tnx every one and to you jayandzobel,,,well,I havent sending money every month really and I never wish to that as well but I am sending like big amount of money for me to be able to convert my parents house to a lodging house upstairs so that they could have an income and not be relying on me.as I do believe that if you want to help a hungry person you`ll not be helping her if you just keep on giving her a bread instead give her a seeds that could grow to a plant and get the product from there where they make the bread in that they could make a profit out of it and at the same time you just help them once.I hope it does make sense guys