Firstly angelbird let me say sorry for your predicament.i had a similar situation some years ago but the transformation happened before marriage had happened.But the wedding was arranged and i was due to return to the r.p in August.About six months before it all changed and some of the things you mentioned reminded me of it a lot.15 years on i am still no wiser as to what happened.I have since come across this situation a few times with friends of mine.But i also find it strange for the change to happen after marriage.I think some are missing the point that this could and probably does happen just as much with a British couple or other nationalities.Im not sure if i buy the pilipino boyfriend theory.For me its more likely to be another ferang,if anybody.
The question you have to ask yourself is which person is your wife?The person you fell in love with or the one she changed into.The tragedy is that it is very likely the latter or a combination of the two.I think there have been some great comments made already but the bottom line is you love your wife and we dont and of course you will follow your heart cos i believe most of us are like that, though some try play the cold-hearted,no feelings card.Im sure some will agree with me when i say we all have or had a friend who calls us up moaning that his or hers relationship is falling apart.As a friend we try to help giving practical advice and they say "you are so right".Do they really take it though?Of course not because they as the friend are not emotionally involved
and the heart generally rules the head.I can remember spending hours and days listening to brilliant advice over what a mess i was making of a relationship but i just didnt want to hear it and just messed up some more.I really hope it works out for you Angelheart,and you dont become an emotional wreck like me!You have probably just met the wrong girl.And that could have happened to any of us anywhere in the world.You sound like a great guy though and i have a feeling you will find true happiness at the end of the dark tunnel you find yourself in.Good luck.
