Really, thanks for the advice guys and gals.
Jedc, and IanB - I have no problems with her having contact with her ex-husband. I am just a little nervous that he has started showing up in the last few days, and I am due to go there soon. I also didn't know he still supplied her with rice until recently. His family owns a rice plantation, so there is a reason for it maybe. I knew he gave her rice, when we are still fresh in our relationship - but he hardly ever supplied the rice. Now he seems to be providing it - and I wonder if his motive is that he is trying to catch sight of me whilst I am there. I am just concerned that he is thinking that he can get money out of me if he sees me there? Filipinos are not the only ones that avoid confrontation - I am too, I really get depressed even if I argue with a stranger.
IainBusby, they have an adopted daughter. Her parents died, and my gf took care of her. He didn't provide anything for her, he used to support them 1k a month (before I met her, and a little while after). But, and this is where there is a lack of consistency, when I supported them both, she told her (then) estranged husband that she wanted no money from him anymore.
AndyPaul (as always) and Flomike, thanks for the words of support and advice.
Maybe I am getting a little paranoid - because I am set to go there soon, and I am nervous after the David Scott situation, despite the fact they are annulled. I just can't afford to put us at any risk - I have responsibilities in the UK to my parents too. So I have a lot to consider - but I am happy to go there, and I am excited to go there. I just don't want to bump into him at all. After these 2 weeks vacation, we will work harder on a visa application. I am excited and happy about our future. Maybe I am suspicious/paranoid that he starts showing up at her office after a long absence from there, just a short while after they are annulled.
