Nanny/housekeeper

[KeithD]

Best thing to do is not have children you don't have time to look after

[krizziei]

Best thing to do is not have children you don't have time to look after

If people have the above mentality, I hate to think what the future holds.

Children are the future. Needless to say, happy and confident kids are better placed to be successful in later life.

In my opinion, there is no better carer for children but their mom (or dad). But a mother who says she can look after her children 24/7 for 365 days a year with no help from anyone, and has no problem about it, is lying. Mothers do need time for themselves now and again. It is not just for their benefit that their batteries are recharged with rest, it is also in the children's interest to have a mom who is rested and not stressed.

But if a mother chooses to go back to work. Surely, that does not make her a bad mom. She just needs to look for suitable good quality child care, and in the weekends give as much time as she can for her kids. She is lucky if she can get Working Tax credit and Child tax benefit. But there are UK- resident mothers who are not eligible for these government hand-outs (and are not rich). Well, that's C'est la vie. For these mothers, it only becomes wothwhile to go back to work if she earns at least twice the cost of a nanny. If not then it is better to stay at home and be a full time mom, and just find ways to have help from time to time.

[IMONNA]

Best thing to do is not have children you don't have time to look after

But then you're going to miss out the joys of being parents

[KeithD]

But then you're going to miss out the joys of being parents

My lads 16 and I'm still trying to find out which day of those years was actually the 'joy' one