the first time(in da Phil)

[PeterB]

You're starting the jitters early. It was only half way through the four hour flight from Singapore to Davao that I started to doubt my sanity. But then I did it twice more, at 2 month intervals, before my latest arrival in Phils back in December.

Her father was not at all angry, despite the fact that I'm only a couple of years younger than he is!

Now, 16 months on from that first visit, life is great, we have a wonderful marriage, and a baby on the way!

Butuan should be relatively safe ... it's about as far away as possible from the main area of hostilities, while remaining on Mindanao.

The main thing to look out for is everyone expecting you to be so rich that you can afford to just give your money away! However, your girl should protect you from this.

[Sim11UK]

You'll be fine, I'm going back to Mindanao, Cagayan de Oro City, a week on sunday for the 2nd time.
I'm feeling a little bit anxious, but it's more to do with the things, I have to do before I leave, rather than the trip.
I'm sure you'll be welcomed by her family. My gf dosen't live with her parents, but when we went to visit, her father pretty much told me I could marry his daughter...Haha!...I haven't even asked her yet.
Main things I had to look out for, was crossing roads & pot-holes. (Had a painful trip over a kerb.)
You don't say when you are going, but once you are on your way & you get there, you'll have a great time & wonder what all the fuss was about.

[USA]

You don't say when you are going, but once you are on your way & you get there, you'll have a great time & wonder what all the fuss was about.

Yes when I`m going, I forgot to add that- I`m leaving for Butuan on Oct. 1. Just a couple weeks away.

Thanks all
I feel better already huh? Its nice to hear some people here know Butuan a little.
And to hear some stories of anxiety. The main part of my anxiety stems from the fact that...well she just seems so perfect that I really want it to work.
Guess I`ll just have to get over that fact huh?

[Sim11UK]

The main part of my anxiety stems from the fact that...well she just seems so perfect that I really want it to work.

You've built up a relationship online, that's a good foundation to meeting in person.
She'll be glad to be on your arm & will be keen to show you off.