Quote Originally Posted by Ady View Post
Thanks Iain, good advice. I am sometimes worried I over-react.

I will meet her in her place, she has already said she will not meet me anywhere else in Mindanao (I suppose there are good reasons for this). They are annulled, but I don't fancy being a potential target for a "shake-down".

I just get annoyed sometimes, because she makes me think that I have no right to inquire or ask. She is now fully aware what I feel about this - I will give her a couple of days to stew on it.
Have you been to her place before? "I don't fancy being a potential target for a "shake-down". I would think this is even more reason to meet her somewhere else. I would send her money for a flight and get her to meet you somewhere like CDO which is generally thought of as safe. Whatever you do, try not to over-react and turn it into an argument, just decide what will make you feel comfortable with the whole situation and tell her, this is what you want.

When I first went to meet my gf, now wife, I was quite worried to say the least, after all I had read about Mindanao and some of the going-on's there so I insisted that she met me in Manila first and we would travel to Mindanao (CDO) together.

I must be honest about this and say that I find this close relationship, association, whatever you want to call it, with her ex quite worrying.

Iain.