another x-ASAWA

[francesca]

I prefer the truth and clean way of having an annulment. I can be sure, no husband will be "ressurected" and claim me back.

Sometimes ex husbands do the hiding VOLUNTARILY due to their mistress .or he is abroad, with fake identities.

Despite all the waiting of Uri, its serves best. Sally is free to remarry for the rest of her life with out another "goonie husband " to blackmail her in the future if she choose that law of presumptive death.

That law for me is: Silly.

[IainBusby]

It's just that we were told that annulment could take up to 3 years and even after several hearings, when the whole procedure was completely exhausted, the paperwork would probably just sit on some judges desk until a suitable bribe was offered (through your attorney of course) to the clerk of court who would take his cut and then pass the rest on to the judge.

Then miraculously everthing would be finalised, but only if the bribe was big enough that is. We would have much preferred the certainty of an annulment as an outcome, but the total uncertainty of it happening anytime within the foreseeable future, or maybe not even within my lifetime, made us choose the other option, as risky as it may be.

[URi]

Hi Uri,
I'm surprised if you gf's ex had not been around for so long that you didnt go for the quicker and much less expensive process of "Presumtive Death".

Wasn't an option as everyone knows he is alive. What I tried to say is, that he is not in the neighbourhood, not around und don't care about her and the kids... So we filed for psychological incapacity.

It's just that we were told that annulment could take up to 3 years and even after several hearings, when the whole procedure was completely exhausted, the paperwork would probably just sit on some judges desk until a suitable bribe was offered (through your attorney of course) to the clerk of court who would take his cut and then pass the rest on to the judge.

Yes, it is exhausting and I can't count the number of hearings for she have to attend. I hope the paperwork will be done faster (but doubt will not)