Originally Posted by
Ady
Since we applied for the fiance, I am so nervous. Even getting a bit negative too, thinking through our application. It seems that every day there is a different area that makes me concerned. I am not a confident person, and I always have this trait of preparing for the worse. It drives Shei mad lol.
I am thinking one day, will it be a big problem because we included her daughter too - even she has sole responsibility? The next day I am thinking about my finances. Then I think about the fact she is annulled. Were our communications enough? Did I give her enough financial support?
I just seem to feel that, despite doing everything by the book, they will find some innocuous reason to refuse us. We included some extra things in the application, like a legal document from her attourney about her daughter. I just remember the time our VV was refused, and I remember that some of the reasons were that the extra info we provided was misinterpreted. I get excited to think of them both being here, and that we can go on trips, and I can start to enjoy my life as it should be enjoyed. I just find the whole process is getting me down now, and around the corner what if we were refused? I am thinking, how can I lift her, and lift myself.
In the cold light, we have good finances, accommodation, a wedding reception booked. I have a good career here, so moving to the Phils would be a bad move for me as I am only 32 and not ready to retire yet, and get a good wage here now (touch wood).
Sorry to come across all negative, or depressive. Is this a normal feeling? Or am I getting a sixth sense that things may not go well?
