Im so really troubled reading your post, feel so sad and 1 or 2 things trouble me so just wanted to share a couple of things with you as i know of a case very very similar to yours although with 1 or 2 big differences notably the Filipina in the story i will share with you was...well i wil be polite and say unstable (she was mentally weak and unstable). Well some of this may help you as there are some similarities, basically the big difference being she "cried" abuse and claimed to be a battered wife when in fact it was all made up and lies, she told her story to all she could and revelled in the sympathy and attention she gained, it was even part of the sob story she gave to her BF whom she met whilst still married to her British husband, anyway she tried to use these claims to further herself but of course without the necessary evidence to back up her spiteful claims she was unable to take it further. Yes there's was a volitile and destructive relationship with so much fighting ect as well as verbal nastiness upon both sides however the claims of "beatings" were simply untrue and something she created and guess will have to live with for the rest of her life, i assume it sits uncomfortably with her Catholic faith although bearing in mind her unstable state of mind and the fact she appeared unable to distinguish between reality and her lies as well as the fact she embarked upon her adultery whilst still married to her husband then i guess she was the sort to easily justify everything she did?. Anyway the lady in question had clearly many troubles most of which maybe started from her childhood (her father also like her commited adultary and was a chauvanist pig and bully) the point here being whilst her claims were simply lies, yes lies of the very worst kind though i guess it helped her justify her extra marital affair (of course once she had begun these lies and went down that road it then became to late to simply tell people it was a pack of lies) the point is that she unlike you couldnt back up her claims as the events she cried over never happened and so of course she had no evidence, i assume in your case Jessicar your (ex) is serving his prison sentance now right?. Anyway the story i told you above, that lady was well lets just say not the most popular person within her community and luckily for her ex he was able to gather lots of info about her and her lover EG: when she moved house, her lovers full details ect ect, the thing was her hubby was being fed info by someone within her house (she lived with a Filipino couple, a gay and a Filipina care giver) anyway 1 of them...well lets just say they were not a fan! so they kept the hubby updated, he was smart enough not to use the adultary within his divorce against her but what he did do was take a 6 week trip to the Philippines whilst there divorce was not complete, anyway he filed a case against her there in Philippines re: her adultary...well imagine the surprise she has in store when she goes home!, thats kinda what i wanted to warn you of Jess dear that although im certain your abuse claims are real but still i the eyes of the law you and your BF have commited adultery, whilst im sure your hubby (ex) is jailed over what he did to you are you sure he couldnt have filled a case against you there? do you know has he visited the Philippines recently?, like i said previously to you dear its always best to do things the easy way if given the option sadly with the other ladies case she elected to do things the hard way, still i guess for her thoise lies will oneday catch up with her, karma and all that...good luck dear and keep us all posted, were all her for you lol
