Am I just being paranoid or is something wrong?

[triple5]

Indeed ... parents might tell her that even if she has no local b/f - indeed, many friends and family almost convinced Ruby that she wouldn't see me again after my first visit. The respect within families here would almost compel her to comply. Perhaps she can only attempt to chat with you surreptitiously, while none of the family are around.

After the first time she went away, when she wouldn't come online anywhere near as much, I thought perhaps this was the case that her family were telling her to keep some distance. We went through a phase where she would always come online at about 1am phil time, just when I was finishing work here, and I guess her family were sleeping. I'm online all day with my work, so I just put it down to her not wanting to disturb me.

The short messages I've been getting the last week are usually at the same time, about 3-4pm there, maybe the time her mother goes to the shops or something. I don't know, it feels like I'm grasping at straws by thinking her family are the reason for her actions. If that is the reason, how do you get round that one? She shares her house with 12 people. 12 vs 1 is a bit of mismatch lol.

I'm sure that you were aware of how many beautiful Dabawenians were giving you admiring glances while you were here - if the worst does happen, get yourself back here and try again!

I didn't really notice, but she mentioned it a few times when we went out. I guess I only had eyes for her.

Oh dear! Perhaps a filipina is not for you after all! :p

lol, maybe that will be my next topic - how to deal with the sulking.

[PeterB]

...how do you get round that one?

How much does this young lady mean to you? Just turning up for a second time might convince her and anyone who is 'advising' her.

[Sim11UK]

I don't think it always is easy, to stay in communication all the time?
I had an instance early in the relationship, where she went home to the province for the weekend.
That "weekend", turned into a week & a half...All communication was dead.

I kept calling her & texting. Never a reply...I was miserable, just resigned myself that it was over. I convinced myself that her family, had told her to stay away from me, thought maybe she was miserable too?

Then...early one morning I got a phone call...I answered it & got a "Hi" in her usual cheery self. Of course I was annoyed, but highly relieved.

To cut a long story short, there was a family problem. She was now back in the City & things got back to normal...Even now though, there maybe the odd couple of days, where we're not in some form of communication, for whatever reason.

Being so far apart, communication can get skewed...Things aren't always what they seem.

Who knows?...hope it all works out for you.