the changing attitudes of some immigrants

[gemini63]

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Yes, unfortunately it's true. I've noticed that too...some Filipinos who've been here for quite sometime or who's been living abroad for that matter tends to be a snob, conceited, arrogant, vain, self-centered or big headed! They perceive themselves as superior. They're so full of themselves and they think they're better than anyone else!

What really annoys me is when you try to have conversations with them and they would rather speak English than Tagalog! They speak English as if to prove that they're better when in fact they're struggling with the grammar! (trying hard ba!)

I mean despite my efforts to talk to them in Tagalog, they refused to answer back in English! It is of course a completely different story for Filipinos who were born and raised somewhere else his/her entire life and can only converse in English. However, for those who are too proud to speak Filipino and are very pretentious, I'd like to say "Wag mo ng pahirapan sarili mo! Paenglish-english ka pa dyan! mag Tagalog ka na lang!". In English, it translates to something like "Stop giving yourself a hard time! You keep talking in English! will you just speak in Tagalog!".

It's a shame though that I can't fully translate that sentence with as much conviction and impact as when it is said in Tagalog.

Even Jose Rizal, our Philippine national here once said that those who don’t love their mother language are worse than the smell of a rotten fish (”Ang di marunong magmahal sa sariling wika ay mas masahol pa sa malansa at mabahong isda.”)

[cheesewiz]

actually i thought only filipinos are like that of attitude but my indian workmate have the same complaint that some indians are snobbish specially if they are Brits already or they think they are rich

i would say im not snobbish but im not very friendly either when i see pinoys in diff places i just smile at them if they smile back good but if not who cares. there's loads of pinoys where i live now so that's enough headache lol

[Jay&Zobel]

actually i thought only filipinos are like that of attitude but my indian workmate have the same complaint that some indians are snobbish specially if they are Brits already or they think they are rich
lol

HMMMM... THAT'S WHAT WE CALL INGGIT! Pulling each other's hair!

[singkit]

Been here for almost 2 yrs now and still don't have Filipino friends near the area I tried. God knows, I've tried but I experienced the same. Snobbed. Ignored. Judged. Although, I have 2 friends here in the UK (they were already my friends way back home), the only time I could hear from them is by phoning them 'coz one lives in Eastbourne, the other one lives in Nottingham and me...I live in Leeds.
In my opinion, I think for many filipino newcomers here, it's psychological. The thought of being on our own in a foreign land, we tend to be sad so we seek friendship & comfort to someone like us with hopes that they will tell us their experiences here and give us all the information we need to know as someone who is just new in the UK. Knowing another filipino is here, the " I-am-not-alone factor" gives us the sense of getting through all this . I know most of us here have husbands who are just there to comfort us and stand by us but sometimes, we're not sure they feel what we feel because UK is their birthplace, they don't experience a culture shock nor having to learn the local slang, the weather etc. etc. To us, this is not just an ordinary holiday trip. We left everything behind us and are starting a new life here. For filipinos being known as hospitable, it is indeed disappointing to encounter such filipinos who would treat us as if we have a communicable disease especially when they've learned we're wives of some british guys. I wonder why

[somebody]

Been here for almost 2 yrs now and still don't have Filipino friends near the area I tried. God knows, I've tried but I experienced the same. Snobbed. Ignored. Judged. Although, I have 2 friends here in the UK (they were already my friends way back home), the only time I could hear from them is by phoning them 'coz one lives in Eastbourne, the other one lives in Nottingham and me...I live in Leeds.
In my opinion, I think for many filipino newcomers here, it's psychological. The thought of being on our own in a foreign land, we tend to be sad so we seek friendship & comfort to someone like us with hopes that they will tell us their experiences here and give us all the information we need to know as someone who is just new in the UK. Knowing another filipino is here, the " I-am-not-alone factor" gives us the sense of getting through all this . I know most of us here have husbands who are just there to comfort us and stand by us but sometimes, we're not sure they feel what we feel because UK is their birthplace, they don't experience a culture shock nor having to learn the local slang, the weather etc. etc. To us, this is not just an ordinary holiday trip. We left everything behind us and are starting a new life here. For filipinos being known as hospitable, it is indeed disappointing to encounter such filipinos who would treat us as if we have a communicable disease especially when they've learned we're wives of some british guys. I wonder why

Well explained Singkit.

Do you have friends who have similar backgrounds but not pinoys? My Wife has pinoy friends but like you say relates to many recent arrivals to the uk who are non phill.
LIke you say you can relate to being away from home.

Hopefully on here you will meet some people who live near by? Piamed and his lovely Wife live in Leeds I belive.

[singkit]

Well explained Singkit.

Do you have friends who have similar backgrounds but not pinoys? My Wife has pinoy friends but like you say relates to many recent arrivals to the uk who are non phill.
LIke you say you can relate to being away from home.

Hopefully on here you will meet some people who live near by? Piamed and his lovely Wife live in Leeds I belive.

Nope, AndyPaul. I don't have friends with similar backgrounds. But I do have friendly relations with my colleagues. I treat this as my blessings. Working is the next best thing ever happened to me here in the UK because atleast I can have a little chat with my them aside from my hubby who, like you do, been worrying about the clothes shop and shoes store

[somebody]

Nope, AndyPaul. I don't have friends with similar backgrounds. But I do have friendly relations with my colleagues. I treat this as my blessings. Working is the next best thing ever happened to me here in the UK because atleast I can have a little chat with my them aside from my hubby who, like you do, been worrying about the clothes shop and shoes store

Working for the Missus was the best thing that ever happened to her in the UK apart from living near the west end of london and all those shops

She met many of her phill friends though various work places. A few though friends of friends.

One thing is for sure when you are least expecting it your make the ideal friends