Ken, your story is quite complicated and, to be honest, from what you have written, it sounds suspicious to me.
As many people have commented on here, go to the Philippines and see that there are certainly many lovely, friendly ladies there.
I would trust the posters on here; we look after each other with good advice and we can all get pointers for the future.
A Filipina can be the most loving and caring lady, and the quest is worth it in the end if you put effort and enthusiasm in.
Best of luck in your decision.
Onwards and Upwards.