Quote Originally Posted by IainBusby View Post
As I could forsee that my situation would become very similar to your own Dom, when I split up with my ex, so I decided that rather than put my son, then 7yrs old and myself through all of that pain and hassle, that I would not attempt to have any contact with him at all.

I figured that he would probably hate me for this, but I really didn't want him to be piggy in the middle and be used by his mother to hurt me.

I still have never seen him in the flesh from then to this day, but just recently he managed to get in touch, intially with my other grown up son who he managed to contact through myspace. He now lives in Albany N.Y. and he is 17 years old. Were now communicating regularly through myspace and yahoo messenger and both looking forward to seeing each other again some day.

The other really nice thing about it all is that he is also in contact with both his step-brother, step-sister and all of his uncles and aunts on this side of the pond again.
Iain.
wow...youre so lucky! congrtas... well,thats what I was thinking also, if the ex will use your child against you, one day the child will really look for their father wether their mom will allow it or not.