Thanks for everyones help, its all been put to good use.
Im flying to the phillipines soon and will see if it has all been worth it. i will let you know the outcome when i get back in mid october, In which time, hopefully i will be able to pass on valuble informaiton to others if all goes as planned.i.e Getting married and putting in for a visa...... Hopefully!
So until then byeee.