A man has gotta do, what a man has gotta do......
However unpleasant and heartbreaking the task ahead might be for everyone concerned, your first priority is the future of your young family....
I know only too well what kind of mental turmoil and anguish you must be experiencing, as I have been there, but the only logical solution to a lot of problems would be to return to the UK and find a job.
While, here, earning and supporting your family, you can organize a couple of internet jobs which could be able to feed you all in the future, lay the foundations so to speak, were you to return and settle in Phil again.
I am afraid that you will have to be cruel to be kind...
Your wife's family will help with the baby, as it is customary with most families overthere, there should be nothing to worry about.
I would suggest just to appease your own worries, that you give or promise a local doctor a small retainer, to pop around every so often to check that everything is alright....
