It is called being bitter and vengeful....
Instead of moving on, most divorced women in the West, seem to dwell in a paranoid past.
They start divorce proceedings, they get the divorce, and after years they still, in a way, dominate your life and want to dictate about your future.
In a sense.... They don't want you anymore, but at the same time they don't want anybody else to have you...Or for you to find new happiness.