What a Life...

[Mrs.JMajor]

Oh dear, cant say to you that don't send money to them cause they are your family ,but at least tell them about you are having loan already just for them,
Anyhow,wish u can solve the problem,good luck dear

[cheesewiz]

thanks everyone for the advices. I know I am soft for my family bec among my siblings I am the most well off (coz Im here abroad earning pounds) even I am trying to ignore their needs at the end of the day I want to be guilt free.

of course I am more concern to my parents just that I can't say no to my siblings most of the time. I hope they will soon realize that I am not earning a pot of gold here

[tiger@tigress]

Im sorry to hear that... I guess each and every one of us got a Cross to carry,,,, as we love to help our family we want to give them everything as much as we can. But we have to put limitations cuz we have our own health/family to take care of....

[nigel]

Goodness me Cheesewiz!! Have you forgotten that you own life matters aswell? This must be putting a huge strain on you! The worlds burdens are not yours! The worlds joys riches and pleasures are! It's imperative that you take care of your own wellbeing first! I don't like the sound of you working 72 hours a week like that! I work around 50 hours a week, sometimes 60, but 72?? That's really quite outrageous! I think maybe you would benefit from hypnotherapy? Any kind of self development?

I've helped my Vimvie's family financially and it has put a strain on me, but it sounds like what is happening to you is crippling! Your a very special person, an important person, you deserve to be happy and healthy yourself, of course you do! Don't ignore your own wellbeing you silly!

[cheesewiz]

Goodness me Cheesewiz!! Have you forgotten that you own life matters aswell? This must be putting a huge strain on you! The worlds burdens are not yours! The worlds joys riches and pleasures are! It's imperative that you take care of your own wellbeing first! I don't like the sound of you working 72 hours a week like that! I work around 50 hours a week, sometimes 60, but 72?? That's really quite outrageous! I think maybe you would benefit from hypnotherapy? Any kind of self development?

I've helped my Vimvie's family financially and it has put a strain on me, but it sounds like what is happening to you is crippling! Your a very special person, an important person, you deserve to be happy and healthy yourself, of course you do! Don't ignore your own wellbeing you silly!

thanks for the concern. I am still single and just my self to worry right now what I am keep on telling them if I get married one day I can't help them anymore as I have my own family to prioritize. I know its not good working that much but i'd rather working than staying at home bec I feel more stress and depress..atleast I have this forum to keep me busy reading what's going on here.

[doonat]

thanks for the concern. I am still single and just my self to worry right now what I am keep on telling them if I get married one day I can't help them anymore as I have my own family to prioritize. I know its not good working that much but i'd rather working than staying at home bec I feel more stress and depress..atleast I have this forum to keep me busy reading what's going on here.

they are right you need to draw the line and start thinking bout yourself. i've met some pinay nurses here and most of them are single old ladies. i hope you wont join their club, coz you deserve to be happy.

[cheesewiz]

Im sorry to hear that... I guess each and every one of us got a Cross to carry,,,, as we love to help our family we want to give them everything as much as we can. But we have to put limitations cuz we have our own health/family to take care of....

thanks...I know everything has a limitation but when that limitation will start.. for us filipinos helping the family is part of our culture that will stay forever.. hopefully when I have my own family change might happen.

[cheesewiz]

Oh dear, cant say to you that don't send money to them cause they are your family ,but at least tell them about you are having loan already just for them,
Anyhow,wish u can solve the problem,good luck dear

well they know everything...still not working I hope changes happen soon. thanks