.

[Nick30]

How do I go about that mate?

[KeithD]

Have a look on something like http://www.pof.com/ or hang around Catholic churches on a Sunday, but don't wear a plastic mac and hide in the bushes :biggrin:

[les_taxi]

but don't wear a plastic mac and hide in the bushes

Gimp mask should be fine though :biggrin:
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[Terpe]

How do I go about that mate?

Hi Nick.
It's the start of the Filipino Barrio Fiesta season now......always worth a visit. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[les_taxi]

Yes, it's the Ripon one soon :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Nick30]

I'm in West Sussex but I might check it out. As for POF I tried but no replies and I don't really trust that free site. I should try going to Catholic churches.

[gWaPito]

I'm chatting to a few at the moment, and unfortunately on the site I use, get the impression that after the usual introductions etc then money pops up.

Last one was maybe only 20 mins when medicine needed for Father reqd :yikes:

The cost only £250.00 bargain I thought as I accidentally deleted her :icon_lol:

I did meet a girl which brought me to this Forum a few years ago. She was there when I arrived, but more importantly we had spent 18 months chatting.

I would chat at least 6 months before considering going over again as it gives you a chance to see if she is genuine :xxgrinning--00xx3:

My impression and knowledge of the dating sites is 2 out of 5 are genuine, I reckon.

I'd put it way less than that .....Im not convinced dating sites are the way to go either :NoNo: Perfectly okay to line up some holiday company but long term, nah :NoNo:

[London_Manila]

I'd put it way less than that .....Im not convinced dating sites are the way to go either :NoNo: Perfectly okay to line up some holiday company but long term, nah :NoNo:

I can recommend them for one nights stands :wink:

[tiger31]

Which sites you use Les? Good job you deleted the one who was tricking you into buying medicine for her father. That's a good long time you had both chatting and over a year too and I think yes six months chatting and getting to know the person is better that way.
nick the the first time money is mentioned just ditch them ,the genuine ones will go the distance.always insist face to face camera that helps to eradicate the ladyboy scammers

[aprilmaejon]

I met my husband on Tagged.com, I was 18 back then and he was 27. Tagged is like Facebook, you can see the person's profile (pictures, likes, dislikes, interest, etc), I'm not recommending it as there are also lots of scammers in there as well, scammers are anywhere anyway. I am just saying as my love life started from there...

I sent him a friend request first along with my HELLO message after seeing his gorgeous face (profile picture). He accepted my request then replied to my message and the feeling was mutual, he was attracted to me first thing he saw my picture profile.:wink:

We started exchanging emails everyday, then decided to talk face to face using Skype. I myself sent him actual love letters in a nice perfumed piece of letter every month. The feelings became stronger and stronger each day which made us both scared of the outcome of the relationship...on my part, I thought he was just playing a young bachelors game with me, making me fall for him and leave me afterwards. I thought he was just fooling me around as he was young and people said that western men on their 25-35 still don't want to commit in a relationship as they just want sex, sex, sex and easy life. While on his part, he thought that I might be a scam, and according to him "I am too good to be true". That's why he came over to Philippines to see if I am real and to confirm our feelings to each other. We spent over a year chatting and exchanging emails everyday, then he visited me after I graduated from college, then when he went back home, both of us were struggling because we were apart so he proposed to marry me, get a fiancé visa and marry in England.

In over a year of chatting, we never talked about money. He offered to send me school allowance but I declined it. I am always put off by such a thing so he never mentioned it to me again but in his actual love letter in paper, he put some money in it along with a little present then he apologised for it.

Anyway, to make the story short, we are married for 2 years now and we actually got married twice, one here last April 2012 and one in the Philippines 3 weeks ago and we are happy...........

[les_taxi]

I met my husband on Tagged.com, I was 18 back then and he was 27. Tagged is like Facebook, you can see the person's profile (pictures, likes, dislikes, interest, etc), I'm not recommending it as there are also lots of scammers in there as well, scammers are anywhere anyway. I am just saying as my love life started from there...

I sent him a friend request first along with my HELLO message after seeing his gorgeous face (profile picture). He accepted my request then replied to my message and the feeling was mutual, he was attracted to me first thing he saw my picture profile.:wink:

We started exchanging emails everyday, then decided to talk face to face using Skype. I myself sent him actual love letters in a nice perfumed piece of letter every month. The feelings became stronger and stronger each day which made us both scared of the outcome of the relationship...on my part, I thought he was just playing a young bachelors game with me, making me fall for him and leave me afterwards. I thought he was just fooling me around as he was young and people said that western men on their 25-35 still don't want to commit in a relationship as they just want sex, sex, sex and easy life. While on his part, he thought that I might be a scam, and according to him "I am too good to be true". That's why he came over to Philippines to see if I am real and to confirm our feelings to each other. We spent over a year chatting and exchanging emails everyday, then he visited me after I graduated from college, then when he went back home, both of us were struggling because we were apart so he proposed to marry me, get a fiancé visa and marry in England.

In over a year of chatting, we never talked about money. He offered to send me school allowance but I declined it. I am always put off by such a thing so he never mentioned it to me again but in his actual love letter in paper, he put some money in it along with a little present then he apologised for it.

Anyway, to make the story short, we are married for 2 years now and we actually got married twice, one here last April 2012 and one in the Philippines 3 weeks ago and we are happy...........
Great story:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Jentobeharrison]

I met my husband on Tagged.com, I was 18 back then and he was 27. Tagged is like Facebook, you can see the person's profile (pictures, likes, dislikes, interest, etc), I'm not recommending it as there are also lots of scammers in there as well, scammers are anywhere anyway. I am just saying as my love life started from there...

I sent him a friend request first along with my HELLO message after seeing his gorgeous face (profile picture). He accepted my request then replied to my message and the feeling was mutual, he was attracted to me first thing he saw my picture profile.:wink:

We started exchanging emails everyday, then decided to talk face to face using Skype. I myself sent him actual love letters in a nice perfumed piece of letter every month. The feelings became stronger and stronger each day which made us both scared of the outcome of the relationship...on my part, I thought he was just playing a young bachelors game with me, making me fall for him and leave me afterwards. I thought he was just fooling me around as he was young and people said that western men on their 25-35 still don't want to commit in a relationship as they just want sex, sex, sex and easy life. While on his part, he thought that I might be a scam, and according to him "I am too good to be true". That's why he came over to Philippines to see if I am real and to confirm our feelings to each other. We spent over a year chatting and exchanging emails everyday, then he visited me after I graduated from college, then when he went back home, both of us were struggling because we were apart so he proposed to marry me, get a fiancé visa and marry in England.

In over a year of chatting, we never talked about money. He offered to send me school allowance but I declined it. I am always put off by such a thing so he never mentioned it to me again but in his actual love letter in paper, he put some money in it along with a little present then he apologised for it.

Anyway, to make the story short, we are married for 2 years now and we actually got married twice, one here last April 2012 and one in the Philippines 3 weeks ago and we are happy...........

Hey, we have the same love story! Hahaha. But we are just about to take the marriage life as we are currently waiting for the result of fiancee visa.

To Nick, I guess, when it comes to dating site, you wouldnt really know who you are talking. They are correct, the first time a person mention money, do not every reply. My fiance and I were chatting for 4 months before he went here to see me. We never talked about money and sex whilst we were still chatting. Tho, we talked about money but it was all about the expenses going here. I paid for our hotel, he paid for his plane tickets and for our expenses everyday.

Going to dating sites to find true love is quite hard, it is like you are playing in a casino but I am pretty sure that there are really women on it who are looking for serious commitments just hard to find but I am assuring you that you will feel it. My fiance just signed up two weeks ago before the day we started talking on a dating site, he receives 200 messages a day and the first time I saw him, I felt really strange, until now, I don't know how would I describe that feeling. I sent him a message "I dont know how you are going to notice my message, BUZZ?" and I didnt expect for a reply because there were really lots of sexy girls messaging him, but on my first message, he responded. After 2 days we decided to deactivate our profile on Date in Asia and we exclusively exchanging messages, what I am saying is, you will really feel it. and now, the man who was once a stranger before, is now my fiance and will be spending the rest of his life with me.

Also make sure to look at the woman's signed up date, because you might wonder why shes been on dating site for a long time and hasnt found his man yet. RED FLAG.

If a woman almost show her everything on the profile profile picture. RED FLAG

If a woman is jobless, RED FLAG.

And also, read the profile, you will see there if the person has sense, not about the content but how they wrote it.

For you, you should show how genuine you are to your contact, not an advantage taker to a filipina so they would also not take advantage of you. :) Those were just from my opinion :)

[stevewool]

Nick, just take your time, just talk to anyone that comes along, thats what i did, then if something clicks between you and someone just talk to her and see what happens, start as friends, try different sites too, but remember once you have found someone that you enjoy talking to, make sure you say goodbye to the rest, be true to yourself and who you are talking too,

[stevewool]

if the women is jobless, why is it a red flag,

[les_taxi]

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f the women is jobless, why is it a red flag
True-I have chatted some lovely girls who are jobless-it's not their fault.As long as they don't pester for money then it's fine.
Also if a girl has been on site for ages it could mean all she has chatted to are western perverts-there are lots of em.

[stevewool]

so true Les, there are some bad men out there who will promise everything but give nothing, it seems to work both ways,

[Jentobeharrison]

Red flag means a warning, not really to avoid. No offense but I would rather look for a job first and be employed first before sitting in front of my computer and log in on dating site.

Maybe I am thinking too much, but as I said, those were my opinion. If I see a man whos been a member of a dating site since 2008 and will be chatting with me now, I would really wonder why he is still there.

[stevewool]

No offense taken at all,
The internet chatting sites as i call them was the best thing that happened to me, but as i keep saying you must be upfront with who ever you are talking too, and that means both of you, why waste your time and there time too,

[les_taxi]

As soon as i start chatting I bring up the fact lot's of girls ask for cash and how as a stranger do they expect me to send them £300 after 20 mins of chatting.
I then gauge how the girl I'm chatting to reacts.
I also ask for total honesty and ask if they are regually chatting to anyone else,I also tell them if I am.
I believe it's the beat way.
I'm doing that very thing now-I have 2 girls who I chat to often and hopefully that will be down to one-which one i have no idea yet.
I think chatting to a couple helps in the fact you should not put all your eggs in one basket til you are sure.

[bigmac]

Look for a single Filipina in the UK with citizenship, and save the visa money. :xxgrinning--00xx3: Plenty of them about.

good advice there--if they here--settled already--then its job done--and you will know they are interested in you--the person--rather than simply as a starter on the settlement route.

[fred]

http://www.bestfunnyjokes4u.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/online-dating-cartoon-joke.jpg

[les_taxi]

I think they are hard to find in uk . most seem to be married.
Maybe i should go to ripon barrio?

[bigmac]

also--if you do get something started---make sure --ASAP--the woman isnt married--or "separated". if you find she is--then factor in several £ thousands and many extra months-----to get her unmarried.

[Dedworth]

I think they are hard to find in uk . most seem to be married.
Maybe i should go to ripon barrio?

Nothing ventured, nothing gained Les :xxgrinning--00xx3: At the very least you can promote Strayline

[les_taxi]

I will get a t shirt saying free and single!

[bigmac]

i think any single--filipina lady--settled already in this country-----is likely to be just like any other English rose----ONLY interested in a george clooney-clone with a good job, fabulous house and lifestyle to match. Us working class oiks have got no chance---especially if you think you can pull a younger model.

[les_taxi]

Big mac there is something in that as the innocence is maybe lost.

[Dedworth]

i think any single--filipina lady--settled already in this country-----is likely to be just like any other English rose----ONLY interested in a george clooney-clone with a good job, fabulous house and lifestyle to match. Us working class oiks have got no chance---especially if you think you can pull a younger model.

Now I know what my wife sees in me :biggrin:

[aprilmaejon]

i think any single--filipina lady--settled already in this country-----is likely to be just like any other English rose----ONLY interested in a george clooney-clone with a good job, fabulous house and lifestyle to match. Us working class oiks have got no chance---especially if you think you can pull a younger model.

I don't think any British Citizen Single Filipina will only be interested in a George clooney-clone with good job, fabulous house and lifestyle to match.I think they will still be interested in a working class men, only that they will only have eyes to a man of their age level if you know what I mean...no offence meant though for those who have 30 years or more age gaps with their partners...

:censored: especially if you think you can pull a younger model/--------no chance for that I'm afraid. :cwm25:

[aprilmaejon]

Big mac there is something in that as the innocence is maybe lost.

They definitely lost their innocence and simplicity as they have adapted the lifestyle of the UK in terms of relationship(partners come and go), sex(Friends with Benefits), alcohol and partying... Single Filipinas in the Philippines have a low standard of expectations (you can just give them a simple flower and they will be grateful for that romantic gesture)while Filipinas who are settled here probably have higher standard of expectations(a simple street flower won't do for a romance, it has to be more so they can feel the romance in a courtship)........

[Terpe]

Some big brushes about :Erm:

[alexis]

If a woman is jobless, RED FLAG.

Oh dear you better choose your words carefully. :thumbsdown:

[les_taxi]

My filipino gf used to say not today dear it's 'Red Flag day', I thought she meant we could not go in the sea!

[aprilmaejon]

My filipino gf used to say not today dear it's 'Red Flag day', I thought she meant we could not go in the sea!

Actually, that is how I understand the Red Flag thing....I've not encountered any of that in a dating site I used to have. I will only know if the man is a scam if they put celebrity pics on their profile...or will talk about sex straight away after a short introduction, or offer money for an exchange of cyber sex....:thumbsdown:

[les_taxi]

Actually, that is how I understand the Red Flag thing....I've not encountered any of that in a dating site I used to have. I will only know if the man is a scam if they put celebrity pics on their profile...or will talk about sex straight away after a short introduction, or offer money for an exchange of cyber sex....:thumbsdown:

Yes that's what many men do-no intention of meeting:NoNo:

[raynaputi]

Keith and I met in Facebook.. I thought he just invited me to play some games in FB.. :omg::icon_lol:

[les_taxi]

I thought he just invited me to play some games in

He meant Games in North Wales :do_it::icon_lol:

[raynaputi]

He meant Games in North Wales :do_it::icon_lol:

You mean helping him chase the sheep?!?!?!?! :omg:

[aprilmaejon]

Yes that's what many men do - no intention of meeting :NoNo:

Everytime men do that, I ignore them straight away and tell them to back off! It is so degrading in my part when men assume that I want money for sex...disgusting! However, there are also few desperate Filipinas who are willing to do it for the sake of money. Men will send them money to buy their very own personal computer so that they can do cyber sex in their own house...how pathetic isn't it?

[bigmac]

I don't think any British Citizen Single Filipina will only be interested in a George clooney-clone with good job, fabulous house and lifestyle to match.I think they will still be interested in a working class men, only that they will only have eyes to a man of their age level if you know what I mean...no offence meant though for those who have 30 years or more age gaps with their partners...

:censored: especially if you think you can pull a younger model/--------no chance for that I'm afraid. :cwm25:

exactly. i'm so glad someone else said that--instead of me getting into trouble again.

i think most single filipnas settled here would think long and hard about getting involved and marrying anyone----especially considering their upbringing and expectations in life back home.

but--there are a few on plenty of fish---thats how i met mine--but she was already over here--on a student visa.

[tiger31]

I met my husband on Tagged.com, I was 18 back then and he was 27. Tagged is like Facebook, you can see the person's profile (pictures, likes, dislikes, interest, etc), I'm not recommending it as there are also lots of scammers in there as well, scammers are anywhere anyway. I am just saying as my love life started from there...

I sent him a friend request first along with my HELLO message after seeing his gorgeous face (profile picture). He accepted my request then replied to my message and the feeling was mutual, he was attracted to me first thing he saw my picture profile.:wink:

We started exchanging emails everyday, then decided to talk face to face using Skype. I myself sent him actual love letters in a nice perfumed piece of letter every month. The feelings became stronger and stronger each day which made us both scared of the outcome of the relationship...on my part, I thought he was just playing a young bachelors game with me, making me fall for him and leave me afterwards. I thought he was just fooling me around as he was young and people said that western men on their 25-35 still don't want to commit in a relationship as they just want sex, sex, sex and easy life. While on his part, he thought that I might be a scam, and according to him "I am too good to be true". That's why he came over to Philippines to see if I am real and to confirm our feelings to each other. We spent over a year chatting and exchanging emails everyday, then he visited me after I graduated from college, then when he went back home, both of us were struggling because we were apart so he proposed to marry me, get a fiancé visa and marry in England.

In over a year of chatting, we never talked about money. He offered to send me school allowance but I declined it. I am always put off by such a thing so he never mentioned it to me again but in his actual love letter in paper, he put some money in it along with a little present then he apologised for it.

Anyway, to make the story short, we are married for 2 years now and we actually got married twice, one here last April 2012 and one in the Philippines 3 weeks ago and we are happy...........

Me too. I was on tagged.com the only site I visited. Met my girl and 4 years later i,m still stuck in the Philippines with her lol. We want to go back to UK eventually as she has yet to meet any of my family.

[aprilmaejon]

but--there are a few on plenty of fish---thats how i met mine--but she was already over here--on a student visa.

How old are you bigmac if you don't mind me asking?

I also got few friends who was on a student visa then got married to a British man of the same age as them or younger even...:NoNo: no to older pipz with a young heart they said. No offence meant again....

[bigmac]

How old are you bigmac if you don't mind me asking?

I also got few friends who was on a student visa then got married to a British man of the same age as them or younger even...:NoNo: no to older pipz with young heart they said. No offence meant again....

No offence taken Aprilmaejon.

I'm now 66----she is 44. We met in Sept 2011....she was living locally to me. She was in the UK on a 4 year Student Visa--which expired in summer 2012. She was what we--in the UK--call a mature student. So there is a 22 year age difference. But your comment about age difference is spot on!

[Michael Parnham]

Gosh, I'm learning a few new sayings on here today, pipz, red flag, cyber what? :Erm:

[aprilmaejon]

no offence taken aprilmaejon.

i'm now 66----she is 44. we met in sept 2011....she was living local to me. she was in the UK on a 4 year student visa--which expired in summer 2012. she was what we--in the UK--call a mature student. so there is a 22 year age difference. but your comment about age difference is spot on.

Not so much difference compared to those in their 70s and got married to a 20 year old... That only happens in an online meeting I guess, not unless if an elderly that age marries his personal carer.

[Longweekend]

Gosh, I'm learning a few new sayings on here today, pipz, red flag, cyber what? :Erm:

Pure entertainment Michael....:biggrin::biggrin:

[Michael Parnham]

Not so much difference compared to those in their 70s and got married to a 20 year old... That only happens in an online meeting I guess, not unless if an elderly that age marries his personal carer.

I've never been online looking for a lady, for a start I wouldn't know how to. Maritess and I first met in person May 2010 we married October 2011. I am now 71 years of age and Maritess is now 29 years of age and we get on so well together, if you were to see us together I don't think you would give the age gap a thought! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Michael Parnham]

Pure entertainment Michael....:biggrin::biggrin:

I thought this was entertainment :Sex::do_it::xxgrinning--00xx3:

[bigmac]

Not so much difference compared to those in their 70s and got married to a 20 year old... That only happens in an online meeting I guess, not unless if an elderly that age marry his personal carer.

Yep--that's all part of my plan---lol

[aprilmaejon]

I've never been online looking for a lady, for a start I wouldn't know how to. Maritess and I first met in person May 2010 we married October 2011. I am now 71 years of age and Maritess is now 29 years of age and we get on so well together, if you were to see us together I don't think you would give the age gap a thought!:xxgrinning--00xx3:

:xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3: That is a good thing.

Anyway in the Philippines, it is more common to see a Filipina who is married to an older foreign man than to see a Filipina who is married to a younger foreign man.

People think that these young Filipinas are just using these men for their life to get better (to have a big house and live in luxury).

Most people think that it's much better to marry an old man as they have money, receive pensions, and they will likely to die soon...(not a very nice thing to think isn't it? The man is not dead yet but it sounds like that his grave is all ready for him).

I think few of these "scenarios" are true, and false for those who really fall in love despite of the big age difference.

When people in my town found out that I am engaged to a 28-year old foreign man, they asked me why a young man....? According to them, a young man doesn't have any money, no house, no savings and changes shirt so quick. I told them that I love my fiancé and I can't afford to be in a relationship with a man just for the sake of his money in the first place. They said that I am foolish for using my heart and not my head. They said that if I'm marrying a foreigner, it should be an old one so my future is brighter. Such a shame but that is how people back home judged my relationship. We haven't buy any land nor a house in the Philippines yet, and my mum still cooks and sells her food in the market to make some extra money----people said that this is because I married a young man and life for my family could have been a lot better if I married an older one.

I just ignore everything that they say and carry on living the life I chose to have, besides at the end of the day, this is my life, not theirs.

[grahamw48]

One day my girl will find my birth certificate. :cwm3:

[marksroomspain]

:xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3::xxgrinning--00xx3: That is a good thing.

Anyway in the Philippines, it is more common to see a Filipina who is married to an older foreign man than to see a Filipina who is married to a younger foreign man.

People think that these young Filipinas are just using these men for their life to get better (to have a big house and live in luxury).

Most people think that it's much better to marry an old man as they have money, receive pensions, and they will likely to die soon...(not a very nice thing to think isn't it? The man is not dead yet but it sounds like that his grave is all ready for him).

I think few of these "scenarios" are true, and false for those who really fall in love despite of the big age difference.

When people in my town found out that I am engaged to a 28-year old foreign man, they asked me why a young man....? According to them, a young man doesn't have any money, no house, no savings and changes shirt so quick. I told them that I love my fiancé and I can't afford to be in a relationship with a man just for the sake of his money in the first place. They said that I am foolish for using my heart and not my head. They said that if I'm marrying a foreigner, it should be an old one so my future is brighter. Such a shame but that is how people back home judged my relationship. We haven't buy any land nor a house in the Philippines yet, and my mum still cooks and sells her food in the market to make some extra money----people said that this is because I married a young man and life for my family could have been a lot better if I married an older one.

I just ignore everything that they say and carry on living the life I chose to have, besides at the end of the day, this is my life, not theirs.

Sweet sentiments Aprilmaejon, your hubby is a real lucky guy......:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[London_Manila]

Yes that's what many men do-no intention of meeting :NoNo:

I meet as many as I can - on the condition they only stay one night :Jump:

[Jentobeharrison]

Oh dear you better choose your words carefully. :thumbsdown:

I don't think so because that's my opinion :)

[London_Manila]

Everytime men do that, I ignore them straight away and tell them to back off! It is so degrading in my part when men assume that I want money for sex...disgusting! However, there are also few desperate Filipinas who are willing to do it for the sake of money. Men will send them money to buy their very own personal computer so that they can do cyber sex in their own house...how pathetic isn't it?

Many do work in cams as their only job and I have no problem with that

As long as they are adults, who are we to condemn them!

I had a 6 month relationship with a top model from a webcam site and it was not all bad :wink:

[mercedes]

I love my old man grahamw48 only because he is a sex machine . :biggrin:

[SimonH]

I love my old man grahamw48 only because he is a sex machine . :biggrin:


I read that at 6.00am before my breakfast :cwm3:

[grahamw48]

No comment. :olddude::do_it::waver:

[Michael Parnham]

I read that at 6.00am before my breakfast :cwm3:

And I was having breakfast before breakfast:Sex:

[KeithD]

And I was having breakfast before breakfast:Sex:

Does your wife know? :yikes:

[raynaputi]

I love my old man grahamw48 only because he is a sex machine . :biggrin:

:icon_lol::xxgrinning--00xx3:

[aprilmaejon]

I love my old man grahamw48 only because he is a sex machine . :biggrin:


:Sex::Sex::Sex: day and night ey?! :hubbahubba:

[Harry T]

It doesn't seem to be working out Fred and Les is right, I don't want to turn up alone there, so hope to be introduced to someone on this site.

Sorry to see that you and Anjelie haven't hit it off, but keep looking mate

And good luck!

[mercedes]

:Sex::Sex::Sex: day and night ey?! :hubbahubba:
:Cuckoo:


Just only 3 times each day. :Cuckoo:

[gWaPito]

Look for a single Filipina in the UK with citizenship, and save the visa money. :xxgrinning--00xx3: Plenty of them about.

I agree. Weve done our share of providing Keith :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Perhaps in the future a swap shop could be organised...it'll save us the tedious hours trawling through these dating sites again. :icon_lol::xxgrinning--00xx3:

Strangely enough, the ones already here having gained citizenship and freedom are generally looking for potential partners their own age. Strange that.

[aprilmaejon]

:Cuckoo:


Just only 3 times each day. :Cuckoo:


Breakfast, lunch and dinner...it's a healthy diet then :biggrin: and very convenient :hubbahubba:

[Jentobeharrison]

:Cuckoo:


Just only 3 times each day. :Cuckoo:



Ahhh ehhh too much info I think? Hahaha :censored::NoNo:

[SimonH]

Ttiuwp

[Michael Parnham]

Does your wife know? :yikes:

:icon_lol::icon_lol:

[gWaPito]

I don't think any British Citizen Single Filipina will only be interested in a George Clooney-clone with good job, fabulous house and lifestyle to match. I think they will still be interested in a working class men, only that they will only have eyes to a man of their age level if you know what I mean...no offence meant though for those who have 30 years or more age gaps with their partners...

:censored: especially if you think you can pull a younger model/--------no chance for that I'm afraid. :cwm25:

So please explain, why is it different when they are in the Philippines. How is it Filipinas find much older men more attractive :smile:

[Arthur Little]

Breakfast, lunch and dinner...it's a healthy diet then :biggrin: and very convenient :hubbahubba:

:olddude: ... "it's" apparently :icon_rolleyes: the healthiest form of exercise that's
recommended ... :iagree:! And gets rid of those extra calories a damn sight quicker than any prescribed diet :wink: while you're "at it"! :do_it:

[gWaPito]

Breakfast, lunch and dinner...it's a healthy diet then :biggrin: and very convenient :hubbahubba:

:biggrin::xxgrinning--00xx3: Real men don't wear pink. ....

[grahamw48]

:olddude: ... "it's" apparently :icon_rolleyes: the healthiest form of exercise that's recommended ... :iagree:! And gets rid of those extra calories a damn sight quicker than any prescribed diet :wink: while you're "at it"! :do_it:

I've been almost reduced to skin and bone. :cwm3:

[Arthur Little]

I've been almost reduced to skin and bone. :cwm3:

:cwm24: ... thought you already were, Graham ... :xxparty-smiley-004:

[KeithD]

I've been almost reduced to skin and bone. :cwm3:

Necrophilia :omg:

[Arthur Little]

:cwm24: ... thought you already were, Graham ... :xxparty-smiley-004:

:icon_sorry:, mate. :biggrin: ... just my 'little' :joke:!

[aprilmaejon]

So please explain, why is it different when they are in the Philippines. How is it Filipinas find much older men more attractive :smile:

Do you really want to hear my booooring :yawn: explanation gwapito?

Here it is then.....

It is different in the Philippines because there's not a lot of single young foreign men that comes and visit the country for a holiday,work or in search for love. They are far too much busy with their work and would maybe rather choose a holiday in countries like Amsterdam,Australia, Ibiza Spain...etc.
Mostly, the one that comes in and out of the Philippines
are the retired foreigners who are on their holiday enjoying their pensions or the ones who want to settle down in the country permanently or the ones who are already married to a Filipina. So meeting a younger foreign man there and fall in love with is very unlikely to happen as there's not a lot of them around the country. (It still happens but not very common). What is common there is meeting an older foreign man as there are lots of them in the country...especially the retired ones who can afford a holiday...who got not work to come back for...so Filipinas who aim to marry a foreign man and get out of the country just settle for what is available. :anerikke: There's not so much of choices I suppose wherein here in the UK, Filipinas here got lots of choices....fishes are everywhere kinda type of thing.:biggrin:


How is it Filipinas find much older men more attractive?


I am not entirely sure about that..:cwm25: If you ask me that question personally, I would say that it's not for me....not my cup of tea :NoNo:... But most people said that older men have lots of life experiences, they are more wiser, more considerate ,will spoil you so much with love and care, will give you everything,very tolerant and :blahblah:.....

[les_taxi]

Poor Nick-he is hoping to find a new love and everyone's on a bout bonking their ladies,talk about rubbing it in:icon_lol:

[Michael Parnham]

Do you really want to hear my booooring :yawn: explanation Gwapito?

Here it is then.....

It is different in the Philippines because there's not a lot of single young foreign men that comes and visit the country for a holiday, work or in search for love. They are far too much busy with their work and would maybe rather choose a holiday in countries like Amsterdam, Australia, Ibiza Spain...etc.

Mostly, the one that comes in and out of the Philippines
are the retired foreigners who are on their holiday enjoying their pensions or the ones who want to settle down in the country permanently or the ones who are already married to a Filipina. So meeting a younger foreign man there and fall in love with is very unlikely to happen as there's not a lot of them around the country. (It still happens but not very common). What is common there is meeting an older foreign man as there are lots of them in the country ... especially the retired ones who can afford a holiday...who got no work to come back for ...so Filipinas who aim to marry a foreign man and get out of the country just settle for what is available. :anerikke: There's not so much of choices I suppose wherein here in the UK, Filipinas here got lots of choices .... fishes are everywhere kinda type of thing.:biggrin:



I am not entirely sure about that..:cwm25: If you ask me that question personally, I would say that it's not for me....not my cup of tea :NoNo:... But most people said that older men have lots of life experiences, they are more wiser, more considerate, will spoil you so much with love and care, will give you everything, very tolerant and :blahblah:.....

True we do care, also we have respect and manners! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[dontpushme]

When people in my town found out that I am engaged to a 28-year old foreign man, they asked me why a young man....? According to them, a young man doesn't have any money, no house, no savings and changes shirt so quick. I told them that I love my fiancé and I can't afford to be in a relationship with a man just for the sake of his money in the first place. They said that I am foolish for using my heart and not my head. They said that if I'm marrying a foreigner, it should be an old one so my future is brighter. Such a shame but that is how people back home judged my relationship. We haven't buy any land nor a house in the Philippines yet, and my mum still cooks and sells her food in the market to make some extra money----people said that this is because I married a young man and life for my family could have been a lot better if I married an older one.

I just ignore everything that they say and carry on living the life I chose to have, besides at the end of the day, this is my life, not theirs.

Matt and I had a similar problem when we were dating. My paternal relatives would have disapproved had he been older than me, but they were okay that he was the same age as my younger brother. On the other hand, my maternal relatives, being from the working class, insisted that I needed to look for someone older who had money and would be able to provide financial security. The thing is, I wasn't even looking for a boyfriend. All my life, my plans were to buy back our farm and raise sheep with maybe one farmhand. Matt wasn't looking for a girlfriend either. He and I just happened to meet on Facebook, and after arguing about football, we eventually hit it off.


So please explain, why is it different when they are in the Philippines. How is it Filipinas find much older men more attractive :smile:

It's not all Filipinas. I'd say it's more of a working class thing to want an older foreigner. A woman I know who married a Belgian twice her age said she was just so tired of working her fingers to the bone and not having any money to show for it after having paid for her younger siblings' school fees. Another reason I've seen is that the men in our working class really have that much less respect for the women. When Matt and I attended a family planning seminar that was required for the marriage license, we were one of only two couples out of 30 that didn't already have kids or who weren't getting a shotgun wedding because the woman was pregnant. As the nurse talked about contraception and the importance of spacing out pregnancies, the men in the room started bragging that they'd just cheat on their wives. I was dumbstruck that not a single woman defended herself from the public humiliation. In fact, the women all just meekly sat there staring down at their baby bumps and looking like trapped rabbits. Matt had no idea what was going on (it was all in Tagalog), but he said he could feel the fury practically emanating from me. How could I not be furious? The men proudly announced that they WOULD cheat because it was their nature as men, and their wives couldn't do a thing about it. The consensus among the men was that if the women confronted the men about the cheating, or cheated in retaliation, then they'd better not come home at all. And that was only one of the many times I met working class Filipinos who truly believed that cheating was a man's right. If you were a woman who felt that powerless financially or emotionally, would you not prefer an older foreigner too?

Something many working class mothers "jokingly" teach their daughters is to look for a man who is matandang mayamang madaling mamatay (aka the three M's). Roughly translated, it means a man who is old, rich, and decrepit (read: ready to die and bequeath everything to you). As you can see in aprilmae's example, many people do seriously want their daughters to marry old foreigners. In my maternal grandmother's case, she was also quite enamoured with pale skin so she added that to the list "for the improvement of the species". I felt like a breeding dog whenever she told me that. I was in the 6th grade (year 7) when she first told me to stop my stupid fantasizing about buying back our farm and to look for an old white man who would provide for me. When she saw Matt while I was on Skype, she just told me to ask Matt if he had any older relatives who'd be interested in me. Fortunately, that was all said in Bisaya.

Having said all that, being open to marrying an older foreigner isn't the same as actually wanting to marry an older foreigner. You may be hard-pressed to find a middle-class Filipina who wants to marry an old foreigner, but I'm sure there are lots who are at least open to it if they're approached by the right man.

[marksroomspain]

And I was having breakfast before breakfast :Sex:

Had a lovely muffin for my breakfast...:wink:

[marksroomspain]

Poor Nick-he is hoping to find a new love and everyone's on about bonking their ladies, talk about rubbing it in :icon_lol:

Yes hope he finds the lady who mesmerises him with those come to bed eyes and long silky hair with the body of a temple...:biggrin:

Hold on back in 20 mins....:laugher:

[marksroomspain]

Matt and I had a similar problem when we were dating. My paternal relatives would have disapproved had he been older than me, but they were okay that he was the same age as my younger brother. On the other hand, my maternal relatives, being from the working class, insisted that I needed to look for someone older who had money and would be able to provide financial security. The thing is, I wasn't even looking for a boyfriend. All my life, my plans were to buy back our farm and raise sheep with maybe one farmhand. Matt wasn't looking for a girlfriend either. He and I just happened to meet on Facebook, and after arguing about football, we eventually hit it off.



It's not all Filipinas. I'd say it's more of a working class thing to want an older foreigner. One of the women I know, who agreed to marry a Belgian man twice her age, said she was just so tired of working her fingers to the bone and not having any money to show for it after having paid for her younger siblings' school fees. Another reason I've seen is that the men in our working class really have that much less respect for the women. When Matt and I attended a family planning seminar that was required for the marriage certificate, we were one of only two couples out of 30 that didn't already have kids or who weren't getting a shotgun wedding because the woman was pregnant. As the nurse talked about contraception and the importance of spacing out pregnancies, the men in the room started bragging that they'd just cheat on their wives. I was dumbstruck that not a single woman defended herself from the public humiliation. In fact, the women all just meekly sat there staring down at their baby bumps and looking like trapped rabbits. Matt had no idea what was going on (it was all in Tagalog), but he said he could feel the fury practically emanating from me. How could I not be furious? The men proudly announced that they WOULD cheat because it was their nature as men, and their wives couldn't do a thing about it. If they confronted the men about the cheating, or cheated in retaliation, they'd better not come home at all. And that was only one of the many times I met working class Filipinos who truly believed that cheating was a man's right. If you were a woman who felt that powerless financially or emotionally, would you not prefer an older foreigner too?

Something many working class mothers "jokingly" teach their daughters is to look for a man who is matandang mayamang madaling mamatay. Roughly translated, it means a man who is old, rich, and decrepit (read: ready to die and bequeath everything to you). As you can see in aprilmae's example, many people do seriously want their daughters to marry old foreigners. In my maternal grandmother's case, she was also quite enamoured with pale skin so she added that to the list "for the improvement of the species". I felt like a breeding dog whenever she told me that. I was in the 6th grade (year 7) when she first told me to stop my stupid fantasizing about buying back our farm and to look for an old white man who would provide for me. When she saw Matt while I was on Skype, she just told me to ask Matt if he had any older relatives who'd be interested in me. Fortunately, that was all said in Bisaya.

Having said all that, being open to marrying an older foreigner isn't the same as actually wanting to marry an older foreigner. You may be hard-pressed to find a middle-class Filipina who wants to marry an old foreigner, but I'm sure there are lots who are at least open to it if they're approached by the right man.

You really do impress me with your thought out presentation of posts on here.

Stick around, a breath of fresh air really intriguing and well done...:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[dontpushme]

:icon_lol: Thanks! I do apologise to everyone for the longwindedness.:doh

[Nick30]

I enjoyed reading all the comments on my topic. So good stories. Is there a wife for me? I'm hoping and praying ��

[dontpushme]

Good luck with your search, Nick! I sincerely hope you find the woman of your dreams without wading through too much BS from scammers.

[marksroomspain]

:icon_lol: Thanks! I do apologise to everyone for the longwindedness.:doh

Really love your sense of humour and direction, I misjudged earlier posts but guess what you really have made me smile and thats an achievement by itself....:laugher:

Wish you and your hubby all the best for the future...:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[marksroomspain]

I enjoyed reading all the comments on my topic. So good stories. Is there a wife for me? I'm hoping and praying ��

Nick hope you do find the one.

I admit I was lucky and found a genuine one even after working 12 hours she still had the time to chat to me for up to 4 hours online and running out in the pouring rain to a internet cafe poor girl but eh but I felt that connection from almost the start.

My girl was a qualified nurse from a middle class family who grew up in Manila then moved to Rizal in the provinces.

A really respectful family who I felt genuine love from and spending time there was the happiest days of my life mmm wish I was back.

Anyway enough of me babbling on just stay wise be yourself and take your time, everything will come good.

Good luck buddy take care.....:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[fred]

All my life, my plans were to buy back our farm and raise sheep with maybe one farmhand.

Sheep? :Erm:
Dont you mean goats or pigs?

[marksroomspain]

Sheep? :Erm:
Dont you mean goats or pigs?

:doh

[fred]

:doh

Hey.. You never know.. I am always looking for a source of good quality lamb and this could be it!!

I`ll keep my fingers crossed!

[dontpushme]

Nope, we've never had goats, and only had one sow and her piglets for family consumption. The sheep fared better in the cold, wet climate of Bicol than goats would have. We had Poll Dorset and Border Leicester sheep when I was young, and the meat went straight to restaurants and hotels in Manila. At our palengke stall in Naga, my dad used to sell beef instead.

[fred]

Nope, we've never had goats, and only had one sow and her piglets for family consumption. The sheep fared better in the cold, wet climate of Bicol than goats would have. We had Poll Dorset and Border Leicester sheep when I was young, and the meat went straight to restaurants and hotels in Manila. At our palengke stall in Naga, my dad used to sell beef instead.

Thats very interesting..As I said,I`d love to find a good source of lamb over here..I have 3 bottles of mince sauce in my ref waiting.
Any suggestions?
There are many breeds of animal that one would not expect to find here in the R.P.. One of my neighbours has Ostriches for instance!!

[Nick30]

lol.

Thanks for all the lovely messages of encouragement people :)

[grahamw48]

An Australian acquaintance of mine raised sheep in Bicol...also meat Rabbits.

I bought some Rabbit breeding stock from him. :smile:

[gWaPito]

:icon_lol: Thanks! I do apologise to everyone for the longwindedness.:doh

Maybe longwinded but, interesting! I'm addicted :icon_lol::xxgrinning--00xx3:

[gWaPito]

Matt and I had a similar problem when we were dating. My paternal relatives would have disapproved had he been older than me, but they were okay that he was the same age as my younger brother. On the other hand, my maternal relatives, being from the working class, insisted that I needed to look for someone older who had money and would be able to provide financial security. The thing is, I wasn't even looking for a boyfriend. All my life, my plans were to buy back our farm and raise sheep with maybe one farmhand. Matt wasn't looking for a girlfriend either. He and I just happened to meet on Facebook, and after arguing about football, we eventually hit it off.



It's not all Filipinas. I'd say it's more of a working class thing to want an older foreigner. A woman I know who married a Belgian twice her age said she was just so tired of working her fingers to the bone and not having any money to show for it after having paid for her younger siblings' school fees. Another reason I've seen is that the men in our working class really have that much less respect for the women. When Matt and I attended a family planning seminar that was required for the marriage license, we were one of only two couples out of 30 that didn't already have kids or who weren't getting a shotgun wedding because the woman was pregnant. As the nurse talked about contraception and the importance of spacing out pregnancies, the men in the room started bragging that they'd just cheat on their wives. I was dumbstruck that not a single woman defended herself from the public humiliation. In fact, the women all just meekly sat there staring down at their baby bumps and looking like trapped rabbits. Matt had no idea what was going on (it was all in Tagalog), but he said he could feel the fury practically emanating from me. How could I not be furious? The men proudly announced that they WOULD cheat because it was their nature as men, and their wives couldn't do a thing about it. The consensus among the men was that if the women confronted the men about the cheating, or cheated in retaliation, then they'd better not come home at all. And that was only one of the many times I met working class Filipinos who truly believed that cheating was a man's right. If you were a woman who felt that powerless financially or emotionally, would you not prefer an older foreigner too?

Something many working class mothers "jokingly" teach their daughters is to look for a man who is matandang mayamang madaling mamatay (aka the three M's). Roughly translated, it means a man who is old, rich, and decrepit (read: ready to die and bequeath everything to you). As you can see in aprilmae's example, many people do seriously want their daughters to marry old foreigners. In my maternal grandmother's case, she was also quite enamoured with pale skin so she added that to the list "for the improvement of the species". I felt like a breeding dog whenever she told me that. I was in the 6th grade (year 7) when she first told me to stop my stupid fantasizing about buying back our farm and to look for an old white man who would provide for me. When she saw Matt while I was on Skype, she just told me to ask Matt if he had any older relatives who'd be interested in me. Fortunately, that was all said in Bisaya.

Having said all that, being open to marrying an older foreigner isn't the same as actually wanting to marry an older foreigner. You may be hard-pressed to find a middle-class Filipina who wants to marry an old foreigner, but I'm sure there are lots who are at least open to it if they're approached by the right man.

I could have done with reading this valuable info 8 years ago :biggrin::xxgrinning--00xx3:

A deserved rep on its way

[tiger31]

I love my old man grahamw48 only because he is a sex machine . :biggrin:did he pay you to say that :biggrin:

[Michael Parnham]

Had a lovely muffin for my breakfast...:wink:

Like it!:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[grahamw48]

did he pay you to say that :biggrin:

No ! :t11t2: :biggrin:

[dontpushme]

Thats very interesting..As I said,I`d love to find a good source of lamb over here..I have 3 bottles of mince sauce in my ref waiting.
Any suggestions?
There are many breeds of animal that one would not expect to find here in the R.P.. One of my neighbours has Ostriches for instance!!

I think Rustan's Supermarket or S&R might have it, but I'll check with my family where they get their lamb these days. Are you in Cagayan de Oro, by the way?


I could have done with reading this valuable info 8 years ago :biggrin::xxgrinning--00xx3:

A deserved rep on its way

Which part, the bit where you could swoop down and save a lovely young woman from a cruel relationship, or the bit where you could be her family's dream come true?:biggrin:

Thanks for the rep!

[les_taxi]

Wow now we are talking about lamb and ostrich:icon_lol:
Nick I might go over in Jan/Feb maybe we should team up?

[Nick30]

That will be cool. Yes maybe.

[aprilmaejon]

Which part, the bit where you could swoop down and save a lovely young woman from a cruel relationship, or the bit where you could be her family's dream come true?:biggrin:

Nice one dontpushme! :xxgrinning--00xx3::laugher:

[gWaPito]

I think Rustan's Supermarket or S&R might have it, but I'll check with my family where they get their lamb these days. Are you in Cagayan de Oro, by the way?



Which part, the bit where you could swoop down and save a lovely young woman from a cruel relationship, or the bit where you could be her family's dream come true?:biggrin:

Thanks for the rep!

You're welcome Denise :biggrin:

I actually inadvertently made 2 Filipino families dream come true. ..and saved one wife from continuing her life in the whore house. If that don't get me to Heaven, I'll be well upset :icon_lol::xxgrinning--00xx3:

[dontpushme]

Well, aren't we the knight in shining armour?:xxgrinning--00xx3: It sounds like you're well on your way to earning a spot in Heaven too, though it doesn't sound like you knew you were making people's dreams come true.:icon_lol:

[Trefor]

did he pay you to say that :biggrin:

I suspect Graham has 2 accounts :smile:

[gWaPito]

Well, aren't we the knight in shining armour?:xxgrinning--00xx3: It sounds like you're well on your way to earning a spot in Heaven too, though it doesn't sound like you knew you were making people's dreams come true.:icon_lol:

If I can only give Nick one piece of advice, if you're serious about finding a life partner I'd say stay away from prostitutes or supposedly ex prostitutes, quaintly known in The Philippines as bar girls. .to me a whore is a whore no matter how it's packaged.

These folks come with their own box of issues. ..life's tough enough as it is without adding to it.

Take your time and find a nice lady in a province.

[Longweekend]

and there are plenty.....:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[grahamw48]

Good advice Mark. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[tiger31]

That will be cool. Yes maybe.

Nick, you will have no chance of pulling a bird hanging around with Les :biggrin:

[fred]

Nick you will have no chance of pulling a bird hanging around with Les :biggrin:

:icon_lol:

[tiger31]

If I can only give Nick one piece of advice, if you're serious about finding a life partner I'd say stay away from prostitutes or supposedly ex prostitutes, quaintly known in The Philippines as bar girls. .to me a whore is a whore no matter how it's packaged.

These folks come with their own box of issues. ..life's tough enough as it is without adding to it.

Take your time and find a nice lady in a province.

:xxgrinning--00xx3: Well said brother, all he has to do is go to a sari store and say to the owner I,m looking for a wife and hey presto he,ll be swamped once the word gets out on the bamboo telegraph pole hahahaha

[London_Manila]

Wow now we are talking about lamb and ostrich :icon_lol:

Nick I might go over in Jan/Feb maybe we should team up?

Sounds like a great idea to me :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Take him under your wing and make sure he does not get taken to the cleaners......

[Michael Parnham]

That will be cool. Yes maybe.

I really think that a very good idea! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Rosie1958]

.......... Nick I might go over in Jan/Feb maybe we should team up?

That is SUCH a very kind offer Les, well done! :xxgrinning--00xx3: Good luck to you both!

[Nick30]

Thanks so much for the advice Mark and to you all. Really enjoy hearing peoples views on my topic. :)

[grahamw48]

Nick, you will have no chance of pulling a bird hanging around with Les :biggrin:

I'd assumed Les was already shacked up with a hot Filipina. :Erm:

[Nick30]

That's what I thought too.

[les_taxi]

No - split in 2011.

So free and single!

[tiger31]

Yeah, you boys can come and visit me. Now that would be exciting :xxparty-smiley-004:

[les_taxi]

Nick, you will have no chance of pulling a bird hanging around with Les :biggrin:

I'm a ladyboy magnet what you talking about Tiger :biggrin:

[les_taxi]

I'm still chatting to a couple on Cherry Blossoms,some days tho i just can't be arsed-and there is a world cup coming up which will take up my time:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[les_taxi]

Just chatted to a new one and warned her what to expect on Cherry Blossoms-she said thank you and can I call you DAD:yikes::icon_lol:

[fred]

I'm still chatting to a couple on Cherry Blossoms

What!!:yikes:
They have a threesome swinger section on those things?
I might have a gander myself!!

Lady members.. I WAS ONLY JOKING.:cwm25:

:peepwall:

[les_taxi]

Lady members.. I WAS ONLY JOKING
Yea course you were Fred:hubbahubba:

[gWaPito]

Just chatted to a new one and warned her what to expect on Cherry Blossoms-she said thank you and can I call you DAD:yikes::icon_lol:

My wife used to call me daddy...didn't matter where we were be it in bed or in the shops.
I've only been called Mark amongst the expletives since we split.

[les_taxi]

Err it's creepy :yikes:

I had a girlfriend when I was living at my dad's years ago - I hated her name (Cyd). Can you imagine my dads horror if he had heard me saying 'Oh Cyd,Oh Cyd') :yikes:

[aprilmaejon]

Just chatted to a new one and warned her what to expect on Cherry Blossoms-she said thank you and can I call you DAD:yikes::icon_lol:

That tickles me! :laugher::laugher::laugher:

[Nick30]

Me and Les are free. Hope we can get to know some Pinays.

[Michael Parnham]

Me and Les are free. Hope we can get to know some Pinays.

You'll be fine Nick, Dad will look after you!:biggrin:

[marksroomspain]

Me and Les are free. Hope we can get to know some Pinays.

Enjoy Nick, a paradise trust me....:biggrin::xxgrinning--00xx3:

[dontpushme]

My wife used to call me daddy...didn't matter where we were be it in bed or in the shops.
I've only been called Mark amongst the expletives since we split.

Haha! You'll find that quite a few Pinays don't really have daddy issues but like to call their partners Dad or Daddy anyway. It's probably because of the whole "sugar daddy" thing. That, and they probably got it from gays who like to call their partners Papa.

[grahamw48]

It saves them having to remember your name.:wink:

[fred]

Got a mate here...He call her Ma...She calls him Pa...They are about the same age with kids..
When I leave his bar in the evening,I say.."Goodnight Ma..Goodnight Pa...Goodnight Mary Ellen..Goodnight Jon boy...Goodnight.... Oh sod it,I`ll stay...Give me one more beer"!!

[gWaPito]

Got a mate here...He call her Ma...She calls him Pa...They are about the same age with kids..
When I leave his bar in the evening,I say.."Goodnight Ma..Goodnight Pa...Goodnight Mary Ellen..Goodnight Jon boy...Goodnight.... Oh sod it,I`ll stay...Give me one more beer"!!

Ah, The Walton's :biggrin: Happy days!!

We used to give it the goodnight thing when we all went to bed at the same time..5 of us siblings and mum and dad...Just like at the end of a Walton's programme :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[gWaPito]

It saves them having to remember your name.:wink:

My first Filipina wife used to call me 'Hun' or Honey.......Like you said, Graham.. beats having to remember small details like names :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[gWaPito]

Haha! You'll find that quite a few Pinays don't really have daddy issues but like to call their partners Dad or Daddy anyway. It's probably because of the whole "sugar daddy" thing. That, and they probably got it from gays who like to call their partners Papa.

I didnt know it came frm that, Denise :biggrin::xxgrinning--00xx3:

[gWaPito]

Well, aren't we the knight in shining armour?:xxgrinning--00xx3: It sounds like you're well on your way to earning a spot in Heaven too, though it doesn't sound like you knew you were making people's dreams come true.:icon_lol:

Well, there's comfort in numbers:cwm25: I'm not the first mug and I won't be the last. If it all seems too good to be true, it probably is.

[Jentobeharrison]

My first Filipina wife used to call me 'Hun' or Honey.......Like you said, Graham.. beats having to remember small details like names :xxgrinning--00xx3:
My fiance asked me if there are racist nicknames that my family and friends call him, I said I dont think they need one because Joe (his real nickname) is already a stereotyped nickname of a white man for filipinos so I never called him Joe again when i told him that, I tried dad but it was awkward as he has a daughter, so babe for normal moods, and Joseph when I am angry. lol

[tiger31]

Just chatted to a new one and warned her what to expect on Cherry Blossoms-she said thank you and can I call you DAD:yikes::icon_lol:
lol and yes world cup is far more important i,m scurrying around now trying to get sky cable into my house for the start of it ,balls sports channel is covering every match

[Michael Parnham]

My first Filipina wife used to call me 'Hun' or Honey.......Like you said, Graham.. beats having to remember small details like names :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Maritess sometimes calls me Dad, I like it! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Michael Parnham]

Ah, The Walton's :biggrin: Happy days!!

We used to give it the goodnight thing when we all went to bed at the same time..5 of us siblings and mum and dad...Just like at the end of a Walton's programme :xxgrinning--00xx3:

I like it Mark, sounds nice! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[aprilmaejon]

My mum calls my dad "PA", and my dad calls my mum "MA"...

I THINK, we Filipinos just love the idea of using ENDEARMENTS to our partners. Gf and Bf thing in the Philippines has got different endearments such as (Bhe, Boo, Baba which are all short names for Baby; Mhe, Moo, Dhe, Dada which are all short names for mommy and daddy... Even others call their partners strawberries, pears, etc). We find these endearments romantic... We uses these endearments regardless of the age of our partners.

Here in the UK I have found people use endearments (DARLING, LOVE, MY LOVE, HONEY, SWEETHEART, DEAR) such an ordinary thing to call anyone. In the Philippines, using those terms to someone is really awkward. We only use those to someone very special to us like gf/bf/husband/wife.

Have you all notice that we never call our mother, brother, uncle, auntie, brothers, sisters just on their names? We always attach KUYA or ATE to our brothers and sisters names and even to anyone who are older than us...this is how we show respect to them. We never call them by their names alone...

[Terpe]

...Here in the UK I have found people use endearments (DARLING, LOVE, MY LOVE, HONEY, SWEETHEART, DEAR) such an ordinary thing to call anyone. In the Philippines, using those terms to someone is really awkward. We only use those to someone very special to us like gf/bf/husband/wife. ...

Some years ago we had a couple of priests from Philippines visit us in UK.
They were so confused about being called love, darling sweetheart etc

A couple of times in the supermarket the check-out lady would say something like "OK darlin thankyou see you later" at first they really thought she wanted to meet up with them later...

:icon_lol::icon_lol:

[Nick30]

My now ex called me hun, honey or honey bunch.

[marksroomspain]

My baby calls me "Babe" I love that term of endearment and would never want it to change....:biggrin: I refer to her as "Darl or Princess" its just stuck with us for over 2 years....:smile:

[aprilmaejon]

My baby calls me "Babe" I love that term of endearment and would never want it to change....:biggrin: I refer to her as "Darl or Princess" its just stuck with us for over 2 years....:smile:

Me and my husband uses "Baby or sweetheart" since we are dating...but most of the time he calls me "BABYCHEEKS"..:wink:

[marksroomspain]

Me and my husband uses "Baby or sweetheart" since we are dating...but most of the time he calls me "BABYCHEEKS"..:wink:

Thats what I love about filipina girls even after marriage they are still devoted to their husbands well most are....:icon_lol:

Marriage or relationship to a western girl is more like :cuss::cuss::cuss:.....:laugher:

Well I suppose I know what I prefer.....:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Jentobeharrison]

Thats what I love about filipina girls even after marriage they are still devoted to their husbands well most are....:icon_lol:

Marriage or relationship to a western girl is more like :cuss::cuss::cuss:.....:laugher:



Well I suppose I know what I prefer.....:xxgrinning--00xx3:


What's the name of your wife Mark? She's beautiful! I love her make up! :biggrin: I don't know how to put make up though? hahaha

[gWaPito]

Maritess sometimes calls me Dad, I like it! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

I did as well, Michael :biggrin:

[grahamw48]

My ex always called me dad too.

I think it was just to differentiate me from the kids, when issuing orders or rebukes, which was sometimes difficult. :biggrin:

[stevie c]

My wife always calls me mahal

[KeithD]

I can't get what my wife calls me past the swear filter :icon_lol:

[Rory]

I hope I can meet a lovely genuine girl and if any member on this forum knows anyone either friends or family then I will be so grateful to be introduced to them and get to know them.


This is a hard ask Nick. My wife has a cousin that would love to chat and get to know a guy from the UK. She is a real genuine girl, very honest and down to earth, 35 years old and has a fantastic body shape, pretty face and is working as a teacher in Manila, sound perfect I know but........ I know this girl very well as I see her often when my wife and I are over there. I do not know how I could recommend anyone for her as I would feel very guilt-ridden if she was hurt by someone that I introduced to her. I do not know what others might do in this situation but I cannot put any guy forward for her.

All I can say is, just keep looking and chatting with girls and when it feels right make a bold decision and fly out there. Yes, it costs money and it might not work out - but, if you are really wanting to find one, you will have to take the chance.

[grahamw48]

Fair comment Rory. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[marksroomspain]

What's the name of your wife Mark? She's beautiful! I love her make up! :biggrin: I don't know how to put make up though? hahaha

Hiya Jen she's called Jemiery or as all know her by the name of Jamie.

She's been on a strenuous fitness program the last couple of months and I'm following suit.....:wink:

I suppose all filipinas like to look good. That's why I fell so badly for one...:biggrin:.....:smile:

[raynaputi]

I can't get what my wife calls me past the swear filter :icon_lol:

Hahahahaha :laugher::biggrin:

I call Keith baby, bebe, bubu..:biggrin:

If I'm mad, refer to what he said above..hahahahahaha :laugher:

[Michael Parnham]

This is a hard ask Nick. My wife has a cousin that would love to chat and get to know a guy from the UK. She is a real genuine girl, very honest and down to earth, 35 years old and has a fantastic body shape, pretty face and is working as a teacher in Manila, sound perfect, I know but........ I know this girl very well as I see her often when my wife and i are over there. I do not know how I could recommend anyone for her as I would feel very guilt-ridden if she was hurt by someone that I introduced to her. I do not know what others might do in this situation but I cannot put any guy forward for her.

All I can say, is just keep looking and chatting with girls and when it feels right make a bold decision and fly out there. Yes, it costs money and it might not work out but, if you are really wanting to find one, you will have to take the chance.

If Nick is interested, by all means introduce them Rory! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[les_taxi]

The problem with that is, if they don't hit it off it's a bit awkward.

Happened to me on here. I sort of got introduced to someone but did not feel a match. Then you feel awkward about ìt so best just not do it here.

[Michael Parnham]

The problem with that is, if they don't hit it off it's a bit awkward.

Happened to me on here. I sort of got introduced to someone but did not feel a match. Then you feel awkward about ìt, so best just not do it here.

Just my opinion Les, if I was in Nick's position I would be very pleased to be given a contact! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Jentobeharrison]

Hiya Jen she's called Jemiery or as all know her by the name of Jamie.

She's been on a strenuous fitness program the last couple of months and I'm following suit.....:wink:

I suppose all filipinas like to look good. That's why I fell so badly for one...:biggrin:.....:smile:



That's good for you both then, she's really pretty!

[dontpushme]

My mum calls my dad "PA", and my dad calls my mum "MA"...

I THINK, we Filipinos just love the idea of using ENDEARMENTS to our partners. Gf and Bf thing in the Philippines has got different endearments such as (Bhe, Boo, Baba which are all short names for Baby; Mhe, Moo, Dhe, Dada which are all short names for mommy and daddy... Even others call their partners strawberries, pears, etc). We find these endearments romantic... We uses these endearments regardless of the age of our partners.

Here in the UK I have found people use endearments (DARLING, LOVE, MY LOVE, HONEY, SWEETHEART, DEAR) such an ordinary thing to call anyone. In the Philippines, using those terms to someone is really awkward. We only use those to someone very special to us like gf/bf/husband/wife.

One term of endearment used on this forum that I've taken a while to get used to is "my mahal". When I first joined the forum, I didn't know how to respond to posts about "my mahal". Was I supposed to refer to the woman as "your mahal" then?:Erm: Mahal literally means dear, as in "that handbag is dear" (mahal yang handbag) or "you're dear to me" (mahal kita). It felt weird to be talking about "your dear". Haha! I eventually just decided to find other ways to refer to the wives in the posts.:xxgrinning--00xx3:


Have you all notice that we never call our mother, brother, uncle, auntie, brothers, sisters just on their names? We always attach KUYA or ATE to our brothers and sisters names and even to anyone who are older than us...this is how we show respect to them. We never call them by their names alone...

It took me ages to get past the way people here call others by their first names, no matter the age difference. In the area where I lived in the US, younger people called older people Ms. <first name> or Mr. <first name>. They also used ma'am or sir when talking to elders, kinda like the way we use po and opo.

[Nick30]

Thanks for all those comments especially to Rory giving a description of this girl.

[Arthur Little]

I do not know how I could recommend anyone for her as I would feel very guilt-ridden if she was hurt by someone that I introduced to her. I do not know what others might do in this situation but I cannot put any guy forward for her.

Having gotten to "know" Nick - as well as it's possible for anyone to form an impression about someone else through regular written contact over several years - Rory ... I believe I'm in a position to confidently vouch for the fact that here is a decent, Christian bloke who, in my humble - but honest - opinion, would be the very last person to treat the "finer feelings" of a nice lady like your wife's cousin with anything other than the greatest respect. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[marksroomspain]

Having gotten to "know" Nick - as well as it's possible for anyone to form an impression about someone else through frequent correspondence over several years - Rory ... I believe I'm in a position to confidently vouch for the fact that here is a decent, Christian bloke who, in my humble - but honest - opinion, would be the very last person to treat the "finer feelings" of a nice lady like your wife's cousin dwith anything other than the greatest respect. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

Arthur I applaud you...:appl:

Also my sentiments......:xxgrinning--00xx3:

[grahamw48]

Could be worse.


She could have been fixed up with me...or Les...or Dedworth. :yikes: :icon_lol:

[les_taxi]

Could be worse.


She could have been fixed up with me...or Les...or Dedworth. :yikes: :icon_lol:

I would be forever apologising :icon_lol:

[gWaPito]

Having gotten to "know" Nick - as well as it's possible for anyone to form an impression about someone else through regular written contact over several years - Rory ... I believe I'm in a position to confidently vouch for the fact that here is a decent, Christian bloke who, in my humble - but honest - opinion, would be the very last person to treat the "finer feelings" of a nice lady like your wife's cousin with anything other than the greatest respect. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

A well intentioned post Arthur :xxgrinning--00xx3: but, none of us really know anybody on here unless you know them in the flesh and that's if you live with them :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[grahamw48]

Mark...I agree. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[les_taxi]

Just chatted to one. After 5 mins she was enquiring about a small loan! It's getting worse :doh

[aprilmaejon]

Just chatted to one. After 5 mins she was enquiring about a small loan! It's getting worse :doh


Oooooh dear...:doh

[les_taxi]

Just chatted to one after 5 mins she was enquiring about a small loan! It's getting worse:doh

It got even worse - she then offered a 'SHOW!' for 1,500 php-I was tempted to say can you do the Morecambe and Wise 1977 Xmas special :icon_lol:

Seriously, that's me off the dating sites - can't be arsed anymore.

As mentioned before, maybe just best to go over and see what's what when there :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[stevewool]

Times they are a changing, so they say, maybe I was lucky when I was on the site, all them years ago.

Have you thought about asking if there are any sisters or aunts out there from our lovely ladies who are here already?

Just a thought!

[les_taxi]

I was lucky on a site back in 2007. Times have changed now and it's as if word has gotten out to look for men offering money now in the majority of cases. Shame as there still will be plenty of genuine ones but it's too much like hard work. At this rate, I might have to date an English girl. :yikes::icon_lol:

I'm sure there are some nice relatives of people on here but like I mentioned, I would feel awkward if introduced and the 'Spark' wasn't there and might feel I would have to continue chatting so as not to look mean.

[aprilmaejon]

Times they are a changing, so they say, maybe I was lucky when I was on the site, all them years ago.

Have you thought about asking if there are any sisters or aunts out there from our lovely ladies who are here already?

Just a thought!

My bestfriend is very keen to meet someone from the UK, (1st reason is I'm here in the UK and she wants to be closer to me, 2nd is she's never attracted to Filipino Men). She is a very intelligent person and "A PRIM AND PROPER" kind of a lady. 24 years old but very mature. A graduate of Nursing and currently working in a call centre. My reason for being reluctant to introduce her to anyone I do not know well personally is that she never have a boyfriend, as in never...she focused herself on her studies and now to work to support her family ever since her father died ; and I don't want myself to blame if ever she will fall and got hurt in the end. She's been chatting quite a while now but no luck of finding a serious man. My husband spoke to his single friends, recommended her but all of them aren't interested to commit in a long distance relationship.

Me and her during my wedding last month...
http://i66.photobucket.com/albums/h259/aprilmaejon/imagejpg1_zps70b0f255.jpg (http://s66.photobucket.com/user/aprilmaejon/media/imagejpg1_zps70b0f255.jpg.html)

[stevewool]

Beautiful you both are, and I understand what you are saying too, its very hard and if it goes wrong you will only blame yourself too, but you never know it could be the best thing you do too, you just dont realize how lucky we all are who have found someone who we love and want to spend the rest of our life with

[Nick30]

Well said Arthur mate. Hear Hear :D

[Nick30]

She looks so nice and beautiful aprilmae and I would be interested :)

[melovesengland]

Hi Nick! My sisters friend Irene is a singlemother I dont know if your interested but she is really nice. She's got a little store (sari2x store) in Davao Philippines as a way of living. I am not sure if she is on online dating but if you like I could ask her. Just give a go ahead signal if you're fine with that.

[FilipinaDiver]

My bestfriend is very keen to meet someone from the UK, (1st reason is I'm here in the UK and she wants to be closer to me, 2nd is she's never attracted to Filipino Men). She is a very intelligent person and "A PRIM AND PROPER" kind of a lady. 24 years old but very mature. A graduate of Nursing and currently working in a call centre. My reason for being reluctant to introduce her to anyone I do not know well personally is that she never have a boyfriend, as in never...she focused herself on her studies and now to work to support her family ever since her father died ; and I don't want myself to blame if ever she will fall and got hurt in the end. She's been chatting quite a while now but no luck of finding a serious man. My husband spoke to his single friends, recommended her but all of them aren't interested to commit in a long distance relationship.

Me and her during my wedding last month...
http://i66.photobucket.com/albums/h259/aprilmaejon/imagejpg1_zps70b0f255.jpg (http://s66.photobucket.com/user/aprilmaejon/media/imagejpg1_zps70b0f255.jpg.html)

Lucky you for having a best friend that is interested to an English man! And to move closer to you. My husband is always on the hunt for guys for my best friend, but she's in a relationship right now with a Filipino of which I don't approve of. No man is good enough for my best friend I must admit, specifically that guy she is with now. :cwm23:

So we're left helping her go through a longer route to come here in the UK, which is thru a work visa :smile:

[Nick30]

Good luck with it. What job is she applying for?

[les_taxi]

:yikes: The woman who I had previously chatted to who wanted to do a 'Show' for me just came on begging me for money, she enabled webcam and started chatting.

Next thing she says do i like gays? I said I'm straight - she said that she was a he :yikes:

Could not get away fast enough.

So from looking for a nice filipina I'm now a gay magnet :icon_lol:

Time to pull someone/anyone locally to restore my sanity :doh

[raynaputi]

:yikes: The woman who I had previously chatted to who wanted to do a 'Show' for me just came on begging me for money, she enabled webcam and started chatting.

Next thing she says do I like gays? I said I'm straight - she said that she was a he :yikes:

Could not get away fast enough.

So from looking for a nice filipina I'm now a gay magnet :icon_lol:

Time to pull someone/anyone locally to restore my sanity :doh

:icon_lol::biggrin:

[Dedworth]

:yikes: The woman who I had previously chatted to who wanted to do a 'Show' for me just came on begging me for money, she enabled webcam and started chatting.

Next thing she says do i like gays? I said I'm straight - she said that she was a he :yikes:

Could not get away fast enough.

So from looking for a nice filipina I'm now a gay magnet :icon_lol:

Time to pull someone/anyone locally to restore my sanity :doh


:laugher:

Shaved her legs and then he was a she
She said, hey babe, take a walk on the wild side,
Said, hey honey, take a walk on the wild side.

[les_taxi]

Lou Reed, indeed! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[melovesengland]

Lucky you for having a best friend that is interested to an English man! And to move closer to you. My husband is always on the hunt for guys for my best friend, but she's in a relationship right now with a Filipino of which I don't approve of. No man is good enough for my best friend I must admit, specifically that guy she is with now. :cwm23:

So we're left helping her go through a longer route to come here in the UK, which is thru a work visa :smile:

At least your friend is happy with her filo bf, I don't see the point of letting her meet other bloke if she isn't interested. If she wants to come to the UK badly, she will find way and there will always be way so just be happy for her. :):xxgrinning--00xx3:

[FilipinaDiver]

Hello melovesengland!!! Let us just say that her bf right now is a typical Filipino, we caught him cheating once while she was working abroad. Women generally are more forgiving, something a husband won't do when he catches his wife cheating with other guy. As her best friend, all I could do is to be with her.

[melovesengland]

hello melovesengland!!! Let us just say that her bf right now is a typical Filipino, we caught him cheating once while she was working abroad. Women generally are more forgiving, something a husband won't do when he catches his wife cheating with other guy. As her best friend, all I could do is to be with her.

Indeed, love. Shame, I know but she is happy at the mo. All we could do is hope that she will finally wake up. Time will come, I'm sure! :)

[worthingmale]

I got scammed, but did it make me bitter, nope just taught me a lot.

Just have to keep on going and one day it will happen.

I am still looking as well.

[grahamw48]

When they ask for money on the dating sites, just move on.

Still plenty of nice genuine girls out there. :smile:

(The lady on my avatar is one of them...met on DIA).

[cheekee]

I met my fiance on DIA also.

Have to say though that I did meet so many scammers before meeting her.

[les_taxi]

It'a fairly easy to spot the scammers. Within 30 mins of chat time money will be mentioned for a variety of reasons - just drop them immediately and move on.

Sounds a bit harsh but you can waste so much time.

[Ako Si Jamie]

Split up with my Pinay earlier this year around three years into an LDR. Took this long for the exaggerated stories to surface and the requests for money to begin. I'm pretty sure the family put her up to it and they were seen as pillars of the community too. I did everything right apart from underestimating the family. I don't regret meeting her, though.

[Dedworth]

I'm sorry to hear that Jamie, sounds like you made the right decision, I wondered where you'd gone.

Plenty more fish in the sea, onwards & upwards :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Terpe]

Split up with my Pinay earlier this year around three years into an LDR. Took this long for the exaggerated stories to surface and the requests for money to begin. I'm pretty sure the family put her up to it and they were seen as pillars of the community too. I did everything right apart from underestimating the family. I don't regret meeting her, though.

Hi Jamie
Genuinely sorry to learn that.
That's a long time. Surely something unusual.
Take care mate.

Glad to see you posting :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Ako Si Jamie]

I'm sorry to hear that Jamie, sounds like you made the right decision, I wondered where you'd gone.

Plenty more fish in the sea, onwards & upwards :xxgrinning--00xx3:I've been really busy, Ded. It's the first time I've posted on any internet forum for months. And yep, plenty more out there, although I very much doubt I'll use a dating site again as they're rife with scammers.

[Ako Si Jamie]

Hi Jamie
Genuinely sorry to learn that.
That's a long time. Surely something unusual.
Take care mate.

Glad to see you posting :xxgrinning--00xx3:Cheers Peter. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

The best advice I would give someone if they're planning to meet a Pinay is to tell them early doors that under no circumstances will any money be sent/given at any time. If she is a scammer she's more likely to lose interest and move onto someone else.

[Ako Si Jamie]

BTW, Peter, is it possible to change my username? :biggrin:

[grahamw48]

Ooops....there's a point. lol

Welcome back Jamie. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Ako Si Jamie]

Cheers Graham :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[stevewool]

Welcome back Jamie

[Ako Si Jamie]

Salamat, Steve :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[fred]

Sorry to hear the news Jamie..
And welcome back!!

[Ako Si Jamie]

Thanks Fred, just made a few suggestions in your thread about the guest house :biggrin:

[London_Manila]

Split up with my Pinay earlier this year around three years into an LDR. Took this long for the exaggerated stories to surface and the requests for money to begin. I'm pretty sure the family put her up to it and they were seen as pillars of the community too. I did everything right apart from underestimating the family. I don't regret meeting her, though.



One of the main reasons why my expat friends in Makati will not allow ANY of their girlfriends' relatives to visit their condos.

Sounds harsh, I know, but too many of them have been there and done it before when it comes to being a cash cow.

With so many available women in the Philippines, I have never really understood why some guys go over there and want to marry the first woman they meet.......... :Erm:

[London_Manila]

Cheers Peter. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

The best advice I would give someone if they're planning to meet a Pinay is to tell them early doors that under no circumstances will any money be sent/given at any time. If she is a scammer she's more likely to lose interest and move onto someone else.

Most would run away on those kinds of statements :icon_lol:

[Michael Parnham]

So sorry to hear the news Jamie, but it's great you're back on the forum and have missed you posting! :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Terpe]

BTW, Peter, is it possible to change my username? :biggrin:

I don't think so. You'd need to PM Rayna/Keith

[jake]

Very sorry to hear about this Jamie.
Welcome back :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[raynaputi]

BTW, Peter, is it possible to change my username? :biggrin:

Yep. What new username do you want so I can change it? :xxgrinning--00xx3:

BTW, sorry about your news. Like what others have said, plenty of fish in the sea.

[Ako Si Jamie]

Most would run away on those kinds of statements :icon_lol:If that's what it takes then so be it. Best to know early on than years down the line. I actually think it's vital to know 100% that she loves you before thinking about marriage. And it doesn't matter what she says as this has about as much value as a Yum Burger from Jollibee's. Talk is cheap.

Of course, there are Pinay's out there who want a man for all the right reasons. I know a few here in the U.K. They're the type who don't mind going out to work to support their family in the Phils and don't expect their husbands to shoulder the burden.

And let's be clear about scammers. They come from all corners of the globe including Britain. Any woman who marries a man for financial reasons is a scammer in my eyes, regardless of their nationality.

[Ako Si Jamie]

Yep. What new username do you want so I can change it? :xxgrinning--00xx3:

BTW, sorry about your news. Like what others have said, plenty of fish in the sea. Just delete the last eight letters to leave 'Jamie'. Cheers Rayna :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[grahamw48]

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And let's be clear about scammers. They come from all corners of the globe including Britain. Any woman who marries a man for financial reasons is a scammer in my eyes, regardless of their nationality.


....Totally agree. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[Ako Si Jamie]

So sorry to hear the news Jamie, but it's great you're back on the forum and have missed you posting!:xxgrinning--00xx3:


Very sorry to hear about this Jamie.
Welcome back :xxgrinning--00xx3:Thanks lads :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[raynaputi]

Just delete the last eight letters to leave 'Jamie'. Cheers Rayna :xxgrinning--00xx3:

That username already exists. :cwm25:

[Ako Si Jamie]

That username already exists. :cwm25::Erm: Can I get back to you on that one Rayna. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[fred]

:Erm: Can I get back to you on that one Rayna. :xxgrinning--00xx3:

What if we start a thread called... Suggestions for Jamie`s new username?

[grahamw48]

JAMIE. :smile:

[les_taxi]

Jamie, but not the one in the old 'Dr Who', is my suggestion :xxgrinning--00xx3:

[les_taxi]

I gave up on the dating sites, as tbh, so many are after money in the end.

Think it's been said before, but the best way is just to choose a nice resort, fly out there as a holiday and chat to some girls while you're there - I bet you can't easily go wrong.

I used to say I preferred Filipinos to Thai girls, as the Thais are more switched on when it comes to seeking money - but I'm of the belief Filipinos are just as bad now.

Of course, not everyone is like that, but sadly, many are.

Also, I can tell from some of the profile pics these girls were not all poor ... latest mobile etc. The really poor girls in the provinces, I can understand them asking for help just to buy food, but as I used to say, "You managed before we started chatting, so you can get by without extra money", and at least let a relationship develop.

[grahamw48]

The really poor girls in the provinces, I can understand them asking for help just to buy food, but as I used to say, "You managed before we started chatting, so you can get by without extra money", and at least let a relationship develop.

They might have died of starvation now Les. :cwm3:

[Pete/London]

Jumped in on this late, but I think an important thing to look for, is someone who is at least working, and beware of anyone who seems to spend a lot of time online - be it dating sites or facebook and the like - without a good reason.

I won't go into reasons, just boredom I suppose, but I have been chatting to both Filipino and Thai girls over the last year and have found Thai girls more likely to be in work, maybe because there is so much money being sent to families in Philippines from overseas workers and they have been made lazy, or the economy is not as good.

Language is a problem in Thailand though, but I do like Thailand and prefer the food.

[Ako Si Jamie]

I agree. Lazy Pinays as well as snobs and those who are very tampo prone should be avoided at all costs.

[les_taxi]

I agree. Lazy Pinays as well as snobs and those who are very tampo prone should be avoided at all costs.

I had quite a few who said they gave up their job to look for something better - or look after sick Aunt etc. :doh

But remember guys, some lovely genuine ones out there, but so hard to find.

[Ako Si Jamie]

I had quite a few who said they gave up their job to look for something better - or look after sick Aunt etc. :doh

But remember guys, some lovely genuine ones out there, but so hard to find.

I have another idea which doesn't involve dating sites.

Travel sites such as this one:

http://www.travbuddy.com/Philippines-travel-partners-c86

There are quite a few locals who will show you around their hometown/area including females. Of course they may not be looking for a partner, but's it a good way to meet new people - and you never know, it could lead to something. Obviously it's wise to be wary especially if you're being escorted around cities such as Manila for example with a relative stranger. It only costs ten dollars to contact members which is around £6 I think - and that's a one off payment I believe.

[Ako Si Jamie]

Claudia on the first page looks lovely. :hubbahubba:

[les_taxi]

Maybe good idea, but you could just fly out and sit in a mall and chat easily.

[Ako Si Jamie]

What if we start a thread called... Suggestions for Jamie`s new username?I think that idea has gone cold. Not many suggestions being bandied around.

[Ako Si Jamie]

Maybe good idea but you could just fly out and sit in a mall and chat easy.That's another option. At least they're easier to strike up a conversation with than British women.

[grahamw48]

I think that idea has gone cold. Not many suggestions being bandied around.

How about maria'sXjamie ? :Erm:

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:xxparty-smiley-004:

[Arthur Little]

Split up with my Pinay earlier this year around three years into our LDR. Took this long for the exaggerated stories to surface and the requests for money to begin. I'm pretty sure the family put her up to it and they were seen as pillars of the community too. I did everything right apart from underestimating the family.

Oh, Jamie ... so :icon_sorry:, to learn that! Today's actually the first time I've been on this thread for ages, so I hadn't realised anything was amiss when reading your posts on other threads last night. :NoNo:

[Ako Si Jamie]

How about maria'sXjamie ? :Erm:

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:xxparty-smiley-004:Very good Graham lol although I'd rather not use her name at all.

[Arthur Little]

I don't regret meeting her, though.

:yeahthat:'s good! Glad you haven't any regrets ... life's too short!

[Ako Si Jamie]

Oh, Jamie ... so :icon_sorry:, to learn that! Today's actually the first time I've been on this thread for ages, so I hadn't realised anything was amiss when reading your posts on other threads last night. :NoNo:No problem, Arth!

[fred]

I think that idea has gone cold. Not many suggestions being bandied around.


Really?

We might surprise you bro!!
Only problem is that you always seem to have the best ideas! :doh

[London_Manila]

I have another idea which doesn't involve dating sites.

Travel sites such as this one:

http://www.travbuddy.com/Philippines-travel-partners-c86

There are quite a few locals who will show you around their hometown/area including females. Of course they may not be looking for a partner, but's it a good way to meet new people - and you never know, it could lead to something. Obviously it's wise to be wary especially if you're being escorted around cities such as Manila for example with a relative stranger. It only costs ten dollars to contact members which is around £6 I think - and that's a one off payment I believe.

Probably lots of semi pros on sites like that, just like all the other sites. :cwm25:

[London_Manila]

If that's what it takes then so be it. Best to know early on than years down the line. I actually think it's vital to know 100% that she loves you before thinking about marriage. And it doesn't matter what she says as this has about as much value as a Yum Burger from Jollibee's. Talk is cheap.

Of course, there are Pinay's out there who want a man for all the right reasons. I know a few here in the U.K. They're the type who don't mind going out to work to support their family in the Phils and don't expect their husbands to shoulder the burden.

And let's be clear about scammers. They come from all corners of the globe including Britain. Any woman who marries a man for financial reasons is a scammer in my eyes, regardless of their nationality.

I think most woman in this world are attracted to wealth.
Let's face it most paupers are not going to make good husbands.