Originally Posted by
maria_and_matt
my situations different, when my first husband and i divorced i had to leave my son to his dad coz i had nowhere to go, the court then decided that we should have shared 50-50 access but gave residency to his dad coz of his fear that i would take our son back home to the philippines, this 50-50 access went on till my son was 14, but his father used my son to hurt me alot. he told our son stories of how bad i was, my son did not believe a word he said tho and throughout te years my son built up all this hatred towards his dad and when he turned 14 he then left his dad and stayed with me full time. he has not seen his dad for over a year now.
both parents i found has parental responsibility, and if you are willing to fight for access you will get it. i had to go to court for access issues over the years when my ex has been unreasonable, and the courts have heard my case in a fair way.
i think bottom line is exes who use their kids to get back to an ex partner only makes the child suffer and in the end when the child is old enough things can go horribly wrong for the parent who controlled the access.
i never stopped fighting for my son, and now he i so happy with me and his step dad.
hope things work out for your husband. good luck
