Hello, I am sure this has been discussed much before, but I'm wondering what people's opinions are on how long you think you should be chatting with someone before making a commitment to visit them in person.
Just to give some details, I have been chatting with a lady for around 9 months now which sounds like a lot of time. My issue is that we only really get to chat properly once a week for half to one hour at best due to work, time differences, and the fact she only has a dial up connection and is not the one paying the bills. She is also not working at present. I feel like even now we are still learning about each other and still getting to know each other like many people would be in the first few months.
Despite this, I realise I should not wait forever and I would love to go meet her. If money were no problem then I would go tomorrow. The reality is I feel it is appropriate to develop a certain level of knowledge about each other and commitment before travelling around the world to meet someone. Also, I am not of the older generation and I am not desperate to meet someone or get married, I would generally err on the side of taking things steady and hopefully doing as much as possible to avoid any potential mistakes.
My question is not just how long to chat to someone as that can depend on how often you spend online etc, but what sort of connection did you develop before deciding to meet? What was it that told you it was the right time? I think in the next few months I will make some commitment, even if it is a nunber of months after that before i can actually travel there.
Sorry about the longish post but I would be interested in knowing anyone's opinions. Thanks.
