is helping your family in PI caused a strain in your relationship?
To answer ur question based on my own. well i consider it not a "strain " to the fact that its only a matter of "understanding" which i mean esp to the side of your partner. I myself been helping my family itself as I am the eldest among, luckily i don't feel such kind of hardship to let my partner understand it all. I am living with my parents right now with my 3 siblings, i shop goods once in a week mainly foods. I budgeted things wisely, i never used to hand them a cash for no sense thing which anyway they didn't ask for any, enough for them to eat 3 times a day, they never ask me to buy clothes as they are not fancy to whatever, maybe just lil extra for 20peso or any lil stuff but only seldom to happen, only my concern mainly is for FOODS and nothing else. If some emergency occur anyway my husband wiling to help my family esp when it comes to health problem, so far everything is fine.....i didnt ask my husband to send me extra for my family, i was just the one whose trying to save every bits so everybody can do benefits, so its just seem as my husband didint suport them all way through which anyway what i have is already enough to cover all. well then.......i have no problem wth regards to helping them out, its not a strains at all, my husband willing to help without even telling him to do so, he is the one who offer at most only for now we don't need that much. i already set a plan for my family if ever am settled with my husband permanently in uk, i told my husband to give a lil bit each month which he is very willing to do so, i figure out a lil amount for them and stick by it no more no less.....my husband is very close to all of my siblings (all single) and hes no against to hand a lil help in the future for as long it put in the right way.
My 3 siblings ages 23,21,16 didnt ask for any peso to whatever they fancy which is not badly needed, only for some necessity. I tried to disciplined them while still am here, so far everything turns out well...they don't mind if i got some cash, never ask for any, just am so lucky that they are not that so very demanding at all as long as tummy is full ..he he he.
So helping a family is not a strains in a relationship really...........just try to explain your partner rightfully for as long as youll know where the money goes...........
