While agreeing with Toks, I feel as I have to state something very simple that may also upset you.
Take the baby and go back home.
There you will have the support and love of your family that will help you go through a difficult time.
Forget or try to forget the lazy layabout you got landed with and be patient.
Concentrate on your child welfare, give her all the love and attention that she needs, and when you are ready, try for another relationship.
In my opinion, the father will not bother you again, but will see, in his selfish way, your departure as a blessing.
There is no love between the two of you, it has gone, and it doesn't matter how hard you will work at making it succeed, it will not, because it sounds as if he isn't interested anymore.
Contacting and chatting up other women on the net only show disrespect towards you and total ignorance of your and the baby's needs.
Go home, dai, before the visa expires.
This way it will give you the chance to re-apply in case you find a real decent person in future, without the fear of being denied the new visa, for having been an overstayer.
Good luck in all you decide to do.
Our thoughts are with you.
Dom & Jet
