im surprised the topic is open again of course i know that some of the members here are expectant mothers and some already gave brith. My congrats to all.

I'd been to my doctor a week ago for some check ups and some questions about me planning a baby soon (hopefully) well, as some of you know that I am not young anymore turning 37 anytime soon at my age now i am on the risk of whatever then my bf now is 46 y/o so both of us are not young anymore so having a baby is always a risk. There's a chance of we might have not a normal baby etc while my doctor telling that to me i am really scared and a bit depressed about it but of course she said that if ever i got pregnant there's a way now to know if the baby is normal or not. To be honest i don't think I can't bear if im going to have a special need baby. I know its hard bec i experienced working with children with special need and attention. While at the surgery, I met a couple (Brit and filipina) she is 3 months pregnant for their 1st baby and she said to me they're really excited and worried at the same time bec she is 42y/o and her husband is 45y/o and her doctor said that she needs to have a weekly check up when she's 5 months pregnant so they closely monitor her and her baby's progress. Again, the main reason is her age

So, I open that conversation with my bf and he said that he himself dont want to have a child that need special care or attention. He wants to have a child that you can speak and interact in a normal way. Abortion are the option for many people that are not willing to look after a special children. I don't think I can't do that but I am not willing to devote all my time and effort to a child that need special care and attention (may be i am selfish on that aspect)

I know that having a child makes my life complete no doubt about it. I am not being negative here I am just sharing what might the possibilities of my age having a child in the near future. I think my advice for some here is while you and your partner still young you should think about having a family asap.

Still looking forward having my own child (one is enough for me).