Thanks all for the replies.

Hmmm...maybe i'm too naive, I need to face up to that!!!

I really fell for this guy tho, but I fear he will get back with his wife (if he already isn't!) for the sake of the child ( and who's to say that he wasn't still together with his wife when we met, like you said vbkelly, perhaps he just said he was separated- so he could lead the double life whilst he was out of Phils and to relieve his boredom?). It saddens me to think this, as I felt we had something really special. We even talked about getting an annulment from his wife and a visa for him to come to the UK.
I'd also like to say he made a number of sacrafices for me, to the point he lost his job because of me and our foolishless of wanting to be together.
Whilst he was working on the ship he was calling me from the ports every other day. Occasionally emailing, but he does not like this medium.

I shan't go on, I do have a lot I could say. It's been over 2mths and you'd have thought it would have got easier...but I have to confess it just hasn't. There's not a day that goes by that I don't think of him and hope and pray that he'll contact me. I just hope that he is safe and okay? I am worried too.

Thanks all for your support!!