He said he lost faith in me

[maganda]

Hi Maganda,

Few questions first, how long have you known each other? have you met in person? How old is he? u?

My husband hates it when I make him wait but it doesnt affect our relationship. Men generally are impatient. If he doubts you he just doesnt know you that well...maybe you need more time to get to know each other and build that trust.

Good luck.

We known each other for almost 1 and half years now,, he visited me here in philippines four times and hes coming soon 5th time october next month. But i doubt now if this will push thru becuase hes angry at me. he is 38 yrs old and im 33 yrs old.

he didnt rang me yesterday and today and didnt come online til now,,,arrrrrr i cannot sleep it pisses me off hes gone to silence,,hes never been like this,,he said to me i really pissed him off time,, he said he not coming online for a few days. he said its been happening often and he hates it....,,,god wat shuold i do i didnt meant it to happen,,the last thing i want is to get him angry,,,i been trying my best to adjust to his very strict time importance,,,i explain to him that filipinos are fun of last minute notices but he cannot understand this,,,one time he went angry again because my friend invited me to her birthday party last minute,,,and my fiance was angry because it shuld be notified one week advance,,,

[amyburple]

We known each other for almost 1 and half years now,, he visited me here in philippines four times and hes coming soon 5th time october next month. But i doubt now if this will push thru becuase hes angry at me. he is 38 yrs old and im 33 yrs old.

he didnt rang me yesterday and today and didnt come online til now,,,arrrrrr i cannot sleep it pisses me off hes gone to silence,,hes never been like this,,he said to me i really pissed him off time,, he said he not coming online for a few days. he said its been happening often and he hates it....,,,god wat shuold i do i didnt meant it to happen,,the last thing i want is to get him angry,,,i been trying my best to adjust to his very strict time importance,,,i explain to him that filipinos are fun of last minute notices but he cannot understand this,,,one time he went angry again because my friend invited me to her birthday party last minute,,,and my fiance was angry because it shuld be notified one week advance,,,

wow he's really strict with you in terms of time... your not young anymore. He should trust you, in fact you met many times... Both of you are in MATURE age... He is over acting sis.. I smell something fishy here

[Ann07]

Just give him space to reflect. I know for sure he will get in touch soon.

My husband is also like that when it comes to time. Not strict though but so impatient \i just laugh at him and he knows what it means

Its hard for both of you coz u are far from each other. Try to explain to him everything by sending him an email and give ur self a time to reflect as well after. Just need time i think. You will be both ok soon

[maganda]

wow he's really strict with you in terms of time... your not young anymore. He should trust you, in fact you met many times... Both of you are in MATURE age... He is over acting sis.. I smell something fishy here

yes he is very strict with time since from the start ..i been trying my best to adjust but it was not enough for him,,,everytime im late or has to go out unexpected, he will get angry saying that i shuold tell him days advance that im going out so he will know. hes never goes late to our chat schedule and he notifies me in advance if he had to go out,, so i feel guilty now,,,i find it very hard to adjust to this very strict western time,,,Weve been both very excited for his next trip next month, hes been buying gifts already for me and my family,,he keeps saying hes very excited soon coz he eally miss me and i miss him too,,,then all of a sudden the other day i had an unexpected seminar to attend to and wasnt able to notify him,,i was not able to make it to our chat sched,,i texted him that i will see him later after his sleep,,,he was very angry,,,i explain to him but he was angry till now never heard of him its been two days,,,

[menchkin]

yes he is very strict with time since from the start ..i been trying my best to adjust but it was not enough for him,,,everytime im late or has to go out unexpected, he will get angry saying that i shuold tell him days advance that im going out so he will know. hes never goes late to our chat schedule and he notifies me in advance if he had to go out,, so i feel guilty now,,,i find it very hard to adjust to this very strict western time,,,Weve been both very excited for his next trip next month, hes been buying gifts already for me and my family,,he keeps saying hes very excited soon coz he eally miss me and i miss him too,,,then all of a sudden the other day i had an unexpected seminar to attend to and wasnt able to notify him,,i was not able to make it to our chat sched,,i texted him that i will see him later after his sleep,,,he was very angry,,,i explain to him but he was angry till now never heard of him its been two days,,,

Give him time to cool down. I'm sure he'll speak to you again soon, once he starts to feel that he is already missing you.

[half.k]

hi!

dear, i can understand him in a way, as Im so obsessed with time-keeping, luckily my boyfriend is also very strict about that...
In a way, I think that when people are constantly late, that they dont anything seriously and therefore think that they are not taking me seriously... and believe me i have ended relationships because of being late! Its not being too strict, its just that it makes us feel very insecure...

hope you understand my point of view and that all works out!

all the best! x

[amyburple]

yes he is very strict with time since from the start ..i been trying my best to adjust but it was not enough for him,,,everytime im late or has to go out unexpected, he will get angry saying that i shuold tell him days advance that im going out so he will know. hes never goes late to our chat schedule and he notifies me in advance if he had to go out,, so i feel guilty now,,,i find it very hard to adjust to this very strict western time,,,Weve been both very excited for his next trip next month, hes been buying gifts already for me and my family,,he keeps saying hes very excited soon coz he eally miss me and i miss him too,,,then all of a sudden the other day i had an unexpected seminar to attend to and wasnt able to notify him,,i was not able to make it to our chat sched,,i texted him that i will see him later after his sleep,,,he was very angry,,,i explain to him but he was angry till now never heard of him its been two days,,,

I hope everything will be SOON ok to you sis and your hubby.... I'm fortunate that I never experience this one to my hubby... If i have unexpected activity with my friends or any office activit.....i will inform here on that day or txt him right away.. If sometimes I'm not that keen he is the one who will push me or encourage me to do ro go there with friends.... If I'm late or something we do txt or he will call and monitor me where Am I sort of like that but he never been so strict with time...

I hope everything will be ok and you will talk soon sis....

[PeterB]

... my friend invited me to her birthday party last minute,,,and my fiance was angry because it shuld be notified one week advance,,,

Hahaha ... sorry to laugh, but despite his four visits, he really hasn't got to grips with Filipino culture, has he?

A westerner coming here has to change mindset with regard to planning and appointments!

In my experience, things like wedding invitations rarely go out much more than one week in advance.

We booked a video for Ruby's cousin's wedding less than 48 hours before the event .. in the first video studio we visited. Could that happen in the UK?

Last September, when Ruby and I were departing for the UK, we threw a party for friends and relations. We started delivering invitations the day before the event - 95% of those invited turned up, many bringing their friends and relatives who hadn't been invited.

I think that you need to impress upon him that this is the way things happen in Phils. I still believe that a roaming SIM, allowing you to send him SMS for 1 peso, may help.